one Lao Zhang and Lao Li were once the most iron brothers. When I was a child, in the era of starvation, Lao Zhang's family was a little better than Lao Li's. Therefore, at that time, he often carried his family behind his back, wrapped a few pieces of meat in paper and took them to school to share with Lao Li. Lao Li'er was short when he was young. Whenever he was bullied at school, Lao Zhang would roll up his sleeves and stand out for him without saying a word. Growing up together and taking care of Lao Li all the time, Lao Zhang never doubted their friendship. Last year, Lao Zhang's child was ill and short of money. He took it for granted to ask Lao Li for a loan. Lao Li is planning to open a shop, and the money is prepared to be the cost. Hesitated and hesitated, and finally refused. Lao Zhang was very disappointed. He said that he could not count on his feelings for decades when it was crucial? But Lao Zhang's wife could see clearly, just a faint sentence: "Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone." Beat Lao Zhang's heart to pieces. two Too heavy feelings, easy to get hurt There is an old saying in China: "If you don't live long, your wisdom will hurt." Once you invest too much in your feelings, you will only hurt yourself in the end. In the film farewell my concubine, there is a scene in which Cheng Dieyi grabs each other's collar and asks with tears when he knows that the small building he has always regarded as a confidant is going to marry Ju Xian: "Didn't you agree to sing for a lifetime?" For a man who yearns for ordinary tea and rice and the age of his wife and children, singing opera has always been just making a living. In troubled times, small buildings can abandon dignity for survival, report butterfly clothes for self-protection, and even draw a clear line with their lover chrysanthemum fairy Xiaolou can't be Cheng Dieyi's confidant, and he can't give it to him for a long time. Cheng Dieyi overestimated the feelings of Xiaolou. Finally, he was deeply sad and exiled himself; Chrysanthemum fairy also overestimated love, and finally died by hanging herself in despair. Since ancient times, people who attach too much importance to feelings are more likely to be hurt by feelings. But life comes and goes, human feelings are cold and warm, and human nature is complex. No one is really inseparable from anyone, and it is difficult to have a relationship until death. Overestimating your feelings with others will only give each other the right to hurt again and again. Finally, one day, when the indifference and selfishness of human nature are exposed, you will only be black and blue again and again. three The most stable relationship is that it doesn't matter It's better to let go than to always want to catch it. You can't run away, you can't stay if you want to go. Inevitably, some people just walk through your life. Look down on people coming and going, accept people's well-being, and don't hurt spring and autumn, so you will be much better. Therefore, the older you get, the more you have to learn to restrain your loneliness of nowhere. No longer overestimate the feelings between people and do not deliberately pursue a certain relationship. Not demanding, not binding, not persistent, not self pity, gather and disperse with fate. Be calm, sincere, transparent, open-minded and optimistic, and watch people gather and disperse. As Liu Yu said in "give you a bullet": Those who have nothing to do with you are irrelevant. From the first day, you know. Even if you smile sweetly, even if you try to manage the relationship. And those related to you, even those related to you, can't escape. Even if you only see them three times and take care of them once every three years, even if you are thousands of miles away. Some people are destined to be cancer in your life, while others are just a sneeze. The gathering and parting of life is normal. If you want to go, why should I stay. four Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone In life, some disappointments are inevitable, but most of them are because we overestimate ourselves. The first is to overestimate our relationship with others and our position in others' hearts. Therefore, they are eager to rely on and be loved, and it is hard to let go of their deviation: Disappointed that your lover doesn't love you the way you want; Friends who have been disappointed for many years, how can they be so snobbish at the critical time; Young people who are disappointed in their sincerity do not know how to be grateful; If you can't stand the test of relatives' interests, how can you be disappointed if you have money Of course, the world should be too strange, but it's not at all. If you are too affected by your feelings, you might as well learn to live your own life. When a person leaves you, there is no need to be too sad. You should understand that everyone can only accompany you for a while, and you are the one who accompanies yourself to the end. In the adult world, you should always learn to walk alone and bear everything alone. If someone disappoints you, I hope it can be a loud slap in the face in your life and tell you: Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone. We should follow the fate of intimacy and estrangement, and love and hate at will. The best attitude to get along with others is: When you come, I'll pick you up as much as the storm is. If you go, I won't send you off; If you love me, I'll accompany you to the end. If not, I'll treat you as if you've never been here.

one Lao Zhang and Lao Li were once the most iron brothers. When I was a child, in the era of starvation, Lao Zhang's family was a little better than Lao Li's. Therefore, at that time, he often carried his family behind his back, wrapped a few pieces of meat in paper and took them to school to share with Lao Li. Lao Li'er was short when he was young. Whenever he was bullied at school, Lao Zhang would roll up his sleeves and stand out for him without saying a word. Growing up together and taking care of Lao Li all the time, Lao Zhang never doubted their friendship. Last year, Lao Zhang's child was ill and short of money. He took it for granted to ask Lao Li for a loan. Lao Li is planning to open a shop, and the money is prepared to be the cost. Hesitated and hesitated, and finally refused. Lao Zhang was very disappointed. He said that he could not count on his feelings for decades when it was crucial? But Lao Zhang's wife could see clearly, just a faint sentence: "Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone." Beat Lao Zhang's heart to pieces. two Too heavy feelings, easy to get hurt There is an old saying in China: "If you don't live long, your wisdom will hurt." Once you invest too much in your feelings, you will only hurt yourself in the end. In the film farewell my concubine, there is a scene in which Cheng Dieyi grabs each other's collar and asks with tears when he knows that the small building he has always regarded as a confidant is going to marry Ju Xian: "Didn't you agree to sing for a lifetime?" For a man who yearns for ordinary tea and rice and the age of his wife and children, singing opera has always been just making a living. In troubled times, small buildings can abandon dignity for survival, report butterfly clothes for self-protection, and even draw a clear line with their lover chrysanthemum fairy Xiaolou can't be Cheng Dieyi's confidant, and he can't give it to him for a long time. Cheng Dieyi overestimated the feelings of Xiaolou. Finally, he was deeply sad and exiled himself; Chrysanthemum fairy also overestimated love, and finally died by hanging herself in despair. Since ancient times, people who attach too much importance to feelings are more likely to be hurt by feelings. But life comes and goes, human feelings are cold and warm, and human nature is complex. No one is really inseparable from anyone, and it is difficult to have a relationship until death. Overestimating your feelings with others will only give each other the right to hurt again and again. Finally, one day, when the indifference and selfishness of human nature are exposed, you will only be black and blue again and again. three The most stable relationship is that it doesn't matter It's better to let go than to always want to catch it. You can't run away, you can't stay if you want to go. Inevitably, some people just walk through your life. Look down on people coming and going, accept people's well-being, and don't hurt spring and autumn, so you will be much better. Therefore, the older you get, the more you have to learn to restrain your loneliness of nowhere. No longer overestimate the feelings between people and do not deliberately pursue a certain relationship. Not demanding, not binding, not persistent, not self pity, gather and disperse with fate. Be calm, sincere, transparent, open-minded and optimistic, and watch people gather and disperse. As Liu Yu said in "give you a bullet": Those who have nothing to do with you are irrelevant. From the first day, you know. Even if you smile sweetly, even if you try to manage the relationship. And those related to you, even those related to you, can't escape. Even if you only see them three times and take care of them once every three years, even if you are thousands of miles away. Some people are destined to be cancer in your life, while others are just a sneeze. The gathering and parting of life is normal. If you want to go, why should I stay. four Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone In life, some disappointments are inevitable, but most of them are because we overestimate ourselves. The first is to overestimate our relationship with others and our position in others' hearts. Therefore, they are eager to rely on and be loved, and it is hard to let go of their deviation: Disappointed that your lover doesn't love you the way you want; Friends who have been disappointed for many years, how can they be so snobbish at the critical time; Young people who are disappointed in their sincerity do not know how to be grateful; If you can't stand the test of relatives' interests, how can you be disappointed if you have money Of course, the world should be too strange, but it's not at all. If you are too affected by your feelings, you might as well learn to live your own life. When a person leaves you, there is no need to be too sad. You should understand that everyone can only accompany you for a while, and you are the one who accompanies yourself to the end. In the adult world, you should always learn to walk alone and bear everything alone. If someone disappoints you, I hope it can be a loud slap in the face in your life and tell you: Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone. We should follow the fate of intimacy and estrangement, and love and hate at will. The best attitude to get along with others is: When you come, I'll pick you up as much as the storm is. If you go, I won't send you off; If you love me, I'll accompany you to the end. If not, I'll treat you as if you've never been here.