Psychology despises success studies, not because the books of soul chicken soup sell less well than those of success studies. Soul chicken soup can be regarded as "once there is no success learning", which is similar to success learning. Success learning is hateful because it robs patients from psychotherapy. A person with mental illness should have come to see a doctor, but he was fooled by the successful student who learned to dance like a giant, so he didn't come. If you jump well, it's even harder to see a doctor if you don't. Are you saying that successful people have psychological problems? No, I said that most successful people are successful because they have psychological problems. If you feel you have psychological problems, don't feel inferior. You may become a successful person; If you are too old to succeed, don't blame yourself. You may just be mentally healthy. Most of the success in the world belongs to the people who ask themselves to be successful. Such a belief can give them perseverance and the courage to self abuse. Who will demand that he must succeed? It's the people who can't get along without success. In such a big world, success is only the reason for its existence. What is it if it is not sick? For those senior officials, entrepreneurs and public figures who have committed suicide, if you know how narrow their life path is, you may understand. A few years ago, there was a suicide preparation incident in a top university in China. The student had stood on the roof of the building and was ready to jump. After being rescued, he asked him why he jumped off the building. He said that he estimated that he could not get full marks in the GRE exam. Once something is connected with survival, it is extremely difficult. If a primitive man who has been hungry for three days finds a big bear standing in front of him, he will climb up a tree. This is the energy inspired by the fear of death. Anxiety can be seen as a mild, chronic fear. For those who closely associate success with the meaning of existence, they can turn their whole body into excitement under strong existential anxiety, just like primitive people chased by big bears. He really jumped up faster than others in a period of time. Who wants to be successful? Those who lack parental acceptance will bear the brunt, and those who are simply abandoned by their parents. For example, Steve Jobs, everyone knows that he lives to change the world. However, as the world, have we asked him to help change it? From the psychological point of view, he desperately wants to change and desperately finds that there is only one fact that cannot be changed, that is, his life experience. His anger at this fact prompted him to change everything except this. He said: Dad, it was a mistake for you to abandon me. The rise and fall of yin and Yang in Chinese schools can also be explained by this. It is not that boys are generally dumber than girls, but that girls are generally not the children their parents want. In order to tell their parents that you were right to give birth to me, girls have to force themselves to succeed, just like jobs. Success also comes from inferiority complex. Because they are poor, ugly, or weak, it is not their parents who refuse to accept them, it is they who refuse to accept themselves. Adler, the founder of the theory of "inferiority and Transcendence", is a disabled person. He can never surpass his big brother, who is energetic and fit. As a result, he became the founder of psychology. There are more cases of those who struggle to become rich because of their poor families in childhood. And those books that you read because you are ugly will eventually become talent and even money. Look at those well-dressed local taxi brothers in Beijing who are loved by their parents. Since childhood, they have nothing to be ashamed of, regardless of whether they are full of sunshine in the heart of the taxi Star City. When consulting students in Colleges and universities, I heard more than one boy say that as long as they can succeed, they don't care about becoming abnormal people. When they say this, the counselor will draw a cool smile in his heart. Because I have seen a lot of the kind of people they want to be when I am consulting people in social institutions. There are two personality disorders that are recognized by the psychological world as the most likely to make a fortune and succeed. One is compulsion and the other is narcissism. In the extremely successful people, these two characteristics are almost one of them. The former will be very painful, while the latter will cause great pain to the people around. The former is so painful that they are willing to exchange all their success for the elimination of symptoms. For the latter, the adverse events caused by their suffering to others will also damage their success. For most people who want to succeed, what they want is not success itself, but the love promised by success. They subconsciously want love, but consciously tell themselves that they just want to succeed, or use love to price success. This is because, in fact, they subconsciously do not believe that success can really solve the problem of love. Some things that bring success to a person, such as using oneself and others as machines, giving up meaningful real life, cheating, emotional isolation, etc., are likely to make a person useless in love. He thought that there was a mountain called success between himself and love. He went through a lot of hardships and found that there was only a white fog behind the mountain. Is there a successful person with mental health? yes , we have. Those are self fulfilling people. They are just curious about the world and themselves. They want to know how much honey is hidden in the sugar jar of the world, and what kind of plant this seed will eventually grow into. They also expect success, but they don't really care about the outcome. Just like the children who sweat like rain playing with mud in the scorching sun, they focus on playing with mud and will also drop their shovels to beat butterflies flying by. Finally, they built a brilliant mud castle. This is success.

Psychology despises success studies, not because the books of soul chicken soup sell less well than those of success studies. Soul chicken soup can be regarded as "once there is no success learning", which is similar to success learning. Success learning is hateful because it robs patients from psychotherapy. A person with mental illness should have come to see a doctor, but he was fooled by the successful student who learned to dance like a giant, so he didn't come. If you jump well, it's even harder to see a doctor if you don't. Are you saying that successful people have psychological problems? No, I said that most successful people are successful because they have psychological problems. If you feel you have psychological problems, don't feel inferior. You may become a successful person; If you are too old to succeed, don't blame yourself. You may just be mentally healthy. Most of the success in the world belongs to the people who ask themselves to be successful. Such a belief can give them perseverance and the courage to self abuse. Who will demand that he must succeed? It's the people who can't get along without success. In such a big world, success is only the reason for its existence. What is it if it is not sick? For those senior officials, entrepreneurs and public figures who have committed suicide, if you know how narrow their life path is, you may understand. A few years ago, there was a suicide preparation incident in a top university in China. The student had stood on the roof of the building and was ready to jump. After being rescued, he asked him why he jumped off the building. He said that he estimated that he could not get full marks in the GRE exam. Once something is connected with survival, it is extremely difficult. If a primitive man who has been hungry for three days finds a big bear standing in front of him, he will climb up a tree. This is the energy inspired by the fear of death. Anxiety can be seen as a mild, chronic fear. For those who closely associate success with the meaning of existence, they can turn their whole body into excitement under strong existential anxiety, just like primitive people chased by big bears. He really jumped up faster than others in a period of time. Who wants to be successful? Those who lack parental acceptance will bear the brunt, and those who are simply abandoned by their parents. For example, Steve Jobs, everyone knows that he lives to change the world. However, as the world, have we asked him to help change it? From the psychological point of view, he desperately wants to change and desperately finds that there is only one fact that cannot be changed, that is, his life experience. His anger at this fact prompted him to change everything except this. He said: Dad, it was a mistake for you to abandon me. The rise and fall of yin and Yang in Chinese schools can also be explained by this. It is not that boys are generally dumber than girls, but that girls are generally not the children their parents want. In order to tell their parents that you were right to give birth to me, girls have to force themselves to succeed, just like jobs. Success also comes from inferiority complex. Because they are poor, ugly, or weak, it is not their parents who refuse to accept them, it is they who refuse to accept themselves. Adler, the founder of the theory of "inferiority and Transcendence", is a disabled person. He can never surpass his big brother, who is energetic and fit. As a result, he became the founder of psychology. There are more cases of those who struggle to become rich because of their poor families in childhood. And those books that you read because you are ugly will eventually become talent and even money. Look at those well-dressed local taxi brothers in Beijing who are loved by their parents. Since childhood, they have nothing to be ashamed of, regardless of whether they are full of sunshine in the heart of the taxi Star City. When consulting students in Colleges and universities, I heard more than one boy say that as long as they can succeed, they don't care about becoming abnormal people. When they say this, the counselor will draw a cool smile in his heart. Because I have seen a lot of the kind of people they want to be when I am consulting people in social institutions. There are two personality disorders that are recognized by the psychological world as the most likely to make a fortune and succeed. One is compulsion and the other is narcissism. In the extremely successful people, these two characteristics are almost one of them. The former will be very painful, while the latter will cause great pain to the people around. The former is so painful that they are willing to exchange all their success for the elimination of symptoms. For the latter, the adverse events caused by their suffering to others will also damage their success. For most people who want to succeed, what they want is not success itself, but the love promised by success. They subconsciously want love, but consciously tell themselves that they just want to succeed, or use love to price success. This is because, in fact, they subconsciously do not believe that success can really solve the problem of love. Some things that bring success to a person, such as using oneself and others as machines, giving up meaningful real life, cheating, emotional isolation, etc., are likely to make a person useless in love. He thought that there was a mountain called success between himself and love. He went through a lot of hardships and found that there was only a white fog behind the mountain. Is there a successful person with mental health? yes , we have. Those are self fulfilling people. They are just curious about the world and themselves. They want to know how much honey is hidden in the sugar jar of the world, and what kind of plant this seed will eventually grow into. They also expect success, but they don't really care about the outcome. Just like the children who sweat like rain playing with mud in the scorching sun, they focus on playing with mud and will also drop their shovels to beat butterflies flying by. Finally, they built a brilliant mud castle. This is success.