The man returned after betrayal. He wanted to repair his feelings with him, but he thought I was bored. What should I do?

The man returned after betrayal. He wanted to repair his feelings with him, but he thought I was bored. What should I do?

Men find you annoying for two reasons.

The first is false regression.

Either he doesn’t break with the woman outside, he’s just lying to you; Either he was forced to break off and wanted to recover at any time. In short, he didn’t want to return at all.

So if you want to have a good talk with him, he will obstruct you in every way. He doesn’t want to talk to you. Of course, he thinks you’re bored.

The second is true regression.

He really didn’t leave home and wanted to come back. But most men are super narcissistic. He will feel that what women talk to him about the past is to expose him, and he instinctively wants to avoid it.

But this will enter a vicious circle. Women hope that men can coax themselves and love themselves. They are also eager to seriously discuss with men what is wrong with marriage and how we can rectify it.

But the man will think that this is the critical fight meeting, so he wants to escape, but the more he escapes, the more afraid the woman is that the man has no sincerity to return, and he still thinks about the women outside, and his heart has not come back. So I was more anxious to talk to men.

If a man can’t escape, he will explode and accuse a woman of making trouble. Women are more sure that men don’t love themselves.

Once the relationship is more fragile, it will be more difficult to repair.

What about the woman?

First of all, when men return, women must set rules. Don’t let men set rules for you.

The reason why women always suffer losses in their feelings is that women always unconsciously give such an important thing as setting rules to men.

Because many women often do not have a “view of the overall situation”. As soon as men go home, they are happy and forget that there are still many difficulties to break after they go home. The first one is “setting rules”.

For example, the man said: since I’m back, we’ll turn the page. I’ll break up with the woman outside. I’ll treat you well.

Then he went home early and was better to the child. He bought you a gift.

But if you want to talk to him, you’ll ignore you.

Then you must make it clear to him: if you want to return, you can’t set the rules completely, because I’m the one who’s hurt. You must have my opinion, otherwise you don’t have to come back.

Remember, at this time, don’t be soft hearted, because it’s a man who asks for you. You’re the strong side in your relationship. Don’t clean him up now. When the overall situation has been decided, you will go back on your word, and the man will turn against you.

Secondly, you should know how to give emotional value to men.

Many women want to warm up their feelings, so it’s easy to do two things:

The first thing is “old mother” care:

For example, when a man drinks outside and can’t get in touch, he makes a series of deadly calls. When a man answers the phone, he complains: your high blood pressure and constant drinking are bad for your health!

The man hung up impatiently. The woman said, I care about him. Why is he so unkind?

The second thing is the “little daughter” request:

For example, constantly asking men to do this and that for themselves, asking men to pick up and send them to and from work, which is called to contact feelings.

This is where men annoy women most.

Because many men have a strong “sense of territory”. If you let him pay attention to his body, he will feel that you are teaching him a lesson; If you want him to help, he’ll think you’re exploiting him.

What he wants is neither an old mother nor a little girl. What he needs is a woman’s “emotional value”.