01 When I was at school, I had an impressive classmate. At that time, the management of the school was relatively strict, and the requirements for dormitory hygiene, including personal housekeeping, were high. Most boys at that age don't like sorting and cleaning their personal belongings very much. But his bed is always the cleanest and smoothest. Even the shoes and toiletries under the bed are placed like a queue. Every time the teacher in charge of the dormitory management goes to check, he always points to his bed and asks us to learn. Take him as the standard. If we can't do it, ask him with an open mind. Other roommates and I were angry at that time. We couldn't bear to see this "alien" in our hearts. We were under the same roof. Why did we always rush to show off? I think he wants to please the teacher and give him some points on the comprehensive evaluation. He is bound to enjoy the satisfaction of vanity brought by praise. When I go to work after graduation, I always feel that there are too many wonderful colleagues around me. Individual colleagues, obviously in the same position, always put themselves in the position of leadership. They are not only diligent every day, but also busy as if they forget to eat and sleep. What's more, he always cares about whether others have completed their tasks. If he sees that others don't work seriously, he will give full play to the spirit of ownership and earnestly advise: time is precious. It's best to make good use of time and strive to make money. This is really disgusting. This is not to flatter the leaders or attract the attention of the leaders. The other party also lauded its name: you should regard yourself as the leader of the company in order to better complete the job. I believe many people have had similar feelings, and more and more people dislike it in their life and work: I can't bear to see others pretending with apple phones; I can't bear to see others show off in famous brands; I can't bear to see others chattering all day; I don't like to see others often buckle their ropes; I can't bear to see others in high spirits all day; Dislike others and often go their own way; I can't bear to see others in the limelight; I can't bear to see other people's exquisite faces 02 What are we thinking when we don't like others? In fact, it is nothing more than imposing one's own thoughts on others. How do you think you look at things, others should look at things through this standard. Everyone's educational background, family background and growth environment are very different, and of course, their work style is also different. Apart from the major issues of right and wrong, in fact, there is no difference between good and bad, just habits. It doesn't do you any good to dislike others, because when you have an aversion, your state will also be affected to some extent. There is a saying: you can't stand others because you don't have enough self-cultivation. I personally agree. There are not so many things in the eyes of truly cultivated people. They know how to seek common ground while reserving differences, and that there are no two identical leaves in the world. It's not easy to know the world but not be sophisticated. Everyone in this world has his own style of behavior. Why be troubled by what others do. When you focus all your attention on the people and things you don't like, it is bound to produce negative emotions and effects. If you are open-minded and learn to accept, then everything will become smooth. "When the water is clear, there is no fish, and when people observe, there is no apprentice". If the water is too clear, the fish can't survive. If they are too strict with others, they have no partners. Therefore, we should not be too harsh in life, and don't be too strict in looking at problems. Otherwise, it is easy to make everyone unwilling to deal with you because of fear. Confucius said, "when you see a good person, you should think of Qi Yan. If you don't see a good person, you should introspect yourself.". It is normal for people to be diligent, lazy, brave and cowardly. When you meet someone better than yourself, learn from him. When you meet people who lack virtue, you should reflect on whether you have the same problems. This is a way to improve yourself. When you don't like others, you will expand this point imperceptibly. As time goes by, you feel that the other party is, as expected, as imagined in your heart, becoming more and more unreasonable. There is a saying: when you love someone, everything is natural, but when you hate someone, you need to constantly whip yourself. In fact, this is falling into the trap of your own thinking and digging a hole for yourself. The accumulated resentment can only make you angry and hurt yourself, while others still go their own way and have no impact. Even we will find that those who are always disliked by us and have a very personal style of doing things are doing better now. This is because the other party will not affect himself because of the actions of others. He is highly goal-oriented and inclusive, so it is easy to get things done. People who don't like it are people who have nothing to do in the world. There is such a story. When a famous writer died, someone wrote a letter to another writer, scolding the deceased. The writer replied: of course he criticized me, but I deeply regret your attitude. "If we love a person, we can't combine all the beauty in one; if we don't like a person, we can't combine all the evil in one. We have to deal with the matter according to the case before we have a theory of fairness." There should also be a bottom line for free debate with different beliefs, such as objective basis, rational doubt, diversified thinking, equal rights debate, practical test and tolerant incentive. Being stuck in the mire of disliking others can only blind us. Break free from the shackles of miscellaneous thoughts and try to face the things around with an inclusive attitude. When there are fewer and fewer things you don't like, it proves that you are making progress gradually.

01 When I was at school, I had an impressive classmate. At that time, the management of the school was relatively strict, and the requirements for dormitory hygiene, including personal housekeeping, were high. Most boys at that age don't like sorting and cleaning their personal belongings very much. But his bed is always the cleanest and smoothest. Even the shoes and toiletries under the bed are placed like a queue. Every time the teacher in charge of the dormitory management goes to check, he always points to his bed and asks us to learn. Take him as the standard. If we can't do it, ask him with an open mind. Other roommates and I were angry at that time. We couldn't bear to see this "alien" in our hearts. We were under the same roof. Why did we always rush to show off? I think he wants to please the teacher and give him some points on the comprehensive evaluation. He is bound to enjoy the satisfaction of vanity brought by praise. When I go to work after graduation, I always feel that there are too many wonderful colleagues around me. Individual colleagues, obviously in the same position, always put themselves in the position of leadership. They are not only diligent every day, but also busy as if they forget to eat and sleep. What's more, he always cares about whether others have completed their tasks. If he sees that others don't work seriously, he will give full play to the spirit of ownership and earnestly advise: time is precious. It's best to make good use of time and strive to make money. This is really disgusting. This is not to flatter the leaders or attract the attention of the leaders. The other party also lauded its name: you should regard yourself as the leader of the company in order to better complete the job. I believe many people have had similar feelings, and more and more people dislike it in their life and work: I can't bear to see others pretending with apple phones; I can't bear to see others show off in famous brands; I can't bear to see others chattering all day; I don't like to see others often buckle their ropes; I can't bear to see others in high spirits all day; Dislike others and often go their own way; I can't bear to see others in the limelight; I can't bear to see other people's exquisite faces 02 What are we thinking when we don't like others? In fact, it is nothing more than imposing one's own thoughts on others. How do you think you look at things, others should look at things through this standard. Everyone's educational background, family background and growth environment are very different, and of course, their work style is also different. Apart from the major issues of right and wrong, in fact, there is no difference between good and bad, just habits. It doesn't do you any good to dislike others, because when you have an aversion, your state will also be affected to some extent. There is a saying: you can't stand others because you don't have enough self-cultivation. I personally agree. There are not so many things in the eyes of truly cultivated people. They know how to seek common ground while reserving differences, and that there are no two identical leaves in the world. It's not easy to know the world but not be sophisticated. Everyone in this world has his own style of behavior. Why be troubled by what others do. When you focus all your attention on the people and things you don't like, it is bound to produce negative emotions and effects. If you are open-minded and learn to accept, then everything will become smooth. "When the water is clear, there is no fish, and when people observe, there is no apprentice". If the water is too clear, the fish can't survive. If they are too strict with others, they have no partners. Therefore, we should not be too harsh in life, and don't be too strict in looking at problems. Otherwise, it is easy to make everyone unwilling to deal with you because of fear. Confucius said, "when you see a good person, you should think of Qi Yan. If you don't see a good person, you should introspect yourself.". It is normal for people to be diligent, lazy, brave and cowardly. When you meet someone better than yourself, learn from him. When you meet people who lack virtue, you should reflect on whether you have the same problems. This is a way to improve yourself. When you don't like others, you will expand this point imperceptibly. As time goes by, you feel that the other party is, as expected, as imagined in your heart, becoming more and more unreasonable. There is a saying: when you love someone, everything is natural, but when you hate someone, you need to constantly whip yourself. In fact, this is falling into the trap of your own thinking and digging a hole for yourself. The accumulated resentment can only make you angry and hurt yourself, while others still go their own way and have no impact. Even we will find that those who are always disliked by us and have a very personal style of doing things are doing better now. This is because the other party will not affect himself because of the actions of others. He is highly goal-oriented and inclusive, so it is easy to get things done. People who don't like it are people who have nothing to do in the world. There is such a story. When a famous writer died, someone wrote a letter to another writer, scolding the deceased. The writer replied: of course he criticized me, but I deeply regret your attitude. "If we love a person, we can't combine all the beauty in one; if we don't like a person, we can't combine all the evil in one. We have to deal with the matter according to the case before we have a theory of fairness." There should also be a bottom line for free debate with different beliefs, such as objective basis, rational doubt, diversified thinking, equal rights debate, practical test and tolerant incentive. Being stuck in the mire of disliking others can only blind us. Break free from the shackles of miscellaneous thoughts and try to face the things around with an inclusive attitude. When there are fewer and fewer things you don't like, it proves that you are making progress gradually.