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The One Where We Were Kids
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The One Where We Were Kids
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Hi there! My name is Oreoluwa and I think that for such a diverse species, I really don't understand this pathological need to put everything into boxes of duality. 'Us vs Them' is perhaps the most limiting argument a person can have tbh.
I often grapple with the concept of adulthood. It still feels surreal that if I'm in a room full of kids and young people and there's an emergency that requires an adult, I'm the required adult (like ehn? Who? We need an adultier adult please). Whenever I want to piss my parents off, I tell them that in another culture, I would be married with 2 kids. But then, when I look back on that statement, I'm mortified because IN ANOTHER CULTURE I WILL BE MARRIED WITH TWO KIDS!! And that's really funny because as I am, I don't even think I'm doing this adult thing properly. It's all debit alerts, responsibilities and I seem to be having an identity crisis every two weeks.
What's slightly comforting about this though, is that I'm not alone in feeling this way. In fact, as I've come to learn, a very large proportion of the adult population are just kids who suddenly found themselves having very grown-up things to do and have been winging it ever since (ask your parents lol). I guess psychologists are right on the money when they say we never really outgrow our childhood, trauma and all (which explains a whoooleee lot tbh).
The sad part about all this is that it’s all insidious in onset (see what I did there?). There's no big sign that says "CHILDHOOD ENDS HERE, ADULTHOOD 1KM AHEAD". Well, there's you turning 18, but tbh it's really not the symbol we think it is. At that age, you're most likely a weird mesh of childhood and adulthood, unsure of what lies ahead, except those who've perfectly mapped out their life's roadmap (must be nice sha). As for the rest of us, we tend to spend our teens wanting so much to grow up and be independent, and the thing is, you really don't notice your childhood slipping away until you start getting strange looks when you want to go on the bouncy castle or are watching PJ Masks (even though I know we all still do 🤭).
In the end, we can’t do a lot about this inevitable march toward death, but I guess we can always stop and smell the roses on the way. So, enjoy your milestones, live a little, appreciate the people ahead of you, and, if you feel like things aren’t exactly panning out how you thought at the moment, that’s alright. Give yourself room to figure things out. Even those we look up to have to wing it every now and then, and they turn out fine, so you will be fine too.
As always I hope you find serendipity and in doing so, have a wonderful week.
Bless you,
Oreoluwa.
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