A person's state will get worse and worse, essentially because his environment continues to give him negative feedback. Nowadays, many people are particularly keen on "time management" and "personal improvement". However, all these attempts are impossible to achieve without a basic element. Many people who came to me for advice had their own problems and pains. For example, some people felt that they were procrastinating, some had problems with their interpersonal relationships, and some felt that their life was stagnant and had no fun. They also made a lot of efforts to solve these problems, such as learning the methods of time management and adjusting interpersonal relationships, Do things that make them "happy" and so on. But so far, their efforts have been largely ineffective. As for the reason, it comes down to the basic element I mentioned earlier - "situational management". Man is the product of situation. All our cognition and thinking will be affected by our situation. We constantly get feedback from the external situation, constantly get hints from the external situation, and constantly change our mood because of the changes of the external situation. In fact, many people don't realize that each of us has an implicit "space-time hypothesis". This spatiotemporal hypothesis will constantly change with our current situation. But it will also be "solidified" with our solidified behavior patterns and cognitive patterns. To take the simplest example, you lie in bed playing games for two days, but if you go out for a five minute walk, your mental state is completely different in these two situations. When you play games in bed, your "space-time hypothesis" of the world will become narrower and narrower, and you will pay less and less attention to what you want and what you think is related to you. When this narrowness is reduced to the two small "particles" of you and the game, your implied "space-time hypothesis" is equivalent to nonexistence. At this time, you lose interest in everything outside, and everything around you seems to have lost contact with you. At this time, you have no motivation to do anything and you don't want to do it. In fact, in this situation, you can't do anything except continue playing games. Because in your current "space-time hypothesis", the only thing related to you when playing games. You worked in a company for five years. The work content has not changed, the interpersonal relationship has not changed, and my life has not changed. So in these five years, your "space-time hypothesis" about your future has been solidified and limited in the self-awareness given to you by this company and this position. This is commonly referred to as "losing sharpness" and "smoothing edges and corners". In essence, it is because in your space-time hypothesis, the world is only so large. No matter how big the world you see subjectively or through the Internet, your subconscious will not believe it - because in your space-time hypothesis, there is only such a big world related to you. In everything outside your solidified life situation, you subconsciously recognize those that have nothing to do with you. I have been consulted by more than a dozen people who have worked in a fixed unit for many years and feel that they have no hope in their life. They also want to make changes and breakthroughs, and also want to make new attempts, but they always dare not and can't take that step. I said I fully understand why you dare not step out, because you subconsciously do not regard the larger world as your own "space-time hypothesis". You are not in the larger world. Even if you travel to many places, you can't psychologically identify those situations as belonging to you. So for you, the larger world is just a situation that is familiar in rational cognition, but unfamiliar in subconscious and rejected by you. A person's "space-time hypothesis" determines his whole vision for his own future. What is contained in his own space-time hypothesis is recognized by him as having something to do with him. Whether this can be realized or not, as long as his space-time hypothesis contains something, he will be able to take action to pursue it. But if a person's space-time hypothesis is pale, narrow and insignificant, then his world and his life must be full of boredom, boredom and meaninglessness. When this person's space-time hypothesis does not even have himself, he completely loses hope for life, and depression arises from it. Because everyone's "space-time hypothesis" is hidden in the subconscious, it has never attracted our attention. But in fact, it is so important, because it is actually a map of our future development to some extent. We will constantly revise and re plan our development map through continuous experience and growth. It does mean that many of us will not be affected by the situation, but it does mean that many of us will be affected by the situation. A more mature attitude is to make your mind stronger and enable yourself to deal with various situations instead of being disturbed by situations. There is no mistake. We understand the concept of "space-time hypothesis", in fact, in order to enable us to get rid of the constraints of the situation and keep a clear mind without being affected by the situation. But the problem is that our minds need to be healthy and give us positive feedback in order to be healthy. Just like a child, he needs to be cared for by his parents and gradually have a healthy mind and physique before he can accept high-intensity exercise and become a strong man. The same is true of how we deal with ourselves and situations. Most of us have not experienced conscious cognitive training on the influence of situation, so we can't directly rely on our own cognition and willpower to resist the influence of situation. A more mature approach is to consciously change our external situation so that most of the situation can bring us positive feedback. Only when we are in a comfortable and healthy life situation can we solidify our "space-time hypothesis" into a healthy one, and then we can use our healthy and stable space-time hypothesis to control the environment. How to transform our living situation into a healthy and comfortable one? 1、 Expand the richness of your life situation. Like the example given at the beginning, you spend two days playing games in bed at home on weekends, which is a solidified situation. You need to let yourself go out for a walk from time to time, or simply don't play games at home and ask some friends out to play billiards, which is enriching your life situation; Or if you have to go to work every day, you can try to take different routes to the company every day and see the scenery on different roads; Clap with your girlfriend, don't always use those positions in those places, and try different environments and occasions; At this time, someone may ask: isn't that the possibility of trying more life? Is it necessary to involve any life situation, space-time hypothesis and so on? be necessary. When you understand the impact of each of us' space-time assumptions and life situations on us, you can expand the different possibilities of your life, which is completely different from what you do without understanding these things. Different understanding, different motivation, to do the same thing, the feedback he gives you is completely different. Just like practicing meditation, in order to make yourself just meditate for 20 minutes every day, and practice meditation based on your interest in meditation comprehension, not only the result, but also the experience of the process will be completely different for you. 2、 Stay away from life situations that always bring you negative feedback. Let me give a somewhat unreasonable example: there is a girl who always goes to a shop to buy clothes. But the clerk in that store had a very bad attitude towards her. Every time the girl went shopping, her experience was very bad. Moreover, because she often comes, those shop assistants taunt her every time. She is so earthy. She has no taste in choosing clothes. Today's dress is really rubbish. The girl is in great pain. But she still goes to that store to buy clothes every time. Others asked her why she went to that store when she was always insulted? The girl replied: because I'm used to going to that store. Others ask: can't you buy clothes in other stores? Just change to a regular shop? The girl hesitated for a long time and prevaricated: I'm too lazy to change; Maybe the attitude of the staff in the new store is just as bad; I'm not familiar with other stores. It's troublesome to change a new store; I believe anyone can see the absurdity of this example. But many people, whether or not in his life, repeat the same absurdity as this girl: a boyfriend who always hurts her, a job that is not ideal, a group of friends who always make fun of him, unreasonable control from his parents Because they lack the courage to change, they always put themselves in situations and relationships that will cause continuous harm to themselves. Onlookers bitterly hope that they can change and free themselves from pain. But often the parties themselves, but there are always thousands of reasons: no way, I love him, it is impossible to leave him; Although this job is not ideal, but in addition, I can't find a better one; Although those people always laugh at me, they are friends after all. I don't want to tear my face Everyone can only be responsible for his own life. Even if we will bear some pain, loss, and risk, it is always our own responsibility to free ourselves from continuous negative situations and relationships. It's not the situation and others that hurt you, but you choose to be hurt by others. Understand this, people can grow up. 3、 Create situations that give you positive feedback and solidify them as much as possible. Establish a high-quality relationship, keep a pet that sticks to you, transform the place where you live into a warm, comfortable and satisfying place, and have a drink in that style bar you like every day after work. These are all ways to actively transform your external situation. In fact, to influence ourselves by transforming the external environment is essentially to understand and realize that we are not completely independent and free to control our lives. There are too many uncontrollable factors in life that will affect us. What we need to do is to be aware of these uncontrollable factors and understand that they can affect our logic. In turn, using these logic, we will change from the affected to the active controller. Sober control of our life is the highest pursuit of our participation in the game of "Earth online".

A person's state will get worse and worse, essentially because his environment continues to give him negative feedback. Nowadays, many people are particularly keen on "time management" and "personal improvement". However, all these attempts are impossible to achieve without a basic element. Many people who came to me for advice had their own problems and pains. For example, some people felt that they were procrastinating, some had problems with their interpersonal relationships, and some felt that their life was stagnant and had no fun. They also made a lot of efforts to solve these problems, such as learning the methods of time management and adjusting interpersonal relationships, Do things that make them "happy" and so on. But so far, their efforts have been largely ineffective. As for the reason, it comes down to the basic element I mentioned earlier - "situational management". Man is the product of situation. All our cognition and thinking will be affected by our situation. We constantly get feedback from the external situation, constantly get hints from the external situation, and constantly change our mood because of the changes of the external situation. In fact, many people don't realize that each of us has an implicit "space-time hypothesis". This spatiotemporal hypothesis will constantly change with our current situation. But it will also be "solidified" with our solidified behavior patterns and cognitive patterns. To take the simplest example, you lie in bed playing games for two days, but if you go out for a five minute walk, your mental state is completely different in these two situations. When you play games in bed, your "space-time hypothesis" of the world will become narrower and narrower, and you will pay less and less attention to what you want and what you think is related to you. When this narrowness is reduced to the two small "particles" of you and the game, your implied "space-time hypothesis" is equivalent to nonexistence. At this time, you lose interest in everything outside, and everything around you seems to have lost contact with you. At this time, you have no motivation to do anything and you don't want to do it. In fact, in this situation, you can't do anything except continue playing games. Because in your current "space-time hypothesis", the only thing related to you when playing games. You worked in a company for five years. The work content has not changed, the interpersonal relationship has not changed, and my life has not changed. So in these five years, your "space-time hypothesis" about your future has been solidified and limited in the self-awareness given to you by this company and this position. This is commonly referred to as "losing sharpness" and "smoothing edges and corners". In essence, it is because in your space-time hypothesis, the world is only so large. No matter how big the world you see subjectively or through the Internet, your subconscious will not believe it - because in your space-time hypothesis, there is only such a big world related to you. In everything outside your solidified life situation, you subconsciously recognize those that have nothing to do with you. I have been consulted by more than a dozen people who have worked in a fixed unit for many years and feel that they have no hope in their life. They also want to make changes and breakthroughs, and also want to make new attempts, but they always dare not and can't take that step. I said I fully understand why you dare not step out, because you subconsciously do not regard the larger world as your own "space-time hypothesis". You are not in the larger world. Even if you travel to many places, you can't psychologically identify those situations as belonging to you. So for you, the larger world is just a situation that is familiar in rational cognition, but unfamiliar in subconscious and rejected by you. A person's "space-time hypothesis" determines his whole vision for his own future. What is contained in his own space-time hypothesis is recognized by him as having something to do with him. Whether this can be realized or not, as long as his space-time hypothesis contains something, he will be able to take action to pursue it. But if a person's space-time hypothesis is pale, narrow and insignificant, then his world and his life must be full of boredom, boredom and meaninglessness. When this person's space-time hypothesis does not even have himself, he completely loses hope for life, and depression arises from it. Because everyone's "space-time hypothesis" is hidden in the subconscious, it has never attracted our attention. But in fact, it is so important, because it is actually a map of our future development to some extent. We will constantly revise and re plan our development map through continuous experience and growth. It does mean that many of us will not be affected by the situation, but it does mean that many of us will be affected by the situation. A more mature attitude is to make your mind stronger and enable yourself to deal with various situations instead of being disturbed by situations. There is no mistake. We understand the concept of "space-time hypothesis", in fact, in order to enable us to get rid of the constraints of the situation and keep a clear mind without being affected by the situation. But the problem is that our minds need to be healthy and give us positive feedback in order to be healthy. Just like a child, he needs to be cared for by his parents and gradually have a healthy mind and physique before he can accept high-intensity exercise and become a strong man. The same is true of how we deal with ourselves and situations. Most of us have not experienced conscious cognitive training on the influence of situation, so we can't directly rely on our own cognition and willpower to resist the influence of situation. A more mature approach is to consciously change our external situation so that most of the situation can bring us positive feedback. Only when we are in a comfortable and healthy life situation can we solidify our "space-time hypothesis" into a healthy one, and then we can use our healthy and stable space-time hypothesis to control the environment. How to transform our living situation into a healthy and comfortable one? 1、 Expand the richness of your life situation. Like the example given at the beginning, you spend two days playing games in bed at home on weekends, which is a solidified situation. You need to let yourself go out for a walk from time to time, or simply don't play games at home and ask some friends out to play billiards, which is enriching your life situation; Or if you have to go to work every day, you can try to take different routes to the company every day and see the scenery on different roads; Clap with your girlfriend, don't always use those positions in those places, and try different environments and occasions; At this time, someone may ask: isn't that the possibility of trying more life? Is it necessary to involve any life situation, space-time hypothesis and so on? be necessary. When you understand the impact of each of us' space-time assumptions and life situations on us, you can expand the different possibilities of your life, which is completely different from what you do without understanding these things. Different understanding, different motivation, to do the same thing, the feedback he gives you is completely different. Just like practicing meditation, in order to make yourself just meditate for 20 minutes every day, and practice meditation based on your interest in meditation comprehension, not only the result, but also the experience of the process will be completely different for you. 2、 Stay away from life situations that always bring you negative feedback. Let me give a somewhat unreasonable example: there is a girl who always goes to a shop to buy clothes. But the clerk in that store had a very bad attitude towards her. Every time the girl went shopping, her experience was very bad. Moreover, because she often comes, those shop assistants taunt her every time. She is so earthy. She has no taste in choosing clothes. Today's dress is really rubbish. The girl is in great pain. But she still goes to that store to buy clothes every time. Others asked her why she went to that store when she was always insulted? The girl replied: because I'm used to going to that store. Others ask: can't you buy clothes in other stores? Just change to a regular shop? The girl hesitated for a long time and prevaricated: I'm too lazy to change; Maybe the attitude of the staff in the new store is just as bad; I'm not familiar with other stores. It's troublesome to change a new store; I believe anyone can see the absurdity of this example. But many people, whether or not in his life, repeat the same absurdity as this girl: a boyfriend who always hurts her, a job that is not ideal, a group of friends who always make fun of him, unreasonable control from his parents Because they lack the courage to change, they always put themselves in situations and relationships that will cause continuous harm to themselves. Onlookers bitterly hope that they can change and free themselves from pain. But often the parties themselves, but there are always thousands of reasons: no way, I love him, it is impossible to leave him; Although this job is not ideal, but in addition, I can't find a better one; Although those people always laugh at me, they are friends after all. I don't want to tear my face Everyone can only be responsible for his own life. Even if we will bear some pain, loss, and risk, it is always our own responsibility to free ourselves from continuous negative situations and relationships. It's not the situation and others that hurt you, but you choose to be hurt by others. Understand this, people can grow up. 3、 Create situations that give you positive feedback and solidify them as much as possible. Establish a high-quality relationship, keep a pet that sticks to you, transform the place where you live into a warm, comfortable and satisfying place, and have a drink in that style bar you like every day after work. These are all ways to actively transform your external situation. In fact, to influence ourselves by transforming the external environment is essentially to understand and realize that we are not completely independent and free to control our lives. There are too many uncontrollable factors in life that will affect us. What we need to do is to be aware of these uncontrollable factors and understand that they can affect our logic. In turn, using these logic, we will change from the affected to the active controller. Sober control of our life is the highest pursuit of our participation in the game of "Earth online".