Many times, what really makes us tired is not the work itself, but "ineffective social interaction". What is "invalid social"? The following scene may be a representative: you go to a party, boo cold and warm with a group of strangers, greet each other with smiling faces all the way, talk politely all over the room, talk to each other, toast, scan wechat and leave your phone number, but you can't remember who the other party is after three days Think about it carefully. Most of our time and energy are occupied by this "ineffective social interaction". The so-called "contacts are money connections" is the biggest myth today. The real cow force depends on how many people you can attract and influence. It's no use knowing more awesome people if you're not awesome yourself. Now everyone is very realistic. They just want to know someone who is useful to themselves. Think about the way you feel when you introduce yourself in front of successful people. Others won't trust you. This kind of social interaction can only make you more and more discouraged, less and less confident, and become impetuous and anxious. Therefore: your own level determines your level. You can always be in the same circle with people at the same level. Instead of spending a lot of time making friends with others, try to improve yourself. We are changing from external demand to internal demand. External demand is to seek resources, channels, relationships and contacts. In the end, we find that it is nothing to draw water in a bamboo basket. Internal seeking is to focus your energy on what you should do and give full play to your strengths. Naturally, you will attract others and meet your own needs. This is the real connotation of "seeking others is better than seeking yourself". Sometimes, in order to expand the so-called interpersonal relationship, we hold our breath on the table and blindly try to please and adapt. In this way, the result is to give the best temper to others and the worst mood to our family and parents. If we offend others, we will lose our interests, so we dare not; If you offend your loved ones, but they won't hurt you, the cost is close to zero, so we do whatever we want. Your family knows the hardships of your life best, so they put up with you and let you indulge your unreasonable, arrogant and domineering. There are countless failures in life, which is the most sad and desolate. This society will only become more and more realistic. It's too fake to talk about feelings. It's better to talk about interests directly. Since everyone is running for their purpose, why can't we open the skylight and tell the truth? Go straight to the subject, come if you agree, and go if you disagree. Moreover, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. Really successful and smart people will keep a certain distance from others. This distance can be attacked, retreated, defended, collected, distributed and hidden. Because human nature has such a weakness: when you open everything in front of others, he will feel that you have a panoramic view, and then he will hold you. Because your seven inches have been exposed there. This is indeed a taboo. There were many favorite ministers around the emperor, and the result was either beheaded by the emperor or beheaded by others; The popular people around the leaders often change, either to blame the leaders or offend a group of colleagues; There are many friends who call themselves brothers. Once they are related to interests, they fight hard; There are many lovers in deep love, most of whom run to the ends of the world. All the beauty in the world is actually a sense of strangeness and remoteness. A glance will only lead to boredom. Therefore, the most beautiful distance in the world is where you will reach but haven't reached yet. Therefore, the future society does not need social interaction. All existing distances are reasonable. We don't need to approach or walk away deliberately. We just need to be ourselves, and we will approach sooner or later. The most precious thing in the future is time. Don't waste other people's time or your own time. If you have a little leisure time, don't socialize: if you haven't seen a sudden contact for many years, you must have used you to think of you; If you are suddenly invited to dinner without making an appointment in advance, it means that you are just a person who makes up for a meal. Remember: no one is worth your entertainment! Have some time to read more books and spend more time with your family, so as to make yourself physically and mentally happy and have a rich and colorful life. Isn't it fast to cultivate one's morality and character? Finally, let me remind you: please put your spare time and energy on the things or people you like, and make the best of what you should and are good at, and your world will be much more wonderful!

Many times, what really makes us tired is not the work itself, but "ineffective social interaction". What is "invalid social"? The following scene may be a representative: you go to a party, boo cold and warm with a group of strangers, greet each other with smiling faces all the way, talk politely all over the room, talk to each other, toast, scan wechat and leave your phone number, but you can't remember who the other party is after three days Think about it carefully. Most of our time and energy are occupied by this "ineffective social interaction". The so-called "contacts are money connections" is the biggest myth today. The real cow force depends on how many people you can attract and influence. It's no use knowing more awesome people if you're not awesome yourself. Now everyone is very realistic. They just want to know someone who is useful to themselves. Think about the way you feel when you introduce yourself in front of successful people. Others won't trust you. This kind of social interaction can only make you more and more discouraged, less and less confident, and become impetuous and anxious. Therefore: your own level determines your level. You can always be in the same circle with people at the same level. Instead of spending a lot of time making friends with others, try to improve yourself. We are changing from external demand to internal demand. External demand is to seek resources, channels, relationships and contacts. In the end, we find that it is nothing to draw water in a bamboo basket. Internal seeking is to focus your energy on what you should do and give full play to your strengths. Naturally, you will attract others and meet your own needs. This is the real connotation of "seeking others is better than seeking yourself". Sometimes, in order to expand the so-called interpersonal relationship, we hold our breath on the table and blindly try to please and adapt. In this way, the result is to give the best temper to others and the worst mood to our family and parents. If we offend others, we will lose our interests, so we dare not; If you offend your loved ones, but they won't hurt you, the cost is close to zero, so we do whatever we want. Your family knows the hardships of your life best, so they put up with you and let you indulge your unreasonable, arrogant and domineering. There are countless failures in life, which is the most sad and desolate. This society will only become more and more realistic. It's too fake to talk about feelings. It's better to talk about interests directly. Since everyone is running for their purpose, why can't we open the skylight and tell the truth? Go straight to the subject, come if you agree, and go if you disagree. Moreover, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. Really successful and smart people will keep a certain distance from others. This distance can be attacked, retreated, defended, collected, distributed and hidden. Because human nature has such a weakness: when you open everything in front of others, he will feel that you have a panoramic view, and then he will hold you. Because your seven inches have been exposed there. This is indeed a taboo. There were many favorite ministers around the emperor, and the result was either beheaded by the emperor or beheaded by others; The popular people around the leaders often change, either to blame the leaders or offend a group of colleagues; There are many friends who call themselves brothers. Once they are related to interests, they fight hard; There are many lovers in deep love, most of whom run to the ends of the world. All the beauty in the world is actually a sense of strangeness and remoteness. A glance will only lead to boredom. Therefore, the most beautiful distance in the world is where you will reach but haven't reached yet. Therefore, the future society does not need social interaction. All existing distances are reasonable. We don't need to approach or walk away deliberately. We just need to be ourselves, and we will approach sooner or later. The most precious thing in the future is time. Don't waste other people's time or your own time. If you have a little leisure time, don't socialize: if you haven't seen a sudden contact for many years, you must have used you to think of you; If you are suddenly invited to dinner without making an appointment in advance, it means that you are just a person who makes up for a meal. Remember: no one is worth your entertainment! Have some time to read more books and spend more time with your family, so as to make yourself physically and mentally happy and have a rich and colorful life. Isn't it fast to cultivate one's morality and character? Finally, let me remind you: please put your spare time and energy on the things or people you like, and make the best of what you should and are good at, and your world will be much more wonderful!