If you want to speak ill of the world, I will know why, I will accompany you.

Because “emotional value” has been mentioned many times in recent articles, let’s talk about it today.

My friend told me one thing.

For some time, she was dismissed by the company without preparation.

She was not the one who was laid off. Two thirds of the Department was laid off, so when she went home to face her boyfriend, she calmly replied:

Fortunately, it’s just a normal adjustment of business structure. Just take a break and look for a job.

But she knew that she didn’t look so “indifferent”.

She is a cautious person and has high requirements for herself. She will reflect on this matter:

Why me?

Am I not positive enough?

Isn’t the result so good?

Or did I accidentally offend someone and be so stupid that I haven’t found it yet?

Thinking of the future, it is the anxiety of staggering on the cable bridge:

What about being laid off like this next time?

If you are laid off again, how can you believe that you can be competent in the workplace?

If not, is it the end of my life?

She told her boyfriend to rest for a period of time. In fact, she was too anxious to sleep. She turned on her mobile phone in the middle of the night and quietly edited her resume beside him who had fallen asleep.

In her heart, she is like a glass shaken by sound waves. The crack is close to the limit. As long as you touch it, it will be crushed.

But she didn’t cry directly because of this.

She thought that since she was free, she would order more dishes - in the past, she only knew instant noodles and boiled noodles, so she could learn to stew and stir fry.

But the road of cooking was particularly difficult at the beginning: she couldn’t master the heat at all. Things were pasted and raw for a while, and she couldn’t master the salt well. In addition to being too salty, she couldn’t stir fry the salt evenly.

After so many days, one day, she carefully noticed not to fry the vegetables. The dishes looked good in color, but after taking a bite with chopsticks, she found that they were not cooked.

Her boyfriend went to work and she was the only one in the family. Suddenly, she sat at the table and cried.

“No wonder I was cut. I can’t do anything well. I can’t stir fry such a simple dish.”

But the friend said - when she told her boyfriend about it, the boyfriend frowned and said: ah?!

Then I couldn’t help laughing: what’s there to cry about?

A friend said that the moment was disappointing. The disappointment was not strong but very real.

It’s like you’ve prepared a lot of desire for expression. It’s like you’ve brought a strong umbrella and prepared to get wet. But when you go downstairs and find that the sky is clear, you have to go back first, put the umbrella away and put it in the drawer.

No one will hold an umbrella on a sunny day, just like when the other party can’t understand your deeply buried emotions, your talk is absolutely wishful thinking.

I believe girls all know: they all know why a laid-off girl cries because of a dish of vegetables that can’t be cooked well.

But I have no confidence at all. There will be many partners to understand this.

I thought for a moment that intimacy cannot lack emotional value:

What I mean by emotional value is that at a time of collapse like this, at the trough of my life development stage, you can understand me, accompany me in pain, put yourself in my position and think about why you cry and why you are depressed.

It really doesn’t make sense for me to transfer money 520 or send flowers to the downstairs of the dormitory on the takeout app - this emotional value is dispensable, vain and simple, mere formality and replicable in my opinion.

Junior high school or high school students are always like the main tricks of love.

I may be different from other girls. I can’t envy the video that praises hundreds of thousands of people. There are a car of roses and small light bulbs in the trunk. But when I see the “love you, Rosie” in which the female host says to the male host, “you don’t look like your real self now. You violate your own soul”, which shows the depth of mutual understanding between the two people, I will see tears.

Only, empathy and understanding, such emotional value, is what my heart urgently craves.

I think girls should abandon their excessive love for low emotional value.

I’m not saying that everyone has to find a soul mate. There are always more “make do” lovers in the world.

But I think, two people, the heart is to stand in one place.

When I was young, a boy showed kindness to me from time to time, and I didn’t have any special response. Only once, because the interpersonal relationship was difficult and frustrating, I was so fragile that I couldn’t help telling him that I was really unhappy today because I didn’t feel so popular with my friends.

He didn’t take over this stubble, but said with self admiration: what friends do you want? You’re very rich.

He didn’t even have a little curiosity and didn’t want to understand the reason why I had trouble with my friends.

So ah, you say that the really rare emotional value is “good morning”, “good night” and “love you all your life”, or really go into your heart and feel your happiness and pain. Although “there is no real empathy between people”, he is trying.

Intimacy absolutely needs emotional value, but the better the intimacy, the higher the emotional value.

Maybe it’s not easy for us to fall in love. We feel that we can talk about comfort by getting some cheap emotional value, but it’s still a pity, because the more people grow up, the less they need to be coaxed - people need to be understood.

Who can guarantee his life without waves and waves?

And when the world is occasionally against itself, as a human being with general talent and strong pretending, I still look forward to someone really standing on my side from the bottom of my heart.

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If you want to speak ill of the world, I will know why, I will accompany you.