Mr. Zhao, who has just graduated from Fudan University for one year, is currently working in a high-tech company. He spent half an hour talking about his grievances: "I know that newcomers have to pay a price. For example, they can't disobey their superiors, respond to their colleagues' requests, do more extra work to win people's favor and lay a foundation for a foothold in the future. But as a result, I can't finish more things every day, often work overtime until the early morning, while others are as relaxed as a idle person, which makes me quite puzzled." "When can this change?" This is Mr. Zhao's biggest question. I can tell him that if he can't get rid of his current work strategy and "never disobey" work thinking and change a smart way to deal with his boss and colleagues, he will never change the current situation, but the situation will worsen until he can't bear high-intensity pressure and collapse. Like other newcomers in the workplace, Mr. Zhao wants to be a pleasing person. He felt that as long as he learned to please - to work hard in front of his superiors and colleagues and share the pressure of work for them - he could quickly win support and a foothold. This idea sounds "right". People always do it, but the problem is that people ignore the selfish side of human nature: others will get used to your giving and the fact that "you never refuse their demands". When you don't want to do this one day, you will be surprised to find that you are immediately unwelcome. Therefore, the latter is easy to predict - you are like a free hired donkey. You keep grinding, and you can't stop at all, because you can't say it. Your heart is dying and your body is getting tired, but you can't tell the pain and can only digest it by yourself. Your relationship with time will also become very strange. Their own time is never enough, their own work is thrown aside, often delayed, unable to complete the task; But you have to spend a lot of time helping others, fulfilling your commitments and meeting the needs of others. I know people whose living conditions are filled with a long list of commitments and to-do items, that is, they have no free space, leisure and entertainment time. They need to constantly force themselves to complete the tasks assigned by their superiors and meet the requirements of their colleagues. Even have to do some inexplicable and completely meaningless things, just because when the other party asked, he agreed for a moment. In this case, no matter what you do, you are looking at others' eyes. Just like a child under the custody of his parents, you take a piece of paper and a pen, write down the requirements of your parents, have no right to say no, and then frown to implement them. At this time, what kind of evaluation you get depends on the quality of completing these requirements, not your own judgment. You live in someone else's world and gradually lose the courage to say "I disagree" out loud.

Mr. Zhao, who has just graduated from Fudan University for one year, is currently working in a high-tech company. He spent half an hour talking about his grievances: "I know that newcomers have to pay a price. For example, they can't disobey their superiors, respond to their colleagues' requests, do more extra work to win people's favor and lay a foundation for a foothold in the future. But as a result, I can't finish more things every day, often work overtime until the early morning, while others are as relaxed as a idle person, which makes me quite puzzled." "When can this change?" This is Mr. Zhao's biggest question. I can tell him that if he can't get rid of his current work strategy and "never disobey" work thinking and change a smart way to deal with his boss and colleagues, he will never change the current situation, but the situation will worsen until he can't bear high-intensity pressure and collapse. Like other newcomers in the workplace, Mr. Zhao wants to be a pleasing person. He felt that as long as he learned to please - to work hard in front of his superiors and colleagues and share the pressure of work for them - he could quickly win support and a foothold. This idea sounds "right". People always do it, but the problem is that people ignore the selfish side of human nature: others will get used to your giving and the fact that "you never refuse their demands". When you don't want to do this one day, you will be surprised to find that you are immediately unwelcome. Therefore, the latter is easy to predict - you are like a free hired donkey. You keep grinding, and you can't stop at all, because you can't say it. Your heart is dying and your body is getting tired, but you can't tell the pain and can only digest it by yourself. Your relationship with time will also become very strange. Their own time is never enough, their own work is thrown aside, often delayed, unable to complete the task; But you have to spend a lot of time helping others, fulfilling your commitments and meeting the needs of others. I know people whose living conditions are filled with a long list of commitments and to-do items, that is, they have no free space, leisure and entertainment time. They need to constantly force themselves to complete the tasks assigned by their superiors and meet the requirements of their colleagues. Even have to do some inexplicable and completely meaningless things, just because when the other party asked, he agreed for a moment. In this case, no matter what you do, you are looking at others' eyes. Just like a child under the custody of his parents, you take a piece of paper and a pen, write down the requirements of your parents, have no right to say no, and then frown to implement them. At this time, what kind of evaluation you get depends on the quality of completing these requirements, not your own judgment. You live in someone else's world and gradually lose the courage to say "I disagree" out loud.