A lot of social interactions are worth avoiding. Don’t accompany others in self-pity and blame others, and don’t deal with unbearable people and things. The mediocre communication surface is harmless, but it is actually a wear and tear on the mind. I often think that I should live more modestly. Although I know that restraint is not the characteristic of this era, sharing and expression are. If you are not so keen on the use of social software, it will always appear unfashionable, even old-fashioned and old-fashioned. Everyone's using their phones and trying to show a positive connection to the world, and Ruyi's life seems to have to look familiar to everyone, have some young entrepreneur friends, and have a few older mentors.
When I work as a media, the amount of information I harvest is really huge, and my mind can’t help but keep spinning. Searching and filtering require physical and mental effort. One day I had to force myself to turn off my phone, sit in my study, and get ready to open the book. Accompanied by bursts of anxiety, he tortured himself like suppressing drug addiction. After a quiet day, 381 unread WeChat messages appeared when I opened my phone. The number was shocking, but I believe that I am not the one with the most. If you disperse this information over the course of a day and accept it unconsciously, it will not be easy to feel the devouring of such a flood of beasts, devouring a complete life
. Those few days of retreating and reading books are considered to be a subtraction for myself. I can not look at the circle of friends for a long time, and I can appropriately reduce going out and remove some unnecessary information and communication. Life isn't any less beautiful because of it. On the contrary, time and distance are like a sieve, and all that remains are the thoughts that come from the heart. I don't know when it started, and it became a virtue of being knowledgeable and polite, but who is relying on likes in exchange for trust and goodwill? We always have to force ourselves to bite the bullet and respond to irrelevant people and cause unnecessary coaxing. A lot of social interactions are worth avoiding. Don’t accompany others in self-pity and blame others, and don’t deal with unbearable people and things. The mediocre communication surface is harmless, but it is actually a wear and tear on the mind. Some exciting exchanges don't have to be too many, enough to sublimate the mind. After each chat is hearty, no amount of gossip and shopping experience can be compared.
"Every man is not an island. A man must be the strongest island in the world before he can be part of a continent." Hemingway was right. People are like islands to islands, they have to face each other and stay together. Blindly relying on or clinging to, such islands will be submerged by sea water. Between people, all good relationships are mutual attraction and come naturally. The sun is always new, and people's emotions are changeable. Emotion is a two-way choice question, not determined by your will, you are at most a necessary but not sufficient condition. Distance is never a bad thing. Opening a person's heart is a high-risk thing, no less than a tumor cutting operation, one cut open the abdominal cavity, whether it is a late cancer or a benign tumor, full of uncertainty. A little distance is respect for each other, even if there is a jar of old wine, don't rush to open it, and even if you open it, don't drink it all. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the forced intimacy always leads to love-hate entanglement. Intimacy and acquaintance, do not have to force.
Love is the same, no kidnapping is needed. The best relationship should be, "I met you with love and respect for loneliness." Love doesn't need to be dramatic, it doesn't need too much drama. Love is not a joke, you don't have to show it to the public every day, and a joker who knows how to make up can't handle a naked life well. On a long-distance flight, I watched the French movie "Amour" on the way. Two retired music teachers, they are still in love in their 80s. Most of the shots are the protagonist's apartment, living room, dining room, bathroom, and the most common trivial things about eating, drinking, and laughing, telling the details of life, the space is so cramped, and the behavior is so homely. This kind of love seems to end, and it's not too sensational, but the emotion without words and tears has the power of dripping water and piercing stones, and this power is reserved. There is no need to be obsessed with others and yourself. My love is the best existence at this moment. The best relationship is comfortable even in silence. May we live long and free.