A few days ago, a newly married reader added me to wechat to talk about the current situation. Years of long-distance love finally achieved positive results this year. In order to live together, she had to give up her familiar environment and work and go to her husband's city to start again. She thought this would bring her a sense of security, but the reality soon broke her expectations. Strange city, different living habits, no job, and don't know a friend. When her husband is busy at work, she often stays at home in a daze and wants to do something, but she is so confused that she doesn't know where to start. To me, this is almost an inevitable result. Because what she is facing is a process of breaking and reorganizing her life from the outside to the inside. From the beginning, she may not be ready to adapt to these changes. I believe that many people will have similar confusion when they are forced to change. Why are we so afraid of change? This is obviously related to a sense of security. The pursuit of a sense of security makes people unconsciously rely on a stable environment, but change will break these existing balances. Uncertainty about the future and fear of failure are our ultimate fear of change. Unfortunately, life can't be static after all. The gathering and scattering of life, the test of the workplace and the change of circumstances are unavoidable. How to face change is actually a compulsory problem for every adult. At the end of the conversation that day, I told her that if I really didn't know what to do, I would start with the simplest thing. At the very least, this means that you start to take the initiative to adapt to this change, rather than being resigned and helpless. Escape and dependence will never bring a real sense of security. Only when we face it, good changes will happen

A few days ago, a newly married reader added me to wechat to talk about the current situation. Years of long-distance love finally achieved positive results this year. In order to live together, she had to give up her familiar environment and work and go to her husband's city to start again. She thought this would bring her a sense of security, but the reality soon broke her expectations. Strange city, different living habits, no job, and don't know a friend. When her husband is busy at work, she often stays at home in a daze and wants to do something, but she is so confused that she doesn't know where to start. To me, this is almost an inevitable result. Because what she is facing is a process of breaking and reorganizing her life from the outside to the inside. From the beginning, she may not be ready to adapt to these changes. I believe that many people will have similar confusion when they are forced to change. Why are we so afraid of change? This is obviously related to a sense of security. The pursuit of a sense of security makes people unconsciously rely on a stable environment, but change will break these existing balances. Uncertainty about the future and fear of failure are our ultimate fear of change. Unfortunately, life can't be static after all. The gathering and scattering of life, the test of the workplace and the change of circumstances are unavoidable. How to face change is actually a compulsory problem for every adult. At the end of the conversation that day, I told her that if I really didn't know what to do, I would start with the simplest thing. At the very least, this means that you start to take the initiative to adapt to this change, rather than being resigned and helpless. Escape and dependence will never bring a real sense of security. Only when we face it, good changes will happen