Judgment, as an irresistible impulse, refers to people subjectively categorize people, things, and objects in order to affirm, confirm, and validate their own beliefs or opinions. Judgment may seem like a very important and practical skill that can help us cope with the ups and downs of life, but in reality it has no basis at all, and is based solely on our own lack, dissatisfaction, or emptiness. The way we rank everything also stems from a lack of self-worth. The reason we want to judge others and fail to see them all as loving beings is because we are unhappy and unfulfilled inside. It follows that judgment is a misleading and insightful energy that is responsible for any conflict and dissension in the world. The opposite is awareness, through which we realize that everything, everything and everyone is an integral part of the chessboard of life. Before I see all this, my heart is often filled with sadness. I didn't realize that I was always dividing everything into good and bad. However, flaws and inadequacies are a necessary and beneficial part of personal growth. Once we realize this, the urge to judge others is gone. Once I fully accepted myself, I no longer wanted to hide my "dark side" from anyone, including myself. As a result, I have become more patient with myself and have experienced an unprecedented amount of peace and serenity. My inner drive to be "better" was no longer so strong and urgent. I even fell in love with my "new" self. It was then that the shackles of self-imprisonment were broken and I felt truly free for the first time. I suddenly understood why I was constantly judging others, and I was grateful that I had fulfilled this role so well, because otherwise I would not have felt the freedom I feel now. At the same time, I sincerely thank those who have denied and criticized me in various ways. My parents, teachers and former lovers have all taught me what it feels like to be judged, and how I react and defend myself. By absorbing and practicing the contents of this book, my brain was able to "reorganize" and begin the new life of my dreams. At the same time, my view of the world has changed dramatically. There was no distinction in my mind between good and bad, right and wrong. I began to take off my judgment glasses. When I began to acknowledge that everything about me was important and that everything was good for me, I finally realized that my relationships with others were, too. As a result, my desire to change the minds of others became less and less frequent, even those closest to me. Eventually, I let go of the expectations I had for myself. I happily enjoy the differences between my lover, my friend and me. I can clearly see that their strengths and weaknesses are valuable resources for their own growth and learning, and I can also benefit from them. Looking back, the "bad" experiences I've had along the way have helped me even more. Every time someone hurt me, betrayed me, or even broke my heart, I realized how important it is to keep trust. Sometimes, things always seem so painful and unfair, but when you think about it, if it wasn't for overcoming those obstacles, I would never have seen my potential, strength, will and heart. Once I accepted the part of myself that I had denied myself, I could no longer find a reason to deny anything or anyone outside me. I began to see that my friends were criticizing, being mean, being stubborn and giving up on love because their inner pain kept them from being the best they could be. When I love them with all my heart, they see themselves as worthy of love again and their emotional wounds heal automatically. And I began to understand why they were in my life.