When a core need of both parties in a relationship is matched, they will often be happy.

A few days ago, 49 year old Li Yapeng suddenly revealed a new relationship.

In the video, he clasped his fingers with a post-90s Yi girl to express his arrogance:

“She didn’t mean that, because we were meant to be together.”

After confession, hug and kiss deeply.

Then, the media photographed them meeting their parents, which seemed to be a serious and stable relationship.

I remember last May, Li Yapeng also exposed his love affair.

The picture of him holding hands with a short haired woman was exposed. In the face of the external speculation about the woman’s fortune of 50 billion, his attitude is still straightforward and frank:

“I’m not an entrepreneur. I don’t have 50 billion yuan. I’m just a writer who occasionally likes to sing jazz. I’m an admirable independent woman.”

It was his first public relationship with Faye Wong six years after their divorce.

Just through words, you can also feel the sense of steadiness and stability of Li Yapeng.

You see, as he wrote in his divorce statement:

“Tomorrow, the sun will rise as usual!”

Even if I have spent ten years together, even if I love her as before, even if I am sorry, divorce is not so terrible.

The right person will appear at the next stop.

Those who can afford it and can’t put it down are the most painful

Some people say that Li Yapeng is a person who can afford to put down.

At first, he was so deeply in love with Faye Wong.

In the period of pursuing Faye Wong, I heard that Faye Wong liked jokes.

He collects around and can send one or two hundred pieces a day. He doesn’t duplicate the sample every day.

Faye Wong likes playing mahjong. He can get there with one phone call.

Playing all night, he didn’t show a trace of fatigue and deliberately shot Faye Wong from time to time.

Behind romance is not only a temporary enthusiasm, but Li Yapeng’s rare composure.

Just like Faye Wong asked him, “what’s the matter with love?”

“Outsiders think I pursue love for fame and wealth.

In fact, I want to have a home and my own children more than anyone else.

But these can not be forced, fate did not come, can only choose to break up.

There’s everything that’s said outside, but I have a clear conscience. “

After he got married, he still loved him in every way.

Shopping together, a dress, Faye Wong a few eyes.

The next day, the clothes will appear at Faye Wong’s house.

No matter where you go, you always hold each other’s hands tightly and sometimes fight and make noise.

Faye Wong wants a divorce, and he can really bear the pain to do it, “get along in another way”.

After the divorce, Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse reconnected, and the Internet was full of doubts, but Li Yapeng blogged in support of:

“There are many interpretations of love in the world, each of which should be blessed. My mother wishes you, come on.”

When he first met Dou Jingtong, he said, “if you think calling me ‘dad’ will make you uncomfortable, don’t call me. Don’t call me uncle. It’s too polite. Just call me ‘ah’.”

After the divorce, he has never been indifferent to Dou Jingtong.

Take Li Yan to celebrate Dou Jingtong’s birthday and take Dou Jingtong to their own parties. They often eat together.

Dou Jingtong still calls Li Yapeng “Dad”.

But divorce was like an earthquake to Li Yapeng.

It shattered the family cherished by this traditional man and his sense of self-worth.

He said in the interview that it took him more than half a year from never agreeing to divorce.

During the cold war, even if he wanted to communicate with Faye Wong, Faye Wong didn’t say a word. He could only express it by writing a letter.

After the divorce, for a long time, he felt he was a failure because he didn’t give his children a complete family.

You see, it’s not because there’s no pain that you can take it up and put it down, but because of the reconstruction after pain.

So is Li Yapeng, and so is we.

There are so many people in the world,

More than one person is right

I’ve heard many people say, “the hardest time in life is the first year of divorce.”

Some people have to re-enter the workplace at the age of 30 or 40 to compete with young people in their 20s.

Some people have been ignored by their parents and colleagues, and even began to doubt whether they really made the right choice.

Some people can’t face their children. They don’t know how to answer their questions one by one. They feel that they are a sinner.

Some people look at the empty home, full of doubts about themselves, can’t see the future, and feel that they can’t be happy anymore.

A friend who came out of the shadow of divorce said, “if you want to stand up from failure and pain, you should live very seriously and run to a place with light.”

Eat carefully, sleep carefully, exercise carefully, make up carefully, make money seriously……

Then, when you meet that person at the next stop, you are not unkempt, you don’t need to rely on who can support yourself, and your sense of self-worth doesn’t have to depend on another person.

In fact, she is talking about two aspects of reconstruction: life order and self-worth.

Just like today’s Li Yapeng is busy with his daughter, creating “Academy China” and holding hands with his new girlfriend.

Leave Faye Wong, even if his name is always preceded by “Faye Wong’s ex husband”.

But Li Yapeng has always been Li Yapeng, and his life is also good.

Some people struggle hard in an inappropriate and unworthy relationship and refuse to let go.

But in fact, people should know how to fight, but also how to let go.

After all, there are so many people in the world, and there must be more than one right person.

Whether the relationship is good or not,

It depends on these points

Faye Wong is free and easy, and Li Yapeng is down-to-earth and open-minded. Both of them are good people.

But they just can’t go on.

Who is right, then? What is the right relationship for you?

In fact, the most important thing for a good relationship is “demand matching”.

Everyone has these four emotional needs.

First, a sense of security, a sense of stability and steadiness.

For example, economic and material sureness, and then for example, you believe in the bottom of your heart that you are loved by each other.

Li Zongsheng once loved Lin Yilian so much that he finally came together.

Brushing off the halo, Li Zongsheng is a straight man with cancer. He is used to women obeying his orders.

But Lin Yilian never blindly obeys. She is not a woman who is used to three obediences and four virtues.

Differences and cracks arise in this way.

Li Zongsheng complained more and more, became more and more angry, and even became angry because her coat was exposed at the concert.

Lin Yilian refused to give in blindly. She refused to turn around and make a clean break.

Later, Li Zongsheng was elected