01 The year I graduated from college, I came back from Shanghai to find a job. At that time, I probably read too many workplace novels and just wanted to work in large companies. Therefore, I found three largest companies and sent my resume to them. Fortunately, all three companies informed me of the interview. The scale of these three companies is good, but there are still differences in my heart. I divide them into a, B and C. A is the company I want to go to most, followed by B and C. After several rounds of interviews, company B first called me and informed me that I had been accepted. I'm very tangled, because the company a I want to go to most has not come to an end. At that time, company a had gone through several rounds of interviews. Just a few days ago, it had just finished the last round of interviews. I thought for a whole night and rejected company B. my mother was very dissatisfied with my rejection and couldn't help but advise me: "company B is also good. You can't be so indifferent. Just graduated, it's good to have a job. You don't know how fierce the competition is now. Look at the daughter of aunt Meisu next door, who has graduated for more than half a year and hasn't found a job yet!" One day later, company C also called me and said that I had passed the interview and could go to work next Monday. My mother advised me again: "company a has not heard yet. It must be that you have not been admitted. It's foolish for you to refuse company B. now go to company C!" But I really gave up. I insisted on waiting for the news from company a, but I still rejected the opportunity from company C. Two days later, there was still no news from company a, and I almost decided that I had not been accepted. Not being rejected by my favorite company, I was very depressed, so I moved a recliner to the balcony to read. While drying clothes, my mother scolded me: "I told you not to refuse company B, but you just didn't listen. Now, you can't go to any company. You're just too high minded and low handed. Company a is a big company. You should have no experience, no backstage, and your height is not ideal. How can you be admitted so easily? If you don't listen to adults, you'll suffer in front of you." It can be said that my mother's words made me more depressed than I didn't get accepted by company A. I dumped the book and said angrily, "I beg you to let me be quiet?" Fortunately, the next day, company a called to tell me that I was accepted. I asked them why they notified so late. They said that the leader was on a business trip, which delayed a few days. My mother was happier than me and said to me excitedly, "I didn't expect you to have good luck and you waited right." I said to her seriously, "Mom, when I'm depressed, I hope you don't hit me again. At this time, I just want to be comforted. If there's no comfort, it's good to be quiet." My mother meditated. Then she still occasionally made the mistake of "being wise after the event", but over time, she gradually got rid of it. 02 A girl fell in love with a new male colleague in the company. After they had been dating for some time, the girl took her boyfriend home to see her parents. The parents treated their daughter's boyfriend very seriously. The girl was very happy and thought that her parents accepted her love. But just after seeing off the guests, her parents pulled her to the sofa and advised her to break up with each other. The girl is very depressed. Say hello, why did you break up. The girl's father said to her, "we warmly entertain him because you are colleagues and can't make you lose face. But after watching your mother and I for a long time, he is not a real person. Many of the questions we raised are vague, and even the foreword doesn't match the Afterword. It's definitely not a good choice for life." It's as if I'm not in love with the prisoners. I won't break up with them if they don't. I'm not right No matter how her parents persuade her, the girl is determined to be with her boyfriend. Her parents shake their heads and sigh at the same time. About a year later, the girl accidentally found that her boyfriend had split his leg and fell in love with another wealthy daughter with better conditions. The other party did not deny the girl's question and told her frankly: it doesn't matter to fall in love, but marriage contains a lot of things. What's wrong with finding a more suitable person? The girl was heartbroken and asked for leave to go home to rest. When her parents learned about the situation, they loved their daughter and cursed the heartbroken man thousands of times. The girl was still depressed. The whole person was like eggplant beaten with frost. The mother was distressed for her daughter, While scolding her: "your father and I have long seen that he is not a good thing, but you don't believe it. Now, you, just don't die until you reach the Yellow River. We eat more food than you eat salt and walk more bridges than you walk. Don't you think people are as accurate as you? Besides, we are your biological parents, will we harm you? If we had listened to us and broke up early, how could you get this land?" The girl became more and more angry and shouted at her mother, "yes, I'm an idiot. I deserve it. I didn't beg you to pity me!" Mother was also annoyed: "you really don't know what's right or wrong. You've raised you for nothing." The girl pulled the quilt and covered her head tightly. Her mother shook her head and left with a sigh. 03 After graduating from college, a boy was admitted to a civil servant, and his parents were gratified. But two years later, he found that this nine to five life was gradually killing his enthusiasm. Therefore, he wants to resign and start a business to create his own career. After their parents knew it, they strongly opposed it. They thought that civil servants were relaxed and decent, and the future of entrepreneurship was uncertain. Why should they toss about like this? But the boy has made up his mind. Using the salary saved for two years as the capital, he found several like-minded friends to jointly develop app. They are very attentive and hard-working. But the app developed in the end was ignored, and several people's entrepreneurial dreams were dashed. At that time, the boys were in a very bad mood and decadent. Their parents couldn't help but say: "if a good civil servant doesn't do it, he has to get an app. It's not so easy to start a business. If it's so easy, the streets are full of successful people. Listen to us earlier. As for the current situation?" So, boys are more depressed 04 Faxiao falls in love with a man and doesn't want to love him. He reports the progress to me on wechat every day. After listening for a long time, I have a doubt. She is almost transparent in front of men. Even she can speak for several months. She explains clearly where the primary school is. However, when I ask the man's situation, she almost doesn't know three times. I ask her why she doesn't even know the basic situation. What good meaning she says keeps digging. If he wants to say it, he will say it. It's useless not to ask! I admire her open-minded, but at the same time I worry about her. I always feel that two people fall in love. Even if the other party doesn't ask, I should tell the other party some of my basic information. If I don't even want to say my basic information, what does this mean? But faxiao obviously didn't want me to question her boyfriend and insisted that men's character was very good. One night, she suddenly came to me crying. The first sentence when she entered the door was: "I was cheated by him. It turned out that he was not only married, but also had a child, but he always pretended to be single. Honey, I'm so sad. I feel empty." I sighed and patted her on the back: "Oh, I've been..." what I wanted to say was that I had warned you to find out, but when it came to my mouth, I was suddenly stunned. How is the logic and tone of this different from what my mother said about me? While I hated this way of speaking, I unconsciously learned it. So I quickly changed my mind and said, "I said that no matter what happens to you, I will support you. You don't have nothing. You still have me!" He cried out with a small cry. His tears rubbed me all over. He cried and said, "honey, it's good to have you. When I'm so sad, you accompany me. I won't be so blind in the future." I patted her and comforted her gently, but I thought a lot. 05 When we use our own experience to persuade the people around us, we fully hope that the other party will listen to our advice, don't get hurt, don't fall, and don't live up to our kindness. But everyone has his own way to go. They may not be willing to listen to us. In the end, they may succeed or fail. When they fail, in fact, their hearts are full of remorse, but they are embarrassed to say it. At this time, we don't have to do things after Zhuge Liang. As long as we have good company and comfort, we can walk out of the trough of life with him. With this experience, it's easier for the other party to accept what you say in the future. However, when we say the sentence "you see, I said...", maybe our starting point is because of heartache, but what the other party hears is "I advised you long ago. You deserve it if you don't listen!" It is often said that our lovers don't tell themselves anything. I think we should recall our reaction at this time. If our reaction is criticism and nagging, why should others say? It's hard enough. Why listen to these words again? But if you say it, there will be warm embrace and rational analysis. How many people are unwilling to say it? Imagine that we will also experience failures and setbacks. When we are full of depression and frustration, do we need a warm embrace or chattering? Everyone has his own choice. Some things cannot be avoided without warning in advance. The best way for a person is to accompany him through the trough and to the peak.

01 The year I graduated from college, I came back from Shanghai to find a job. At that time, I probably read too many workplace novels and just wanted to work in large companies. Therefore, I found three largest companies and sent my resume to them. Fortunately, all three companies informed me of the interview. The scale of these three companies is good, but there are still differences in my heart. I divide them into a, B and C. A is the company I want to go to most, followed by B and C. After several rounds of interviews, company B first called me and informed me that I had been accepted. I'm very tangled, because the company a I want to go to most has not come to an end. At that time, company a had gone through several rounds of interviews. Just a few days ago, it had just finished the last round of interviews. I thought for a whole night and rejected company B. my mother was very dissatisfied with my rejection and couldn't help but advise me: "company B is also good. You can't be so indifferent. Just graduated, it's good to have a job. You don't know how fierce the competition is now. Look at the daughter of aunt Meisu next door, who has graduated for more than half a year and hasn't found a job yet!" One day later, company C also called me and said that I had passed the interview and could go to work next Monday. My mother advised me again: "company a has not heard yet. It must be that you have not been admitted. It's foolish for you to refuse company B. now go to company C!" But I really gave up. I insisted on waiting for the news from company a, but I still rejected the opportunity from company C. Two days later, there was still no news from company a, and I almost decided that I had not been accepted. Not being rejected by my favorite company, I was very depressed, so I moved a recliner to the balcony to read. While drying clothes, my mother scolded me: "I told you not to refuse company B, but you just didn't listen. Now, you can't go to any company. You're just too high minded and low handed. Company a is a big company. You should have no experience, no backstage, and your height is not ideal. How can you be admitted so easily? If you don't listen to adults, you'll suffer in front of you." It can be said that my mother's words made me more depressed than I didn't get accepted by company A. I dumped the book and said angrily, "I beg you to let me be quiet?" Fortunately, the next day, company a called to tell me that I was accepted. I asked them why they notified so late. They said that the leader was on a business trip, which delayed a few days. My mother was happier than me and said to me excitedly, "I didn't expect you to have good luck and you waited right." I said to her seriously, "Mom, when I'm depressed, I hope you don't hit me again. At this time, I just want to be comforted. If there's no comfort, it's good to be quiet." My mother meditated. Then she still occasionally made the mistake of "being wise after the event", but over time, she gradually got rid of it. 02 A girl fell in love with a new male colleague in the company. After they had been dating for some time, the girl took her boyfriend home to see her parents. The parents treated their daughter's boyfriend very seriously. The girl was very happy and thought that her parents accepted her love. But just after seeing off the guests, her parents pulled her to the sofa and advised her to break up with each other. The girl is very depressed. Say hello, why did you break up. The girl's father said to her, "we warmly entertain him because you are colleagues and can't make you lose face. But after watching your mother and I for a long time, he is not a real person. Many of the questions we raised are vague, and even the foreword doesn't match the Afterword. It's definitely not a good choice for life." It's as if I'm not in love with the prisoners. I won't break up with them if they don't. I'm not right No matter how her parents persuade her, the girl is determined to be with her boyfriend. Her parents shake their heads and sigh at the same time. About a year later, the girl accidentally found that her boyfriend had split his leg and fell in love with another wealthy daughter with better conditions. The other party did not deny the girl's question and told her frankly: it doesn't matter to fall in love, but marriage contains a lot of things. What's wrong with finding a more suitable person? The girl was heartbroken and asked for leave to go home to rest. When her parents learned about the situation, they loved their daughter and cursed the heartbroken man thousands of times. The girl was still depressed. The whole person was like eggplant beaten with frost. The mother was distressed for her daughter, While scolding her: "your father and I have long seen that he is not a good thing, but you don't believe it. Now, you, just don't die until you reach the Yellow River. We eat more food than you eat salt and walk more bridges than you walk. Don't you think people are as accurate as you? Besides, we are your biological parents, will we harm you? If we had listened to us and broke up early, how could you get this land?" The girl became more and more angry and shouted at her mother, "yes, I'm an idiot. I deserve it. I didn't beg you to pity me!" Mother was also annoyed: "you really don't know what's right or wrong. You've raised you for nothing." The girl pulled the quilt and covered her head tightly. Her mother shook her head and left with a sigh. 03 After graduating from college, a boy was admitted to a civil servant, and his parents were gratified. But two years later, he found that this nine to five life was gradually killing his enthusiasm. Therefore, he wants to resign and start a business to create his own career. After their parents knew it, they strongly opposed it. They thought that civil servants were relaxed and decent, and the future of entrepreneurship was uncertain. Why should they toss about like this? But the boy has made up his mind. Using the salary saved for two years as the capital, he found several like-minded friends to jointly develop app. They are very attentive and hard-working. But the app developed in the end was ignored, and several people's entrepreneurial dreams were dashed. At that time, the boys were in a very bad mood and decadent. Their parents couldn't help but say: "if a good civil servant doesn't do it, he has to get an app. It's not so easy to start a business. If it's so easy, the streets are full of successful people. Listen to us earlier. As for the current situation?" So, boys are more depressed 04 Faxiao falls in love with a man and doesn't want to love him. He reports the progress to me on wechat every day. After listening for a long time, I have a doubt. She is almost transparent in front of men. Even she can speak for several months. She explains clearly where the primary school is. However, when I ask the man's situation, she almost doesn't know three times. I ask her why she doesn't even know the basic situation. What good meaning she says keeps digging. If he wants to say it, he will say it. It's useless not to ask! I admire her open-minded, but at the same time I worry about her. I always feel that two people fall in love. Even if the other party doesn't ask, I should tell the other party some of my basic information. If I don't even want to say my basic information, what does this mean? But faxiao obviously didn't want me to question her boyfriend and insisted that men's character was very good. One night, she suddenly came to me crying. The first sentence when she entered the door was: "I was cheated by him. It turned out that he was not only married, but also had a child, but he always pretended to be single. Honey, I'm so sad. I feel empty." I sighed and patted her on the back: "Oh, I've been..." what I wanted to say was that I had warned you to find out, but when it came to my mouth, I was suddenly stunned. How is the logic and tone of this different from what my mother said about me? While I hated this way of speaking, I unconsciously learned it. So I quickly changed my mind and said, "I said that no matter what happens to you, I will support you. You don't have nothing. You still have me!" He cried out with a small cry. His tears rubbed me all over. He cried and said, "honey, it's good to have you. When I'm so sad, you accompany me. I won't be so blind in the future." I patted her and comforted her gently, but I thought a lot. 05 When we use our own experience to persuade the people around us, we fully hope that the other party will listen to our advice, don't get hurt, don't fall, and don't live up to our kindness. But everyone has his own way to go. They may not be willing to listen to us. In the end, they may succeed or fail. When they fail, in fact, their hearts are full of remorse, but they are embarrassed to say it. At this time, we don't have to do things after Zhuge Liang. As long as we have good company and comfort, we can walk out of the trough of life with him. With this experience, it's easier for the other party to accept what you say in the future. However, when we say the sentence "you see, I said...", maybe our starting point is because of heartache, but what the other party hears is "I advised you long ago. You deserve it if you don't listen!" It is often said that our lovers don't tell themselves anything. I think we should recall our reaction at this time. If our reaction is criticism and nagging, why should others say? It's hard enough. Why listen to these words again? But if you say it, there will be warm embrace and rational analysis. How many people are unwilling to say it? Imagine that we will also experience failures and setbacks. When we are full of depression and frustration, do we need a warm embrace or chattering? Everyone has his own choice. Some things cannot be avoided without warning in advance. The best way for a person is to accompany him through the trough and to the peak.