Have you ever had such an experience: I made up my mind that I would not stay up late from tonight, but after a few days, my old illness repeated itself. He said with great enthusiasm that he would start to work out from tomorrow. As a result, he insisted on working out for less than two weeks and announced that his plan had run aground. After reading a book, listening to a class or getting a shot of chicken blood, my brain opened wide and I decided to change. I also sent a circle of friends: I tried to meet a better self, but in the end, I only saw a more bloody self. …… Obviously know and want, but willful can not do it. Why？
Because you're always hinting that you can't M is a "negative addict", because she is always used to denying a lot. When she was unhappy at work, she began to deny her work and Leadership: "our leadership is really incompetent..." "this job is really like chicken ribs...". Just after the training, she began to deny the course and the teacher: "they all say that the course is awesome, but I think there are many loopholes, such as...", "I think the teacher is also average...". …… M seems to have developed a pair of golden eyes and always be able to keenly find the difference in life. Later, the company had an opportunity to compete for an internal position. M applied for the position, and she wanted to get the position very much. It is reasonable to say that according to M's qualifications and abilities, it is certainly no problem to win this position. Before the competitive recruitment, m fell into the vortex of continuous Negation: "My PPT is not good enough", "I'm always not good at speaking", "I can't get along well with leaders" This time, m denied himself. Later, m lost the competition in a mess. Getting used to negative thinking will make you unable to see more possibilities, make you confrontational, make it easy for you to deny and criticize a lot, make your vision narrower and narrower, and make your action force weaker and weaker. When you deny everything, the only thing you can deny is yourself. When you deny yourself, it's hard to do anything.
Because you think too much to focus Xiaopang went to a reading lecture given by a big guy. When he came back, he announced with great interest that he would start his grand reading plan. According to the book list issued by the big guy, xiaopang bought most of the books in the book list, and then rubbed his hands to prepare for a big fight. On Sunday night, I had a barbecue with xiaopang at Xiulin road. You said, should I open a official account, xiaopang said. Why do you suddenly want to set up a official account? I asked. Xiaopang said that it is used to share his reading experience. XXX (the name of a big guy) said that reading needs to be shared with others so that he can absorb more. Before the implementation of the reading plan, xiaopang had already thought of sharing his reading experience with the official account, which was really far sighted. It's a good idea, but you have to carry out the reading plan first, and then do the subsequent things slowly, I said. Xiaopang stopped talking and bowed his head and rolled the string in his hand. Not yet. On Tuesday night, when I was working overtime, xiaopang suddenly called me and said, "I have another thing in mind. Should we hold an offline book club so that reading can be fun..." In a hurry, I threw out a sentence: Ya, I'd better finish reading the pile of books you bought first. Don't fix so many useless things A month later, I asked xiaopang: how is your reading plan going? I've just read half of the first book, but I have a new idea about reading... Xiaopang began to talk about his new ideas. Alas, I really want to kneel down for this dead fat man. I have too many ideas, but the problem is, you have to do it. Finally, xiaopang's reading plan went bankrupt. If you know too much and don't take action, you will only be distracted and eventually deviate from your original goal.
Because you have no sense of crisis Huazi finally announced that he had given up drinking, which surprised us all, because huazi once said that women and wine are the only things that can not be given up. On Christmas Eve, constellation bar, huazimen company and company B had a fellowship together. I don't know why, huazi and company B's D choked. The two gave up the fight and decided to fight through a wine fight. D. he is as strong as a cow. It is said that he can drink more than Wu Song. The two began to fight over wine, and the red beer came in turn, pouring cup by cup into their stomachs. The colleague was afraid that huazi would suffer losses and advised him to drink less, but once huazi's stubborn temper came up, no one could stop him. Hua Zi continues to grapple with D. It's true: a thousand cups of wine are too few for a bosom friend, and a fool is too drunk. I don't know how long I've been drinking. Later, while drinking, Hua Zi suddenly vomited a mouthful of blood and then fell to the ground. This mouthful of blood finally stopped the liquor store, and almost scared the people silly. My colleague hurried Hua Zi to the hospital. Upon examination, he suffered from stomach bleeding. Fortunately, it's not very serious, but it needs to be hospitalized for a period of time. That day, I went to the hospital to see Hua Zi. His mother, it's a big game this time, Hua Zi said. I teased him and said: it was a big game. People drank wine and vomited wine. You drank wine and vomited blood Hua Zi smiled and hit me with his fist. He said: I really quit this time. I don't believe I can't quit. Dog day! In this way, after the labor pains, huazi started his journey of abstinence again. But after a while, at the dinner of several friends, I saw that huazi was still the one who drank the most. Didn't you quit? I asked Hua Zi. Hua Zi said: I was supposed to quit, but later I couldn't resist my friend's advice. Besides, it's OK to drink less. It's impossible to drink stomach bleeding every time. I'll quit slowly in the future I will not say anything after listening. After experiencing the pain of drinking, Hua Zi still doesn't regard abstinence as a thing. How can he quit? Sometimes, we know that we should do something, but because these things are important and not urgent, coupled with the lack of crisis awareness, we always want to do it later, but life is short, how can there be so much later?
Because you don't know your priorities It's said that I got a fitness card, and egg also got one. They said that they should hold together to keep fit, so it's easier to stick to it. So I made an appointment to go to the gym for at least two hours every Monday, Wednesday and Friday evening. The first week was good. The egg arrived as scheduled. And every time after exercise, Yudan would send a self portrait to his circle of friends, which was very encouraging. But in the second week, egg was always late, either because of something like that or because of something like this. The third week, Wednesday, I didn't see him at night, so I called him and asked him where he was. There was a lot of noise on the other end of the phone. The egg was panting and yelling: I'm singing K. I won't go to the gym tonight. Sorry, man The fourth week, there was no egg in the gym. Call him. He was either busy or too tired to come today. I have been urging more times, and I am so annoyed that I don't care about him anymore. Egg's fitness program ended without any problems. Fitness is very important, don't you know? He knows! However, in his heart, what is more important than fitness is to let others know that he is exercising, singing K or doing other things. Therefore, fitness itself seems to be less important. A thing that is not so important, who will do it with heart and strive to complete it?
Because you don't really recognize what you do Your inner values do not recognize what you have done. This is the fundamental reason why you know but can't do it. M don't you know that positive thinking is very important? She knows! But in her value system, being a judge is more important than being a praiser. Therefore, she can never get rid of her negative thinking. Xiaopang doesn't know that reading is very important? He knows! But in his value system, enjoying the pleasure of interpersonal communication is more important than reading itself. Therefore, he is always distracted from reading. Doesn't Hua Zi know that abstinence is very important? He knows! However, in his value system, face and present pleasure are more important than abstinence, so he can never really quit. Values are the "invisible hands" in our hearts, which will dominate our judgments and actions. When you really agree with what you have done, you will find ways to do it. Even if you encounter difficulties, you will take them as a companion for growth. When you don't really agree with what you do, it's hard for you to do it, and there are many excuses and reasons. However, knowing but not doing is not our ultimate destiny, So, how can we do from knowing to doing?
Positive thinking and timely tracking Stop complaining and denying, stop being a bad critic of life, and try to affirm and accept. Think positively, find out more possibilities and solutions, make a plan or get a task, and think about how to complete it better, rather than what causes me to be unable to implement it. Make a traceable action plan and use external supervision. For example, if you can't insist on getting up early, you can join some early rising groups and make yourself get up early by punctual clocking and peer supervision.
Simplify goals and focus on actions Only by simplifying the objectives can we grasp the key points and maintain focus. For example, the annual plan can cover many objectives, but it is best to keep two or three core objectives so that we can have a definite aim; After listening to a class or reading a book, it is not necessary to remember all the contents, but to extract the most useful points for yourself, so that you can quickly absorb and act. Focusing on action, we need to turn big into small and strengthen repetition. Turning big into small means that you break down your big goal or long-term goal into small immediate goals. For example, your big goal is to lose 5 kilograms of weight within half a year. When the big goal is broken down to the end, you have to run for 90 minutes every day. Strengthening repetition means that you can write down your goals, such as reading 100 books in 2015; Take notes frequently, for example: record your reading progress and experience; Make the goal visible, for example: arrange your reading plan into photos, and then set it as mobile screen painting; To make you always remember your goals and what to do, so as to stimulate action and persistence.
Establish crisis awareness The strengthening of crisis awareness, on the one hand, comes from the understanding of one's own experience. For example, after a serious illness, people are more likely to recognize the importance of health and become able to keep exercising; On the other hand, it comes from the perception of other people's experiences. For example, when we have seen the experiences of some people in the natural disaster, it is easier to cherish the present and family affection. Of course, this is a passive way to establish a sense of crisis. To actively establish a sense of crisis, you need to know your goals and consider them at any time. For example, your goal is to earn 1million in three years, but when you earn less than 100000 in half of the time, you will naturally be worried. The same is true for health, work or other aspects.
Prioritize and act first The best and most commonly used method to distinguish priorities is the four quadrant time management method, which is common and well known to everyone, so it is not repeated here. However, the premise of making good use of the four quadrant time management method is that you must clearly know your goals and be able to make choices and sequencing. Otherwise, it is difficult to distinguish priorities. Action first means that sometimes we don't need to use plans to guide our actions, but use actions to drive our plans. For example, xiaopang didn't need to make a plan before he started reading. Instead, xiaopang went to read, read, slowly found his feelings, mastered the frequency and speed of reading, and then made a reliable reading plan, which is easier to achieve.
Truly accept and acknowledge what you do. Look for the power of role models: you can look at the elders or peers around you who do the same thing, how they do it and how they adhere to it, and find ways to do things and spiritual motivation. Think clearly about the benefits of doing this: what benefits can it bring to you? For example, if you lose weight successfully: it can make your body more fit; It can strengthen your immunity and make you healthier; You can get more sense of achievement and satisfaction, So as to increase the motivation to do this. Choose what you love: because you love, it is easier to insist and recognize. Inner dialogue: ask yourself quietly, what exactly do I want? What are the values that have influenced me deeply? Why am I alive? Find more intrinsic motivation and power. From knowing to doing is a journey from mind to foot, and it is also a one-man battle. You need to understand yourself, change yourself and defeat yourself in order to become the ultimate winner. Be a man of unity of knowledge and action, you can!
Have you ever had such an experience: I made up my mind that I would not stay up late from tonight, but after a few days, my old illness repeated itself. He said with great enthusiasm that he would start to work out from tomorrow. As a result, he insisted on working out for less than two weeks and announced that his plan had run aground. After reading a book, listening to a class or getting a shot of chicken blood, my brain opened wide and I decided to change. I also sent a circle of friends: I tried to meet a better self, but in the end, I only saw a more bloody self. …… Obviously know and want, but willful can not do it. Why？
Because you're always hinting that you can't M is a "negative addict", because she is always used to denying a lot. When she was unhappy at work, she began to deny her work and Leadership: "our leadership is really incompetent..." "this job is really like chicken ribs...". Just after the training, she began to deny the course and the teacher: "they all say that the course is awesome, but I think there are many loopholes, such as...", "I think the teacher is also average...". …… M seems to have developed a pair of golden eyes and always be able to keenly find the difference in life. Later, the company had an opportunity to compete for an internal position. M applied for the position, and she wanted to get the position very much. It is reasonable to say that according to M's qualifications and abilities, it is certainly no problem to win this position. Before the competitive recruitment, m fell into the vortex of continuous Negation: "My PPT is not good enough", "I'm always not good at speaking", "I can't get along well with leaders" This time, m denied himself. Later, m lost the competition in a mess. Getting used to negative thinking will make you unable to see more possibilities, make you confrontational, make it easy for you to deny and criticize a lot, make your vision narrower and narrower, and make your action force weaker and weaker. When you deny everything, the only thing you can deny is yourself. When you deny yourself, it's hard to do anything.
Because you think too much to focus Xiaopang went to a reading lecture given by a big guy. When he came back, he announced with great interest that he would start his grand reading plan. According to the book list issued by the big guy, xiaopang bought most of the books in the book list, and then rubbed his hands to prepare for a big fight. On Sunday night, I had a barbecue with xiaopang at Xiulin road. You said, should I open a official account, xiaopang said. Why do you suddenly want to set up a official account? I asked. Xiaopang said that it is used to share his reading experience. XXX (the name of a big guy) said that reading needs to be shared with others so that he can absorb more. Before the implementation of the reading plan, xiaopang had already thought of sharing his reading experience with the official account, which was really far sighted. It's a good idea, but you have to carry out the reading plan first, and then do the subsequent things slowly, I said. Xiaopang stopped talking and bowed his head and rolled the string in his hand. Not yet. On Tuesday night, when I was working overtime, xiaopang suddenly called me and said, "I have another thing in mind. Should we hold an offline book club so that reading can be fun..." In a hurry, I threw out a sentence: Ya, I'd better finish reading the pile of books you bought first. Don't fix so many useless things A month later, I asked xiaopang: how is your reading plan going? I've just read half of the first book, but I have a new idea about reading... Xiaopang began to talk about his new ideas. Alas, I really want to kneel down for this dead fat man. I have too many ideas, but the problem is, you have to do it. Finally, xiaopang's reading plan went bankrupt. If you know too much and don't take action, you will only be distracted and eventually deviate from your original goal.
Because you have no sense of crisis Huazi finally announced that he had given up drinking, which surprised us all, because huazi once said that women and wine are the only things that can not be given up. On Christmas Eve, constellation bar, huazimen company and company B had a fellowship together. I don't know why, huazi and company B's D choked. The two gave up the fight and decided to fight through a wine fight. D. he is as strong as a cow. It is said that he can drink more than Wu Song. The two began to fight over wine, and the red beer came in turn, pouring cup by cup into their stomachs. The colleague was afraid that huazi would suffer losses and advised him to drink less, but once huazi's stubborn temper came up, no one could stop him. Hua Zi continues to grapple with D. It's true: a thousand cups of wine are too few for a bosom friend, and a fool is too drunk. I don't know how long I've been drinking. Later, while drinking, Hua Zi suddenly vomited a mouthful of blood and then fell to the ground. This mouthful of blood finally stopped the liquor store, and almost scared the people silly. My colleague hurried Hua Zi to the hospital. Upon examination, he suffered from stomach bleeding. Fortunately, it's not very serious, but it needs to be hospitalized for a period of time. That day, I went to the hospital to see Hua Zi. His mother, it's a big game this time, Hua Zi said. I teased him and said: it was a big game. People drank wine and vomited wine. You drank wine and vomited blood Hua Zi smiled and hit me with his fist. He said: I really quit this time. I don't believe I can't quit. Dog day! In this way, after the labor pains, huazi started his journey of abstinence again. But after a while, at the dinner of several friends, I saw that huazi was still the one who drank the most. Didn't you quit? I asked Hua Zi. Hua Zi said: I was supposed to quit, but later I couldn't resist my friend's advice. Besides, it's OK to drink less. It's impossible to drink stomach bleeding every time. I'll quit slowly in the future I will not say anything after listening. After experiencing the pain of drinking, Hua Zi still doesn't regard abstinence as a thing. How can he quit? Sometimes, we know that we should do something, but because these things are important and not urgent, coupled with the lack of crisis awareness, we always want to do it later, but life is short, how can there be so much later?
Because you don't know your priorities It's said that I got a fitness card, and egg also got one. They said that they should hold together to keep fit, so it's easier to stick to it. So I made an appointment to go to the gym for at least two hours every Monday, Wednesday and Friday evening. The first week was good. The egg arrived as scheduled. And every time after exercise, Yudan would send a self portrait to his circle of friends, which was very encouraging. But in the second week, egg was always late, either because of something like that or because of something like this. The third week, Wednesday, I didn't see him at night, so I called him and asked him where he was. There was a lot of noise on the other end of the phone. The egg was panting and yelling: I'm singing K. I won't go to the gym tonight. Sorry, man The fourth week, there was no egg in the gym. Call him. He was either busy or too tired to come today. I have been urging more times, and I am so annoyed that I don't care about him anymore. Egg's fitness program ended without any problems. Fitness is very important, don't you know? He knows! However, in his heart, what is more important than fitness is to let others know that he is exercising, singing K or doing other things. Therefore, fitness itself seems to be less important. A thing that is not so important, who will do it with heart and strive to complete it?
Because you don't really recognize what you do Your inner values do not recognize what you have done. This is the fundamental reason why you know but can't do it. M don't you know that positive thinking is very important? She knows! But in her value system, being a judge is more important than being a praiser. Therefore, she can never get rid of her negative thinking. Xiaopang doesn't know that reading is very important? He knows! But in his value system, enjoying the pleasure of interpersonal communication is more important than reading itself. Therefore, he is always distracted from reading. Doesn't Hua Zi know that abstinence is very important? He knows! However, in his value system, face and present pleasure are more important than abstinence, so he can never really quit. Values are the "invisible hands" in our hearts, which will dominate our judgments and actions. When you really agree with what you have done, you will find ways to do it. Even if you encounter difficulties, you will take them as a companion for growth. When you don't really agree with what you do, it's hard for you to do it, and there are many excuses and reasons. However, knowing but not doing is not our ultimate destiny, So, how can we do from knowing to doing?
Positive thinking and timely tracking Stop complaining and denying, stop being a bad critic of life, and try to affirm and accept. Think positively, find out more possibilities and solutions, make a plan or get a task, and think about how to complete it better, rather than what causes me to be unable to implement it. Make a traceable action plan and use external supervision. For example, if you can't insist on getting up early, you can join some early rising groups and make yourself get up early by punctual clocking and peer supervision.
Simplify goals and focus on actions Only by simplifying the objectives can we grasp the key points and maintain focus. For example, the annual plan can cover many objectives, but it is best to keep two or three core objectives so that we can have a definite aim; After listening to a class or reading a book, it is not necessary to remember all the contents, but to extract the most useful points for yourself, so that you can quickly absorb and act. Focusing on action, we need to turn big into small and strengthen repetition. Turning big into small means that you break down your big goal or long-term goal into small immediate goals. For example, your big goal is to lose 5 kilograms of weight within half a year. When the big goal is broken down to the end, you have to run for 90 minutes every day. Strengthening repetition means that you can write down your goals, such as reading 100 books in 2015; Take notes frequently, for example: record your reading progress and experience; Make the goal visible, for example: arrange your reading plan into photos, and then set it as mobile screen painting; To make you always remember your goals and what to do, so as to stimulate action and persistence.
Establish crisis awareness The strengthening of crisis awareness, on the one hand, comes from the understanding of one's own experience. For example, after a serious illness, people are more likely to recognize the importance of health and become able to keep exercising; On the other hand, it comes from the perception of other people's experiences. For example, when we have seen the experiences of some people in the natural disaster, it is easier to cherish the present and family affection. Of course, this is a passive way to establish a sense of crisis. To actively establish a sense of crisis, you need to know your goals and consider them at any time. For example, your goal is to earn 1million in three years, but when you earn less than 100000 in half of the time, you will naturally be worried. The same is true for health, work or other aspects.
Prioritize and act first The best and most commonly used method to distinguish priorities is the four quadrant time management method, which is common and well known to everyone, so it is not repeated here. However, the premise of making good use of the four quadrant time management method is that you must clearly know your goals and be able to make choices and sequencing. Otherwise, it is difficult to distinguish priorities. Action first means that sometimes we don't need to use plans to guide our actions, but use actions to drive our plans. For example, xiaopang didn't need to make a plan before he started reading. Instead, xiaopang went to read, read, slowly found his feelings, mastered the frequency and speed of reading, and then made a reliable reading plan, which is easier to achieve.
Truly accept and acknowledge what you do. Look for the power of role models: you can look at the elders or peers around you who do the same thing, how they do it and how they adhere to it, and find ways to do things and spiritual motivation. Think clearly about the benefits of doing this: what benefits can it bring to you? For example, if you lose weight successfully: it can make your body more fit; It can strengthen your immunity and make you healthier; You can get more sense of achievement and satisfaction, So as to increase the motivation to do this. Choose what you love: because you love, it is easier to insist and recognize. Inner dialogue: ask yourself quietly, what exactly do I want? What are the values that have influenced me deeply? Why am I alive? Find more intrinsic motivation and power. From knowing to doing is a journey from mind to foot, and it is also a one-man battle. You need to understand yourself, change yourself and defeat yourself in order to become the ultimate winner. Be a man of unity of knowledge and action, you can!
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