Yesterday, she had a little conflict with her old classmates and got angry. The reason is very simple. Recently, she followed the trend and made a live broadcast, and then asked continuously on wechat how to make this software. Where to download from the beginning, which version to install, and how to set up my account Until the end of her live broadcast, fans left messages to ask questions, and then she quickly asked me where to reply to messages. Finally, I broke out and replied to her: Baidu. Yes, I've always hated this kind of people since I went to school and just worked now. It's not true that they won't, nor that they don't have their own opinions. They need some confidence from others, that is, they don't want to use their brains. When they encounter some sesame sized problems, they have to ask questions and wait for others to help them answer their questions. It's best to solve them through one-stop service. However, this is really a kind of chronic suicide, because you make your mind and brain too comfortable. 01 What questions are worth asking others for help? Generally speaking, to demonstrate this topic, we need to understand what is a problem. Chairman Mao's "eight parts of the opposition" wrote: "what is a problem? A problem is a contradiction in things." Maybe my understanding is not as profound as that of politicians or scholars. In my opinion, the thing that can be regarded as a problem in front of me is the event or idea that I can't solve alone in the short term and urgently need a more systematic and clear answer. Why is it short-term? After all, life is short. Who will really spend his life pursuing a problem? Even if there is one, it is also a great man or a teacher of everyone, which is not in the consideration of our ordinary citizens. Then came the question. When I was in college, I would do a part-time job regularly on weekends, which is a very simple front desk cashier. But this job is not simple, because it is a cashier in a food city. There are 27 snack windows, large and small. All of them are card swiping mode, charging money to buy cards for consumption. Now it is basically the same. Naturally, charging is at my counter. At the same time, I also sell drinks part-time, not only bottled drinks and drinks, but also make Hong Kong style milk tea by myself. The big pot is stewed at a food stall. After that, it will be cold for a while. In summer, the boss also added popcorn and ice cream machine. I was dizzy, but the boss only hired me. When I was busy at noon, she also came to collect money and help. Why did I talk about this, because this job really made me deeply realize the benefits of using my brain before asking questions. In addition to being too tired, the most fundamental reason why my predecessor quit the cashier was that he didn't have enough money. At that time, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., I took care of a meal at noon and gave 50 yuan. The little girl couldn't stand being too tired and resigned, so I went in. Two months later, the boss directly paid me 800 yuan a month. In fact, on a daily basis, there are four weekends a month for a total of eight days. Giving 400 yuan is a normal price. She doubled it directly for me. When I got the first salary after the salary increase, I asked Sister Zhang (boss of Food City), why so much! She answered me directly, because I saved my heart and didn't let her worry too much. Yes, this food city is her sideline. Her main business is working in the municipal tax bureau. Sometimes she can only come at noon on weekends. Sometimes I can't catch up, and I'm not willing to ask someone else to increase the cost. I usually ask my parents to help me on weekdays. After all, I'm not too busy on weekdays. After last weekend, I remembered the price and dishes of most popular stalls, because the people who came to charge money were basically asking directly how much it would cost to eat what kind of food, charging the price directly, leaving the empty card at that stall and recycling it in the afternoon. Also, I prepare a lot of change and drinks in advance. The first thing I do in the morning is to boil milk tea and fill cups quickly to avoid being too busy at noon. Including the usual drinks are almost sold out. With the permission of the boss, write down the contact information, ask for the settlement method, and order in advance when to deliver them. In addition, I still have a lot of small work, which was not done by the previous cashier. Because she is in front of things, she asks the boss by phone and waits for the boss to reply how to do it. I worked part-time in this food city for two years. Only at the beginning did I ask about the contact information and delivery time of some suppliers, as well as the precautions of the front desk. In the future, I rarely called her except for emergencies. Because in my opinion, nothing else is enough for me to bother her again, because people pay you to reduce the trouble. No matter how good the relationship is, no matter how patient the person is, once you ask a question, it will consume this person's patience. Patience can recover after a period of time, but please give it time to recover. No one is born with the obligation and responsibility to help you solve the problem. Unless you charge money, this is the scope of transaction. Please don't underestimate your IQ, and don't put the cost of saving time on your friends, because your problem is solved, but they spend time on it. Moreover, if you are employed in the employment relationship, how to improve your value, in addition to creating more profits, is to save the boss's time in your position, which is also the embodiment of value. 02 How to be alive? Based on the basic knowledge of a former medical student, I divided living into body survival and brain survival. And I myself, after watching such films as "source code" and some books, prefer to think without stopping, thinking without stopping, that is to live. And what we want is to live better. Zang Kejia wrote in memory of Lu Xun that some people are alive and he has died; Some people are dead, but he is still alive. Lu Xun's essays are highly respected in my life. The articles I wrote are worth reading to my heart. If a person asks questions casually and speaks without passing through the brain, he doesn't know whether anyone will remember after his death, except his relatives. All I know is that my brain will rust out if I don't use it for a long time. This sentence is very rough, but at least it is my aunt's true feeling after playing mahjong for more than ten years. The most beneficial weapon for the elderly in China to fight brain aging and rigid thinking is mahjong. Some are go, but they are not very popular. Mahjong really deserves to be the quintessence of the country. With more than 100 cards, the playing methods of the South and North are also different. During the period of countless combinations and permutations, you should play with your heart and calculate what cards everyone has played, what cards are waiting for, what cards will be left on hand, when to play what cards are best, etc. look at the facial expressions of the people in this circle and carefully analyze them. You really have to rotate your brain wildly. Here is not to say how to brainstorm to improve the game skills, but to illustrate that independent thinking is really important. It is not only a necessary element for you to improve your personal skills, but also the greatest manifestation of your existence as a person: you have your thoughts, whether correct or not, I think so I am. My most obvious feeling about thinking and trying to solve problems first comes from work. Because it belongs to the cosmetics department, many new products generally pass my hand first. I know the product best. So when people in other departments such as pre-sales and after-sales don't understand the customer service consultation, they come to me first. Sometimes, when a person asks you more times, you will always have an impression. What impressed me most was that one of the girls in charge of customer service came to consult me at least five times a day. How simple is the problem? For example, some customer service came to take a picture of her face, asked her what kind of products are suitable for, and wanted to recommend a set of basic skin care. The girl directly gave me a screenshot of the dialogue and asked me what I recommended. Another time, the customer's face turned a little red after using the product and asked what was going on and whether it was a fake. The girl was also a screenshot. I gave her advice. She didn't even touch it up. She copied and forwarded it to the customer directly. There are many such things. Then, I questioned the training of the customer service department. After communicating with the Department Director, I knew that this is the only customer service. What is this? It's very direct. I don't care about my work. Interestingly, the customer service supervisor also held a special meeting to remind customers to understand their products and improve their business literacy. And the girl didn't realize it, she still threw me screenshots one by one. Within a month, the girl was dismissed. At this time, asking questions casually is not to say that it will bore your colleagues or relatives and friends. It has threatened your work. If a person habitually relies on the people around him to solve problems for a long time, he feels that if he asks casually, the difficulties he encounters will be solved. It's really terrible for a long time. Because in my personal cognition, getting along with others is mutually beneficial, and so are my relatives. You've been bringing problems to others, but you've never thought about solving them by yourself, extending them a little, and helping others solve problems. So what do people do with you. This view does not mean that everyone's communication has the color of attempt and interest. On the contrary, communication itself is a medium. The other party is interested in some of your characteristics or skills or others. You are also interested in coming and going. This is a benign communication process. For me, a person who doesn't want to ask questions at random, and doesn't even think about it, it's estimated that there's nothing more shining that can attract me. And such a person has lived all his life. Who led his life? Is it still his own life? I seriously doubt it.

Yesterday, she had a little conflict with her old classmates and got angry. The reason is very simple. Recently, she followed the trend and made a live broadcast, and then asked continuously on wechat how to make this software. Where to download from the beginning, which version to install, and how to set up my account Until the end of her live broadcast, fans left messages to ask questions, and then she quickly asked me where to reply to messages. Finally, I broke out and replied to her: Baidu. Yes, I've always hated this kind of people since I went to school and just worked now. It's not true that they won't, nor that they don't have their own opinions. They need some confidence from others, that is, they don't want to use their brains. When they encounter some sesame sized problems, they have to ask questions and wait for others to help them answer their questions. It's best to solve them through one-stop service. However, this is really a kind of chronic suicide, because you make your mind and brain too comfortable. 01 What questions are worth asking others for help? Generally speaking, to demonstrate this topic, we need to understand what is a problem. Chairman Mao's "eight parts of the opposition" wrote: "what is a problem? A problem is a contradiction in things." Maybe my understanding is not as profound as that of politicians or scholars. In my opinion, the thing that can be regarded as a problem in front of me is the event or idea that I can't solve alone in the short term and urgently need a more systematic and clear answer. Why is it short-term? After all, life is short. Who will really spend his life pursuing a problem? Even if there is one, it is also a great man or a teacher of everyone, which is not in the consideration of our ordinary citizens. Then came the question. When I was in college, I would do a part-time job regularly on weekends, which is a very simple front desk cashier. But this job is not simple, because it is a cashier in a food city. There are 27 snack windows, large and small. All of them are card swiping mode, charging money to buy cards for consumption. Now it is basically the same. Naturally, charging is at my counter. At the same time, I also sell drinks part-time, not only bottled drinks and drinks, but also make Hong Kong style milk tea by myself. The big pot is stewed at a food stall. After that, it will be cold for a while. In summer, the boss also added popcorn and ice cream machine. I was dizzy, but the boss only hired me. When I was busy at noon, she also came to collect money and help. Why did I talk about this, because this job really made me deeply realize the benefits of using my brain before asking questions. In addition to being too tired, the most fundamental reason why my predecessor quit the cashier was that he didn't have enough money. At that time, from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., I took care of a meal at noon and gave 50 yuan. The little girl couldn't stand being too tired and resigned, so I went in. Two months later, the boss directly paid me 800 yuan a month. In fact, on a daily basis, there are four weekends a month for a total of eight days. Giving 400 yuan is a normal price. She doubled it directly for me. When I got the first salary after the salary increase, I asked Sister Zhang (boss of Food City), why so much! She answered me directly, because I saved my heart and didn't let her worry too much. Yes, this food city is her sideline. Her main business is working in the municipal tax bureau. Sometimes she can only come at noon on weekends. Sometimes I can't catch up, and I'm not willing to ask someone else to increase the cost. I usually ask my parents to help me on weekdays. After all, I'm not too busy on weekdays. After last weekend, I remembered the price and dishes of most popular stalls, because the people who came to charge money were basically asking directly how much it would cost to eat what kind of food, charging the price directly, leaving the empty card at that stall and recycling it in the afternoon. Also, I prepare a lot of change and drinks in advance. The first thing I do in the morning is to boil milk tea and fill cups quickly to avoid being too busy at noon. Including the usual drinks are almost sold out. With the permission of the boss, write down the contact information, ask for the settlement method, and order in advance when to deliver them. In addition, I still have a lot of small work, which was not done by the previous cashier. Because she is in front of things, she asks the boss by phone and waits for the boss to reply how to do it. I worked part-time in this food city for two years. Only at the beginning did I ask about the contact information and delivery time of some suppliers, as well as the precautions of the front desk. In the future, I rarely called her except for emergencies. Because in my opinion, nothing else is enough for me to bother her again, because people pay you to reduce the trouble. No matter how good the relationship is, no matter how patient the person is, once you ask a question, it will consume this person's patience. Patience can recover after a period of time, but please give it time to recover. No one is born with the obligation and responsibility to help you solve the problem. Unless you charge money, this is the scope of transaction. Please don't underestimate your IQ, and don't put the cost of saving time on your friends, because your problem is solved, but they spend time on it. Moreover, if you are employed in the employment relationship, how to improve your value, in addition to creating more profits, is to save the boss's time in your position, which is also the embodiment of value. 02 How to be alive? Based on the basic knowledge of a former medical student, I divided living into body survival and brain survival. And I myself, after watching such films as "source code" and some books, prefer to think without stopping, thinking without stopping, that is to live. And what we want is to live better. Zang Kejia wrote in memory of Lu Xun that some people are alive and he has died; Some people are dead, but he is still alive. Lu Xun's essays are highly respected in my life. The articles I wrote are worth reading to my heart. If a person asks questions casually and speaks without passing through the brain, he doesn't know whether anyone will remember after his death, except his relatives. All I know is that my brain will rust out if I don't use it for a long time. This sentence is very rough, but at least it is my aunt's true feeling after playing mahjong for more than ten years. The most beneficial weapon for the elderly in China to fight brain aging and rigid thinking is mahjong. Some are go, but they are not very popular. Mahjong really deserves to be the quintessence of the country. With more than 100 cards, the playing methods of the South and North are also different. During the period of countless combinations and permutations, you should play with your heart and calculate what cards everyone has played, what cards are waiting for, what cards will be left on hand, when to play what cards are best, etc. look at the facial expressions of the people in this circle and carefully analyze them. You really have to rotate your brain wildly. Here is not to say how to brainstorm to improve the game skills, but to illustrate that independent thinking is really important. It is not only a necessary element for you to improve your personal skills, but also the greatest manifestation of your existence as a person: you have your thoughts, whether correct or not, I think so I am. My most obvious feeling about thinking and trying to solve problems first comes from work. Because it belongs to the cosmetics department, many new products generally pass my hand first. I know the product best. So when people in other departments such as pre-sales and after-sales don't understand the customer service consultation, they come to me first. Sometimes, when a person asks you more times, you will always have an impression. What impressed me most was that one of the girls in charge of customer service came to consult me at least five times a day. How simple is the problem? For example, some customer service came to take a picture of her face, asked her what kind of products are suitable for, and wanted to recommend a set of basic skin care. The girl directly gave me a screenshot of the dialogue and asked me what I recommended. Another time, the customer's face turned a little red after using the product and asked what was going on and whether it was a fake. The girl was also a screenshot. I gave her advice. She didn't even touch it up. She copied and forwarded it to the customer directly. There are many such things. Then, I questioned the training of the customer service department. After communicating with the Department Director, I knew that this is the only customer service. What is this? It's very direct. I don't care about my work. Interestingly, the customer service supervisor also held a special meeting to remind customers to understand their products and improve their business literacy. And the girl didn't realize it, she still threw me screenshots one by one. Within a month, the girl was dismissed. At this time, asking questions casually is not to say that it will bore your colleagues or relatives and friends. It has threatened your work. If a person habitually relies on the people around him to solve problems for a long time, he feels that if he asks casually, the difficulties he encounters will be solved. It's really terrible for a long time. Because in my personal cognition, getting along with others is mutually beneficial, and so are my relatives. You've been bringing problems to others, but you've never thought about solving them by yourself, extending them a little, and helping others solve problems. So what do people do with you. This view does not mean that everyone's communication has the color of attempt and interest. On the contrary, communication itself is a medium. The other party is interested in some of your characteristics or skills or others. You are also interested in coming and going. This is a benign communication process. For me, a person who doesn't want to ask questions at random, and doesn't even think about it, it's estimated that there's nothing more shining that can attract me. And such a person has lived all his life. Who led his life? Is it still his own life? I seriously doubt it.