The age of forty is an important milestone. Confucius said that there is obviously an exaggeration in saying that people are not confused at 40. However, it is reasonable to say that people over 40 should understand many truths. After the age of 40, I understand more and more truth, but there are more and more puzzles. If you don't experience the truth of life experience, you will say it verbally when you are young, but it is still the truth of others, not your own. After the age of 40, my feelings are mainly these:

1. The fate of one's life is not entirely determined by oneself. After the age of 40, you can roughly see how your life will end. When I was young, I was ambitious and thought that I could do anything as long as I struggled. In fact, it was an illusion. People can pursue what they want, but they can't get what they want. In fact, there is limited room for struggle in one's life. Especially in a society like China, from the time of birth, region, native place to family origin, in fact, your lifeline is roughly determined. What can be changed is only a small space. Only a very few intelligent people can make full use of this limited space and time.

2. People can not compare themselves with others, only with themselves. Everyone has the best self. Therefore, everyone can be the best self, but it is difficult to say that he is the best in the crowd. The reason is based on the above reasons.

3. Life is the most precious of all. Don't worry about your physical defects. When I was young, I was distressed that I was not tall enough. After I was 40, I found that being short is actually the best way to protect the spine from damage and the health of the heart. Before the age of 30, I was distressed by my short stature, and after the age of 40, I was glad that I was not tall.

4. Sexual happiness is a very important source of happiness. However, this must be premised on not indulging in youth. Indulgence and sex as an exchange, people's sense of sexual well-being will end in advance. After the age of 40, he still calls the opposite sex, indicating that his vitality is good. Sexual well-being depends on quality rather than quantity. Learn to treasure golden nights when you are young and leave them for memories when you are old. This is what you need to do when you are young.

5. The more knowledge, the better. The more books you read, the better. Here, quality is also more important than quantity. How to read is far more important than what to read. The ability to use knowledge and information is more important than simply remembering knowledge.

6. Can set their own standards, no longer external standards for their own standards, let alone live for the face of others, but according to their own inner laws and orders.

7. Know that death is an inevitable fact in life. After the age of 40, the shadow of death can be touched due to physical changes. Some of the parents have died. From their death, they can deeply experience the course of life.

8. Stop worrying, especially about tomorrow. Today's sorrow should be today. People are not crushed by the sorrow and pain of the day, but they are often crushed by an unknown worry. Many times, things don't go that bad. Review your experience of more than 40 years. Those once painful things, in fact, are like a passing cloud, and most of them did not really happen. It turned out to be just a false alarm.

9. Although the era and family of birth often make a deep mark on their own destiny, there is no need to regret these. Poor and tortuous life experience may make your life more interesting and memorable.

10. Time. When I was young, I often didn't know the taste of sorrow, but I often lamented to the sky: if I don't work hard when I am young, I will be sad when I am old. After the age of 40, I know that time really belongs to me only when it is wasted by myself. Be a frank person and do what you like to do. That time is really yours. Only when time belongs to you can you be yourself. And only in this way can we make results.

11. Money. Money is a good thing. Be able to understand the connotation of money more objectively and rationally. However, only when you earn money hard will you deeply experience the meaning of money. Money really belongs to you only when you spend it. In addition, whether you put it in stocks, securities, in the bank or even in your wallet, you can't prove that the money is yours. The virtuous circle of money should be in healthy market rules, not elsewhere.

12. Love can't be met, can't be asked. There are always some people in the world who are very suitable for you, but it takes the right time, the right place and the right time. After the age of 40, you will meet the right person for you. However, in most cases, you can only meet and hate when you are not married. When there is true love in youth, it often makes people timid. Therefore, the person who has been happy for a long time is often afraid to touch. The vast majority of partners found are actually lack of true love.

13. Family. Set up a family, the people you accompany, education, economic status, height, fat and thin, and even beauty and ugliness are not the most important. No matter how beautiful a person is, he can't stand your repeated observation year after year, day after day. Therefore, the people who accompany you must be consistent with you in the heart. In particular, the basic value orientation is consistent with you. A soul mate is a truly reliable partner. Such a person can keep the rich and the poor together in the same boat.

14. No matter what, we should fully accept ourselves and forgive our mistakes. Think you are the best in the world. A little narcissism is a sign of self-confidence. Take good care of yourself, then you can have the ability to love others, and then you can shoulder the corresponding responsibility.

15. Happiness and happiness are their ultimate goals. Try not to upset yourself. If there are some external factors that want to make you unhappy, then you should learn to look at the problem from another angle. For example, failure and success are equal.

16. It is a kind of sorrow for a man of forty who has not yet experienced the joy of thought and wisdom. Because forty is the season for wisdom to mature. Learning and thinking should be the norm at the age of 40.

17. Don't worry, death will wait for you one day. Take it easy. Walk slowly, watch and experience the feeling at this moment. After the age of 40, people's feeling of time often changes greatly. That's faster and faster. After the age of 40, you should look calm and quiet. The depth of the water is naturally quiet.

18. Learn to learn from all good people - not just imitate. Learn to respect a person, including yourself. This is an important prerequisite for gaining respect from others. Respect for others means respect for yourself. And don't impose your ideas on others, even if they may be really good ideas. To give freedom to others is to give freedom to yourself. However, if you accidentally gain influence, it should be that some of your ideas resonate with others.

The age of forty is an important milestone. Confucius said that there is obviously an exaggeration in saying that people are not confused at 40. However, it is reasonable to say that people over 40 should understand many truths. After the age of 40, I understand more and more truth, but there are more and more puzzles. If you don't experience the truth of life experience, you will say it verbally when you are young, but it is still the truth of others, not your own. After the age of 40, my feelings are mainly these:

1. The fate of one's life is not entirely determined by oneself. After the age of 40, you can roughly see how your life will end. When I was young, I was ambitious and thought that I could do anything as long as I struggled. In fact, it was an illusion. People can pursue what they want, but they can't get what they want. In fact, there is limited room for struggle in one's life. Especially in a society like China, from the time of birth, region, native place to family origin, in fact, your lifeline is roughly determined. What can be changed is only a small space. Only a very few intelligent people can make full use of this limited space and time.

2. People can not compare themselves with others, only with themselves. Everyone has the best self. Therefore, everyone can be the best self, but it is difficult to say that he is the best in the crowd. The reason is based on the above reasons.

3. Life is the most precious of all. Don't worry about your physical defects. When I was young, I was distressed that I was not tall enough. After I was 40, I found that being short is actually the best way to protect the spine from damage and the health of the heart. Before the age of 30, I was distressed by my short stature, and after the age of 40, I was glad that I was not tall.

4. Sexual happiness is a very important source of happiness. However, this must be premised on not indulging in youth. Indulgence and sex as an exchange, people's sense of sexual well-being will end in advance. After the age of 40, he still calls the opposite sex, indicating that his vitality is good. Sexual well-being depends on quality rather than quantity. Learn to treasure golden nights when you are young and leave them for memories when you are old. This is what you need to do when you are young.

5. The more knowledge, the better. The more books you read, the better. Here, quality is also more important than quantity. How to read is far more important than what to read. The ability to use knowledge and information is more important than simply remembering knowledge.

6. Can set their own standards, no longer external standards for their own standards, let alone live for the face of others, but according to their own inner laws and orders.

7. Know that death is an inevitable fact in life. After the age of 40, the shadow of death can be touched due to physical changes. Some of the parents have died. From their death, they can deeply experience the course of life.

8. Stop worrying, especially about tomorrow. Today's sorrow should be today. People are not crushed by the sorrow and pain of the day, but they are often crushed by an unknown worry. Many times, things don't go that bad. Review your experience of more than 40 years. Those once painful things, in fact, are like a passing cloud, and most of them did not really happen. It turned out to be just a false alarm.

9. Although the era and family of birth often make a deep mark on their own destiny, there is no need to regret these. Poor and tortuous life experience may make your life more interesting and memorable.

10. Time. When I was young, I often didn't know the taste of sorrow, but I often lamented to the sky: if I don't work hard when I am young, I will be sad when I am old. After the age of 40, I know that time really belongs to me only when it is wasted by myself. Be a frank person and do what you like to do. That time is really yours. Only when time belongs to you can you be yourself. And only in this way can we make results.

11. Money. Money is a good thing. Be able to understand the connotation of money more objectively and rationally. However, only when you earn money hard will you deeply experience the meaning of money. Money really belongs to you only when you spend it. In addition, whether you put it in stocks, securities, in the bank or even in your wallet, you can't prove that the money is yours. The virtuous circle of money should be in healthy market rules, not elsewhere.

12. Love can't be met, can't be asked. There are always some people in the world who are very suitable for you, but it takes the right time, the right place and the right time. After the age of 40, you will meet the right person for you. However, in most cases, you can only meet and hate when you are not married. When there is true love in youth, it often makes people timid. Therefore, the person who has been happy for a long time is often afraid to touch. The vast majority of partners found are actually lack of true love.

13. Family. Set up a family, the people you accompany, education, economic status, height, fat and thin, and even beauty and ugliness are not the most important. No matter how beautiful a person is, he can't stand your repeated observation year after year, day after day. Therefore, the people who accompany you must be consistent with you in the heart. In particular, the basic value orientation is consistent with you. A soul mate is a truly reliable partner. Such a person can keep the rich and the poor together in the same boat.

14. No matter what, we should fully accept ourselves and forgive our mistakes. Think you are the best in the world. A little narcissism is a sign of self-confidence. Take good care of yourself, then you can have the ability to love others, and then you can shoulder the corresponding responsibility.

15. Happiness and happiness are their ultimate goals. Try not to upset yourself. If there are some external factors that want to make you unhappy, then you should learn to look at the problem from another angle. For example, failure and success are equal.

16. It is a kind of sorrow for a man of forty who has not yet experienced the joy of thought and wisdom. Because forty is the season for wisdom to mature. Learning and thinking should be the norm at the age of 40.

17. Don't worry, death will wait for you one day. Take it easy. Walk slowly, watch and experience the feeling at this moment. After the age of 40, people's feeling of time often changes greatly. That's faster and faster. After the age of 40, you should look calm and quiet. The depth of the water is naturally quiet.

18. Learn to learn from all good people - not just imitate. Learn to respect a person, including yourself. This is an important prerequisite for gaining respect from others. Respect for others means respect for yourself. And don't impose your ideas on others, even if they may be really good ideas. To give freedom to others is to give freedom to yourself. However, if you accidentally gain influence, it should be that some of your ideas resonate with others.