It feels like 55 years of questions leading up to finally understanding what life is for, answered. I wanted to write the word finally, but I hadn't known my mind was continually calculating a single solution. All of a sudden, it simply clicked. It was the missing act on our stage of life, and I'll use the word 'our' to show the missing piece.

In recent ponderings, I realized we do everything for relationship. Valued above all else and ironically prevented in the pursuit of wealth for the acquisition. What's missing from our lives drives us in far-flung directions, pursuing down every path's end. I've traveled them all to wind up at this resonant destination. The end of these lifelong journeys is really the beginning of living life.

This buildup is necessary to see the intent clearly beyond conformations implemented as protective survival measures on the journey. I've always been one to resist attempts to conform me unless requiring support out of missing relationship. Soothingly deceptive, the ease of an existing structure provides artificial comfort at the expense of fulfillment.

To assemble these pieces into this relationship of ours beyond what it's known to be involves a simple act. However, the incentive that creates the motivation arrives afterwards as a result of the action, preventing starting. The way around this apparent conundrum is ultimately to go first for someone else, hence, relationship.

I could present a myriad of descriptive metaphors explaining the how to, but I'll spare the required effort to follow my further rambling and reveal what I received as the solution. The answer to living life is the way we relate to each other.

Now, bear in mind that this method comparatively arrived after processing 55 years of experience. The practice of properly relating to one another, while instantly possible and infinitely effective, develops one relationship at a time, beginning now. For me to present evidence-based examples to scrutinize success is unnecessary unless you are resisting relational simplicity out of a desire to control.

Yes, the antithesis of level relationship is tilted control. Competitive actions designed to provide existence above another relationally. Motives, although denied, root themselves in fear and are justified through survival, masked as a quest for longevity in an illusion of life. We collectively can't see the answer while inside the problem.

Start with this, and I'm writing to myself, not so familiar act of releasing what we perceive as our time. What we actually sense in our attempt to control this concept of time is our decay, which prompts an unbalanced fear of loss of our life as measured relatively by the appearance of time. Relate using uncontrolled time.

To provide time to another is to provide a moment of life to another. The catch here is that you both will have experienced it. Nothing was lost individually as an exchange took place, and the crux we trip upon is valuing one moment above another as if one life is more worthy than others. We are all sharing the same time at whatever lengths proposed to measure it. We are all living life when done relationally rather than relatively.