You always count the happiness of others, but you despise yourself. Jealousy is an ordinary emotion. It doesn't happen only in the face of shining stars. Ordinary classmates who study in the class are better than you, ordinary Lao Wang who has a girlfriend, and even close girlfriends who have been together for many years may make you have a flash of jealousy. The root of this emotion is that others get what you don't get, and you naturally decide that you deserve it. Especially when this person is related to you or has similar or equal characteristics in some aspects, it is more likely to produce jealousy. Jealousy is an ordinary thing and a common emotion. In certain areas, there is no need to avoid and suppress. It is mankind's jealousy that constantly promotes social progress and species evolution. Because you are jealous that others have more wealth, you are more motivated to pursue; Because you admire others for their better quality, you can set an example and make progress; Because you are jealous of other people's happy feelings, you have a mirror to see your own problems, corrections and adjustments. However, once jealousy goes beyond that security category, it will become a beast in your heart and cannot be tamed. It will eat the good in your heart and breed more evil. These evil thoughts hatch negative behaviors such as attack, persecution, aggression and slander, so it is also called hate due to jealousy. This trapped beast will also drive you to spend time, energy and emotion on others, which will make you busy paying attention to other people's joys and sorrows, and turn the tone of your life into living to suppress others. You are not happy in the process. Because behind jealousy is deep shame and inferiority. When an individual is aware of jealousy and incompetence in one aspect, the sense of inferiority will linger like a shadow. Some people can take advantage of this inferiority evolution, while others can't control it, so they can only surrender to it, stay in an implementation stage, and stay in a negative state. Think about our childhood jealousy, maybe because the neighbor's children have a toy you desire but don't have, you will be sad and unhappy, and then? What would you do? Some children choose to find other toys to replace them and divert their attention; Some children choose to show themselves and try to get their parents to buy them; Some children will discuss with him whether they can exchange toys; Some children will choose to attack and break other people's toys, or your new toys are not good at all and ugly. When we grow up, the toys we yearn for may be excellent personal performance, wealth and emotion. When we face that others have them but we can't get them again. Some people choose to seek happiness, some choose to improve themselves, some choose to learn and communicate, but others still choose to belittle and attack. People who choose to attack are avoiding growth, avoiding facing their own problems, and blaming others for the problems. Because only in this way can the attack become a protective shell to cover up their incompetence. If you are dismissive of your problems and life, who would be willing to wake up a pretending sleeper? Therefore, always check whether those feelings of jealousy are within a reasonable range. The standard is whether it makes you more powerful and positive, or makes you feel that you live in a negative state every day.

You always count the happiness of others, but you despise yourself. Jealousy is an ordinary emotion. It doesn't happen only in the face of shining stars. Ordinary classmates who study in the class are better than you, ordinary Lao Wang who has a girlfriend, and even close girlfriends who have been together for many years may make you have a flash of jealousy. The root of this emotion is that others get what you don't get, and you naturally decide that you deserve it. Especially when this person is related to you or has similar or equal characteristics in some aspects, it is more likely to produce jealousy. Jealousy is an ordinary thing and a common emotion. In certain areas, there is no need to avoid and suppress. It is mankind's jealousy that constantly promotes social progress and species evolution. Because you are jealous that others have more wealth, you are more motivated to pursue; Because you admire others for their better quality, you can set an example and make progress; Because you are jealous of other people's happy feelings, you have a mirror to see your own problems, corrections and adjustments. However, once jealousy goes beyond that security category, it will become a beast in your heart and cannot be tamed. It will eat the good in your heart and breed more evil. These evil thoughts hatch negative behaviors such as attack, persecution, aggression and slander, so it is also called hate due to jealousy. This trapped beast will also drive you to spend time, energy and emotion on others, which will make you busy paying attention to other people's joys and sorrows, and turn the tone of your life into living to suppress others. You are not happy in the process. Because behind jealousy is deep shame and inferiority. When an individual is aware of jealousy and incompetence in one aspect, the sense of inferiority will linger like a shadow. Some people can take advantage of this inferiority evolution, while others can't control it, so they can only surrender to it, stay in an implementation stage, and stay in a negative state. Think about our childhood jealousy, maybe because the neighbor's children have a toy you desire but don't have, you will be sad and unhappy, and then? What would you do? Some children choose to find other toys to replace them and divert their attention; Some children choose to show themselves and try to get their parents to buy them; Some children will discuss with him whether they can exchange toys; Some children will choose to attack and break other people's toys, or your new toys are not good at all and ugly. When we grow up, the toys we yearn for may be excellent personal performance, wealth and emotion. When we face that others have them but we can't get them again. Some people choose to seek happiness, some choose to improve themselves, some choose to learn and communicate, but others still choose to belittle and attack. People who choose to attack are avoiding growth, avoiding facing their own problems, and blaming others for the problems. Because only in this way can the attack become a protective shell to cover up their incompetence. If you are dismissive of your problems and life, who would be willing to wake up a pretending sleeper? Therefore, always check whether those feelings of jealousy are within a reasonable range. The standard is whether it makes you more powerful and positive, or makes you feel that you live in a negative state every day.