At the time of writing this article, my own state is about to usher in the fifth major change in 2014. The previous four times were a new job, resignation due to some changes, full-time paternity at home, planning to take the lead in entrepreneurship, and the birth of a son. When I ushered in a new job in early 2014, my original plan was to do it for at least a year and a half. As a result, in less than half a year, I had to choose to leave because of various sudden and unpredictable, both subjective and objective reasons, and began a period of full-time paternity at home. When I finally ushered in my son's birth after more than three months of full-time paternity at home, our family had expected to enter a new period of happiness and tranquility, but we didn't expect that the little penguin was taken into the neonatal care unit less than six hours after birth. After that, he was transferred to another hospital because of his serious condition, even after being discharged from the hospital, There have been many unexpected situations again and again, which make us worried. When I began to plan my own entrepreneurship with all my strength, I once gave great expectation and enthusiasm to this matter, but then because of a series of things before and after the birth of my child, I realized that there was a conflict between taking the lead in Entrepreneurship and many of my current states, and I must make a decision to follow my heart more at the moment. You know, people always try to take control of their lives, so that they can get the results they expect as expected, and are willing to regard the success that has achieved the state they expect as "success", but more often, this effort is always futile. You will find that more often, life will be closer to this state: you will always rush forward with hope and longing, but you will always be caught off guard by all kinds of unexpected accidents and changes. For example, we were full of expectations to prepare for the birth of a little life, but we were unexpectedly exhausted physically and mentally by a guy named "Dandy Walker" who was killed halfway; Another example is that I was already full of ambition and expectation and was ready to start a full-scale entrepreneurial journey, but because of various unexpected situations, I had to change this idea from trying my best to give consideration to delay and then change until it was completely eliminated in the end. So the question arises - if you knew at the beginning that your efforts would probably not achieve the results you expected, and you already knew that your life was beyond your control, what would the significance of such efforts be? I guess there may be two answers. The first answer is: you can let go only if you have done your best. I still clearly remember that three months ago, when we were facing the painful choice of whether to leave the little penguin, I received a message from a friend. She said: only those who have done their best are eligible to give up. This sentence is almost straight to my heart. Looking back on the moment when I officially decided to put down the idea of independent entrepreneurship, although I hesitated for a long time before, at the moment when I really made the decision, I can say that I was very calm. For nothing else, just because within the scope of my ability, I think I have done my best. With these efforts, at least I will not be full of regret when I recall this moment in the future. No amount of "success" and "achievement" can be compared with the ease and comfort of inner peace. In other words, those "successes" and "achievements" should have been better served for themselves, not the opposite. My friend, who is also my former boss, has worked hard for his career and expectations for many years, taking into account very few wives and sons at home. After I left my job, we had a private dinner. At the dinner table, I asked him: don't you feel sorry for spending so little time with your son? He replied: This spelling is just to give him a good answer in the future. If you can only tell him that you gave up what you wanted to do for him in the future, I don't think it's a good answer. I have always been deeply concerned about his answer at that time. Everyone will always go through a long-lasting stage of "living in bondage". In this stage, all your efforts and efforts are just to achieve the goal with aura and symbolic significance in the eyes of many people. Until one day, you suddenly break through this heavy bondage with a flash of inspiration. You will suddenly find that you are not really trying to get it, but just trying to be calm and calm. To put it another way, it seems that this is the only way for us to be truly free. You will gradually find that the greatest freedom we have is the freedom to change ourselves to deal with the outside world. This freedom will make you full of power all the time. If you are suffering from the bondage of the world, but have not tried your best to change the status quo in the past, you must not be free. Similarly, if you find that you have done your best but still feel powerless to change the world, so you live in the shadow and suffer, you are also not free. Either of the two is essentially unable to get rid of the shackles the world tries to impose on you. Second, pay and efforts are for unexpected discovery, not step-by-step. I always think that if life is a step-by-step process of getting what you want, it will become very boring. I have always felt that the best things in your life can not be given and created, but can only be found. Accidents in life are everywhere. Some unexpected properties are better. It's called surprise. You just need to enjoy it. Some unexpected attributes turn bad and you need to use all your skills to avoid them. That's called trial. You need to adjust your state to ensure that you can excel in front of it, and get a better and better experience in the process of coping with and overcoming it. There are also accidents that have bad attributes and can't be avoided. That's called doom. In front of it, you can only use all your heart and energy to withstand it. However, if you can keep a heart of discovery and understanding, once the fate is exhausted, you can often find many dazzling things. For example, in the past few months, I had a set of step-by-step plans, but I was disrupted by various accidents and disasters one by one. But it was also in the days when I was completely unpredictable and hesitant about whether to keep the little penguins. Those little penguins were sent to the intensive care unit after birth and needed to send milk to him every day and communicate with the doctor repeatedly, There are also days when the little penguin has been ill for many times after he came home from hospital and needs to hold him often, accompany him and worry about him. I think I have got many of the best things in my life, which is the understanding of life, choice and love. Jobs has a saying that has impressed me since I really understood it. He said: you can't connect the points that haven't been drawn, you can only connect the points that have been drawn. There are some of us who always try to make a lot of ideas and plans before they write, and want to draw a perfect circle or square overnight. Therefore, they always suffer from the fact that their brushes can't draw such perfect arcs and lines. There are other people who will always try to paint a few dots on the blank canvas first, and then try to find the best way to connect the existing dots. Therefore, they will always gain an unexpected stroke. Just like when he was a fucking young man, Joe only studied calligraphy with full interest. At the right time, he naturally found the opportunity to turn these precipitates into those beautiful fonts and interfaces in IOS. The more I experience, the more I feel. The significance of planning and design must be limited, and it will be more meaningful to follow your heart and do something you think should be done. As long as you do enough and enrich enough, one day, you will find some unexpected opportunities to connect the points you have drawn in your life. At least, for me, more and more choices I have now are no longer planning and planning, but connecting the points I have drawn. Therefore, even if you know you can't control your life, maybe you can always make two preparations - first, try your best for what you want and expect, which will get you out of the trap and bondage of "regret"; Second, if you can't control and decide for a variety of reasons to make your journey to pursue your goals more effective, you might as well try to find it from a different perspective. You know, the best things in your life can't be given and created, but can only be found. We should also know that the greatest freedom we have is the freedom to change ourselves to deal with the outside world. Once we have this freedom, no one can take it away from you. From tomorrow, I will start a new journey of "discovery". This is my freedom and I enjoy it very much.

At the time of writing this article, my own state is about to usher in the fifth major change in 2014. The previous four times were a new job, resignation due to some changes, full-time paternity at home, planning to take the lead in entrepreneurship, and the birth of a son. When I ushered in a new job in early 2014, my original plan was to do it for at least a year and a half. As a result, in less than half a year, I had to choose to leave because of various sudden and unpredictable, both subjective and objective reasons, and began a period of full-time paternity at home. When I finally ushered in my son's birth after more than three months of full-time paternity at home, our family had expected to enter a new period of happiness and tranquility, but we didn't expect that the little penguin was taken into the neonatal care unit less than six hours after birth. After that, he was transferred to another hospital because of his serious condition, even after being discharged from the hospital, There have been many unexpected situations again and again, which make us worried. When I began to plan my own entrepreneurship with all my strength, I once gave great expectation and enthusiasm to this matter, but then because of a series of things before and after the birth of my child, I realized that there was a conflict between taking the lead in Entrepreneurship and many of my current states, and I must make a decision to follow my heart more at the moment. You know, people always try to take control of their lives, so that they can get the results they expect as expected, and are willing to regard the success that has achieved the state they expect as "success", but more often, this effort is always futile. You will find that more often, life will be closer to this state: you will always rush forward with hope and longing, but you will always be caught off guard by all kinds of unexpected accidents and changes. For example, we were full of expectations to prepare for the birth of a little life, but we were unexpectedly exhausted physically and mentally by a guy named "Dandy Walker" who was killed halfway; Another example is that I was already full of ambition and expectation and was ready to start a full-scale entrepreneurial journey, but because of various unexpected situations, I had to change this idea from trying my best to give consideration to delay and then change until it was completely eliminated in the end. So the question arises - if you knew at the beginning that your efforts would probably not achieve the results you expected, and you already knew that your life was beyond your control, what would the significance of such efforts be? I guess there may be two answers. The first answer is: you can let go only if you have done your best. I still clearly remember that three months ago, when we were facing the painful choice of whether to leave the little penguin, I received a message from a friend. She said: only those who have done their best are eligible to give up. This sentence is almost straight to my heart. Looking back on the moment when I officially decided to put down the idea of independent entrepreneurship, although I hesitated for a long time before, at the moment when I really made the decision, I can say that I was very calm. For nothing else, just because within the scope of my ability, I think I have done my best. With these efforts, at least I will not be full of regret when I recall this moment in the future. No amount of "success" and "achievement" can be compared with the ease and comfort of inner peace. In other words, those "successes" and "achievements" should have been better served for themselves, not the opposite. My friend, who is also my former boss, has worked hard for his career and expectations for many years, taking into account very few wives and sons at home. After I left my job, we had a private dinner. At the dinner table, I asked him: don't you feel sorry for spending so little time with your son? He replied: This spelling is just to give him a good answer in the future. If you can only tell him that you gave up what you wanted to do for him in the future, I don't think it's a good answer. I have always been deeply concerned about his answer at that time. Everyone will always go through a long-lasting stage of "living in bondage". In this stage, all your efforts and efforts are just to achieve the goal with aura and symbolic significance in the eyes of many people. Until one day, you suddenly break through this heavy bondage with a flash of inspiration. You will suddenly find that you are not really trying to get it, but just trying to be calm and calm. To put it another way, it seems that this is the only way for us to be truly free. You will gradually find that the greatest freedom we have is the freedom to change ourselves to deal with the outside world. This freedom will make you full of power all the time. If you are suffering from the bondage of the world, but have not tried your best to change the status quo in the past, you must not be free. Similarly, if you find that you have done your best but still feel powerless to change the world, so you live in the shadow and suffer, you are also not free. Either of the two is essentially unable to get rid of the shackles the world tries to impose on you. Second, pay and efforts are for unexpected discovery, not step-by-step. I always think that if life is a step-by-step process of getting what you want, it will become very boring. I have always felt that the best things in your life can not be given and created, but can only be found. Accidents in life are everywhere. Some unexpected properties are better. It's called surprise. You just need to enjoy it. Some unexpected attributes turn bad and you need to use all your skills to avoid them. That's called trial. You need to adjust your state to ensure that you can excel in front of it, and get a better and better experience in the process of coping with and overcoming it. There are also accidents that have bad attributes and can't be avoided. That's called doom. In front of it, you can only use all your heart and energy to withstand it. However, if you can keep a heart of discovery and understanding, once the fate is exhausted, you can often find many dazzling things. For example, in the past few months, I had a set of step-by-step plans, but I was disrupted by various accidents and disasters one by one. But it was also in the days when I was completely unpredictable and hesitant about whether to keep the little penguins. Those little penguins were sent to the intensive care unit after birth and needed to send milk to him every day and communicate with the doctor repeatedly, There are also days when the little penguin has been ill for many times after he came home from hospital and needs to hold him often, accompany him and worry about him. I think I have got many of the best things in my life, which is the understanding of life, choice and love. Jobs has a saying that has impressed me since I really understood it. He said: you can't connect the points that haven't been drawn, you can only connect the points that have been drawn. There are some of us who always try to make a lot of ideas and plans before they write, and want to draw a perfect circle or square overnight. Therefore, they always suffer from the fact that their brushes can't draw such perfect arcs and lines. There are other people who will always try to paint a few dots on the blank canvas first, and then try to find the best way to connect the existing dots. Therefore, they will always gain an unexpected stroke. Just like when he was a fucking young man, Joe only studied calligraphy with full interest. At the right time, he naturally found the opportunity to turn these precipitates into those beautiful fonts and interfaces in IOS. The more I experience, the more I feel. The significance of planning and design must be limited, and it will be more meaningful to follow your heart and do something you think should be done. As long as you do enough and enrich enough, one day, you will find some unexpected opportunities to connect the points you have drawn in your life. At least, for me, more and more choices I have now are no longer planning and planning, but connecting the points I have drawn. Therefore, even if you know you can't control your life, maybe you can always make two preparations - first, try your best for what you want and expect, which will get you out of the trap and bondage of "regret"; Second, if you can't control and decide for a variety of reasons to make your journey to pursue your goals more effective, you might as well try to find it from a different perspective. You know, the best things in your life can't be given and created, but can only be found. We should also know that the greatest freedom we have is the freedom to change ourselves to deal with the outside world. Once we have this freedom, no one can take it away from you. From tomorrow, I will start a new journey of "discovery". This is my freedom and I enjoy it very much.