A friend who works in a famous foreign enterprise called me and complained to me roast: the company is short-sighted, her boss changes orders day and night, and she is very unhappy. She wants to change her job. I hope I can help her pay attention to whether there are better job opportunities. When talking about some anecdotes of her boss, I vaguely felt a breath - "my boss is the best". Whether her boss is really the best is unknown, but one thing is certain that their relationship is tense. I often get similar calls. The callers have some common characteristics: high IQ, most of them are excellent students from school, graduated from famous schools and worked in famous enterprises, but they change jobs frequently. They always seem to have a top-notch boss, and they have some talents that they don't meet, and they don't get along well with the people around them. Once they feel unhappy, the first thing they think of is job hopping, and jumping around are well-known enterprises. Since others regard me as a "career mentor", I have to show some "mentor" appearance, coach her and ask her some common questions: 1 What kind of job do you want? 2. What do you think is the most enjoyable thing to do? 3. What do you think you are good at? These three questions are not my original creation. I learned them from Tyler benshahar, lecturer of "Harvard happiness class". The principle of the problem is the MPS model in positive psychology (m=mission, p=pleasure interest, s=strength specialty), which means that if a person can find a job that meets these three conditions at the same time, he will not only work happily, but also achieve something. Arguably, these are the three simplest questions, but the answers I get most of the time are not satisfactory to me. The top students in these schools have been winning competitions, but they don't know what they want, what they like, and what they are good at. These three questions raise a bigger question: why do the top students in these schools have superior IQ, but lose their way in the workplace? If you ask them what kind of job they are looking for, their usual answer is "a good job". What is "good job"? Good jobs in their eyes are often like this: higher salaries, better known enterprises, better prospects, better bosses, and balance between work and life... Every time I hear this, I can't help asking: you have worked in society for several years, have you found such a job? Naturally, there is no answer. This "good job" is like "other people's children", which is completely a beautiful dream. In fact, the real problem is not here, but that they understand the so-called "good work" as some external standards, rather than whether it really meets their own goals. They don't even have clear goals, only some success standards in the eyes of others, just like many leftover women's expectations for their future husbands: have a car, a house or a mortgage, but they don't really care about whether they have true feelings with that person. Another problem is that like those leftover women, they always feel that a "good job" is like a "Prince Charming" waiting for them at the corner. If there is no clear career goal, you should always know what you like, right? Unfortunately, many people don't know what they like. They seem to care more about the approval of others, and think that those things approved by others are the things they like, but they are not clear about whether they really like those things. This may also be due to their childhood education. They try to behave more in line with the expectations of others, while ignoring what they like from the bottom of their heart. When winning the competition, the top students in many schools often don't know what they need and like. Because without their heartfelt love, they will not be loyal to their career and innovative spirit. They are often not so comfortable in the workplace. The saddest thing is that these top students lack the necessary career skills. They are good at examinations, but they don't have many opportunities to use these skills in their work. Many universities are claiming to become research universities, but they are more like a vocational training school, but the most training in this school is all kinds of knowledge, rather than some practical vocational skills and the knowledge of how to deal with people. After getting so many a+, these top students sadly found that the rules followed in the workplace were completely different from those in school. There is a statistic that shows that most successful people in the workplace are those who get good grades in school. The reason why these people have medium and high grades means that they are not poor in IQ, but the reason why they do not become top students is that they do not focus on their studies. They pay more attention to social practice, and it is precisely because of this understanding of the real world that they exercise their professional skills earlier. This shows two problems: first, they are not poor in IQ; second, they put more energy on social practice. Don't underestimate those social practices, because it enables a person to understand the real society earlier and train himself accordingly. This is a common sense: if a person has a clear goal, does what he likes, and his ability meets the goal, he is more likely to succeed in his career. The standards of social and school evaluation are different: school evaluation is more about his IQ, while social evaluation is more about his Eq. Because of their high IQ, top students have limited the cultivation of their EQ, which makes them easier to become professionals rather than leaders. This is also a classic paradox in management: if a person's ability in one aspect is too strong, it will become an obstacle in another aspect.

A friend who works in a famous foreign enterprise called me and complained to me roast: the company is short-sighted, her boss changes orders day and night, and she is very unhappy. She wants to change her job. I hope I can help her pay attention to whether there are better job opportunities. When talking about some anecdotes of her boss, I vaguely felt a breath - "my boss is the best". Whether her boss is really the best is unknown, but one thing is certain that their relationship is tense. I often get similar calls. The callers have some common characteristics: high IQ, most of them are excellent students from school, graduated from famous schools and worked in famous enterprises, but they change jobs frequently. They always seem to have a top-notch boss, and they have some talents that they don't meet, and they don't get along well with the people around them. Once they feel unhappy, the first thing they think of is job hopping, and jumping around are well-known enterprises. Since others regard me as a "career mentor", I have to show some "mentor" appearance, coach her and ask her some common questions: 1 What kind of job do you want? 2. What do you think is the most enjoyable thing to do? 3. What do you think you are good at? These three questions are not my original creation. I learned them from Tyler benshahar, lecturer of "Harvard happiness class". The principle of the problem is the MPS model in positive psychology (m=mission, p=pleasure interest, s=strength specialty), which means that if a person can find a job that meets these three conditions at the same time, he will not only work happily, but also achieve something. Arguably, these are the three simplest questions, but the answers I get most of the time are not satisfactory to me. The top students in these schools have been winning competitions, but they don't know what they want, what they like, and what they are good at. These three questions raise a bigger question: why do the top students in these schools have superior IQ, but lose their way in the workplace? If you ask them what kind of job they are looking for, their usual answer is "a good job". What is "good job"? Good jobs in their eyes are often like this: higher salaries, better known enterprises, better prospects, better bosses, and balance between work and life... Every time I hear this, I can't help asking: you have worked in society for several years, have you found such a job? Naturally, there is no answer. This "good job" is like "other people's children", which is completely a beautiful dream. In fact, the real problem is not here, but that they understand the so-called "good work" as some external standards, rather than whether it really meets their own goals. They don't even have clear goals, only some success standards in the eyes of others, just like many leftover women's expectations for their future husbands: have a car, a house or a mortgage, but they don't really care about whether they have true feelings with that person. Another problem is that like those leftover women, they always feel that a "good job" is like a "Prince Charming" waiting for them at the corner. If there is no clear career goal, you should always know what you like, right? Unfortunately, many people don't know what they like. They seem to care more about the approval of others, and think that those things approved by others are the things they like, but they are not clear about whether they really like those things. This may also be due to their childhood education. They try to behave more in line with the expectations of others, while ignoring what they like from the bottom of their heart. When winning the competition, the top students in many schools often don't know what they need and like. Because without their heartfelt love, they will not be loyal to their career and innovative spirit. They are often not so comfortable in the workplace. The saddest thing is that these top students lack the necessary career skills. They are good at examinations, but they don't have many opportunities to use these skills in their work. Many universities are claiming to become research universities, but they are more like a vocational training school, but the most training in this school is all kinds of knowledge, rather than some practical vocational skills and the knowledge of how to deal with people. After getting so many a+, these top students sadly found that the rules followed in the workplace were completely different from those in school. There is a statistic that shows that most successful people in the workplace are those who get good grades in school. The reason why these people have medium and high grades means that they are not poor in IQ, but the reason why they do not become top students is that they do not focus on their studies. They pay more attention to social practice, and it is precisely because of this understanding of the real world that they exercise their professional skills earlier. This shows two problems: first, they are not poor in IQ; second, they put more energy on social practice. Don't underestimate those social practices, because it enables a person to understand the real society earlier and train himself accordingly. This is a common sense: if a person has a clear goal, does what he likes, and his ability meets the goal, he is more likely to succeed in his career. The standards of social and school evaluation are different: school evaluation is more about his IQ, while social evaluation is more about his Eq. Because of their high IQ, top students have limited the cultivation of their EQ, which makes them easier to become professionals rather than leaders. This is also a classic paradox in management: if a person's ability in one aspect is too strong, it will become an obstacle in another aspect.