When encountering setbacks, no matter how to blame others, it will be useless in the end. Then we can only blame ourselves for not choosing well, because it is always the wisest and correct attitude to life to blame ourselves at any time. When we were young, when we fell down accidentally, our first thought was to find out what tripped us. We always blame others for misplacing things. If we can't find anything, we can also blame the uneven road. Although doing so has no direct effect on the relief of pain, it is more or less a comfort to find an object to blame, which can prove that you are not responsible. When we grow up and encounter setbacks, we always unconsciously find out many objective reasons to excuse ourselves. When we really can't find the reason, we say that our life is bad. We don't think it's absolutely naive to excuse ourselves like this, because we are always trying to deceive ourselves again and again. A friend who started a company a few years ago recently had "bad luck", and his booming business suddenly failed repeatedly. The two Deputy business managers who had been loyal to him for many years left him, and even "changed jobs" to his competitor's company. In the midst of internal and external difficulties, this friend did not seriously and timely reflect on himself, but blindly blamed his past comrades in arms for betraying him. Therefore, he indulged in anger and sadness, no longer trusted others, and lost his temper at any time. The result was a vicious circle, and the whole company was distracted and fell into a greater dilemma. In fact, there are problems in the operation of the company. As the boss of the company, it is naturally impossible for him to shirk his mistakes in the first place. Even if others betray him, it is his improper employment in the first place. If he always blames East and West and blames all the faults on others, he will face greater danger. Fortunately, the friend finally woke up under the reminder of his family, began to admit his mistakes in all aspects of the past, and objectively summarized the failures and lessons that had been brought about by his stubbornness. Complaining about others is actually a cowardice, but also an immature performance. It not only covers up the reality that you can't face, but also leaves a hidden danger that you may repeat the mistakes in the future. And not objectively blaming others will lead to new contradictions. A strong man in a real sense is not a lucky man who is going smoothly. He must experience all kinds of pain and challenges. The person who overcomes all difficulties must first overcome himself. The premise of defeating himself is to reflect on himself and blame himself only. Blaming yourself is a relief. Because our refusal to admit our mistakes is nothing more than taking into account our own face and refusing to admit our failure. In fact, there has never been an ever victorious general in this world. All the self burden and face have been quietly put down when he bravely admits his mistakes, so he will become relaxed. The so-called "learn a lesson, learn a wisdom", people who are good at summarizing themselves will turn the lessons of failure into their own wealth. Only blame yourself is a kind of power. And those who are used to blaming others will sooner or later incur resentment. A person who has the courage to discipline himself is undoubtedly noble. Therefore, he will have the power to tolerate the whole world, so that everyone admires his extraordinary demeanor and is willing to associate. Blaming yourself is a realm. In fact, even if others really have something to condemn, it is useless to blame too much. Anger can't solve any problems, and self-examination is the only feasible way, and there is no problem at all. In this world, the most difficult enemy to defeat is himself. If a person has reached the point where there is only one opponent left, he is already invincible in the world.

When encountering setbacks, no matter how to blame others, it will be useless in the end. Then we can only blame ourselves for not choosing well, because it is always the wisest and correct attitude to life to blame ourselves at any time. When we were young, when we fell down accidentally, our first thought was to find out what tripped us. We always blame others for misplacing things. If we can't find anything, we can also blame the uneven road. Although doing so has no direct effect on the relief of pain, it is more or less a comfort to find an object to blame, which can prove that you are not responsible. When we grow up and encounter setbacks, we always unconsciously find out many objective reasons to excuse ourselves. When we really can't find the reason, we say that our life is bad. We don't think it's absolutely naive to excuse ourselves like this, because we are always trying to deceive ourselves again and again. A friend who started a company a few years ago recently had "bad luck", and his booming business suddenly failed repeatedly. The two Deputy business managers who had been loyal to him for many years left him, and even "changed jobs" to his competitor's company. In the midst of internal and external difficulties, this friend did not seriously and timely reflect on himself, but blindly blamed his past comrades in arms for betraying him. Therefore, he indulged in anger and sadness, no longer trusted others, and lost his temper at any time. The result was a vicious circle, and the whole company was distracted and fell into a greater dilemma. In fact, there are problems in the operation of the company. As the boss of the company, it is naturally impossible for him to shirk his mistakes in the first place. Even if others betray him, it is his improper employment in the first place. If he always blames East and West and blames all the faults on others, he will face greater danger. Fortunately, the friend finally woke up under the reminder of his family, began to admit his mistakes in all aspects of the past, and objectively summarized the failures and lessons that had been brought about by his stubbornness. Complaining about others is actually a cowardice, but also an immature performance. It not only covers up the reality that you can't face, but also leaves a hidden danger that you may repeat the mistakes in the future. And not objectively blaming others will lead to new contradictions. A strong man in a real sense is not a lucky man who is going smoothly. He must experience all kinds of pain and challenges. The person who overcomes all difficulties must first overcome himself. The premise of defeating himself is to reflect on himself and blame himself only. Blaming yourself is a relief. Because our refusal to admit our mistakes is nothing more than taking into account our own face and refusing to admit our failure. In fact, there has never been an ever victorious general in this world. All the self burden and face have been quietly put down when he bravely admits his mistakes, so he will become relaxed. The so-called "learn a lesson, learn a wisdom", people who are good at summarizing themselves will turn the lessons of failure into their own wealth. Only blame yourself is a kind of power. And those who are used to blaming others will sooner or later incur resentment. A person who has the courage to discipline himself is undoubtedly noble. Therefore, he will have the power to tolerate the whole world, so that everyone admires his extraordinary demeanor and is willing to associate. Blaming yourself is a realm. In fact, even if others really have something to condemn, it is useless to blame too much. Anger can't solve any problems, and self-examination is the only feasible way, and there is no problem at all. In this world, the most difficult enemy to defeat is himself. If a person has reached the point where there is only one opponent left, he is already invincible in the world.