"Reputation is never to be heard, and right and wrong are always self-evident" -- Feng Menglong. For most Chinese people, all external evaluations will be used as a reference standard for their next life. Old people often say, "a man lives a face, a tree lives a skin". The so-called face is what most Chinese people pursue. If others give affirmation, praise and praise, they will be happy and arrogant; If what others give is negative, ironic and critical, they will be discouraged and depressed. Being unable to maintain oneself and live in the evaluation of others is the current situation of many people. Someone will appreciate you, even if you are a grass The Chinese people have always taught their children to be masters, not ordinary people. So many people want to be appreciated when they grow up, but it's hard to be a man because of their talents. As a result, many people choose to give up themselves, abandon themselves, and even some people are overwhelmed and can't bear the weight of life and choose to commit suicide to escape. Turning to the American Declaration of independence, the first thing to see is the statement that "all men are created equal". Each life has its own exclusive value, which will not be changed by others' praise or devaluation. Everyone is equal. The author believes that it does not refer to social status and wealth index, but to people's own life value. If you are an engineer, you can design drawings; If you are a novelist, you will write; If you are a teacher, you will preach and teach; If you are a construction worker, you will build skyscrapers... Many times, we are always misled and misinterpreted. Engineers are better than teachers, and novelists are better than construction workers. Not really! Their life value is the same. They are fulfilling their mission and value, not to show others. Because you will find that if engineers design drawings, there will be no high-rise buildings without construction workers. If there is no teacher preaching and teaching, it is possible that the novelist doesn't even know words. You walk in this world, as long as you don't give up yourself, someone will appreciate you, even if you are a grass! You know yourself best when others don't know you The current society is more impetuous. The fast-paced life makes people impatient and gradually lose the ability of self thinking. People's happiness, anger, sadness and happiness are manipulated by others' words and deeds, smiles and smiles. It is very common for young people to handle things without others' advice, otherwise they will be angry. These are all manifestations of a lack of self affirmation. You can't be sure of yourself. How can you let others be sure of you? People should have self-awareness, know their values and understand their weaknesses. Don't be distracted by external comments. If others don't know you, you know yourself best. When dealing with the slander and praise of others, you should rationally perceive and accept them. Don't use the evaluation of others as your behavior direction. Your value will not change because of the words of others. Birds know how to fly and fish know how to swim. They evaluate each other, but they will not change their direction from beginning to end. Make your life easier and don't accept other people's evaluation easily In the past, a teacher told me that others said you wrote too badly, perhaps because he asked too much. In the eyes of others, you might write much better. When people come to this world, they will hear a lot of people comment on themselves. If you treat them seriously, you will only live too tired. If you want to make your life easier, don't easily accept other people's comments. This reminds me of the story of two monks. One monk asked another monk, "how should people in the world slander me, bully me, humiliate me, laugh at me, despise me, despise me, evil me and deceive me?" Another monk told him, "just bear him, let him, let him, avoid him, tolerate him, respect him, ignore him, stay for a few more years, and you'll see him." These two monks are masters Han Shan and Shi De of the Tang Dynasty. I didn't pay much attention to it before. Later I realized that people were born with a mouth and ears. The mouth is mainly used for eating, and the ears are used for listening. You will hear a lot of words that make you unable to eat, but you still eat in the end. Some people will say right and wrong, others talk about you and evaluate you. If you care too much, you may deviate from your own way. People live for themselves, not to get a few comments from others. If so, how tired should they live? Therefore, people should have self-knowledge, self-help, and don't and don't need to live in other people's evaluation.

"Reputation is never to be heard, and right and wrong are always self-evident" -- Feng Menglong. For most Chinese people, all external evaluations will be used as a reference standard for their next life. Old people often say, "a man lives a face, a tree lives a skin". The so-called face is what most Chinese people pursue. If others give affirmation, praise and praise, they will be happy and arrogant; If what others give is negative, ironic and critical, they will be discouraged and depressed. Being unable to maintain oneself and live in the evaluation of others is the current situation of many people. Someone will appreciate you, even if you are a grass The Chinese people have always taught their children to be masters, not ordinary people. So many people want to be appreciated when they grow up, but it's hard to be a man because of their talents. As a result, many people choose to give up themselves, abandon themselves, and even some people are overwhelmed and can't bear the weight of life and choose to commit suicide to escape. Turning to the American Declaration of independence, the first thing to see is the statement that "all men are created equal". Each life has its own exclusive value, which will not be changed by others' praise or devaluation. Everyone is equal. The author believes that it does not refer to social status and wealth index, but to people's own life value. If you are an engineer, you can design drawings; If you are a novelist, you will write; If you are a teacher, you will preach and teach; If you are a construction worker, you will build skyscrapers... Many times, we are always misled and misinterpreted. Engineers are better than teachers, and novelists are better than construction workers. Not really! Their life value is the same. They are fulfilling their mission and value, not to show others. Because you will find that if engineers design drawings, there will be no high-rise buildings without construction workers. If there is no teacher preaching and teaching, it is possible that the novelist doesn't even know words. You walk in this world, as long as you don't give up yourself, someone will appreciate you, even if you are a grass! You know yourself best when others don't know you The current society is more impetuous. The fast-paced life makes people impatient and gradually lose the ability of self thinking. People's happiness, anger, sadness and happiness are manipulated by others' words and deeds, smiles and smiles. It is very common for young people to handle things without others' advice, otherwise they will be angry. These are all manifestations of a lack of self affirmation. You can't be sure of yourself. How can you let others be sure of you? People should have self-awareness, know their values and understand their weaknesses. Don't be distracted by external comments. If others don't know you, you know yourself best. When dealing with the slander and praise of others, you should rationally perceive and accept them. Don't use the evaluation of others as your behavior direction. Your value will not change because of the words of others. Birds know how to fly and fish know how to swim. They evaluate each other, but they will not change their direction from beginning to end. Make your life easier and don't accept other people's evaluation easily In the past, a teacher told me that others said you wrote too badly, perhaps because he asked too much. In the eyes of others, you might write much better. When people come to this world, they will hear a lot of people comment on themselves. If you treat them seriously, you will only live too tired. If you want to make your life easier, don't easily accept other people's comments. This reminds me of the story of two monks. One monk asked another monk, "how should people in the world slander me, bully me, humiliate me, laugh at me, despise me, despise me, evil me and deceive me?" Another monk told him, "just bear him, let him, let him, avoid him, tolerate him, respect him, ignore him, stay for a few more years, and you'll see him." These two monks are masters Han Shan and Shi De of the Tang Dynasty. I didn't pay much attention to it before. Later I realized that people were born with a mouth and ears. The mouth is mainly used for eating, and the ears are used for listening. You will hear a lot of words that make you unable to eat, but you still eat in the end. Some people will say right and wrong, others talk about you and evaluate you. If you care too much, you may deviate from your own way. People live for themselves, not to get a few comments from others. If so, how tired should they live? Therefore, people should have self-knowledge, self-help, and don't and don't need to live in other people's evaluation.