I have a college classmate. When I first met her, I just thought she was a good character. She would take care of people and not lose her temper. The key is to keep calm. After in-depth exchanges, she told me, "in fact, the main reason for my good character is my inferiority complex. I am afraid of offending anyone. Therefore, I can only be good to everyone." I asked, "why do you feel inferior? Do you study so well?" She said with some embarrassment, "my family is very poor. I borrowed all the money from college. I can't eat well and wear well. Especially in college, I feel very humble when I see so many bright people." Also, almost everyone in the school has a laptop, and most of them already have a smart phone, but she has no computer or mobile phone. The only way she can contact the outside world is hearsay. The advantage of this is that she can devote herself to her studies, and she has done quite well. She can get a national scholarship every year. The first time I heard about her scholarship, I was even happier than her. I thought to myself that she could use the money to buy an ordinary computer or a smart phone, so that she could get online and understand the outside world. But the result was that a year passed and she didn't buy anything. One day, I asked her, "how did you spend your scholarship?" She looked surprised and said, "how can I spend it? It's too late to pay back the bill. Besides the tuition, my parents have to pay back the money they borrowed in the past." If you think about it, it's hard to borrow money. It's a good plan to pay it back first. The next year, when the scholarship was granted, her life was still not improving. I was too busy to ask her how she spent her money. She said proudly, "my brother got married and was short of money to buy a house. I gave him more than 10000 yuan." I said angrily, "if your brother doesn't have your 10000 yuan, can he afford to buy a house?" She said: "of course I can afford it, but I have to borrow it from others. I have money. I just give it to him first, but I don't have to pay it back." I didn't ask her about the scholarship again in the third year. In her senior year, she decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination. Learning is so excellent, but there are no other skills. It seems that there is only one way to take the postgraduate entrance examination. The postgraduate entrance examination needs to buy the real questions of the school. Because the school has good confidentiality, there are not many and incomplete online questions. You can buy them through some counseling institutions, but the prices are much more expensive. She said to everyone she met with a sad face, "what should I do? I can't find the real problem." Others advised her, "it's easy to spend twoorthree yuan on one set." Every time she said, "it's too expensive to buy." So, she spent more than a month to go to the school's electronic reading room every day and found all the information in 708. She thought it was a very fulfilling thing. She saved twoorthree yuan in a month! One's deceased father grind ends, her result is on the edge, can wait for second round exam notice to come down only. Normally, at this time, you have to keep staring at the computer, refresh the page, and see if there is any latest news. But she doesn't have a computer, which is very inconvenient. She can only go to the computer room of the school when she is free. On that day, the school sent out the information about the adjustment within the school, but the information was sent out at two o'clock in the afternoon, so you have to send the information before four o'clock, that is to say, you must complete it within two hours. After a nap, when I woke up, I saw the news on the postgraduate entrance examination website. It was already 3:30 at that time. I called her and she said she was in the study room and didn't see it. Then, I gave her a phone call from the admissions office and asked her to sign up first. Unexpectedly, the quota was full. Even if the score was higher, it would not work because it was late. She cried darkly, complaining that the time given by the school was too short, but she didn't think that it was more important to get information in time than to learn more knowledge at that key node. Fortunately, because of her high scores, she has several good schools to adjust. She chose one from Beijing, but was brushed down during the interview. I said, you can try a few more. There are so many good schools to go to. Her first reaction was: "the trip to Beijing cost 500 or 600 yuan, but it failed. What should I do if I go to another school and spend money and fail to pass the exam?" What logic is this? In front of the future and money, her first consideration is money. At this time, she seems to have forgotten the burning the midnight oil for a year and the wasted high scores. At that time, I thought that maybe her desire to go to graduate school was not so strong, and giving up might not be a bad thing. Before graduation, she had been preparing for the examination of her native teacher. When chatting, I said: "it's good to be a teacher, which can solve the burden of the family." she, who has always been steady, suddenly said: "can I take the postgraduate entrance examination while working?" I was surprised, "since you wanted to go to graduate school so much, why didn't you choose a school at that time? Or, you could just stay in school for half a year and prepare for the exam wholeheartedly. When you work, how can you still have time to review?" She still answered me with money, "I have to spend money at school. After becoming a teacher, I will be paid. I can support myself and take the exam again." Think about it. If you don't have money, you're really embarrassed to spend it at home after graduation. Then one day, her wallet was stolen. I asked, "is your bank card in it?" She said yes. I casually asked, "is there any money in it?" She said, "yes, but the thief should not be able to take it out." "Why?" "The fivethousand yuan in it, which I have saved on a regular basis, is not easy to withdraw." Then, I instantly petrified. If fivethousand yuan is not deposited regularly, if fivethousand yuan can be spent, then you don't have to spend a month looking for information. If you use this month to prepare for the exam, you may get a few more points; You can go to a few more schools for re examination. Maybe you can go to a better school than your first volunteer; You don't have to ask for money from your family. You can continue to prepare for the exam in school for half a year, devote yourself to it, and succeed at one time; Of course, you can buy a smart phone for even a few hundred yuan, refresh the web page, and you won't miss the adjustment information. In my hometown, such people are "afraid of poverty". Because I am poor, I always think about money first. As everyone knows, the more you think about money first, the more you lose the chance to make more money. I also have a good friend who is much poorer than her. She doesn't study as well as get as many scholarships as she does. But he invested all the money in himself. That year, he decided to take an examination of Beijing Film Academy. He took all his money out and went to Beijing Film Studio for a very expensive tutorial class. He took the train between the school and Beijing more than a dozen times, and then passed the exam once. Now, he pays at least 1000 yuan to write a film review. After a year, he can basically have the remaining money to supply his family. Many people say that Xiangbei film and Chinese opera schools need to be attended by the children of rich families, but I, a very poor good friend, am not afraid at all. I just rely on my own efforts to complete my magnificent turn. Poor people always talk about the unfairness of the world, but in the final analysis, it is the result of their own choices. How to make the greatest achievements on the limited material basis is what we really want to think about, not just how to enrich material wealth. No matter how rich a person is, if he doesn't have a big pattern, he will also be in decline. The size of the pattern, to a large extent, determines the direction of our life. To win more with less is the most important thing. Making money is much more important than saving money. "Money first" is certainly a kind of poverty thinking, but there is also a deep-rooted poverty thinking mode, that is, "hate the rich". Some time ago, there was a post circulating on the Internet. A girl complained about another rich girl in the dormitory. The main dissatisfaction listed was: "when I was a freshman, I used an apple computer and an apple mobile phone, which was simply showing off my wealth; my boyfriend drove a car to pick her up, which was shameless; after shopping in the mall, he put the shopping bag on the table, as if he had deliberately shown it to us; spending money was like running water, and the price of a piece of clothing caught up with our one month's living expenses..." The whole post was full of vicious words against the girl, releasing all kinds of feelings of hating the rich. The poor didn't like what the rich said. It seemed to be a matter of course. (www.lz13.cn) the girl who is in college may not know that after graduation, she will meet more and richer people. Sometimes, he may be your neighbor, your colleague, or even a classmate who was not as good as you before. How can she live that day? If your attitude is wrong, then everything in your eyes must be better. If we change our mindset, will life be much better. For example, she uses Apple computers and mobile phones. Can we take this opportunity to learn more about jobs' achievements, what interesting apps are there, and how they are different from other brands? It seems to me that it is a good thing for a person in the dormitory to use mobile phones of different brands, which is better than everyone using Samsung; For example, all her clothes are famous brands. Can we girls also learn about various brands of women's clothing? Maybe we can use that brand of evening dress when we go to the party in the future; Another example is that she wears delicate smoky makeup every day. We can also learn from her. After college, few people are willing to teach you this. Since life has made such arrangements, it is better to learn than hate. Everyone has a good side. It is ability to learn something nutritious to oneself from different people. Poverty can easily tilt a person's eyes, but poverty can also easily shape a person. The key is not to immerse yourself in poverty and think about everything with poverty thinking. At any time, we should remember that the only way to get rid of poverty is to learn from all kinds of things and different people. It is more important to provide for ourselves than anything else.

I have a college classmate. When I first met her, I just thought she was a good character. She would take care of people and not lose her temper. The key is to keep calm. After in-depth exchanges, she told me, "in fact, the main reason for my good character is my inferiority complex. I am afraid of offending anyone. Therefore, I can only be good to everyone." I asked, "why do you feel inferior? Do you study so well?" She said with some embarrassment, "my family is very poor. I borrowed all the money from college. I can't eat well and wear well. Especially in college, I feel very humble when I see so many bright people." Also, almost everyone in the school has a laptop, and most of them already have a smart phone, but she has no computer or mobile phone. The only way she can contact the outside world is hearsay. The advantage of this is that she can devote herself to her studies, and she has done quite well. She can get a national scholarship every year. The first time I heard about her scholarship, I was even happier than her. I thought to myself that she could use the money to buy an ordinary computer or a smart phone, so that she could get online and understand the outside world. But the result was that a year passed and she didn't buy anything. One day, I asked her, "how did you spend your scholarship?" She looked surprised and said, "how can I spend it? It's too late to pay back the bill. Besides the tuition, my parents have to pay back the money they borrowed in the past." If you think about it, it's hard to borrow money. It's a good plan to pay it back first. The next year, when the scholarship was granted, her life was still not improving. I was too busy to ask her how she spent her money. She said proudly, "my brother got married and was short of money to buy a house. I gave him more than 10000 yuan." I said angrily, "if your brother doesn't have your 10000 yuan, can he afford to buy a house?" She said: "of course I can afford it, but I have to borrow it from others. I have money. I just give it to him first, but I don't have to pay it back." I didn't ask her about the scholarship again in the third year. In her senior year, she decided to take the postgraduate entrance examination. Learning is so excellent, but there are no other skills. It seems that there is only one way to take the postgraduate entrance examination. The postgraduate entrance examination needs to buy the real questions of the school. Because the school has good confidentiality, there are not many and incomplete online questions. You can buy them through some counseling institutions, but the prices are much more expensive. She said to everyone she met with a sad face, "what should I do? I can't find the real problem." Others advised her, "it's easy to spend twoorthree yuan on one set." Every time she said, "it's too expensive to buy." So, she spent more than a month to go to the school's electronic reading room every day and found all the information in 708. She thought it was a very fulfilling thing. She saved twoorthree yuan in a month! One's deceased father grind ends, her result is on the edge, can wait for second round exam notice to come down only. Normally, at this time, you have to keep staring at the computer, refresh the page, and see if there is any latest news. But she doesn't have a computer, which is very inconvenient. She can only go to the computer room of the school when she is free. On that day, the school sent out the information about the adjustment within the school, but the information was sent out at two o'clock in the afternoon, so you have to send the information before four o'clock, that is to say, you must complete it within two hours. After a nap, when I woke up, I saw the news on the postgraduate entrance examination website. It was already 3:30 at that time. I called her and she said she was in the study room and didn't see it. Then, I gave her a phone call from the admissions office and asked her to sign up first. Unexpectedly, the quota was full. Even if the score was higher, it would not work because it was late. She cried darkly, complaining that the time given by the school was too short, but she didn't think that it was more important to get information in time than to learn more knowledge at that key node. Fortunately, because of her high scores, she has several good schools to adjust. She chose one from Beijing, but was brushed down during the interview. I said, you can try a few more. There are so many good schools to go to. Her first reaction was: "the trip to Beijing cost 500 or 600 yuan, but it failed. What should I do if I go to another school and spend money and fail to pass the exam?" What logic is this? In front of the future and money, her first consideration is money. At this time, she seems to have forgotten the burning the midnight oil for a year and the wasted high scores. At that time, I thought that maybe her desire to go to graduate school was not so strong, and giving up might not be a bad thing. Before graduation, she had been preparing for the examination of her native teacher. When chatting, I said: "it's good to be a teacher, which can solve the burden of the family." she, who has always been steady, suddenly said: "can I take the postgraduate entrance examination while working?" I was surprised, "since you wanted to go to graduate school so much, why didn't you choose a school at that time? Or, you could just stay in school for half a year and prepare for the exam wholeheartedly. When you work, how can you still have time to review?" She still answered me with money, "I have to spend money at school. After becoming a teacher, I will be paid. I can support myself and take the exam again." Think about it. If you don't have money, you're really embarrassed to spend it at home after graduation. Then one day, her wallet was stolen. I asked, "is your bank card in it?" She said yes. I casually asked, "is there any money in it?" She said, "yes, but the thief should not be able to take it out." "Why?" "The fivethousand yuan in it, which I have saved on a regular basis, is not easy to withdraw." Then, I instantly petrified. If fivethousand yuan is not deposited regularly, if fivethousand yuan can be spent, then you don't have to spend a month looking for information. If you use this month to prepare for the exam, you may get a few more points; You can go to a few more schools for re examination. Maybe you can go to a better school than your first volunteer; You don't have to ask for money from your family. You can continue to prepare for the exam in school for half a year, devote yourself to it, and succeed at one time; Of course, you can buy a smart phone for even a few hundred yuan, refresh the web page, and you won't miss the adjustment information. In my hometown, such people are "afraid of poverty". Because I am poor, I always think about money first. As everyone knows, the more you think about money first, the more you lose the chance to make more money. I also have a good friend who is much poorer than her. She doesn't study as well as get as many scholarships as she does. But he invested all the money in himself. That year, he decided to take an examination of Beijing Film Academy. He took all his money out and went to Beijing Film Studio for a very expensive tutorial class. He took the train between the school and Beijing more than a dozen times, and then passed the exam once. Now, he pays at least 1000 yuan to write a film review. After a year, he can basically have the remaining money to supply his family. Many people say that Xiangbei film and Chinese opera schools need to be attended by the children of rich families, but I, a very poor good friend, am not afraid at all. I just rely on my own efforts to complete my magnificent turn. Poor people always talk about the unfairness of the world, but in the final analysis, it is the result of their own choices. How to make the greatest achievements on the limited material basis is what we really want to think about, not just how to enrich material wealth. No matter how rich a person is, if he doesn't have a big pattern, he will also be in decline. The size of the pattern, to a large extent, determines the direction of our life. To win more with less is the most important thing. Making money is much more important than saving money. "Money first" is certainly a kind of poverty thinking, but there is also a deep-rooted poverty thinking mode, that is, "hate the rich". Some time ago, there was a post circulating on the Internet. A girl complained about another rich girl in the dormitory. The main dissatisfaction listed was: "when I was a freshman, I used an apple computer and an apple mobile phone, which was simply showing off my wealth; my boyfriend drove a car to pick her up, which was shameless; after shopping in the mall, he put the shopping bag on the table, as if he had deliberately shown it to us; spending money was like running water, and the price of a piece of clothing caught up with our one month's living expenses..." The whole post was full of vicious words against the girl, releasing all kinds of feelings of hating the rich. The poor didn't like what the rich said. It seemed to be a matter of course. (www.lz13.cn) the girl who is in college may not know that after graduation, she will meet more and richer people. Sometimes, he may be your neighbor, your colleague, or even a classmate who was not as good as you before. How can she live that day? If your attitude is wrong, then everything in your eyes must be better. If we change our mindset, will life be much better. For example, she uses Apple computers and mobile phones. Can we take this opportunity to learn more about jobs' achievements, what interesting apps are there, and how they are different from other brands? It seems to me that it is a good thing for a person in the dormitory to use mobile phones of different brands, which is better than everyone using Samsung; For example, all her clothes are famous brands. Can we girls also learn about various brands of women's clothing? Maybe we can use that brand of evening dress when we go to the party in the future; Another example is that she wears delicate smoky makeup every day. We can also learn from her. After college, few people are willing to teach you this. Since life has made such arrangements, it is better to learn than hate. Everyone has a good side. It is ability to learn something nutritious to oneself from different people. Poverty can easily tilt a person's eyes, but poverty can also easily shape a person. The key is not to immerse yourself in poverty and think about everything with poverty thinking. At any time, we should remember that the only way to get rid of poverty is to learn from all kinds of things and different people. It is more important to provide for ourselves than anything else.