Someone said, "it took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us 60 years to learn to shut up." People with high EQ will regard speaking as an art and know what can be said and what can not be said. In particular, the following four kinds of words cannot be said in their view. 1、 Don't talk angrily Xunzi said, "good words with people are warmer than cloth and silk; words that hurt people are deeper than spears and halberds." The influence of language is huge. It can affect all aspects of life. When people are angry, they often choose their words, and their words are like sharp blades. Such a habit not only hurts the people close to them, but also widens the distance between friends. Then, when the mood calmed down, it was too late to repent. Many times, the destructive power of a seemingly ordinary angry word is also devastating, because you don't know what kind of state others are in. It's likely that your word is the last straw to crush them. People with low EQ don't care about other people's feelings and are always dominated by emotions. When you encounter something unpleasant, you just want to be more comfortable with how to vent, so as to say a lot of angry words, hurt others, make a mess of interpersonal relationships, and even the closest people around you will be ruthlessly hurt. People with high EQ can often restrain their emotions, don't say angry words, treat everything rationally, and don't bring their emotions to others, so as to eliminate the possibility of making enemies with others. 2、 No gossip As the old saying goes, "don't speak, don't listen, and don't look." It means that the wisest person is the one who doesn't look, doesn't listen, and doesn't speak. This "three noes" way shows that we should not talk about inappropriate gossip in order to avoid bad luck. If you don't listen to other people's gossip, you can avoid unnecessary disputes. People with high EQ know what to say on what occasion is the most appropriate way. They will never gossip indiscriminately because of the influence of others. People and things who like to talk about others will have more gossip for a long time. This situation not only reduces work efficiency, but also leaves a bad impression on others. "Vajra Sutra" said: "to speak of right and wrong, is right and wrong." There are a lot of gossip in this world. We should guard our mouth, not drift with the tide, and learn to be a high EQ person who doesn't listen to the sound of gossip and doesn't talk about other people's affairs. 3、 Don't talk big Some people are low-key and modest, never boast, and they can always feel a sense of sureness and confidence in their contacts with him. And some people always like to talk big and boast about their abilities. When a friend really needs his help, he always likes to pat his chest and promise, and then there is no trace. Finally, if you don't say anything about delaying others, it will damage your reputation and be despised by others. It's a huge and complex network. Once someone turns big talk into their own label, more people will eventually hate him. Therefore, people who like to talk big must have low Eq. Because they can't always see their disappearing credibility until the people around them keep a distance from him one by one. People with high EQ will put themselves in a lower position. They are modest and serious. They never talk about things, but only do things in a down-to-earth and meticulous manner. Such a person is not only willing to associate with others, but also willing to hand over important things to him, so he has a greater chance of success. The so-called mouth is the door of misfortune and fortune. People with high EQ never talk big. They only keep a low profile and try to make themselves better. 4、 Don't complain I've heard a saying: "learn to listen to others, learn to praise others sincerely, talk less or don't talk about complaints, and don't become a negative energy spreader in the eyes of others." Often complaining is a walking negative energy spreader in the eyes of others, which will make people unconsciously avoid it. People are people who yearn for sunshine and like to associate with positive energy. For those who complain all day, it's like sticky tentacles that people can't avoid. The cause of complaint is a kind of catharsis of dissatisfaction with things, so as to obtain short-term psychological comfort. But it does not help solve practical problems, but will have an extremely bad impact on interpersonal communication. People with high EQ never complain. They usually take practical actions to solve the source of the problem, rather than wasting time complaining. Will Bowen once said in his book: "Change what you say and stop complaining. Change your words and change your thinking, and you can change your life."

Someone said, "it took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us 60 years to learn to shut up." People with high EQ will regard speaking as an art and know what can be said and what can not be said. In particular, the following four kinds of words cannot be said in their view. 1、 Don't talk angrily Xunzi said, "good words with people are warmer than cloth and silk; words that hurt people are deeper than spears and halberds." The influence of language is huge. It can affect all aspects of life. When people are angry, they often choose their words, and their words are like sharp blades. Such a habit not only hurts the people close to them, but also widens the distance between friends. Then, when the mood calmed down, it was too late to repent. Many times, the destructive power of a seemingly ordinary angry word is also devastating, because you don't know what kind of state others are in. It's likely that your word is the last straw to crush them. People with low EQ don't care about other people's feelings and are always dominated by emotions. When you encounter something unpleasant, you just want to be more comfortable with how to vent, so as to say a lot of angry words, hurt others, make a mess of interpersonal relationships, and even the closest people around you will be ruthlessly hurt. People with high EQ can often restrain their emotions, don't say angry words, treat everything rationally, and don't bring their emotions to others, so as to eliminate the possibility of making enemies with others. 2、 No gossip As the old saying goes, "don't speak, don't listen, and don't look." It means that the wisest person is the one who doesn't look, doesn't listen, and doesn't speak. This "three noes" way shows that we should not talk about inappropriate gossip in order to avoid bad luck. If you don't listen to other people's gossip, you can avoid unnecessary disputes. People with high EQ know what to say on what occasion is the most appropriate way. They will never gossip indiscriminately because of the influence of others. People and things who like to talk about others will have more gossip for a long time. This situation not only reduces work efficiency, but also leaves a bad impression on others. "Vajra Sutra" said: "to speak of right and wrong, is right and wrong." There are a lot of gossip in this world. We should guard our mouth, not drift with the tide, and learn to be a high EQ person who doesn't listen to the sound of gossip and doesn't talk about other people's affairs. 3、 Don't talk big Some people are low-key and modest, never boast, and they can always feel a sense of sureness and confidence in their contacts with him. And some people always like to talk big and boast about their abilities. When a friend really needs his help, he always likes to pat his chest and promise, and then there is no trace. Finally, if you don't say anything about delaying others, it will damage your reputation and be despised by others. It's a huge and complex network. Once someone turns big talk into their own label, more people will eventually hate him. Therefore, people who like to talk big must have low Eq. Because they can't always see their disappearing credibility until the people around them keep a distance from him one by one. People with high EQ will put themselves in a lower position. They are modest and serious. They never talk about things, but only do things in a down-to-earth and meticulous manner. Such a person is not only willing to associate with others, but also willing to hand over important things to him, so he has a greater chance of success. The so-called mouth is the door of misfortune and fortune. People with high EQ never talk big. They only keep a low profile and try to make themselves better. 4、 Don't complain I've heard a saying: "learn to listen to others, learn to praise others sincerely, talk less or don't talk about complaints, and don't become a negative energy spreader in the eyes of others." Often complaining is a walking negative energy spreader in the eyes of others, which will make people unconsciously avoid it. People are people who yearn for sunshine and like to associate with positive energy. For those who complain all day, it's like sticky tentacles that people can't avoid. The cause of complaint is a kind of catharsis of dissatisfaction with things, so as to obtain short-term psychological comfort. But it does not help solve practical problems, but will have an extremely bad impact on interpersonal communication. People with high EQ never complain. They usually take practical actions to solve the source of the problem, rather than wasting time complaining. Will Bowen once said in his book: "Change what you say and stop complaining. Change your words and change your thinking, and you can change your life."