Know how to be silent, quiet and do not argue, learn to look down and open, and be the top wise man.
Have you ever felt this way:
At a certain age, fewer and fewer people can talk. There are thousands of contacts on the wine table and in the address book, but few people can tell the truth.
Those who want to talk about their bitterness and grievances are unable to control themselves, but they swallow their words back because they can’t find someone to disturb at any time.
All the joys and sorrows in the world are not interlinked, and no one can really feel the same. It’s better to choose silence than nagging complaints and painstaking explanations.
Silence is not a lack of words or lofty, but an indifference after seeing through the cold and warm of human relations and the truth and falsehood of the world. I am used to digesting everything by myself and no longer lift my wound to others.
A person is more and more silent, mostly because of these three points.
It’s hard to be confused if you see too deeply
There is a popular saying on the Internet:
“Silence is a person’s biggest cry. It is the most silent cry when the world compromises to reality.”
I think so.
In middle age, people are more and more aware that silence is not cowardice or letting go, but a sense of powerlessness in the face of many things. Because they see clearly, they look down on it.
A truly mature person will not be red in the face because of who is right and who is wrong, nor will he be furious because of his dissatisfaction.
In life, there are too many people and things that we can’t control, and people’s hearts are even more elusive.
Not all people are sincere and relative; Not everything is black and not white.
When water is clear, there is no fish, and when people are clear, there are no friends. Don’t be too serious about everything. Timely silence and foolishness can reduce your injury.
In this journey of life, all people are just passers-by, and the only one who can reach the end is himself.
There is no need to haggle over every detail. Peers are fate. They don’t ask about the date of return or the source. This is the only way in life.
There is no need for strong integration if the three views are different
Li aozeng said:
“Sometimes explanation is unnecessary: the enemy doesn’t believe your explanation, and the friend doesn’t need your explanation.”
On reflection, it is.
There are some things you don’t have to say. It is self-evident that those who understand you, and those who do not understand you are speechless.
Three different people, like I said the sea is beautiful, you said drowning a lot of people; I said the steak was delicious, but you said it was expensive and not delicious; I treat you with my heart, but you treat me with the eye of a needle.
Three views are different, you don’t have to be a friend. We all have our own boundaries. We don’t have to be out of tune with another person. We choose our own circle and don’t have to force others to be the same as ourselves.
The blind touch the elephant, each has its own difference; Each has its own merits.
We can’t judge who is right and who is wrong, just because we are in different positions, we see different angles naturally.
It is inevitable to encounter misunderstandings and distortions in life. You may be at a loss and overwhelmed with grief. You must tell yourself: don’t be angry and have a clear conscience.
Lu Xun said: “silence is the highest contempt.”
Life is short. Don’t tangle with bad people and things. Keeping silent and improving yourself is a person’s greatest wisdom.
Be kind to yourself and lenient to others
In the world of life, we should forgive and forgive others. We should leave room for everything. We should be reasonable. We should learn to be silent and take a step back from the sea and the sky.
Right and wrong in the world, don’t care too much about gain and loss, honor and disgrace. Those external things don’t belong to you after all. Why struggle until death.
Silence, not introverted, not magnanimous, but because care, so choose to give in.
Relatives win right and wrong, but lose family affection; Lovers win right and wrong, but lose their feelings.
In this world, not everything has to be decided. Sometimes, silence and leniency are the best way to solve all problems.
As the saying goes: those who know me are worried about me; I don’t know what I want.
Don’t care what others say. Cherish the people who are good to yourself and live your own life is the most important.
Nietzsche once said, “whoever will eventually shock the world will remain silent for a long time.”
Listen to the most real thoughts in your heart, strive to improve yourself, and be ready to make a splash.
Those days when we made a lot of efforts but failed to get results, we call it rooted, deeply rooted in the soil and not affected by the outside world.
Silence is a person’s best value-added period.
Hemingway said, “it took us two years to learn to speak, but a lifetime to learn to shut up.”
Speaking is a profound knowledge.
Know how to be silent, quiet and do not argue, learn to look down and open, and be the top wise man.
Be a silent person, face ups and downs, no regrets; Be neither humble nor arrogant in the face of changes in the world.
If you don’t say anything, you can carry the pain yourself.
May you not be quick to talk, always be tolerant, be flattered or disgraced, sit in front of the court and watch the flowers bloom and fall, laugh at the clouds in the sky, and live freely and calmly.