Real change vs virtual change Characteristics of real change:

1. clearly know and agree with the "points" you need to change

2. have specific and feasible plans

3. use your own way

4. practice persistently Characteristics of virtual change:

5. on a whim, three minute fever

6. the thunder and rain are small, and the planned measures are not practical

7. there are many ideas, but they are slow to take steps

8. change for the sake of change, ignoring its substantive significance You just "want" change, but you don't "agree" with it "I don't want to be so lazy anymore. Procrastination is too much trouble." Little Q yelled again. Every time the company handed in the report at the latest, the agreed running plan and professional learning goals were also dragged into paper... Xiaoq had decided to change the bad habit of procrastination for the nth time, but he was always lack of motivation when implementing it, muddling along, and finally even the "change" itself was delayed. Then he retreated into his comfortable "lazy nest" and could not extricate himself. He continued to comfort himself that "why so hard, anyway, such a life can be passed". Tips: keep the pain and go to the hospital. You will understand the meaning of health better; Go to the nursing home and have a look. You will know more about what aging means; Go to the orphanage to have a look, you will understand the value of family affection more; Go to a better company and you will better understand what excellence means... Only by maintaining pain will you no longer immerse yourself in your comfort zone, so as to stay awake and induce change. You just want to change, but you don't really know yourself I once saw a TV program about an ordinary guy who wanted to become a star: Xiao Zhao had an average family background and was not handsome, but he had a brilliant dream of becoming a famous star like Tony Leung and Chen Daoming. He didn't find a regular job, so he stayed in Hengdian for a long time as a mass actor. The program conducted a vocational skill test, and Xiao Zhao did not show his outstanding talent and potential. Xiao Zhao's mother cried and begged him to return to normal life, but Xiao Zhao's indifferent expression made people shocked and heartbroken. I have no doubt about Xiao Zhao's determination to change the course of his life through acting. What I worry about is that he has never really understood himself. Tips: let others help you know yourself. Of course, this should be done by professional people. For example, find a professional career planner or a trusted and reliable senior to give you some advice. If you don't want to bother others, there are also many tests on personality and professional ability tendency on the Internet. They may not be accurate, but they can provide you with some reference opinions when you lack understanding of yourself, so as to reduce blindness. Peter Drucker, a management master, put forward that before you do something important, you should write down the expected results in advance. After the event is over, you should make feedback analysis between the actual results and the expected results to find out which part is doing well and where your strengths are. At the same time, you can better find out what you need to learn next and what habits you need to change. This is a very practical method of self cognition. You just don't hold on enough R said excitedly a while ago, "I found a great yoga studio. I want to practice my lines beautifully. Don't call me xiaopang in the future." "I recently fell in love with painting. I feel I have a lot of talent in this field. I decided to spread my art cells all over my body"... Before long, R said feebly: "I overestimated myself and was' beaten back to my original form '." I was puzzled and asked her what was wrong. It turned out that the yoga class was registered, but after half a month of practice, she found that there was no effect, so she didn't go again; We also bought all the sketch textbooks and picture clips. At the beginning, we drew well according to the picture books, but we couldn't draw real objects. We gradually gave up. In fact, change is a process of qualitative change caused by quantitative change. When you can't achieve the accumulation of quantity, it is difficult to achieve complete change. Tips: combine long-term goals with short-term stimulation. For example, if you want your daughter to keep dancing, you can't just tell her the long-term goal of "keep practicing and you can become a dancer when you grow up". Instead, you should tell her that "when you get skilled, I will buy you the skirt you like next week" and combine short-term stimulation to motivate her, so that she can stick to it more easily. Don't think of yourself as Superman. Some people's schedules are so full that they don't leave room for themselves at all. It seems that they want to turn themselves into Superman. However, the contradiction is that the things we want to do are always infinite, but our energy is limited. When you use up your energy, you may not have enough energy to persist in the things you want to change. Manage your own energy distribution so that you can stick to it more easily. You just didn't do it the right way There was a time in high school when I was particularly afraid of taking history classes because I really couldn't remember those ages, characters, events and meanings... Although I tried to change them, such as spending more time endorsing and copying down the key parts, there was still no improvement. Therefore, I simply didn't listen to history classes later, which meant I gave up on myself. Later, the history teacher was replaced by a beautiful female teacher surnamed Zhao, and the situation was different. The strength of Teacher Zhao was not that she was beautiful, but that she could find a suitable memory method for each student: for example, she would recommend him to use the "rhyme memory method" for classmate a, and she would recommend him to use the "age memory method" for classmate B, and she would recommend him to use the "associative memory method" for classmate C... That's all, I also found a suitable memory method for myself, and fell in love with history class. Moreover, I got 98 points in a 100 point examination paper in the HKCEE. Tips: make sure you are changing in the right way; On those nodes where continuity fails during the change process, you should ask yourself: do I use the right method? When you can't find the right way, asking for help is your best choice. No matter whether you consult others, sign up for a training class, or use other forms, there must be a better way to wait for you in front. Maybe you don't need that much change When my niece Tongtong got up to brush her teeth, I found that she was clumsily brushing her teeth with her left hand. In retrospect, Tongtong was not left-handed in my impression. After washing, I asked her, "how do you brush your teeth with your left hand?" Tongtong said to me childishly, "my mother told me that I would change and brush my teeth with my left hand, so that I would become smarter!" After hearing Tongtong finish, I suddenly thought whether this method would make children smarter. Even if it is useful, how much should it be used? Which is more important between respecting children's nature and making them smarter? Tips: reexamine your changes: what changes are actually meaningless? What changes will not affect you even if you stop? What changes can actually be made easier? Cut out irrelevant changes and keep important ones. Life will become simpler and more efficient. Change is very important, but change is not a panacea, because just as important as change are self-awareness, persistence in action, understanding trade-offs, and knowing what we want. Only on the basis of balancing these, and then using the right methods to change, can we get real growth.

Real change vs virtual change Characteristics of real change:

1. clearly know and agree with the "points" you need to change

2. have specific and feasible plans

3. use your own way

4. practice persistently Characteristics of virtual change:

5. on a whim, three minute fever

6. the thunder and rain are small, and the planned measures are not practical

7. there are many ideas, but they are slow to take steps

8. change for the sake of change, ignoring its substantive significance You just "want" change, but you don't "agree" with it "I don't want to be so lazy anymore. Procrastination is too much trouble." Little Q yelled again. Every time the company handed in the report at the latest, the agreed running plan and professional learning goals were also dragged into paper... Xiaoq had decided to change the bad habit of procrastination for the nth time, but he was always lack of motivation when implementing it, muddling along, and finally even the "change" itself was delayed. Then he retreated into his comfortable "lazy nest" and could not extricate himself. He continued to comfort himself that "why so hard, anyway, such a life can be passed". Tips: keep the pain and go to the hospital. You will understand the meaning of health better; Go to the nursing home and have a look. You will know more about what aging means; Go to the orphanage to have a look, you will understand the value of family affection more; Go to a better company and you will better understand what excellence means... Only by maintaining pain will you no longer immerse yourself in your comfort zone, so as to stay awake and induce change. You just want to change, but you don't really know yourself I once saw a TV program about an ordinary guy who wanted to become a star: Xiao Zhao had an average family background and was not handsome, but he had a brilliant dream of becoming a famous star like Tony Leung and Chen Daoming. He didn't find a regular job, so he stayed in Hengdian for a long time as a mass actor. The program conducted a vocational skill test, and Xiao Zhao did not show his outstanding talent and potential. Xiao Zhao's mother cried and begged him to return to normal life, but Xiao Zhao's indifferent expression made people shocked and heartbroken. I have no doubt about Xiao Zhao's determination to change the course of his life through acting. What I worry about is that he has never really understood himself. Tips: let others help you know yourself. Of course, this should be done by professional people. For example, find a professional career planner or a trusted and reliable senior to give you some advice. If you don't want to bother others, there are also many tests on personality and professional ability tendency on the Internet. They may not be accurate, but they can provide you with some reference opinions when you lack understanding of yourself, so as to reduce blindness. Peter Drucker, a management master, put forward that before you do something important, you should write down the expected results in advance. After the event is over, you should make feedback analysis between the actual results and the expected results to find out which part is doing well and where your strengths are. At the same time, you can better find out what you need to learn next and what habits you need to change. This is a very practical method of self cognition. You just don't hold on enough R said excitedly a while ago, "I found a great yoga studio. I want to practice my lines beautifully. Don't call me xiaopang in the future." "I recently fell in love with painting. I feel I have a lot of talent in this field. I decided to spread my art cells all over my body"... Before long, R said feebly: "I overestimated myself and was' beaten back to my original form '." I was puzzled and asked her what was wrong. It turned out that the yoga class was registered, but after half a month of practice, she found that there was no effect, so she didn't go again; We also bought all the sketch textbooks and picture clips. At the beginning, we drew well according to the picture books, but we couldn't draw real objects. We gradually gave up. In fact, change is a process of qualitative change caused by quantitative change. When you can't achieve the accumulation of quantity, it is difficult to achieve complete change. Tips: combine long-term goals with short-term stimulation. For example, if you want your daughter to keep dancing, you can't just tell her the long-term goal of "keep practicing and you can become a dancer when you grow up". Instead, you should tell her that "when you get skilled, I will buy you the skirt you like next week" and combine short-term stimulation to motivate her, so that she can stick to it more easily. Don't think of yourself as Superman. Some people's schedules are so full that they don't leave room for themselves at all. It seems that they want to turn themselves into Superman. However, the contradiction is that the things we want to do are always infinite, but our energy is limited. When you use up your energy, you may not have enough energy to persist in the things you want to change. Manage your own energy distribution so that you can stick to it more easily. You just didn't do it the right way There was a time in high school when I was particularly afraid of taking history classes because I really couldn't remember those ages, characters, events and meanings... Although I tried to change them, such as spending more time endorsing and copying down the key parts, there was still no improvement. Therefore, I simply didn't listen to history classes later, which meant I gave up on myself. Later, the history teacher was replaced by a beautiful female teacher surnamed Zhao, and the situation was different. The strength of Teacher Zhao was not that she was beautiful, but that she could find a suitable memory method for each student: for example, she would recommend him to use the "rhyme memory method" for classmate a, and she would recommend him to use the "age memory method" for classmate B, and she would recommend him to use the "associative memory method" for classmate C... That's all, I also found a suitable memory method for myself, and fell in love with history class. Moreover, I got 98 points in a 100 point examination paper in the HKCEE. Tips: make sure you are changing in the right way; On those nodes where continuity fails during the change process, you should ask yourself: do I use the right method? When you can't find the right way, asking for help is your best choice. No matter whether you consult others, sign up for a training class, or use other forms, there must be a better way to wait for you in front. Maybe you don't need that much change When my niece Tongtong got up to brush her teeth, I found that she was clumsily brushing her teeth with her left hand. In retrospect, Tongtong was not left-handed in my impression. After washing, I asked her, "how do you brush your teeth with your left hand?" Tongtong said to me childishly, "my mother told me that I would change and brush my teeth with my left hand, so that I would become smarter!" After hearing Tongtong finish, I suddenly thought whether this method would make children smarter. Even if it is useful, how much should it be used? Which is more important between respecting children's nature and making them smarter? Tips: reexamine your changes: what changes are actually meaningless? What changes will not affect you even if you stop? What changes can actually be made easier? Cut out irrelevant changes and keep important ones. Life will become simpler and more efficient. Change is very important, but change is not a panacea, because just as important as change are self-awareness, persistence in action, understanding trade-offs, and knowing what we want. Only on the basis of balancing these, and then using the right methods to change, can we get real growth.