Mo Yan wrote in sandalwood punishment, "the most taboo thing in the world is perfection. Look at the moon in the sky, once it is complete, it will lose its weariness immediately; once the fruit on the tree is ripe, it will fall immediately. Everything must be slightly deficient in order to be persistent." Only when people have a little wisdom can they understand that life is the most perfect state in the world, and they can't stay in it. The way of husband and wife: love too full, easy to get hurt The perfect marriage in our imagination needs to be completely sincere, have no secrets, and be willing to give everything for each other without asking for return. Such love is really beautiful, but too full love, like a quilt in winter, not only brings warmth, but also weighs heavily on the body, and even suffocates. The one who gives will feel tired, and the one who accepts will feel very stressed. Moreover, seemingly perfect marriage is also difficult to last. We are all ordinary people. We will be tired if we pay more. When we don't get a response from love, we will also be hurt. If love is too full, it is like a cup of boiling water. It will be hot when touched and spilled when served. Therefore, the more natural state between husband and wife is to give each other some space. Such love may not be so perfect, but in these small deficiencies, both sides can run in with each other, understand each other and spend a long life together. The way of friends: the tighter you grasp, the more you lose The most important thing between friends is equality. Treating friends is like holding a handful of sand in your hand. When you hold it gently, you have a lot. If you hold it hard, the fine sand will be lost between your fingers. If you care about this friend very much, you will unconsciously think more of him. Gradually, he will take your unilateral payment as a habit. When you don't do well enough one day, he may be dissatisfied with you. Finally, there will be cracks in your relationship. Slowly, your friends who don't talk about everything will become strangers. Sanmao once said, "a true friend is like a good tea, light but not astringent, fragrant but not pungent, floating slowly and flowing like water." Friends do not need one party's flattery or the other party's humility. The best state is to talk to each other and tolerate each other. Even if there is a contradiction and quarrel, you can bear it once and he will retreat once. On the contrary, the friendship will gradually deepen in this imperfection, and this comfortable friend relationship can last for a long time. The way to behave: be modest and generous, and learn to "leave blank" "Fortune theory" has an important saying, "if the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it; if the action is higher than people, the public will not." We all know that in a forest, the tallest tree is most vulnerable to storms, and so are people. Because we are in different circles and need to integrate into the group to communicate and cooperate with others, we need to be modest and generous, leaving a little lack, so as to leave room for others and a way back for ourselves. An entrepreneur drew a circle with a gap when describing his life. He explained that a little lack of work can allow subordinates to use their talents to supplement it. Moreover, too full life is full of infinite desires. Being strict and flawless in life and work will not only make yourself paranoid, but also bring pressure to others. We often say that a painting needs "blank space" to render the artistic conception of art. Then, a slightly deficient attitude is like the "blank space" of life, which can make life have richer taste space. Because a person who can layout will not fill his life too full. Just like the truth that "when the moon is full, there will be a loss, and when the water is full, there will be an overflow", what a long-term marriage needs is a feeling that is not far or near, not strong or light, and leaves room, rather than a desperate dedication. What friendship needs is to leave a distance of care and concern, not the fear of loss and worry. Being a man and doing things a little less is the long-term way to get along with others.

Mo Yan wrote in sandalwood punishment, "the most taboo thing in the world is perfection. Look at the moon in the sky, once it is complete, it will lose its weariness immediately; once the fruit on the tree is ripe, it will fall immediately. Everything must be slightly deficient in order to be persistent." Only when people have a little wisdom can they understand that life is the most perfect state in the world, and they can't stay in it. The way of husband and wife: love too full, easy to get hurt The perfect marriage in our imagination needs to be completely sincere, have no secrets, and be willing to give everything for each other without asking for return. Such love is really beautiful, but too full love, like a quilt in winter, not only brings warmth, but also weighs heavily on the body, and even suffocates. The one who gives will feel tired, and the one who accepts will feel very stressed. Moreover, seemingly perfect marriage is also difficult to last. We are all ordinary people. We will be tired if we pay more. When we don't get a response from love, we will also be hurt. If love is too full, it is like a cup of boiling water. It will be hot when touched and spilled when served. Therefore, the more natural state between husband and wife is to give each other some space. Such love may not be so perfect, but in these small deficiencies, both sides can run in with each other, understand each other and spend a long life together. The way of friends: the tighter you grasp, the more you lose The most important thing between friends is equality. Treating friends is like holding a handful of sand in your hand. When you hold it gently, you have a lot. If you hold it hard, the fine sand will be lost between your fingers. If you care about this friend very much, you will unconsciously think more of him. Gradually, he will take your unilateral payment as a habit. When you don't do well enough one day, he may be dissatisfied with you. Finally, there will be cracks in your relationship. Slowly, your friends who don't talk about everything will become strangers. Sanmao once said, "a true friend is like a good tea, light but not astringent, fragrant but not pungent, floating slowly and flowing like water." Friends do not need one party's flattery or the other party's humility. The best state is to talk to each other and tolerate each other. Even if there is a contradiction and quarrel, you can bear it once and he will retreat once. On the contrary, the friendship will gradually deepen in this imperfection, and this comfortable friend relationship can last for a long time. The way to behave: be modest and generous, and learn to "leave blank" "Fortune theory" has an important saying, "if the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it; if the action is higher than people, the public will not." We all know that in a forest, the tallest tree is most vulnerable to storms, and so are people. Because we are in different circles and need to integrate into the group to communicate and cooperate with others, we need to be modest and generous, leaving a little lack, so as to leave room for others and a way back for ourselves. An entrepreneur drew a circle with a gap when describing his life. He explained that a little lack of work can allow subordinates to use their talents to supplement it. Moreover, too full life is full of infinite desires. Being strict and flawless in life and work will not only make yourself paranoid, but also bring pressure to others. We often say that a painting needs "blank space" to render the artistic conception of art. Then, a slightly deficient attitude is like the "blank space" of life, which can make life have richer taste space. Because a person who can layout will not fill his life too full. Just like the truth that "when the moon is full, there will be a loss, and when the water is full, there will be an overflow", what a long-term marriage needs is a feeling that is not far or near, not strong or light, and leaves room, rather than a desperate dedication. What friendship needs is to leave a distance of care and concern, not the fear of loss and worry. Being a man and doing things a little less is the long-term way to get along with others.