As we all know, "persistence" is a commendatory word and "stubbornness" is a derogatory word. But what's the difference? Many people can't explain clearly, because persistence and stubbornness are sticking to their own opinions and not listening to others' opinions. Someone said with a smile: if you succeed in the end, you are persistent; If you fail, you become stubborn. But what are the essential differences between the two? A psychologist told me: "persistent people insist on their own direction and goals; stubborn people insist on their own emotions and ways of doing things." This sentence suddenly enlightened me. I think of some friends who belong to persistent people because they have dreams in their hearts. In order to realize their dreams, they are not influenced by the opinions of others. They insist on listening to their inner voices and taking their own path. They stick to their dreams, but they are not rigid. They will adopt flexible methods to pursue their dreams according to the actual situation. They will also make appropriate compromises, but in order to make a detour. Persistent people, persistent is the goal, not the means to achieve the goal. They follow the direction of their dreams rather than being controlled by their emotions. Stubborn people are influenced by emotions. What they insist on is their own means, not their dreams. Even, they often have no dreams and do not take a long-term view. They are just controlled by the current mood and have to do something in a rigid way. For example, when a man was walking in the wild, he accidentally bumped into a wall at the corner, which was the wall of a deserted house. He was so angry that he wanted to tear down the wall before he left. But when he pulled down the wall, he found that the wall was particularly strong. His companions advised him to give up, detour, and set up a ladder. He didn't agree. He insisted on pulling down the wall before leaving. This is called stubbornness. Another man was also tearing down the wall, but he pulled down the wall because he knew that there was a lot of gold buried in the ground on the other side of the wall. As long as the wall was torn down, he could get gold. He has a goal (or dream). He won't stick to the method of tearing down the wall. He just tried to build a ladder, but the wall is too high; He also tried to go around, but there were walls on all sides, which were equally strong. He had to continue to tear down the walls. Although the same is to tear down the wall, this is called persistence. Another example: two people saw a rabbit killed in a tree at the same time. From then on, one began to wait for the rabbit, while the other was not obsessed with death. Instead, they would use various methods such as digging traps, using nets, bows and arrows to catch the rabbit. The former insists on the means of catching rabbits, so it is called stubbornness; The latter insists on the goal of catching rabbits. His means are more flexible, so it is called persistence. The same behavior of the same person can be divided into stubbornness and persistence in different periods of time. There was a man who fought against all the arguments and insisted on producing a car of high quality and low price that everyone could afford. Although he failed many times, he did not change his original intention. Later, he finally succeeded. He changed the American way of life. He was the first automobile King Ford in the world to use assembly lines to produce cars in large quantities. At this stage, he was undoubtedly persistent. But more than ten years later, when the automobile has been popularized in the United States, this kind of automobile with high quality and low price but not enough luxury, comfort and power can no longer meet people's increasing taste pursuit. When his relatives urged him to transform and upgrade to produce a new car more suitable for people's lives, Ford refused and insisted on producing the Model T car that made him famous. A few years later, Ford's efficiency became worse and worse, and it was overtaken by general motors. Factories around Ford were closed for half a year (it was not until the new model was launched a few years later that it regrouped.) Ford at this stage is undoubtedly stubborn. Why is this? I think maybe a person has feelings for his habitual behaviors and opinions (especially his past experience has made him successful). When he is denied by others, he will fall into a bad mood and become stubborn unconsciously. When you insist on your own views but encounter opposition from others, you should first think about: are you insisting on your dreams, or are you being influenced by emotions and insisting on some means? Distinguishing persistence from stubbornness will help you make the right choice.

As we all know, "persistence" is a commendatory word and "stubbornness" is a derogatory word. But what's the difference? Many people can't explain clearly, because persistence and stubbornness are sticking to their own opinions and not listening to others' opinions. Someone said with a smile: if you succeed in the end, you are persistent; If you fail, you become stubborn. But what are the essential differences between the two? A psychologist told me: "persistent people insist on their own direction and goals; stubborn people insist on their own emotions and ways of doing things." This sentence suddenly enlightened me. I think of some friends who belong to persistent people because they have dreams in their hearts. In order to realize their dreams, they are not influenced by the opinions of others. They insist on listening to their inner voices and taking their own path. They stick to their dreams, but they are not rigid. They will adopt flexible methods to pursue their dreams according to the actual situation. They will also make appropriate compromises, but in order to make a detour. Persistent people, persistent is the goal, not the means to achieve the goal. They follow the direction of their dreams rather than being controlled by their emotions. Stubborn people are influenced by emotions. What they insist on is their own means, not their dreams. Even, they often have no dreams and do not take a long-term view. They are just controlled by the current mood and have to do something in a rigid way. For example, when a man was walking in the wild, he accidentally bumped into a wall at the corner, which was the wall of a deserted house. He was so angry that he wanted to tear down the wall before he left. But when he pulled down the wall, he found that the wall was particularly strong. His companions advised him to give up, detour, and set up a ladder. He didn't agree. He insisted on pulling down the wall before leaving. This is called stubbornness. Another man was also tearing down the wall, but he pulled down the wall because he knew that there was a lot of gold buried in the ground on the other side of the wall. As long as the wall was torn down, he could get gold. He has a goal (or dream). He won't stick to the method of tearing down the wall. He just tried to build a ladder, but the wall is too high; He also tried to go around, but there were walls on all sides, which were equally strong. He had to continue to tear down the walls. Although the same is to tear down the wall, this is called persistence. Another example: two people saw a rabbit killed in a tree at the same time. From then on, one began to wait for the rabbit, while the other was not obsessed with death. Instead, they would use various methods such as digging traps, using nets, bows and arrows to catch the rabbit. The former insists on the means of catching rabbits, so it is called stubbornness; The latter insists on the goal of catching rabbits. His means are more flexible, so it is called persistence. The same behavior of the same person can be divided into stubbornness and persistence in different periods of time. There was a man who fought against all the arguments and insisted on producing a car of high quality and low price that everyone could afford. Although he failed many times, he did not change his original intention. Later, he finally succeeded. He changed the American way of life. He was the first automobile King Ford in the world to use assembly lines to produce cars in large quantities. At this stage, he was undoubtedly persistent. But more than ten years later, when the automobile has been popularized in the United States, this kind of automobile with high quality and low price but not enough luxury, comfort and power can no longer meet people's increasing taste pursuit. When his relatives urged him to transform and upgrade to produce a new car more suitable for people's lives, Ford refused and insisted on producing the Model T car that made him famous. A few years later, Ford's efficiency became worse and worse, and it was overtaken by general motors. Factories around Ford were closed for half a year (it was not until the new model was launched a few years later that it regrouped.) Ford at this stage is undoubtedly stubborn. Why is this? I think maybe a person has feelings for his habitual behaviors and opinions (especially his past experience has made him successful). When he is denied by others, he will fall into a bad mood and become stubborn unconsciously. When you insist on your own views but encounter opposition from others, you should first think about: are you insisting on your dreams, or are you being influenced by emotions and insisting on some means? Distinguishing persistence from stubbornness will help you make the right choice.