Some time ago, I read a long article of a senior hr of the bank, "it is difficult for a poor family to have a noble son", and I received several waves of children from intellectuals, rural small towns, businesses, and civil servant families. The conclusion is that it is difficult for a poor family to have a proud son. In fact, I have always been interested in this issue. I often think about a person's performance in society after adulthood, that is, the relationship between the so-called success and his childhood, reading performance, and family birth. The growth and protection of minors has always been the focus of my attention. It happened that during the summer vacation, my husband's nephews and nieces came to my home for 20 days. I was able to observe closely what kind of living state children from rural areas are today, and their characteristics under this state, as well as some specific differences with urban children. Of course, the observation from individuals, like the conclusion drawn from this, is inevitably not rigorous and subjective, Therefore, the following points are for reference only. My husband's hometown is in a county in Shaoyang, Hunan Province. The location of his home is also in a village in a town in this county. It is an authentic rural area to the letter. The environment around his home is mainly less dense hills. In recent years, the "village to village" policy has basically made the village accessible to cement roads, and he lives relatively densely with his neighbors. It is not a deep mountain with a family of more than a dozen miles away from the town, The motorcycle will arrive in about 10 minutes. The husband's younger brother and his mother live together and grow a small amount of food and vegetables. The couple mainly work part-time. Both are not far from home, so fortunately, my husband and brother's two children are not the saddest left behind children. There is always a father or mother at home. The two children, aged 10 and 7, go to school nearby. Growing up so big, I haven't been far away or left my hometown. When we returned to our hometown two years ago, what we saw was that they basically had no after-school recreational activities, no extracurricular reading materials, basically no toys, no desks for homework and reading, and even no special water cups of their own. The only entertainment is television. This is their basic living condition. I think their current living situation can represent the life of rural children in this part of the belt. When they came home this time, my preliminary observation was that their physical development was slower than that of urban children. These two children were fairly good in their hometown, but their height and weight were still lower than the basic level of the city, and their hair was thin and yellow. In particular, the change of teeth is very late. The boy began to change his teeth at the age of nine, and the girl's teeth have not loosened at the age of seven, which is of course closely related to his daily diet. Basically, children in rural areas eat with adults after weaning, which is difficult to do alone. Moreover, because of labor, most of their diets are casual, and the status of malnutrition varies from region to region. On the issue of tooth replacement, some children in cities seem to be moving to the other extreme. Many children begin to change their teeth even before the age of 5, which is not unrelated to the consumption of food additives, ripening agents, off-season food and uneven family diet in cities. However, in terms of diet and nutrition, the average level of rural children is indeed behind the urban average level, and the degree varies from region to region. Another obvious difference is the ability of language expression. Perhaps because the living environment is relatively closed, after-school activities are relatively monotonous, and there are few or no opportunities to play, play games, make friends and travel on different occasions, this difference is obvious in urban and rural children. A survey has shown that pre-school rural children have different abilities in cognition, expression The ability of communication and other aspects can only reach 60% or less of the average level of urban children. For preschool children, urban parents are busy with early childhood education and development. No matter whether these activities have opened wisdom or not, they have emboldened children and gained insight, which is more or less achieved. And the children in rural areas are basically in the life of eating, drinking and watching TV. It is difficult to avoid occlusion and monotony. The third is the lack of etiquette. It may be because the living environment is relatively monotonous, parents and grandparents are busy working, which is not deliberately reflected in this aspect. The coverage of preschool education, that is, kindergartens, in rural areas is also quite limited. Even if there is, it also acts as a simple care, and there is not much educational content. "Hello, sorry, thank you, respect the old and love the young, and so on. I seem to be a little lacking in basic etiquette. I sometimes feel overwhelmed when communicating with others for help, and my awareness of active communication and expression is relatively indifferent. This conclusion is based on the performance of the two children at home in the past 20 days. Of course, this is not drawn from the situation that the children are not familiar with when they first get home, but after getting familiar with them after 20 days of being really together with them Out. For example, when communicating with us and other children, my brother is only used to speaking his hometown dialect, not Mandarin that everyone can understand. However, my sister does better than my brother. Sometimes I realize that everyone can't understand her hometown dialect and will take the initiative to speak some Mandarin. Although it is not very standard, it can make everyone understand and the communication can continue. Of course, the ability and awareness of communication are also related to personal character, but I personally think it has something to do with the awareness and cultivation of parents. This is also a little consistent with the HR conclusion of the bank on the Internet. Children from intellectual families are more noble, children from small towns are more dull, and children from business families are born more eloquent and smooth. This so-called emotional intelligence and the ability to communicate with others are actually closely related to the atmosphere and cultivation of the family. In fact, this ability will be a very important quality after entering the society. From my observation at home, I saw that the biggest advantage of these two children is that they don't have to rush and scream repeatedly to eat. Naturally, in my hometown, adults are busy working and eat when it's time. Who has the extra energy to rush three times and invite four times. In addition, because the adults at home have limited energy and there are two children, they are not paid too much attention, and the children are not so delicate and thick when they bump. Compared with this pair of cousins, the daughter has obvious characteristics of being a little one-child. She likes to be spoiled, compares herself, and is used to being self-centered (maybe it's not irrelevant for urban families to pay too much attention to fine feeding). In addition, my experience is that the emotional experience and satisfaction of rural children are not very good. In addition to limited expression, these two children are not used to expressing their internal needs and emotions. I'm thinking, of course, it's related to the level of economic development. Parents are mainly running away from their belly and daily chores. How much energy do they have to pay attention to their children's emotions? These two children have not slept alone so far, not without conditions, but without emotional weaning. Their 10-year-old brother is still sleeping with his grandmother, and their 7-year-old sister is still sleeping with their parents. Because they are still children, they are afraid of the dark, and no one explains why it is dark and what they can do in the face of the dark. Children can only use their own stubborn way to resist the independent sleep arranged by adults. And the conflict between the two brothers and sisters is mostly expressed and resolved by body language. Maybe this aspect has not been guided to have similar events, and what channels can be used to solve it. In terms of children's emotions, I believe in the following sentence: only when you are full can you put down your chopsticks; Only when children are satisfied with their emotions and have enough sense of security can they bravely go out. This is reflected in external things. My observation is that children with better emotional satisfaction are more brave to try, and for new things, novelty and new friends. To sum up, in terms of my personal observation, in addition to the above subtle differences, I think that compared with their parents, the era and environment in which they live make them lose the main advantages that their parents once had, mainly in the following points:

1. Completely natural and natural childhood growth. Although the current situation of rural life makes it unnecessary for them to start the so-called early education and even rush to study as early as urban children, their growth can not be as natural as their parents' generation. The popularity of television has made their generation's childhood grow up almost with television. The disconnection between TV programs and the real world, as well as the painless characteristics of television, have irresistible interference with children's temperament, spirituality and imagination. But their parents, their childhood can be called as the integration of pure nature and nature. Although they are very lack of materials, and have no toys and extracurricular books, their growth at that time can be said to be the closest to nature. At that time, the pollution was not so serious. In summer, I went down the river to fish and shrimp, looked at the starry sky, autumn and fields, winter and firewood piles, and in spring, I went up the mountain to collect mushrooms. Although the material was hard, it was full of fun of the original ecology. Natural play from nature is simple but virtually opens the mind. These experiences are beyond the experience of such a generation of rural children. Parents also have a headache that their children are addicted to TV, but perhaps because of energy, life experience and attention, they can't provide further beneficial entertainment for their children. They don't have an extra-curricular book or any sports equipment at home. How can they spend their spare time?

2. Hard life is the training of mind and character The material life of this generation of rural children and their parents' generation needs to be improved. At that time, their parents had many brothers and sisters, could not eat enough, and had to help their families do the agricultural work within their capabilities if they had a little strength. In the hottest season, the intensity of the rural double gun was not affordable for everyone. The extraordinary hard life exercised their physical strength and honed their minds, which may be their parents' precious wealth, But the rural children of this generation of wealth can no longer have it. Food and clothing have been solved. Who is willing to let the children suffer? Even under the condition that the material conditions in rural areas are still limited, children still breed the same problem that urban children do not know how to cherish and are picky.

3. Polarization of educational resources and blocking of information. In the early years, rural children achieved outstanding positions by virtue of their intelligence and diligence. But now, under the current situation of the industrialization of education and the serious polarization of the distribution of educational resources, many things fell behind at the beginning, and it is not so easy to get ahead by diligence alone. If the so-called comprehensive quality assessment is implemented, it can be said that it is even worse news for many rural children. The competition of scores alone has fallen behind because of the blocking of information. Judging from the college entrance examination in recent years, the declining trend of the proportion of poor students favored by famous schools is a clear proof. At the same time, in order to grow into a proud child, it is far from enough to rely on academic excellence. That's why there is a saying of "fighting dad" in society. And because of the current situation of difficult employment of college students in recent years, rural (non suburban rural areas) children can graduate from high school is a minority, most of them go out to work when they reach junior high school, and the proportion of girls who continue to study is lower. Although reading and studying well does not represent a happy life, it is not a good thing to enter the society too early at the age of education. To sum up, it is indeed much more difficult for poor students, especially those in remote rural areas, to grow into the pride of heaven again. How to love children? How can children become talents? Some things seem irrelevant, and sometimes some things are full of necessity. Love sometimes really blinds our eyes. Children may not be able to become successful through hardship, but they can't really grow and exercise without necessary hardship and necessary physical and mental experience.

Some time ago, I read a long article of a senior hr of the bank, "it is difficult for a poor family to have a noble son", and I received several waves of children from intellectuals, rural small towns, businesses, and civil servant families. The conclusion is that it is difficult for a poor family to have a proud son. In fact, I have always been interested in this issue. I often think about a person's performance in society after adulthood, that is, the relationship between the so-called success and his childhood, reading performance, and family birth. The growth and protection of minors has always been the focus of my attention. It happened that during the summer vacation, my husband's nephews and nieces came to my home for 20 days. I was able to observe closely what kind of living state children from rural areas are today, and their characteristics under this state, as well as some specific differences with urban children. Of course, the observation from individuals, like the conclusion drawn from this, is inevitably not rigorous and subjective, Therefore, the following points are for reference only. My husband's hometown is in a county in Shaoyang, Hunan Province. The location of his home is also in a village in a town in this county. It is an authentic rural area to the letter. The environment around his home is mainly less dense hills. In recent years, the "village to village" policy has basically made the village accessible to cement roads, and he lives relatively densely with his neighbors. It is not a deep mountain with a family of more than a dozen miles away from the town, The motorcycle will arrive in about 10 minutes. The husband's younger brother and his mother live together and grow a small amount of food and vegetables. The couple mainly work part-time. Both are not far from home, so fortunately, my husband and brother's two children are not the saddest left behind children. There is always a father or mother at home. The two children, aged 10 and 7, go to school nearby. Growing up so big, I haven't been far away or left my hometown. When we returned to our hometown two years ago, what we saw was that they basically had no after-school recreational activities, no extracurricular reading materials, basically no toys, no desks for homework and reading, and even no special water cups of their own. The only entertainment is television. This is their basic living condition. I think their current living situation can represent the life of rural children in this part of the belt. When they came home this time, my preliminary observation was that their physical development was slower than that of urban children. These two children were fairly good in their hometown, but their height and weight were still lower than the basic level of the city, and their hair was thin and yellow. In particular, the change of teeth is very late. The boy began to change his teeth at the age of nine, and the girl's teeth have not loosened at the age of seven, which is of course closely related to his daily diet. Basically, children in rural areas eat with adults after weaning, which is difficult to do alone. Moreover, because of labor, most of their diets are casual, and the status of malnutrition varies from region to region. On the issue of tooth replacement, some children in cities seem to be moving to the other extreme. Many children begin to change their teeth even before the age of 5, which is not unrelated to the consumption of food additives, ripening agents, off-season food and uneven family diet in cities. However, in terms of diet and nutrition, the average level of rural children is indeed behind the urban average level, and the degree varies from region to region. Another obvious difference is the ability of language expression. Perhaps because the living environment is relatively closed, after-school activities are relatively monotonous, and there are few or no opportunities to play, play games, make friends and travel on different occasions, this difference is obvious in urban and rural children. A survey has shown that pre-school rural children have different abilities in cognition, expression The ability of communication and other aspects can only reach 60% or less of the average level of urban children. For preschool children, urban parents are busy with early childhood education and development. No matter whether these activities have opened wisdom or not, they have emboldened children and gained insight, which is more or less achieved. And the children in rural areas are basically in the life of eating, drinking and watching TV. It is difficult to avoid occlusion and monotony. The third is the lack of etiquette. It may be because the living environment is relatively monotonous, parents and grandparents are busy working, which is not deliberately reflected in this aspect. The coverage of preschool education, that is, kindergartens, in rural areas is also quite limited. Even if there is, it also acts as a simple care, and there is not much educational content. "Hello, sorry, thank you, respect the old and love the young, and so on. I seem to be a little lacking in basic etiquette. I sometimes feel overwhelmed when communicating with others for help, and my awareness of active communication and expression is relatively indifferent. This conclusion is based on the performance of the two children at home in the past 20 days. Of course, this is not drawn from the situation that the children are not familiar with when they first get home, but after getting familiar with them after 20 days of being really together with them Out. For example, when communicating with us and other children, my brother is only used to speaking his hometown dialect, not Mandarin that everyone can understand. However, my sister does better than my brother. Sometimes I realize that everyone can't understand her hometown dialect and will take the initiative to speak some Mandarin. Although it is not very standard, it can make everyone understand and the communication can continue. Of course, the ability and awareness of communication are also related to personal character, but I personally think it has something to do with the awareness and cultivation of parents. This is also a little consistent with the HR conclusion of the bank on the Internet. Children from intellectual families are more noble, children from small towns are more dull, and children from business families are born more eloquent and smooth. This so-called emotional intelligence and the ability to communicate with others are actually closely related to the atmosphere and cultivation of the family. In fact, this ability will be a very important quality after entering the society. From my observation at home, I saw that the biggest advantage of these two children is that they don't have to rush and scream repeatedly to eat. Naturally, in my hometown, adults are busy working and eat when it's time. Who has the extra energy to rush three times and invite four times. In addition, because the adults at home have limited energy and there are two children, they are not paid too much attention, and the children are not so delicate and thick when they bump. Compared with this pair of cousins, the daughter has obvious characteristics of being a little one-child. She likes to be spoiled, compares herself, and is used to being self-centered (maybe it's not irrelevant for urban families to pay too much attention to fine feeding). In addition, my experience is that the emotional experience and satisfaction of rural children are not very good. In addition to limited expression, these two children are not used to expressing their internal needs and emotions. I'm thinking, of course, it's related to the level of economic development. Parents are mainly running away from their belly and daily chores. How much energy do they have to pay attention to their children's emotions? These two children have not slept alone so far, not without conditions, but without emotional weaning. Their 10-year-old brother is still sleeping with his grandmother, and their 7-year-old sister is still sleeping with their parents. Because they are still children, they are afraid of the dark, and no one explains why it is dark and what they can do in the face of the dark. Children can only use their own stubborn way to resist the independent sleep arranged by adults. And the conflict between the two brothers and sisters is mostly expressed and resolved by body language. Maybe this aspect has not been guided to have similar events, and what channels can be used to solve it. In terms of children's emotions, I believe in the following sentence: only when you are full can you put down your chopsticks; Only when children are satisfied with their emotions and have enough sense of security can they bravely go out. This is reflected in external things. My observation is that children with better emotional satisfaction are more brave to try, and for new things, novelty and new friends. To sum up, in terms of my personal observation, in addition to the above subtle differences, I think that compared with their parents, the era and environment in which they live make them lose the main advantages that their parents once had, mainly in the following points:

1. Completely natural and natural childhood growth. Although the current situation of rural life makes it unnecessary for them to start the so-called early education and even rush to study as early as urban children, their growth can not be as natural as their parents' generation. The popularity of television has made their generation's childhood grow up almost with television. The disconnection between TV programs and the real world, as well as the painless characteristics of television, have irresistible interference with children's temperament, spirituality and imagination. But their parents, their childhood can be called as the integration of pure nature and nature. Although they are very lack of materials, and have no toys and extracurricular books, their growth at that time can be said to be the closest to nature. At that time, the pollution was not so serious. In summer, I went down the river to fish and shrimp, looked at the starry sky, autumn and fields, winter and firewood piles, and in spring, I went up the mountain to collect mushrooms. Although the material was hard, it was full of fun of the original ecology. Natural play from nature is simple but virtually opens the mind. These experiences are beyond the experience of such a generation of rural children. Parents also have a headache that their children are addicted to TV, but perhaps because of energy, life experience and attention, they can't provide further beneficial entertainment for their children. They don't have an extra-curricular book or any sports equipment at home. How can they spend their spare time?

2. Hard life is the training of mind and character The material life of this generation of rural children and their parents' generation needs to be improved. At that time, their parents had many brothers and sisters, could not eat enough, and had to help their families do the agricultural work within their capabilities if they had a little strength. In the hottest season, the intensity of the rural double gun was not affordable for everyone. The extraordinary hard life exercised their physical strength and honed their minds, which may be their parents' precious wealth, But the rural children of this generation of wealth can no longer have it. Food and clothing have been solved. Who is willing to let the children suffer? Even under the condition that the material conditions in rural areas are still limited, children still breed the same problem that urban children do not know how to cherish and are picky.

3. Polarization of educational resources and blocking of information. In the early years, rural children achieved outstanding positions by virtue of their intelligence and diligence. But now, under the current situation of the industrialization of education and the serious polarization of the distribution of educational resources, many things fell behind at the beginning, and it is not so easy to get ahead by diligence alone. If the so-called comprehensive quality assessment is implemented, it can be said that it is even worse news for many rural children. The competition of scores alone has fallen behind because of the blocking of information. Judging from the college entrance examination in recent years, the declining trend of the proportion of poor students favored by famous schools is a clear proof. At the same time, in order to grow into a proud child, it is far from enough to rely on academic excellence. That's why there is a saying of "fighting dad" in society. And because of the current situation of difficult employment of college students in recent years, rural (non suburban rural areas) children can graduate from high school is a minority, most of them go out to work when they reach junior high school, and the proportion of girls who continue to study is lower. Although reading and studying well does not represent a happy life, it is not a good thing to enter the society too early at the age of education. To sum up, it is indeed much more difficult for poor students, especially those in remote rural areas, to grow into the pride of heaven again. How to love children? How can children become talents? Some things seem irrelevant, and sometimes some things are full of necessity. Love sometimes really blinds our eyes. Children may not be able to become successful through hardship, but they can't really grow and exercise without necessary hardship and necessary physical and mental experience.