My father and my mother have been getting along for decades: they humiliate each other to death. As long as one of the two begins to speak, the other party must open the damage directly, and the knife will fall from his mouth without mercy. Dad: how about the new shirt? I bought it myself. Mom: coquettish! Sissy! The thief is disgusting! Can you buy clothes?! Dad: I won't play with you anymore Dinner. Dad: Nanbo thief GA (adverb, indicating the intensity of degree) tastes terrible! There is a smell of restaurant overnight meals reheated in the microwave oven! Mom: don't eat the gourmet larenzi! Dad: it doesn't matter whether I eat or not. My son is hungry and thin again. Look! Me: it's none of my business I may find it interesting to write this, but in fact, they are really humbling each other with their lives from the bottom of their hearts. Ningbo Dialect itself is very hard. Normal speech is like a quarrel. Once the sarcasm mode is turned on, the combat effectiveness will rise. Moreover, the language itself of Ningbo Dialect is highly praised for swearing, and there are very few boasting words. I went to Baidu to "boast people in Ningbo Dialect", and there was only one, so I'd better ask questions in Baidu Post Bar. Then go to search "Ningbo curse", more than ten pages... Sweat. So when my parents were roast with each other, it was a Ningbo swearing exhibition. Few meals can be eaten in peace. After all these years, I'm used to listening to them tease each other at dinner. However, in the past two years, since the two elders retired. I found that my parents have become able to speak well of each other and praise each other face to face! Go home for dinner once in a while. Dad: your mother's cooking is delicious now. Look at the dishes, look at the taste, tut tut tut! Mom: Oh, it's so careless. Your father often cooks now. His craft is better than me. Dad: you've been cooking for decades. I've always been used to eating. Me: OS: Dad, do you play amnesia? Who used to pick on vegetables? Don't do this, will you? I'm suddenly not used to it!!! Finally, once I couldn't help asking why you suddenly became hypocritical? My father taught me the way of life and the way of husband and wife again. Dad: Little coffin, I tell you, after retirement, I'll lose your mother all day. Don't want to stay comfortable. What if I don't make dinner for me and run to the square dance? Look at my boast. Your mother will cook happily and bring me meat! Learn! In this life, praising people won't make you less meat. Praise people more and hurt people less. Everyone is happy! [2] There seems to be no tradition of boasting in our culture, only the tradition of flattering. Praise and praise are always easy to put together with some bad words. For example, if you are courteous without anything, you will steal if you are not a traitor. Glib, honeyed and insidious, with ulterior motives, hiding a knife in a smile, and so on. Praising individuals should also be regarded as villains with bad intentions. Naturally, everyone is unwilling to express their praise. Because of this, she is rich in death and arrogance, and has many tragedies in her life. The most famous proverb in history is "I don't kill Biren, but Biren dies because of me." The protagonist, brother Biren. Brother Bo Ren is named Zhou Qing. In fact, he appreciated director Wang very much and tried his best to defend him in times of crisis. But this brother had a hard mouth and didn't say it in front of others. He looked at director Wang's face. Later, when Zhou Qing encountered a crisis, director Wang was silent. Well, he really died. He was tired and killed people! When I understood this historical allusion, I sighed. Praise people, what positive energy, from the heart, say it! This is Cao Cao's most forthright, "today's Heroes only use the king and Cao's ears!" Just boast about your preparation. Always staring at the defects and deficiencies of others, you are unhappy, and the other party is even more unhappy. If there are any simple and effective skills in life that can immediately improve happiness, I think sincere praise and praise are essential. In Will Smith's romantic comedy "enemies of the people", he guides a clumsy fat man to chase his goddess. The trick is how to praise effectively and praise people's hearts. One scene was particularly impressive. The goddess took the fat man to a party. There are many girlfriends in it. If a fat man wants to chase the goddess, he must be recognized by his girlfriends and see what he does after being instructed. One: shake hands with every stranger and introduce yourself with confidence. Don't express your opinions easily. Don't be frivolous. Women can intuitively know whether you are honest or not. The smarter a woman is, the less she likes others to pretend. Even a clumsy person is more natural to sincerely express his clumsiness than to pretend to be proficient. Two: praise the details based on the facts, and redouble the past with half the effort. The fat man learned something about the goddess's best friend and asked him how he came to create inspiration? When a girl friend starts to talk, she listens carefully with her eyes, gives feedback on what she says, praises it reasonably and without exaggeration, and makes some casual description and praise of the clothes the other person is wearing today. It is simple and casual, but it makes people feel comfortable. In any social place, people expect what others think of themselves. If they get a positive response, people will be happy with their good qualities and further feel close to those who praise you. Three: if you want to do something just because you're shy and don't do it, it's more worth doing. Develop a positive response to others' kindness, strengths and changes. Praise is not a shy thing, but a generous gift. I think it's good to praise people simply. Don't hurt another person at the same time and get shot while lying down. It's very sad! In my opinion, praising people is a kind of simple praise and appreciation, not for other purposes. Praising is praising itself, just like going out and sighing nice day when you encounter good weather. Colleagues have a new hairstyle. It's enough to sincerely say that it suits you. This kind of natural and comfortable boasting makes people feel comfortable and makes them feel good at the same time. Why not? [III] Finally, for a negative example, when my good friend Lao Zhou asked his girlfriend how he was after cutting his short hair, he said with a dull and sincere face, "I think your short hair is very good! The smiling face of the other party has just begun... He continued: "Anyway, your long hair is not feminine, and your short hair saves shampoo! It's much cooler!!" He cried to me that his girlfriend didn't forgive him now... I can only reply sincerely and painfully: it's time. On the contrary, I think of the last question: how do you pick up the conversation when your girlfriend says XX is so handsome? (I should often encounter this in my life. Most boys are dismissive and obsessed with flowers. Look at the correct answer.) "So what? My girlfriend is not as beautiful as me." According to the fact, this beautiful can be replaced by lovely, meaningful and so on Don't praise deliberately. There's nothing to praise. Just smile. Mr. Ji Xianlin has a life motto - don't tell all the lies, don't tell all the truth. When you really can't boast, don't boast hard. But I can't help feeling that when I want to raise my thumb, I boast that people don't pay taxes and there is no upper limit to happiness. What if you praise others and don't respond? Relax, we boast about the weather, not to get any response. I like Javier's saying: "we insist on one thing, not because it will be effective, but because we firmly believe that it is right."