Why do sometimes, when we meet people, we feel drained by ‘their energy’? Or in actuality, we deprive ourselves of the flow that is all there is.

Let’s say, you meet up with a friend for a coffee and they start complaining about how much their work annoys them. Most of the time, what happens in these kinds of social interactions, is that the other person, who is listening to the complaints of their friend, will match their energy by remembering something that annoys them too. So now, you’ve got two people who are disconnected from their inner beings and that low-frequency energy expands. Anytime, two wavelengths of the same frequency meet, they double in size. Then, after this kind of conversation, when you’re left on your own, you feel depleted, you want to go to sleep, you feel tired. Any energy that you had before the conversation was consumed by it.

Now, let’s spin the situation the other way around. You meet up with a friend after having a really good day. You feel enthusiastic, passionate and energetic about your day. Your friend starts complaining about theirs, but you’re somewhat ‘zoned out’, you don’t hear what they say. You’re daydreaming about something that you desire or perhaps you’re reminiscent about something really good that’s happened to you, so you accidentally, not purposefully, ignore the miserable line of thought from your friend. And then, with enthusiasm, you tell them a story, or you invite them somewhere really exciting, you share your passion with them. Then, if you’re truly on the vibrational frequency of enthusiasm, it becomes quite literally infectious. It’s said, that it takes about 17 seconds for a thought to catch momentum. That’s why, a lot of the time, it can feel like change isn’t fast enough, because we have adopted a flawed line of thinking, thinking of despair and dissatisfaction, that we’re not even realising that we’re doing that to ourselves. We create, with each passing thought, our reality. We can either accept that reality as our true reality or reject it by becoming conscious of our thoughts and start thinking better thoughts. It will build momentum by itself. Anytime you catch yourself thinking something that you do not prefer to be true, challenge it. Try thinking the complete opposite of that and see how that makes you feel.

Going back to the story, imagine your friend did meet you in the emotion of excitement, which is one of the highest frequencies of energy, then what? You both double that energy, it gives you lifeforce, you leave the conversation with your cups full, you feel enthusiasm for life, you notice the wonderful things and people that surround you. You become grateful for all that you have. You sleep restfully, restoratively, peacefully.

However, what happens if your friend is so ‘deep in their shit’ that they’re going in a fast stream of a misery river. Every thought that they offer is that of despair, anxiety or worry. If you’re at the beginning of your spiritual journey, you will feel exhausted by these interactions, you will start noticing how other people are making you feel and you will distance yourself from all those who don’t give you joy. You’ll start noticing that connections are fading out, people will be going out of your life because at that point, your need for boundaries will increase. You will want to guard and protect your energy. You will become vary of who you spend your time with, who you hug and who you touch. Your circle of friends will become tighter. It will become harder for other people to get to know you. You will guard yourself through your awareness of energies. You’ll analyse others’ lives and will offer solutions to how others can lead a happier life. You will try to fix other people’s problems, failing every time, you won’t be able to keep your vibrational frequency high at all times, which will lead you to blame others for your lack of energy. It’s a stage of awareness, which will create quite a lot of frustration. You will understand that you’re leading a more conscious life than before, when you weren’t aware of your thoughts but you will still feel frustrated that not everyone is aware of theirs. You will think that it is their fault for you feeling this way, when in reality it is only your own, for allowing somebody else to affect your connection to your inner being and the unconditional love that is in all things. But don’t worry, there is one more possible outcome in this scenario and it’s a promising one.

Once you’ve been practising good feeling thoughts on your own for a while, they will have caught the momentum of a strong hurricane. Nothing that other people will say or do is going to be able to push the ground off your feet. At that point in time, you will stop noticing anybody else’s misery, because to go there, it would mean being disconnected from your inner being and the source that is flowing within you. You’ll still feel pain. A lot of the time, the pain will be even stronger and more intense than before your spiritual journey. You will go to the depths of your pain. But you will lose all suffering. You will be able to feel the pain out to the fullest, without clinging to the memories of it, without storing it in your body and without complaining about it. You won’t offer words of wisdom or advice to others, because your life will become your practice. And those, who will be on the same frequency as you, will be drawn to you like bees to honey. You will naturally be guided towards the people resonating similar frequencies to yours. You’ll need less sleep. Sometimes, even four hours will energise and rejuvenate you in a way, that 10 hours couldn’t in the past. You will realise that energy is the most valuable currency in your possession at all times. Everything will start flowing like a river. And then, you will meet people of a different kind. Ones, I haven’t spoken about yet.

The ones, whose frequency is higher than that of unconditional love. How, you ask? Up until very recently, I thought that love was the highest form of energy in the universe, and it is - if it’s operating on its own. There is something more powerful than love and that is love combined with authenticity. It is finding out who you are and projecting that into the world without any expectation of how you must be received by others. You start doing every single thing through your authentic lens of perception, with unconditional love towards others. Without any expectation from them. Without any need for anybody to be in any way, shape or form different to how they are right now. Then, when you live your life like that and you meet another person who is also their own, unabashed, authentic self and radiates unconditional love towards others, that energy becomes explosive. There is nothing that can compare to it. It is all-consuming. In conversation with them, you disappear into your own created world. A world full of joy, happiness, and ease. A world, built with compassion and care for each other. A world, that has a name and its name is EARTH.