I once saw an interview with American rock star Michael Jackson. Speaking of his childhood, Michael Jackson hated the father who brought him up. He lacked his childhood playmates. He had undergone rigorous training since he had memory, and was tired of performing most of the time. He said that he had no childhood and had been longing for the happiness of childhood when he grew up. Behind the strange actions that have aroused criticism and suspicion in the world, I see the trauma of Michael Jackson's childhood. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, this world superstar is pitiful. No one can say that Michael Jackson's father doesn't love children. He can even be regarded as a great father. He trained a group of children who grew up in poverty one by one to become musicians with world reputation and billions of dollars. From a secular point of view, he and his children should be regarded as "winners" However, the behavior of children who are often ridiculed in adulthood cannot be simply explained by the so-called "bad ideology" that is usually popular in our society. Nowadays, most children in Chinese families are only children. Children not only carry general social obligations, but also the dreams of parents and even grandparents in China's powerful traditional culture. Every child has only one life. Childhood is short and precious. The experiences of this period often bury the complex that affects his personality all his life. Growing up healthy and happy in the sun is not only the need of childhood, but also the premise for children to have a sound personality when they grow up. A father was distressed when he talked about his daughter's education. He and his wife often had disputes over this. He hoped the children would have more time to play and not get too tired, but he couldn't control his wife's thoughts. He said that the idea of "only reading is high" has been solidified in every nerve of his wife. She let her daughter learn this and that all day, and the child's nature has been greatly suppressed. But he thought it might not be a bad thing for children to suffer from childhood. Now that the freedom of children is restricted, it may still be a kind of exercise! He asked me, what kind of attitude should I take? I told him that children also live in reality. The ability to deal with reality must be needed. The key is to grasp a degree and "appropriate" is good. Children go to school, poor grades, classmate discrimination, and teachers don't like it. Naturally, they can't talk about self-esteem and self-confidence. Therefore, good grades are necessary. My son had excellent grades since childhood, but after middle school, he was very tired of politics and composition classes. Once his grades were not ideal. Naturally, there are many reasons. My son once asked me to answer his Chinese test questions. As a result, I made a lot of mistakes as a writer. But I don't want children to despise these courses, because under the current education system, these courses will calculate their scores in the college entrance examination as well as mathematics and chemistry. I told him that the test results will directly affect whether he can enter the ideal university, and then affect his future. Many experts have questioned the content of our education system. However, the formation of the education system is a long-term process, which can not be changed in a short time, nor can it be countered by individual parents and children. In the final analysis, it is still that view - the success of Ding Junhui and Lang Lang has no universal significance. We ordinary people and ordinary children should still follow the current educational norms. When talking about children's future, we can't leave the environment of growth. Children need "success" in the general secular sense in the process of growing up, such as good grades in school and a good job when they grow up. If children enter society in the future and their peers surpass him in career and income, they will have psychological imbalance and will not experience happiness. This is not a simple psychological quality problem. However, it is naturally impossible for children to understand these in childhood and adolescence. Therefore, the attitude of parents is very important. We should not only make children successful, but also be happy, and happiness is undoubtedly more important.

I once saw an interview with American rock star Michael Jackson. Speaking of his childhood, Michael Jackson hated the father who brought him up. He lacked his childhood playmates. He had undergone rigorous training since he had memory, and was tired of performing most of the time. He said that he had no childhood and had been longing for the happiness of childhood when he grew up. Behind the strange actions that have aroused criticism and suspicion in the world, I see the trauma of Michael Jackson's childhood. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, this world superstar is pitiful. No one can say that Michael Jackson's father doesn't love children. He can even be regarded as a great father. He trained a group of children who grew up in poverty one by one to become musicians with world reputation and billions of dollars. From a secular point of view, he and his children should be regarded as "winners" However, the behavior of children who are often ridiculed in adulthood cannot be simply explained by the so-called "bad ideology" that is usually popular in our society. Nowadays, most children in Chinese families are only children. Children not only carry general social obligations, but also the dreams of parents and even grandparents in China's powerful traditional culture. Every child has only one life. Childhood is short and precious. The experiences of this period often bury the complex that affects his personality all his life. Growing up healthy and happy in the sun is not only the need of childhood, but also the premise for children to have a sound personality when they grow up. A father was distressed when he talked about his daughter's education. He and his wife often had disputes over this. He hoped the children would have more time to play and not get too tired, but he couldn't control his wife's thoughts. He said that the idea of "only reading is high" has been solidified in every nerve of his wife. She let her daughter learn this and that all day, and the child's nature has been greatly suppressed. But he thought it might not be a bad thing for children to suffer from childhood. Now that the freedom of children is restricted, it may still be a kind of exercise! He asked me, what kind of attitude should I take? I told him that children also live in reality. The ability to deal with reality must be needed. The key is to grasp a degree and "appropriate" is good. Children go to school, poor grades, classmate discrimination, and teachers don't like it. Naturally, they can't talk about self-esteem and self-confidence. Therefore, good grades are necessary. My son had excellent grades since childhood, but after middle school, he was very tired of politics and composition classes. Once his grades were not ideal. Naturally, there are many reasons. My son once asked me to answer his Chinese test questions. As a result, I made a lot of mistakes as a writer. But I don't want children to despise these courses, because under the current education system, these courses will calculate their scores in the college entrance examination as well as mathematics and chemistry. I told him that the test results will directly affect whether he can enter the ideal university, and then affect his future. Many experts have questioned the content of our education system. However, the formation of the education system is a long-term process, which can not be changed in a short time, nor can it be countered by individual parents and children. In the final analysis, it is still that view - the success of Ding Junhui and Lang Lang has no universal significance. We ordinary people and ordinary children should still follow the current educational norms. When talking about children's future, we can't leave the environment of growth. Children need "success" in the general secular sense in the process of growing up, such as good grades in school and a good job when they grow up. If children enter society in the future and their peers surpass him in career and income, they will have psychological imbalance and will not experience happiness. This is not a simple psychological quality problem. However, it is naturally impossible for children to understand these in childhood and adolescence. Therefore, the attitude of parents is very important. We should not only make children successful, but also be happy, and happiness is undoubtedly more important.