Love comes from misunderstanding rather than understanding. I feel more and more that this discovery is not new, because someone said a long time ago, "love begins with misunderstanding and dies of understanding". The reason why I repeat the old tune is that I reread les miserables and find that Hugo once deeply expounded this truth. Jean Valjean and his daughter Cosette lived a life of escape. They could only go for a walk in the park at a fixed time. His daughter carried his father's arm or accompanied his father on the park bench. This in itself is very eye-catching. The father is nervous about the "malicious" young men around him, while Chunxin's daughter always wants to escape his father's supervision, put her lover's arm on her arm and hide in her lover's arms. The revolutionary youth Marius noticed Cosette. For him, this is a mysterious father and daughter. What attracts him is not only the mysterious smell of the father and daughter, but also the strongly suggestive aura of the beautiful girl eager to courtship. Marius was enchanted and went to the park every day, trying to get close to the girl. Their medium of communication is air, that is, they have fallen in love with him before he confessed to her. Young people's love is easy. In this way, they listen to thunder in silence and swear Mountain Alliance in imagination. When a good dream comes true, the next thing is to use reality to make up for the love attic previously established in imagination and turn those imagination into reality one by one. Hugo used a lot of space in describing the mutual feelings between two young people, but the point is not here. The point is that he expressed his view of love through this story. Hugo said roughly that it is important for a young woman to fall in love with the first young man. She knew nothing about him. Just by virtue of appearance or communication between eyebrows and eyes, she secretly promised that they would burst into tsunami like feelings as long as they had the right opportunity. The quality of this young man determines the quality of her first love and will change her direction of life to a great extent. If you meet honest people, you will live a plain and stable life. If you meet hooligans, you will be immersed in regret and depression all day I remember reading this story and Hugo's feeling. I meditated for a long time. On the one hand, I admire Hugo, who is worthy of being a master. He can clearly explain the essence of love. On the other hand, I put myself in the position of a man - how much will a man be changed by love? When they realize that they fall in love with a woman, will they feel that they are turning a corner in one's life? Will he feel a heavy responsibility for changing one's fate? For most young men, love is love. They don't think so much at the beginning of love. Their actions are more than their thoughts. During this period, even if they spend half of their time thinking about how to live with her, fuel, rice, oil and salt, quarrel and have children, I'm afraid their enthusiasm for love will be reduced by half. Maybe that's how God arranged it. Love is an encounter. When a man and a woman meet, the first instinct is to "fire", rather than spend time calculating gains and losses and predicting the process and outcome. The "war fruits" finalized in a short time will be summarized in the future. Anyway, there is plenty of time after marriage. This is not true. When married people quarrel, they quarrel about the point when they are in love. Do you respect me, let me lose you, or do I lose you? Most people's love is produced in a hurry, which is actually very good. Most people's love begins with a misunderstanding, but it doesn't necessarily end with understanding, because among us, 70 or 80% still pay for this misunderstanding. Because of the promises we made when we were young, the stupid words we said when we were in love, and some common wishes in the past, we forbear ourselves and complain constantly. This is not that we can't give up someone, but that we are willing to spend more time testing the gold content of our commitments.

Love comes from misunderstanding rather than understanding. I feel more and more that this discovery is not new, because someone said a long time ago, "love begins with misunderstanding and dies of understanding". The reason why I repeat the old tune is that I reread les miserables and find that Hugo once deeply expounded this truth. Jean Valjean and his daughter Cosette lived a life of escape. They could only go for a walk in the park at a fixed time. His daughter carried his father's arm or accompanied his father on the park bench. This in itself is very eye-catching. The father is nervous about the "malicious" young men around him, while Chunxin's daughter always wants to escape his father's supervision, put her lover's arm on her arm and hide in her lover's arms. The revolutionary youth Marius noticed Cosette. For him, this is a mysterious father and daughter. What attracts him is not only the mysterious smell of the father and daughter, but also the strongly suggestive aura of the beautiful girl eager to courtship. Marius was enchanted and went to the park every day, trying to get close to the girl. Their medium of communication is air, that is, they have fallen in love with him before he confessed to her. Young people's love is easy. In this way, they listen to thunder in silence and swear Mountain Alliance in imagination. When a good dream comes true, the next thing is to use reality to make up for the love attic previously established in imagination and turn those imagination into reality one by one. Hugo used a lot of space in describing the mutual feelings between two young people, but the point is not here. The point is that he expressed his view of love through this story. Hugo said roughly that it is important for a young woman to fall in love with the first young man. She knew nothing about him. Just by virtue of appearance or communication between eyebrows and eyes, she secretly promised that they would burst into tsunami like feelings as long as they had the right opportunity. The quality of this young man determines the quality of her first love and will change her direction of life to a great extent. If you meet honest people, you will live a plain and stable life. If you meet hooligans, you will be immersed in regret and depression all day I remember reading this story and Hugo's feeling. I meditated for a long time. On the one hand, I admire Hugo, who is worthy of being a master. He can clearly explain the essence of love. On the other hand, I put myself in the position of a man - how much will a man be changed by love? When they realize that they fall in love with a woman, will they feel that they are turning a corner in one's life? Will he feel a heavy responsibility for changing one's fate? For most young men, love is love. They don't think so much at the beginning of love. Their actions are more than their thoughts. During this period, even if they spend half of their time thinking about how to live with her, fuel, rice, oil and salt, quarrel and have children, I'm afraid their enthusiasm for love will be reduced by half. Maybe that's how God arranged it. Love is an encounter. When a man and a woman meet, the first instinct is to "fire", rather than spend time calculating gains and losses and predicting the process and outcome. The "war fruits" finalized in a short time will be summarized in the future. Anyway, there is plenty of time after marriage. This is not true. When married people quarrel, they quarrel about the point when they are in love. Do you respect me, let me lose you, or do I lose you? Most people's love is produced in a hurry, which is actually very good. Most people's love begins with a misunderstanding, but it doesn't necessarily end with understanding, because among us, 70 or 80% still pay for this misunderstanding. Because of the promises we made when we were young, the stupid words we said when we were in love, and some common wishes in the past, we forbear ourselves and complain constantly. This is not that we can't give up someone, but that we are willing to spend more time testing the gold content of our commitments.