So why do people differ so much from one another when they are capable of reflection? The reason is simple. Metacognition is hierarchical. In a world where everyone has metacognition, only those with higher metacognition will win. According to the classification of psychological intentionality [2], metacognition can be divided into at least six levels, which can be ultimately classified into two categories: passive metacognition and active metacognition. Ordinary people are usually only forced to use this ability when they encounter problems, such as criticism, criticism, reflection and correction; When we are in good times, we will still live according to our nature. We should play with our mobile phones and sleep late, unaware of the good or bad of our own behavior. People who use metacognition passively seem to be forced to flap their wings only when they have to. And some people try to practice flapping their wings even when there is no threat, to keep themselves evolving and out of danger altogether. This is a turning point from passive to active. When a person can actively open the third perspective and begin to continuously review their own thinking and behavior, it means that he has really begun to awaken, he has the possibility of rapid growth. How metacognition changes our fate is the starting point of metacognition. When you start to reflect on your thoughts, something amazing happens: you become aware of what you're thinking, which in turn makes you aware of the wisdom of those thoughts, which in turn corrects those unwise thoughts, and ultimately makes a better choice. People who lack the awareness of self-observation can only unconsciously follow their feelings and preferences, both physically and mentally, will unconsciously pursue the comfort and simplicity of the present, unaware of what is wrong with their current thinking and behavior until they hit a wall. And life is made up of countless choices, the accumulation of different choices to create a different life. If you think your life is not going well, that's probably the problem. The good news is that once metacognition is turned on, change happens immediately. To experience this change, imagine yourself surrounded by a "soul mate" who is always there to guide you, so that when your mind wanders, he reminds you to focus on the more important things; When you are confused, he will stand in the height of life, to help you see the situation and pattern; When you are angry, he will help you sort through your emotions and find a better choice than angry; When you don't have a solution, he will go deep into the underlying rules, suggesting what you should grasp; When you slack off, he will stand at the end of life, alert you to what you should do now... Once you know the concept of metacognition, active metacognition has been irreversibly activated, but that's not enough. Metacognition goes beyond that. There are more systematic ways to acquire this ability. First, as can be seen from Figure 3-2, the tools to improve metacognitive ability need to be acquired from the "past" end, including learning the wisdom of predecessors and reflecting on one's own experience. There is a lot of wisdom from our predecessors, most of which can be obtained from books. For example, when we read Deliberate Practice, we will not escape and fear when facing difficulties in learning. Instead, we will use the "edge of comfort zone" theory to actively face challenges. For example, when we read Beyond the Feeling, we will not show aggression and disdain in the face of the person we hate, but try our best to learn from him what is real and useful. This is why we need lifelong learning, because learning from the wisdom of our predecessors can give us a broader global perspective (height), grasp deeper underlying rules (depth), and help us to jump out of ignorance and make more correct choices. Of particular interest are brain science and cognitive science, which are direct descriptions of our own patterns of behavior. Learning them is equivalent to observing ourselves directly. For example, when we know the composition of our brains, we realize that there is a "primitive self" and a "modern self" inside us, and that everything we do is the result of a game between them. In this way, we know how to coach the "modern self" to victory, so that we can become stronger. Second, one's own experience is a unique treasure. Our daily lives flow like a river, and it's hard to gain wisdom without stopping. Reflection gives us the opportunity to think about what lessons can be learned and what lessons can be learned, so that we can avoid making unwise choices the next time we face a similar situation. Once said, "Every day I examine myself three times." Ancient people have long put the method of reflection into practice. Third, if learning and reflection are static, how can the current, dynamic self actively use metacognition? It's easy. Use your soul mate. Let him monitor you all the time, just like the anti-virus software in your computer system, monitoring your every action, as soon as it sees a suspicious file alert. Try to review this scenario. You need to find a piece of information, open your mobile phone, see a small red dot on wechat, unconsciously place in, found that someone in the moments sent a funny video, can not help but click on it, and found that the background music of this video is a song you have been looking for a long time, so open the music software to search for this song... Before I knew it, half an hour had passed, and I had forgotten all about the search. If you have a soulmate who is constantly monitoring you, you can examine your own behavior, step back from the process and say, "This is an option or not, but let's just suck it up until we get the important stuff done. Stop and think clearly about what is most important. Don't blindly do things that are easy but not important. Looking back in a few years, the current troubles will not be worth mentioning. Instead of consuming yourself, it is better to put your emotions away and do something useful..." This kind of awareness and change is definitely not as comfortable as staying where you are, but it allows you to focus and grow on your original goal.

So why do people differ so much from one another when they are capable of reflection? The reason is simple. Metacognition is hierarchical. In a world where everyone has metacognition, only those with higher metacognition will win. According to the classification of psychological intentionality [2], metacognition can be divided into at least six levels, which can be ultimately classified into two categories: passive metacognition and active metacognition. Ordinary people are usually only forced to use this ability when they encounter problems, such as criticism, criticism, reflection and correction; When we are in good times, we will still live according to our nature. We should play with our mobile phones and sleep late, unaware of the good or bad of our own behavior. People who use metacognition passively seem to be forced to flap their wings only when they have to. And some people try to practice flapping their wings even when there is no threat, to keep themselves evolving and out of danger altogether. This is a turning point from passive to active. When a person can actively open the third perspective and begin to continuously review their own thinking and behavior, it means that he has really begun to awaken, he has the possibility of rapid growth. How metacognition changes our fate is the starting point of metacognition. When you start to reflect on your thoughts, something amazing happens: you become aware of what you're thinking, which in turn makes you aware of the wisdom of those thoughts, which in turn corrects those unwise thoughts, and ultimately makes a better choice. People who lack the awareness of self-observation can only unconsciously follow their feelings and preferences, both physically and mentally, will unconsciously pursue the comfort and simplicity of the present, unaware of what is wrong with their current thinking and behavior until they hit a wall. And life is made up of countless choices, the accumulation of different choices to create a different life. If you think your life is not going well, that's probably the problem. The good news is that once metacognition is turned on, change happens immediately. To experience this change, imagine yourself surrounded by a "soul mate" who is always there to guide you, so that when your mind wanders, he reminds you to focus on the more important things; When you are confused, he will stand in the height of life, to help you see the situation and pattern; When you are angry, he will help you sort through your emotions and find a better choice than angry; When you don't have a solution, he will go deep into the underlying rules, suggesting what you should grasp; When you slack off, he will stand at the end of life, alert you to what you should do now... Once you know the concept of metacognition, active metacognition has been irreversibly activated, but that's not enough. Metacognition goes beyond that. There are more systematic ways to acquire this ability. First, as can be seen from Figure 3-2, the tools to improve metacognitive ability need to be acquired from the "past" end, including learning the wisdom of predecessors and reflecting on one's own experience. There is a lot of wisdom from our predecessors, most of which can be obtained from books. For example, when we read Deliberate Practice, we will not escape and fear when facing difficulties in learning. Instead, we will use the "edge of comfort zone" theory to actively face challenges. For example, when we read Beyond the Feeling, we will not show aggression and disdain in the face of the person we hate, but try our best to learn from him what is real and useful. This is why we need lifelong learning, because learning from the wisdom of our predecessors can give us a broader global perspective (height), grasp deeper underlying rules (depth), and help us to jump out of ignorance and make more correct choices. Of particular interest are brain science and cognitive science, which are direct descriptions of our own patterns of behavior. Learning them is equivalent to observing ourselves directly. For example, when we know the composition of our brains, we realize that there is a "primitive self" and a "modern self" inside us, and that everything we do is the result of a game between them. In this way, we know how to coach the "modern self" to victory, so that we can become stronger. Second, one's own experience is a unique treasure. Our daily lives flow like a river, and it's hard to gain wisdom without stopping. Reflection gives us the opportunity to think about what lessons can be learned and what lessons can be learned, so that we can avoid making unwise choices the next time we face a similar situation. Once said, "Every day I examine myself three times." Ancient people have long put the method of reflection into practice. Third, if learning and reflection are static, how can the current, dynamic self actively use metacognition? It's easy. Use your soul mate. Let him monitor you all the time, just like the anti-virus software in your computer system, monitoring your every action, as soon as it sees a suspicious file alert. Try to review this scenario. You need to find a piece of information, open your mobile phone, see a small red dot on wechat, unconsciously place in, found that someone in the moments sent a funny video, can not help but click on it, and found that the background music of this video is a song you have been looking for a long time, so open the music software to search for this song... Before I knew it, half an hour had passed, and I had forgotten all about the search. If you have a soulmate who is constantly monitoring you, you can examine your own behavior, step back from the process and say, "This is an option or not, but let's just suck it up until we get the important stuff done. Stop and think clearly about what is most important. Don't blindly do things that are easy but not important. Looking back in a few years, the current troubles will not be worth mentioning. Instead of consuming yourself, it is better to put your emotions away and do something useful..." This kind of awareness and change is definitely not as comfortable as staying where you are, but it allows you to focus and grow on your original goal.