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One day, a friend came excitedly to share his good mood with me: "Meiya, I started running." "How long have you been running?" "Before long, I got my annual card in a fitness center." "How many times have you run?" Listening to my question, my friend suddenly felt a little embarrassed, scratched his head and said, "I've only been there once after three months." My tortoise hair temperament comes up, and I like preaching: "in fact, it's really unnecessary to do fitness cards. It's really useless to do that. It's said that a fitness center has done a survey and statistics. 70% of the people who do annual cards only go to fitness once or twice a year. Alas, you say that such a waste of money! Alas, people just like to start, but they can't finish..." when I said this, I suddenly stopped myself, On the one hand, I found that my friend's face became very smelly, like anime characters, with three black lines on his forehead. On the other hand, there was a voice in my heart: "you're okay to say that others love the beginning, but you can't finish it. Think about your own experience of learning English." A year ago, I decided to start learning English and improve my oral English, but now my English level is still standing still. In English learning, I usually fish for two days and dry the net for three days. When I think of learning, I read an English essay and listen to the news of BBC or VOA. If I don't remember, I won't touch English for several days. I always have many plans. Today I plan to watch a season of American drama friends and learn a few slang words from it; Tomorrow, I plan to carefully listen to 30 news articles of bbcnews in a month, practice listening and accumulate vocabulary; The day after tomorrow, I plan to finish reading the "fashion English" given to me by my friend, recite some fashionable and authentic spoken English, and recite a graduate English vocabulary... I keep planning like this. A year later, I watched not only "friends" but also "Desperate Housewives", but I only watched a few episodes, and I can't remember the plot. I didn't remember a word of the dialogue between the protagonists, let alone some authentic slang. Listening is the same fate. I have not only listened to the BBC and VOA, but also crazy English and new concept English. I have even listened to a program of RCI and CRI (Radio Canada International, or RCI for short; China Radio International, or CRI for short). There are so many listening materials that I have not insisted on listening to any of them for a long time. I have thousands of plans, but any plan is only the beginning, so I have thousands of starts, but none of them has been completed. In fact, there are many beginners like us, including not only fitness center version, English Learning version, but also yoga and dance version, filial piety to parents version, long-term travel version, and diet and slimming version. All these learning plans, because you don't stick to them, you will achieve nothing and make no progress; All the weight-loss plans are fruitless because they don't stick to them. You're still a fat man who gasps for breath after two steps You should know very well that starting a plan will make people feel happy and feel that life will change from then on. Everything is full of strength and hope, rejuvenated and exciting, but the implementation and implementation of the plan is painful. Therefore, many people can't stick to the plan before giving up, choose another start and continue to enjoy the happiness of the first few days. Some people even enter the continuous start, In an endless vicious circle. Although it is one of human nature to be unable to insist, it does not mean that there is no way to overcome it. How to refuse the temptation of thousands of starts and stick to one completion? In the face of my failed English learning plan, I made some summaries after learning from the pain. These summaries are actually commonplace. I hope they can be of some help to "start lovers" like me.
Cooling treatment. When you have the impulse to plan a long-term goal, first suppress your hot heart and cool it for a period of time. During this period, you don't make any plans or take any actions. This time is suitable for a week. This week can help you eliminate those impulsive starts and reduce the waste of energy. If this week has passed and you still have the enthusiasm to start, then start again, which at least shows that you really want to do it. This "really want" enthusiasm will promote you to have a good start.
From small to large. After making a long-term plan (goal), the plan (goal) should be broken down into countless small goals. Because the long-term plan will make people feel distant, vague and uncertain. If I ask, where will you be in three years? I believe many people can't answer. But where will you be in three days? I believe many people can give the answer immediately. (www.lz13. C) break down the big goal into specific sub goals that can be objectively judged and completed within the specified time. For example, if you plan to listen to English for a year, you can break it down into 210 minutes a week, 30 minutes a day, and only one piece of bbcnews in these 30 minutes. The more specific the goal is, the more conducive it is to complete it. Each decomposed small goal must have a mandatory deadline, which is not only to respect your own plan, but also conducive to the expansion and Realization of subsequent plans.
Self reward small progress in time. I have mentioned this point many times, and it has been often applied in the past 20 years. When you make a step-by-step plan and make progress, you should reward yourself in time. The reward is regardless of size and form, but it must be. I found that when a child abides by good small codes of conduct, if he is praised by adults in time, he will produce more and better codes of conduct. In psychology and management, this behavior is called "positive reinforcement", which means "any result that leads to the increase of the possibility of this behavior in the future is to reward those behaviors that meet the organizational goals, so as to further strengthen these behaviors, which is conducive to the realization of organizational goals." Each of us has a child who needs to be affirmed. Giving a small reward in time after the completion of a small goal will promote you to achieve a larger goal. After the completion of a large goal, you should reward yourself well, such as traveling abroad and buying a SLR camera you always wanted to buy but were reluctant to buy (in fact, I just changed my way to give myself a gift!)
Tell others your plan. Many friends don't tell others their plans. They are afraid of pressure. Maybe it's because I love vanity. Whenever I tell my plans to my friends around me, I will be more motivated to do it. Because I'm afraid that when a friend asks me how my plan is going, I can't answer because I didn't do it. I feel ashamed and embarrassed. In order to avoid shame. I will let everyone know the plan I am implementing and make it my driving force, which is also an invisible urge
One day, a friend came excitedly to share his good mood with me: "Meiya, I started running." "How long have you been running?" "Before long, I got my annual card in a fitness center." "How many times have you run?" Listening to my question, my friend suddenly felt a little embarrassed, scratched his head and said, "I've only been there once after three months." My tortoise hair temperament comes up, and I like preaching: "in fact, it's really unnecessary to do fitness cards. It's really useless to do that. It's said that a fitness center has done a survey and statistics. 70% of the people who do annual cards only go to fitness once or twice a year. Alas, you say that such a waste of money! Alas, people just like to start, but they can't finish..." when I said this, I suddenly stopped myself, On the one hand, I found that my friend's face became very smelly, like anime characters, with three black lines on his forehead. On the other hand, there was a voice in my heart: "you're okay to say that others love the beginning, but you can't finish it. Think about your own experience of learning English." A year ago, I decided to start learning English and improve my oral English, but now my English level is still standing still. In English learning, I usually fish for two days and dry the net for three days. When I think of learning, I read an English essay and listen to the news of BBC or VOA. If I don't remember, I won't touch English for several days. I always have many plans. Today I plan to watch a season of American drama friends and learn a few slang words from it; Tomorrow, I plan to carefully listen to 30 news articles of bbcnews in a month, practice listening and accumulate vocabulary; The day after tomorrow, I plan to finish reading the "fashion English" given to me by my friend, recite some fashionable and authentic spoken English, and recite a graduate English vocabulary... I keep planning like this. A year later, I watched not only "friends" but also "Desperate Housewives", but I only watched a few episodes, and I can't remember the plot. I didn't remember a word of the dialogue between the protagonists, let alone some authentic slang. Listening is the same fate. I have not only listened to the BBC and VOA, but also crazy English and new concept English. I have even listened to a program of RCI and CRI (Radio Canada International, or RCI for short; China Radio International, or CRI for short). There are so many listening materials that I have not insisted on listening to any of them for a long time. I have thousands of plans, but any plan is only the beginning, so I have thousands of starts, but none of them has been completed. In fact, there are many beginners like us, including not only fitness center version, English Learning version, but also yoga and dance version, filial piety to parents version, long-term travel version, and diet and slimming version. All these learning plans, because you don't stick to them, you will achieve nothing and make no progress; All the weight-loss plans are fruitless because they don't stick to them. You're still a fat man who gasps for breath after two steps You should know very well that starting a plan will make people feel happy and feel that life will change from then on. Everything is full of strength and hope, rejuvenated and exciting, but the implementation and implementation of the plan is painful. Therefore, many people can't stick to the plan before giving up, choose another start and continue to enjoy the happiness of the first few days. Some people even enter the continuous start, In an endless vicious circle. Although it is one of human nature to be unable to insist, it does not mean that there is no way to overcome it. How to refuse the temptation of thousands of starts and stick to one completion? In the face of my failed English learning plan, I made some summaries after learning from the pain. These summaries are actually commonplace. I hope they can be of some help to "start lovers" like me.
Cooling treatment. When you have the impulse to plan a long-term goal, first suppress your hot heart and cool it for a period of time. During this period, you don't make any plans or take any actions. This time is suitable for a week. This week can help you eliminate those impulsive starts and reduce the waste of energy. If this week has passed and you still have the enthusiasm to start, then start again, which at least shows that you really want to do it. This "really want" enthusiasm will promote you to have a good start.
From small to large. After making a long-term plan (goal), the plan (goal) should be broken down into countless small goals. Because the long-term plan will make people feel distant, vague and uncertain. If I ask, where will you be in three years? I believe many people can't answer. But where will you be in three days? I believe many people can give the answer immediately. (www.lz13. C) break down the big goal into specific sub goals that can be objectively judged and completed within the specified time. For example, if you plan to listen to English for a year, you can break it down into 210 minutes a week, 30 minutes a day, and only one piece of bbcnews in these 30 minutes. The more specific the goal is, the more conducive it is to complete it. Each decomposed small goal must have a mandatory deadline, which is not only to respect your own plan, but also conducive to the expansion and Realization of subsequent plans.
Self reward small progress in time. I have mentioned this point many times, and it has been often applied in the past 20 years. When you make a step-by-step plan and make progress, you should reward yourself in time. The reward is regardless of size and form, but it must be. I found that when a child abides by good small codes of conduct, if he is praised by adults in time, he will produce more and better codes of conduct. In psychology and management, this behavior is called "positive reinforcement", which means "any result that leads to the increase of the possibility of this behavior in the future is to reward those behaviors that meet the organizational goals, so as to further strengthen these behaviors, which is conducive to the realization of organizational goals." Each of us has a child who needs to be affirmed. Giving a small reward in time after the completion of a small goal will promote you to achieve a larger goal. After the completion of a large goal, you should reward yourself well, such as traveling abroad and buying a SLR camera you always wanted to buy but were reluctant to buy (in fact, I just changed my way to give myself a gift!)
Tell others your plan. Many friends don't tell others their plans. They are afraid of pressure. Maybe it's because I love vanity. Whenever I tell my plans to my friends around me, I will be more motivated to do it. Because I'm afraid that when a friend asks me how my plan is going, I can't answer because I didn't do it. I feel ashamed and embarrassed. In order to avoid shame. I will let everyone know the plan I am implementing and make it my driving force, which is also an invisible urge
Imagine doing it every day. Think about the good things that will happen when you finish your plan. If you achieve your goals, how happy you will be, how you will grow, and how you will live a different life. Draw a beautiful vision for yourself. It has a powerful force to push you forward. The realization of my various travel plans depends on this beautiful imagination. In English learning, whenever I imagine that I can talk with foreigners after I learn it well, I will learn English with enthusiasm for a while. Although it's better to learn English only for a while than not (I'm comforting and paralyzing myself).
Record progress on objectives. Take a little time to keep a diary and make tables or curves every day. These records clearly show your every step of growth. Children's shoes who have done project management must be comfortable with it. Manage your plan as a project, which is conducive to promoting the progress of the plan. When you see the existing results, you will strengthen your confidence and not give up easily. Suppose you make a 20 week weight loss plan, record your weight once a week and make a curve. When you see that the weight curve in the first three weeks shows a downward trend, you will have more confidence and motivation to implement your weight loss plan. (if it's an upward trend curve, what about swelling? Then you should be blind and don't see it!)
Go to bed early and get up early to establish a good work and rest time. (this seems to have nothing to do with achieving the goal, but it actually has a lot to do with it.) This is one of the important experiences I gained after persisting in morning running for more than a year. I often warn myself that "all your big plans can't be realized. There are only two small problems: you can't get up in the morning and get off the line at night." Good work and rest time is conducive to the realization of the plan.
Imagine doing it every day. Think about the good things that will happen when you finish your plan. If you achieve your goals, how happy you will be, how you will grow, and how you will live a different life. Draw a beautiful vision for yourself. It has a powerful force to push you forward. The realization of my various travel plans depends on this beautiful imagination. In English learning, whenever I imagine that I can talk with foreigners after I learn it well, I will learn English with enthusiasm for a while. Although it's better to learn English only for a while than not (I'm comforting and paralyzing myself).
Record progress on objectives. Take a little time to keep a diary and make tables or curves every day. These records clearly show your every step of growth. Children's shoes who have done project management must be comfortable with it. Manage your plan as a project, which is conducive to promoting the progress of the plan. When you see the existing results, you will strengthen your confidence and not give up easily. Suppose you make a 20 week weight loss plan, record your weight once a week and make a curve. When you see that the weight curve in the first three weeks shows a downward trend, you will have more confidence and motivation to implement your weight loss plan. (if it's an upward trend curve, what about swelling? Then you should be blind and don't see it!)
Go to bed early and get up early to establish a good work and rest time. (this seems to have nothing to do with achieving the goal, but it actually has a lot to do with it.) This is one of the important experiences I gained after persisting in morning running for more than a year. I often warn myself that "all your big plans can't be realized. There are only two small problems: you can't get up in the morning and get off the line at night." Good work and rest time is conducive to the realization of the plan.
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