01 It is said that this year's college entrance examination composition in Shanghai is the most grounded, with the title "evaluating other people's lives". When I first saw this topic, I thought of Ruan Lingyu, the woman who became famous on the beach decades ago. After being humiliated and tortured by men and being criticized by public opinion, she chose to commit suicide to stay away from this long mouth. It is said that Ruan Lingyu left a suicide note: "I don't regret my death, but I'm afraid of people's words." Later, it was said that this was just a fake suicide note. Now, with the vicissitudes of the world, the sky has changed. After decades of reincarnation, true and false are no longer important. People are still concerned about the flower age woman on the beach. Why on earth did she take three bottles of sleeping pills. Lu Xun wrote an article on "people's words can be feared". He said that Ruan Lingyu chose to commit suicide largely because she was famous but too weak. Because of the its popularity, lace gossip related to it can become talk capital in streets and alleys of the Shanghai beach. And because she is too weak, she is unable to resist the overwhelming slander and slander, and the accusations and ridicules everywhere. So she can only choose to die to escape. This is to evaluate the great evil consequences caused by others. Those who gossip about Ruan Lingyu's scandal after dinner are just looking for a pastime. They don't know how powerful this conversation will be, and they don't know that this gossip will lead to Ruan Lingyu's death. The horror of public opinion is that it can easily stir up a wave of waves or destroy a person. 02 "Evaluating other people's lives" can be divided into two types: one is to know other people's lives and then evaluate them; The other is to guess the life of others without knowing it, and then make arbitrary evaluation. Ruan Lingyu's "human words can be feared" probably belongs to the second kind. As for Ruan Lingyu's grudge and separation with those men, those who spit out stars in the streets and streets don't know. They just speculated, and then smeared her with oil and vinegar, in order to get their own pleasure in the process. Yes, human beings are born to gossip because they can get pleasure when evaluating others. "You see, Ruan Lingyu's surface scenery is very chaotic secretly." "Although I'm not as beautiful as Ruan Lingyu, I'm at least more serious than her." "Although I can't act as well as her, at least I'm not a bitch in my next life." …… Word by word, it was just a picture. For a moment, it was refreshing in the mouth. After it came out, it became a knife inserted into Ruan Lingyu's heart. One knife, one knife, all over the world, come late, and don't stop until you see blood. All the arbitrary evaluation after speculation will always hurt people deeply by sealing Hou and seeing blood. 03 Another is to know others' lives and then evaluate them. In this way, because the evaluation is too specific, it will further destroy people's mind and hurt people's body and mind. I once knew a girl whose love path was so rough that she almost destroyed her whole life. When she was in college, she fell in love with a boy in her class. When she graduated, the boy applied for Meidi's doctor, but she found that she was pregnant. The boy resolutely broke up with her and said he would pay her to kill her child. The girl only said she would go to the hospital and then packed up her things and went back to her hometown. The child was born and is a pair of beautiful daughters. The girl is very strong and raises a pair of daughters alone. But the girl's mother fell down. She can't stand people living in a yard commenting on her girl every day. My mother is crazy. She hides at home every day. Sometimes her family takes her out. She will only say one sentence repeatedly: "you are not allowed to talk about my daughter. My daughter is a good girl I raised with great efforts. You are not allowed to talk about my daughter..." The most hurtful thing is that sentence. There was a news about unmarried pregnancy in a yard. What a big talk. Those people who had no place to digest after dinner gathered together and said that the girl could not look at people. Her fate was low. She gave birth to children before she got married, and she had children without her father Every word is true, without slander or slander. But that's why it hurts more. Mother is crazy, not because she heard one or two comments about the girl. But every day, every moment, every moment, she endured the people around her pointing fingers at her daughter's stain. All the people in the world suffer, and all the people are pitiful. They will be pitiful enough to withstand the blow of a word. The family was already devastated by such a thing. As a spectator around, if you have a little kindness, you should also block the pleasure in your mouth and let others live. 04 Z once talked with me about knowing and evaluating people. He said that when he was younger, he liked to think about people's hearts. At that time, after reading a little psychology for the first time, I wanted to show off everywhere. I felt so powerful that I could see what was thinking in that person's heart at a glance. As far as the eye can see, it is not out of date. It is a prop for him to practice his ability of knowing people. He also likes to comment on things around him to show his professionalism and sharpness. Fortunately, although he was arrogant, he didn't stop reading. When he read more books, he slowly stopped the quick talk of always wanting to comment on the personnel around him. "Because I finally found that my self righteous comments were not always right, nor did they benefit the parties." As Z said, all our evaluations are based on our own position and life experience. And this is the reason for the improper evaluation: because we have never experienced other people's lives. Now, Z, who has finally faded his arrogance, said that he will not judge personnel arbitrarily now, nor do he think he can easily see through the hearts of the people. The beauty of life is that you can't see through and speak clearly. What can be seen through and explained clearly must not be real life. Maybe it's just my imagination. Just like those comments, whether they are true or false, whether they are beneficial or not, they are just their own imagination in the end. We try to be quick and say some imaginary sentences, which hurt people deeply. This may be tolerant, but it is not good enough. Even if you are really a smart person who can see through people's hearts, don't easily say sharp sentences about people. You think you're responsible for enlightening others, but you don't know you're just sending someone a self cutting knife. All sharpness based on the pain of others is vicious. Knowing people without judging them is the greatest kindness of a wise man.

01 It is said that this year's college entrance examination composition in Shanghai is the most grounded, with the title "evaluating other people's lives". When I first saw this topic, I thought of Ruan Lingyu, the woman who became famous on the beach decades ago. After being humiliated and tortured by men and being criticized by public opinion, she chose to commit suicide to stay away from this long mouth. It is said that Ruan Lingyu left a suicide note: "I don't regret my death, but I'm afraid of people's words." Later, it was said that this was just a fake suicide note. Now, with the vicissitudes of the world, the sky has changed. After decades of reincarnation, true and false are no longer important. People are still concerned about the flower age woman on the beach. Why on earth did she take three bottles of sleeping pills. Lu Xun wrote an article on "people's words can be feared". He said that Ruan Lingyu chose to commit suicide largely because she was famous but too weak. Because of the its popularity, lace gossip related to it can become talk capital in streets and alleys of the Shanghai beach. And because she is too weak, she is unable to resist the overwhelming slander and slander, and the accusations and ridicules everywhere. So she can only choose to die to escape. This is to evaluate the great evil consequences caused by others. Those who gossip about Ruan Lingyu's scandal after dinner are just looking for a pastime. They don't know how powerful this conversation will be, and they don't know that this gossip will lead to Ruan Lingyu's death. The horror of public opinion is that it can easily stir up a wave of waves or destroy a person. 02 "Evaluating other people's lives" can be divided into two types: one is to know other people's lives and then evaluate them; The other is to guess the life of others without knowing it, and then make arbitrary evaluation. Ruan Lingyu's "human words can be feared" probably belongs to the second kind. As for Ruan Lingyu's grudge and separation with those men, those who spit out stars in the streets and streets don't know. They just speculated, and then smeared her with oil and vinegar, in order to get their own pleasure in the process. Yes, human beings are born to gossip because they can get pleasure when evaluating others. "You see, Ruan Lingyu's surface scenery is very chaotic secretly." "Although I'm not as beautiful as Ruan Lingyu, I'm at least more serious than her." "Although I can't act as well as her, at least I'm not a bitch in my next life." …… Word by word, it was just a picture. For a moment, it was refreshing in the mouth. After it came out, it became a knife inserted into Ruan Lingyu's heart. One knife, one knife, all over the world, come late, and don't stop until you see blood. All the arbitrary evaluation after speculation will always hurt people deeply by sealing Hou and seeing blood. 03 Another is to know others' lives and then evaluate them. In this way, because the evaluation is too specific, it will further destroy people's mind and hurt people's body and mind. I once knew a girl whose love path was so rough that she almost destroyed her whole life. When she was in college, she fell in love with a boy in her class. When she graduated, the boy applied for Meidi's doctor, but she found that she was pregnant. The boy resolutely broke up with her and said he would pay her to kill her child. The girl only said she would go to the hospital and then packed up her things and went back to her hometown. The child was born and is a pair of beautiful daughters. The girl is very strong and raises a pair of daughters alone. But the girl's mother fell down. She can't stand people living in a yard commenting on her girl every day. My mother is crazy. She hides at home every day. Sometimes her family takes her out. She will only say one sentence repeatedly: "you are not allowed to talk about my daughter. My daughter is a good girl I raised with great efforts. You are not allowed to talk about my daughter..." The most hurtful thing is that sentence. There was a news about unmarried pregnancy in a yard. What a big talk. Those people who had no place to digest after dinner gathered together and said that the girl could not look at people. Her fate was low. She gave birth to children before she got married, and she had children without her father Every word is true, without slander or slander. But that's why it hurts more. Mother is crazy, not because she heard one or two comments about the girl. But every day, every moment, every moment, she endured the people around her pointing fingers at her daughter's stain. All the people in the world suffer, and all the people are pitiful. They will be pitiful enough to withstand the blow of a word. The family was already devastated by such a thing. As a spectator around, if you have a little kindness, you should also block the pleasure in your mouth and let others live. 04 Z once talked with me about knowing and evaluating people. He said that when he was younger, he liked to think about people's hearts. At that time, after reading a little psychology for the first time, I wanted to show off everywhere. I felt so powerful that I could see what was thinking in that person's heart at a glance. As far as the eye can see, it is not out of date. It is a prop for him to practice his ability of knowing people. He also likes to comment on things around him to show his professionalism and sharpness. Fortunately, although he was arrogant, he didn't stop reading. When he read more books, he slowly stopped the quick talk of always wanting to comment on the personnel around him. "Because I finally found that my self righteous comments were not always right, nor did they benefit the parties." As Z said, all our evaluations are based on our own position and life experience. And this is the reason for the improper evaluation: because we have never experienced other people's lives. Now, Z, who has finally faded his arrogance, said that he will not judge personnel arbitrarily now, nor do he think he can easily see through the hearts of the people. The beauty of life is that you can't see through and speak clearly. What can be seen through and explained clearly must not be real life. Maybe it's just my imagination. Just like those comments, whether they are true or false, whether they are beneficial or not, they are just their own imagination in the end. We try to be quick and say some imaginary sentences, which hurt people deeply. This may be tolerant, but it is not good enough. Even if you are really a smart person who can see through people's hearts, don't easily say sharp sentences about people. You think you're responsible for enlightening others, but you don't know you're just sending someone a self cutting knife. All sharpness based on the pain of others is vicious. Knowing people without judging them is the greatest kindness of a wise man.