Ten years ago, Liu Ruoying staged a “falling stage play” at her concert.

She voiced softly with a warm voice like milk tea: he was a designer who personally designed a pair of red high heels for me.

But now, he will hold another girl wearing high heels onto the red carpet. He took away his memories. Only high heels are left to me. Tonight, let this pair of high heels that break my heart jump down from the sky with my heartbreak.

In the introduction of the concert, she wrote down clearly: I hope every woman can lead to wear high-heeled shoes, which is more feminine, and dare to put aside this happy “burden” and free her feet. High heels symbolize love.

You know, milk tea, which has gone back 20 years, is not so hard.

In 1990, after receiving her degree in classical music in the United States, the confused Liu Ruoying mistakenly entered the rolling stone and became the little assistant of popular singer Chen Sheng.

After three years of serving tea, pouring water, cleaning the toilet and carrying the guitar, her simplicity and sincerity have been gradually explored.

At that time, Zhang Aijia was looking for a heroine for her film “girl Xiaoyu”. She happened to meet Liu Ruoying in a big bag and small package at a concert in Singapore. She was wearing a simple white shirt and jeans with clear and tough eyes.

It was this film that made Liu Ruoying have a name in front of the screen for the first time, but Liu Ruoying felt that everything she owned came from the man who gave him a light source.

After opening the popularity with roles and songs, the names of Liu Ruoying and Chen Sheng always appear together. Liu Ruoying’s record producer has always been Chen Sheng, and Liu Ruoying must be waving fluorescent sticks under the stage in every concert of Chen Sheng.

Unfortunately, it can only be done like this. Chen Sheng has a wife and children, which is a fact that no matter how affectionate his eyes can penetrate.

Therefore, when Chen Sheng asked Liu Ruoying to open her own door and gently refused her hug and the record she sent, Liu Ruoying said she was like a discarded kite and cried bitterly.

Later, she also had a “three generations” relationship with Huang Lei in the three plays. She was lonely in April on earth, became a husband and wife hand in hand in running at night, and fell in love until she was drunk and dreamed of death in time.

Among them, “the passage of time” is a script written by Huang Lei. The heroine is called “Ying”, because “Ying” has a fiance and two people can’t love each other.

Huang Lei once lamented that this is “want to look back on his own way”. Although Huang Lei repeatedly said that the story was a fiction, this romantic mystery got a suspected answer in 2004:

Liu Ruoying told a story in the concert: “a boy called me. He said he was going to get married. If I don’t agree, he won’t. I said, bless you.” The next day, Huang Lei and Sun Li announced their marriage.

Ambiguous, once, now.

In the two feelings that seem to end without illness, Liu Ruoying finally stopped insisting on finding someone to protect herself.

In 2009, Liu Ruoying admitted in an interview that she had been pursued by many people during her study, but she was never moved.

As for the later two unconfirmed pornographic memories, in fact, they all come from somewhere——

When Liu Ruoying was 2 years old, her parents divorced and were abused in foster care at her relatives’ home. Finally, she was taken home by her grandparents. At a young age, she has experienced two emotional patterns:

01 emotional avoidance

At first, as an adult, she was determined not to find a lover and be a partner like her parents.

In the narration of relatives, Liu Ruoying described the outline of her parents’ relationship: her father was unwilling to take off his shoes when he came home, which was a great challenge for her mother who was a little clean and demanded perfection in everything.

In order not to make her husband feel uncomfortable, as soon as it’s time to get off work, she will spread towels all along her husband’s way to prevent the floor from getting dirty.

Meticulous and thoughtful play to the extreme is a kind of bondage. Although it is easy to form self consistency, it “invades” your partner’s personal space.

02 emotional compensation

When she was young, Liu Ruoying once made a wish that her future dream was to be “Mrs. Liu”, just like her grandparents who helped each other for a lifetime.

This feeling is projected on Liu Ruoying, which becomes an emotional compensation. She is eager to put herself in a relatively weak position in her emotion and get the protection of her father and brother.

The emotional view “inherited” from the original family is brought into full play, so that Liu Ruoying knows that restraint, forbearance and calm waiting are more accurate emotional wisdom.

This kind of growth melts in her singing, which is no longer “I want to ask you if you dare to love me as you said” in “crazy for love”;

It is no longer “do something for you to write my name in your heart” in “I love you very much”;

It has become “I know, in your arms, but not necessarily in your heart” in “separate travel”;

It has also become the sentence in “I heard” that “I have a good life, I am still moved in my busy life, I have tried to love several people, and I am much more honest in the face of love”.

At this time, Liu Ruoying took off her high heels.

In 2011, Liu Ruoying suddenly entered into marriage with a young talent Zhong Shi.

Milk tea playfully admitted the good deed, and then made a little correction, “we are the same age”.

Later stories can only be seen from the words of milk tea:

Sometimes couples go out and choose different cinemas because they want to see different movies.

Two people go home together, one to the left and one to the right after entering the house, because they have their own independent bedrooms and study, and only share the kitchen and dining room.

Living in separate rooms seems new, but it has actually put many marriages on the rocks.

The legend of Condor Hero and Lu Cheng, who once make complaints about the “divine carving heroes” in the talk show, is because Cheng Lu is the old director of the laughing culture.

Once, Cheng Lu said in an interview that after the two came to Shanghai, they always worked late and Siwen was used to going to bed early. In order not to bind each other, they simply slept in separate rooms.

At first, Siwen once laughed at the talk show. A good marriage would turn a partner into a brother in the upper and lower berth. Later, they changed from fake brothers to real divorces.

In the interview after the separation, Siwen said that she and Cheng Lu almost never interfere in each other’s lives, and the marriage of “upper and lower bunks” must have “degree” to continue.

Comparing the two couples who choose to live apart, we can draw a conclusion that if you want to choose such a marriage mode, you should have the same three views of marriage, and such three views