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Interpersonal communication, mixed with society, you have to use your brain to do every step. It is essential to observe words and colors. This article teaches you to give full play to your intelligence. Some social metaphors need you to think about. When doing big things, it is the king's way to start with small things.
When you go to other people's houses as a guest, you can say more or less. Even when you are often advised to drink tea or suggest watching TV, you should leave. People always remind others to do something unimportant when they feel they have nothing to say. If you stay any longer, you may not be popular.
If he is reporting to his boss and his eyes are not focused on you, or his fingers are inadvertently buttoned on the table, he is likely to be dissatisfied with your report. If his feet are shaking under the table when you go in; While you were talking, his feet suddenly stopped shaking, and he had a strong interest in your words.
When talking to a new person, his hands are always inadvertently held in front of his chest, which shows that he is still on guard against you. Therefore, it is best to be cautious before making him believe you.
At the wine table, a person who frequently toasts to you either asks for you or is hostile to you, so you'd better analyze whether you belong to the former or the latter as soon as possible. The former quickly lead the topic to him and promise him, and the latter you will pretend to be drunk.
A person sends an invitation to you. When you implement the invitation with interest, he suddenly looks around and talks about him. In fact, his invitation is just a slip of the tongue. Don't pursue it unless you want to annoy him.
It's much more terrible to find out your mistakes without telling you, especially when two people are in a competitive work state.
A person who is always boasting in front of you is not proud. His heart is just opposite to his appearance of boasting. He is a person with extreme inferiority. His boasting is just used to cover up his inferiority complex.
Sitting posture can reveal a person's personality. Cocking one leg when sitting: quite confident, lazy personality, not easy to fantasize, no personal problems or troubles can disturb it, and confidence is formed outside. When sitting, keep your legs together and your feet flat on the ground: Frank, open and honest, have the habit of cleanliness and punctuality, like a regular life, and feel more comfortable if you act according to the schedule. When sitting, stretch your legs forward and fork your feet at your ankles: hope to be the center, have a conservative and almost stupid will, and like to seek stability. When sitting, one foot is under the other foot: unique personality, indifferent to everything, no sense of responsibility, like to be noticed, innovative and unconventional. Sit with your knees together and your feet about a foot apart: you are very sensitive to the things around you and observe them carefully. Because you are familiar with the world, you are very considerate, forgiving and sentimental. When sitting, cross your feet on your knees and hook one foot behind the other: cute, very popular, quiet personality, easy to get along with others, not good at boasting or pretending. In addition, people who touch their mouth after sitting down tend to feel uneasy and suspicious: people who touch their knees tend to think that there will be good things coming, and they have a high sense of Conceit: people who touch their chin are worried about something: people who just sit down and keep scratching their hair are impatient, like to make quick decisions, have different feelings, and are easy to change their minds: people who like to touch their forehead from bottom to top after sitting down can speak well and have strong persuasion, but their means are often cunning.
People with a certain personality or mood will walk with different walking posture. Walking with big strides, elastic steps and swinging arms show a person's confidence, happiness, friendliness and ambition: dragging steps when walking, and the opposite when walking small or fast or slow. People with good disposition tend to kick their feet back high when walking. Impulsive people, like ducks, bow their heads and rush away. People who shuffle along are usually unhappy and depressed. When a woman walks, the higher her arms swing, the more energetic and happy she is. When depressed, depressed, angry and confused, women rarely swing their arms when walking. People who are used to walking and swing their arms tend to achieve success.
Some people talk with their heads drooping limply with their upper bodies flabby. This posture is often used by people who are shy or have a sense of inferiority or guilt. Some people lean back slightly when talking with others, as if they are looking at each other's attitude in the posture of leaning back. Those who hold this posture are arrogant and want to show off their superiority to others with double exaggeration. They are people with the character of vanity and self-expression. In addition, when talking with others, they always move their body or move their hands and feet slightly. They are people who are emotionally disturbed, grumpy, easy to get angry and anxious. Holding two arms or carrying two hands behind your back to talk to people or listen to each other, showing a sense of superiority of arrogance. The posture of speaking or listening to people with crutches or hands on the table shows an arrogant attitude of contempt for each other. If the conversation object sitting opposite you changes from the ordinary posture at the beginning to the posture of holding his arms and crossing his legs, and finally wants to speak, you should have a premonition that he may want to defy and break the maintained conversation atmosphere, and be ready to express different opinions and sing a different tune. If the other party holds up his arms, crosses his legs, and then makes a posture of straightening his chest and sliding his waist forward, it reflects his desire to escape from the occasion of this kind of conversation. At the same time, it also shows that he is depressed and out of interest. When these two kinds of psychology are mixed together, he uses this posture. If his upper body bends forward, it means that he can't bear to speak at last. When the other party holds an unfriendly attitude, the posture is often the following actions: hold two hands together in front of the chest or put both palms together, hold both hands together, keep the arms close to the armpits, use elbow force, such as body pressure, palm close to the chest, etc. Generally speaking, the psychology shown by this kind of continuous tense action is unlikely to be the psychology and emotion related to "openness" and "lightness". Most of his performance is decadent and self defensive psychology, as well as slightly discouraged melancholy and hesitant psychology.
Those who stand with their legs together are reliable, well-conscious, down-to-earth and honest, but they appear a little indifferent on the surface. Stand with your legs about two feet apart and your toes slightly outward: decisive, willful, enterprising and not pretentious. Stand with your legs together and cross, one foot later, and your feet flat on the ground: ambitious, irritable, aggressive and adventurous. You usually go through fire and water around your goal. When standing, one foot stands upright, the other foot bends behind and touches the ground with the toe: the mood is very unstable and changeable, and likes constant stimulation and challenge. Standing posture can be divided into front (back) and side. Comparatively speaking, the characteristics reflected by the frontal posture are the posture characteristics formed by people through learning and summarizing and accumulating their own experience; while the lateral posture is generally considered to still retain the original posture tendency and characteristics at birth. Therefore, the positive posture is formed when people adapt to the acquired living environment. It reflects people's future and current situation, and also shows a person's ability to overcome difficulties. The side posture shows the original feelings, the psychological activities in childhood and adolescence, and the psychological activities related to life. If we see a side posture of drooping head, bending knees, hunched back and bending down, we can immediately judge from this situation that the person's psychology is not in a state of tension, but in a state of depression and relaxation. This is the profile of children crying to sleep and adults curling to sleep with sadness. This posture has a lot in common with the squatting posture of people who have lost their energy or are exhausted.
Liars don't avoid each other's eyes as often understood. Instead, they need eye contact to judge whether you believe what he says; The liar's eyes will drift before lying and will be sure after thinking about what to lie. If you calmly refute, the liar will drift again. When faced with a question, a liar usually gets a little confused, then thinks quickly in the time of fake laughter, comes up with a bad lie, and then responds very firmly. Moreover, he will even keep talking to himself, more and more, because when he is silent, he feels that others are still doubting him. People touch their necks when they lie. It's a classic move. The finger points to one side, but the eye looks to the other side. This is what happens when you lie. You rack your brains to make up the facts, and your limbs can't keep up at all. Speak hesitantly and repeatedly, there is no way to organize what you should say, so it is obviously lying. When talking, one shoulder shrugs, indicating that he is extremely unsure of what he said, and the inconsistency between body and language indicates that he is lying. If the other party disdains your question, usually your question will be true. The simplest and most evil way to test whether a person is lying is to tell a lie and let him jump in.
The expression of real surprise is fleeting, and it is pretended for more than a second;
If you suddenly speak loudly and then slap your hand on the table, it's a sign time difference in response to terrible things. If you are really angry, these two actions will be carried out at the same time.
If someone is about to commit a bloody crime, there will be such an expression: the eyebrows are frowned down, the upper eyelids are raised, and the circumference of the eyes is tight. When the real killer sees the picture of the victim, he will show nausea, contempt and even fear. But it's definitely not a surprise.
When asked, bite your lips and scratch your ears, which is to improve your sense of control - a manifestation of anxiety.
The lips are tight, but the nostrils are still tight.
Speaking slowly and softly indicates extreme sadness and anxiety.
In modern communication, drinking is an important social means. According to the daily telegraph, Professor Glenn Wilson, a psychologist at the University of London, found that the way to serve a glass can classify the personality of drinkers into eight types. Flirty. Hold the wine glass in front of the exposed parts of the body, such as the neck and arms, SIP while exchanging feelings with your eyes, or slowly drink the wine while watching each other. This is usually interested in you and wants to attract your attention. You'd better show appreciation and praise. Gossip type. Hold the top of the glass and dance back and forth with gestures. Then put the glass under your body and whisper to each other. Such people have a stable circle and it is difficult to break through. If it's a group of women, it's "three women in one play". It's best not to easily interrupt them to gossip. Popular lover. Grab the bottleneck and drink directly. No matter men or women, this kind of people like to socialize, pay attention to unity and are willing to expand their social circle. The best way to get close to them is to go straight over and start with a little humor. Self enclosed. Hold the wine cup tightly for fear that others will take it away; He drank very slowly and deliberately left a few mouthfuls to cope with the toasts. This kind of person is more passive and shy. You might as well say a few nice words first to enhance his self-confidence and let him open the chatterbox. Cold faced beauty. Hold the glass tightly and place it in an "obstacle" position to avoid any intimate approach. Such people are usually very defensive, mostly women. Trying to get close to her will only waste time and even get angry. Playboy type. The wine cup is more like a prop in the hand, and the goblet symbolizing the penis is usually selected. This kind of person is usually a confident and energetic man. He is prone to fall under the pomegranate skirt with strong possessiveness. Arbitrary and reckless. Holding a glass of wine, he waved his arms around and talked about his views. This kind of person attaches great importance to personal image and is mixed with arrogance in self-confidence. If you are of the same sex with him and you don't have to be friendly, you'd better avoid him. Supercilious. Hold a large glass or bottle of wine in a threatening way to show off your drinking capacity. This kind of person is self-centered and easy to argue with others. Even if you make a light joke, it makes people feel like holding a gun with a stick. Be careful when approaching such people, or just give up.
Professor Glenn Wilson, a psychologist at the University of London, found that people who like to walk around with a glass of wine and talk about their views are usually confident and open-minded and want to make more friends. People who like to show off their drinking capacity and hold their glasses around to drink to others are usually vain. They are easy to "get complacent" at dinner, but their control is limited and they are easy to argue with others. People who put the wine glass in an inconspicuous position or hold it tightly usually have a heavy defensive psychology and don't want to associate too much with others. When waiting for a meal, some people are fidgety. Most of the people who wolf down food as soon as they are on the table have a bright personality, have no mind, and are active and willing to do things. People who pay attention to tableware and environmental hygiene usually have a delicate mind. Even if a small bone falls on the table, they have to pick it up. They are also orderly in life and good at taking care of it. People who want to taste every dish are adventurous and full of enthusiasm. Those who leave the table after dinner are more self-centered and rarely consider other people's ideas. In addition, what kind of wine you like to drink is also related to your personality characteristics. People who choose beer are usually happy to cater to others and are easy to get favors from others. People who choose foreign wine attach great importance to atmosphere and mood, like nostalgia, easy to be sad, and have a sensitive personality. People who like wine or champagne know how to enjoy life, have unique views on things, and have high requirements for others. People who like to drink Baijiu are naturally energetic and straightforward. They usually communicate widely, but lack patience and perseverance.
Character from reading: in New York, there is a research institution called "hilsey psychological counseling center". Dr. Hoffman, its director, is a famous psychologist. After years of research, he found that there is an inseparable internal relationship between reading and people's character. Because of this, we can understand some of their personality characteristics and some changes in emotion through the different types of books, newspapers and periodicals that readers like to read in their spare time. Dr Hoffman summed up the general personality characteristics of people who like to read the following 15 types of books and newspapers. If you love reading romantic novels - you must have rich feelings, deeply believe in intuition and feel that life is full of colorful sunshine. It is valuable that you can fight tenaciously and will not be depressed when you are in trouble or facing failure. If you like reading biographical books - you must be a thoughtful person, ambitious and down-to-earth. Being considerate and inquisitive is your biggest characteristic. You will think twice before making a decision and never take risks rashly. If you can't let go of small newspapers - your character appears optimistic and cheerful, and your feelings are more exposed. I especially love chatting and take it as a great pleasure. Among the several people who talk together, you must be a "central spokesman" who is "in line with his duties" If you appreciate comic books - sorrow, pain and trouble, you must not be lucky because you are an optimist. Laugh often, stay young forever, have natural and unrestrained demeanor and funny personality, and no difficulty or resistance can embarrass you.! If you often read newspapers and news publications - it is enough to show that you care about major events at home and abroad, observe the changes in the world, keep your words and deeds up to the pace of the times, and don't want to be a laggard. You have a quick mind and can respond quickly to new things. If you are interested in pictorials or large picture albums - you must be hospitable and make friends. Colleagues, relatives and friends are willing to visit your home. At the banquet held at home, you are a very competent host and can make every guest present come and go with satisfaction. If you like reading the Bible - you can assert that you are honest, diligent, never lazy, respect the wise and respect knowledge. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, being lenient to others, being strict with yourself and being kind to others are your important principles. If you like reading detective or case solving books - using your brain and solving difficult problems must be a major feature of you. In the eyes of many people, it seems that there is no way to solve the problem, but it can be solved easily in your hand. Moreover, you are more interested in some daunting problems and take pleasure in solving them. If you are a treasure of science fiction books - you must have developed thinking, rich imagination and strong creativity. You always want to do your work better and make your life better. If you often read women's newspapers - on the surface, you want to be a leader among women and be enterprising in your career; Be strict and meticulous in work; Be cautious and do not want to make a big mistake because of one's own fault or temporary negligence, resulting in lifelong regret. If you like reading books, newspapers and magazines such as finance and Economics - you can see that you are a person with self-respect, worship those who have made great achievements in your career and follow their example. You hope to give full play to your competitiveness and ascend the throne of "champion" Especially favor and love some popular fashion magazines - you are likely to pay more attention to your identity and status, and sometimes even elevate yourself out of reality, often unable to stand down. If you especially like reading poetry - you must love life and love everything in the world. Nature's blue sky, sea, mountains, flowing water, birds and animals are so beautiful and lovely, full of warmth and vitality, which makes people relaxed and happy. At the same time, poetry "purifies" the truth, and makes you pursue the beauty consciously If you are interested in reading history books - respecting facts, paying attention to reality and paying attention to results are your principles in dealing with people and things. Your time is full and spent on hard work or serious learning. You never show up in such meaningless chatting situations, and you don't associate with people who have nothing to do. If you are addicted to horror stories - you may be tired of life and depressed, perhaps at a loss in the face of the great pressure brought by fierce competition, or overwhelmed by repeated failures. In order to get rid of the emptiness and anxiety in your heart, you have to use stimulation to free yourself, so you are quite fond of such books. However, the effect is not as ideal as expected, although it can temporarily make you forget your troubles and depression.
Interpersonal communication, mixed with society, you have to use your brain to do every step. It is essential to observe words and colors. This article teaches you to give full play to your intelligence. Some social metaphors need you to think about. When doing big things, it is the king's way to start with small things.
When you go to other people's houses as a guest, you can say more or less. Even when you are often advised to drink tea or suggest watching TV, you should leave. People always remind others to do something unimportant when they feel they have nothing to say. If you stay any longer, you may not be popular.
If he is reporting to his boss and his eyes are not focused on you, or his fingers are inadvertently buttoned on the table, he is likely to be dissatisfied with your report. If his feet are shaking under the table when you go in; While you were talking, his feet suddenly stopped shaking, and he had a strong interest in your words.
When talking to a new person, his hands are always inadvertently held in front of his chest, which shows that he is still on guard against you. Therefore, it is best to be cautious before making him believe you.
At the wine table, a person who frequently toasts to you either asks for you or is hostile to you, so you'd better analyze whether you belong to the former or the latter as soon as possible. The former quickly lead the topic to him and promise him, and the latter you will pretend to be drunk.
A person sends an invitation to you. When you implement the invitation with interest, he suddenly looks around and talks about him. In fact, his invitation is just a slip of the tongue. Don't pursue it unless you want to annoy him.
It's much more terrible to find out your mistakes without telling you, especially when two people are in a competitive work state.
A person who is always boasting in front of you is not proud. His heart is just opposite to his appearance of boasting. He is a person with extreme inferiority. His boasting is just used to cover up his inferiority complex.
Sitting posture can reveal a person's personality. Cocking one leg when sitting: quite confident, lazy personality, not easy to fantasize, no personal problems or troubles can disturb it, and confidence is formed outside. When sitting, keep your legs together and your feet flat on the ground: Frank, open and honest, have the habit of cleanliness and punctuality, like a regular life, and feel more comfortable if you act according to the schedule. When sitting, stretch your legs forward and fork your feet at your ankles: hope to be the center, have a conservative and almost stupid will, and like to seek stability. When sitting, one foot is under the other foot: unique personality, indifferent to everything, no sense of responsibility, like to be noticed, innovative and unconventional. Sit with your knees together and your feet about a foot apart: you are very sensitive to the things around you and observe them carefully. Because you are familiar with the world, you are very considerate, forgiving and sentimental. When sitting, cross your feet on your knees and hook one foot behind the other: cute, very popular, quiet personality, easy to get along with others, not good at boasting or pretending. In addition, people who touch their mouth after sitting down tend to feel uneasy and suspicious: people who touch their knees tend to think that there will be good things coming, and they have a high sense of Conceit: people who touch their chin are worried about something: people who just sit down and keep scratching their hair are impatient, like to make quick decisions, have different feelings, and are easy to change their minds: people who like to touch their forehead from bottom to top after sitting down can speak well and have strong persuasion, but their means are often cunning.
People with a certain personality or mood will walk with different walking posture. Walking with big strides, elastic steps and swinging arms show a person's confidence, happiness, friendliness and ambition: dragging steps when walking, and the opposite when walking small or fast or slow. People with good disposition tend to kick their feet back high when walking. Impulsive people, like ducks, bow their heads and rush away. People who shuffle along are usually unhappy and depressed. When a woman walks, the higher her arms swing, the more energetic and happy she is. When depressed, depressed, angry and confused, women rarely swing their arms when walking. People who are used to walking and swing their arms tend to achieve success.
Some people talk with their heads drooping limply with their upper bodies flabby. This posture is often used by people who are shy or have a sense of inferiority or guilt. Some people lean back slightly when talking with others, as if they are looking at each other's attitude in the posture of leaning back. Those who hold this posture are arrogant and want to show off their superiority to others with double exaggeration. They are people with the character of vanity and self-expression. In addition, when talking with others, they always move their body or move their hands and feet slightly. They are people who are emotionally disturbed, grumpy, easy to get angry and anxious. Holding two arms or carrying two hands behind your back to talk to people or listen to each other, showing a sense of superiority of arrogance. The posture of speaking or listening to people with crutches or hands on the table shows an arrogant attitude of contempt for each other. If the conversation object sitting opposite you changes from the ordinary posture at the beginning to the posture of holding his arms and crossing his legs, and finally wants to speak, you should have a premonition that he may want to defy and break the maintained conversation atmosphere, and be ready to express different opinions and sing a different tune. If the other party holds up his arms, crosses his legs, and then makes a posture of straightening his chest and sliding his waist forward, it reflects his desire to escape from the occasion of this kind of conversation. At the same time, it also shows that he is depressed and out of interest. When these two kinds of psychology are mixed together, he uses this posture. If his upper body bends forward, it means that he can't bear to speak at last. When the other party holds an unfriendly attitude, the posture is often the following actions: hold two hands together in front of the chest or put both palms together, hold both hands together, keep the arms close to the armpits, use elbow force, such as body pressure, palm close to the chest, etc. Generally speaking, the psychology shown by this kind of continuous tense action is unlikely to be the psychology and emotion related to "openness" and "lightness". Most of his performance is decadent and self defensive psychology, as well as slightly discouraged melancholy and hesitant psychology.
Those who stand with their legs together are reliable, well-conscious, down-to-earth and honest, but they appear a little indifferent on the surface. Stand with your legs about two feet apart and your toes slightly outward: decisive, willful, enterprising and not pretentious. Stand with your legs together and cross, one foot later, and your feet flat on the ground: ambitious, irritable, aggressive and adventurous. You usually go through fire and water around your goal. When standing, one foot stands upright, the other foot bends behind and touches the ground with the toe: the mood is very unstable and changeable, and likes constant stimulation and challenge. Standing posture can be divided into front (back) and side. Comparatively speaking, the characteristics reflected by the frontal posture are the posture characteristics formed by people through learning and summarizing and accumulating their own experience; while the lateral posture is generally considered to still retain the original posture tendency and characteristics at birth. Therefore, the positive posture is formed when people adapt to the acquired living environment. It reflects people's future and current situation, and also shows a person's ability to overcome difficulties. The side posture shows the original feelings, the psychological activities in childhood and adolescence, and the psychological activities related to life. If we see a side posture of drooping head, bending knees, hunched back and bending down, we can immediately judge from this situation that the person's psychology is not in a state of tension, but in a state of depression and relaxation. This is the profile of children crying to sleep and adults curling to sleep with sadness. This posture has a lot in common with the squatting posture of people who have lost their energy or are exhausted.
Liars don't avoid each other's eyes as often understood. Instead, they need eye contact to judge whether you believe what he says; The liar's eyes will drift before lying and will be sure after thinking about what to lie. If you calmly refute, the liar will drift again. When faced with a question, a liar usually gets a little confused, then thinks quickly in the time of fake laughter, comes up with a bad lie, and then responds very firmly. Moreover, he will even keep talking to himself, more and more, because when he is silent, he feels that others are still doubting him. People touch their necks when they lie. It's a classic move. The finger points to one side, but the eye looks to the other side. This is what happens when you lie. You rack your brains to make up the facts, and your limbs can't keep up at all. Speak hesitantly and repeatedly, there is no way to organize what you should say, so it is obviously lying. When talking, one shoulder shrugs, indicating that he is extremely unsure of what he said, and the inconsistency between body and language indicates that he is lying. If the other party disdains your question, usually your question will be true. The simplest and most evil way to test whether a person is lying is to tell a lie and let him jump in.
The expression of real surprise is fleeting, and it is pretended for more than a second;
If you suddenly speak loudly and then slap your hand on the table, it's a sign time difference in response to terrible things. If you are really angry, these two actions will be carried out at the same time.
If someone is about to commit a bloody crime, there will be such an expression: the eyebrows are frowned down, the upper eyelids are raised, and the circumference of the eyes is tight. When the real killer sees the picture of the victim, he will show nausea, contempt and even fear. But it's definitely not a surprise.
When asked, bite your lips and scratch your ears, which is to improve your sense of control - a manifestation of anxiety.
The lips are tight, but the nostrils are still tight.
Speaking slowly and softly indicates extreme sadness and anxiety.
In modern communication, drinking is an important social means. According to the daily telegraph, Professor Glenn Wilson, a psychologist at the University of London, found that the way to serve a glass can classify the personality of drinkers into eight types. Flirty. Hold the wine glass in front of the exposed parts of the body, such as the neck and arms, SIP while exchanging feelings with your eyes, or slowly drink the wine while watching each other. This is usually interested in you and wants to attract your attention. You'd better show appreciation and praise. Gossip type. Hold the top of the glass and dance back and forth with gestures. Then put the glass under your body and whisper to each other. Such people have a stable circle and it is difficult to break through. If it's a group of women, it's "three women in one play". It's best not to easily interrupt them to gossip. Popular lover. Grab the bottleneck and drink directly. No matter men or women, this kind of people like to socialize, pay attention to unity and are willing to expand their social circle. The best way to get close to them is to go straight over and start with a little humor. Self enclosed. Hold the wine cup tightly for fear that others will take it away; He drank very slowly and deliberately left a few mouthfuls to cope with the toasts. This kind of person is more passive and shy. You might as well say a few nice words first to enhance his self-confidence and let him open the chatterbox. Cold faced beauty. Hold the glass tightly and place it in an "obstacle" position to avoid any intimate approach. Such people are usually very defensive, mostly women. Trying to get close to her will only waste time and even get angry. Playboy type. The wine cup is more like a prop in the hand, and the goblet symbolizing the penis is usually selected. This kind of person is usually a confident and energetic man. He is prone to fall under the pomegranate skirt with strong possessiveness. Arbitrary and reckless. Holding a glass of wine, he waved his arms around and talked about his views. This kind of person attaches great importance to personal image and is mixed with arrogance in self-confidence. If you are of the same sex with him and you don't have to be friendly, you'd better avoid him. Supercilious. Hold a large glass or bottle of wine in a threatening way to show off your drinking capacity. This kind of person is self-centered and easy to argue with others. Even if you make a light joke, it makes people feel like holding a gun with a stick. Be careful when approaching such people, or just give up.
Professor Glenn Wilson, a psychologist at the University of London, found that people who like to walk around with a glass of wine and talk about their views are usually confident and open-minded and want to make more friends. People who like to show off their drinking capacity and hold their glasses around to drink to others are usually vain. They are easy to "get complacent" at dinner, but their control is limited and they are easy to argue with others. People who put the wine glass in an inconspicuous position or hold it tightly usually have a heavy defensive psychology and don't want to associate too much with others. When waiting for a meal, some people are fidgety. Most of the people who wolf down food as soon as they are on the table have a bright personality, have no mind, and are active and willing to do things. People who pay attention to tableware and environmental hygiene usually have a delicate mind. Even if a small bone falls on the table, they have to pick it up. They are also orderly in life and good at taking care of it. People who want to taste every dish are adventurous and full of enthusiasm. Those who leave the table after dinner are more self-centered and rarely consider other people's ideas. In addition, what kind of wine you like to drink is also related to your personality characteristics. People who choose beer are usually happy to cater to others and are easy to get favors from others. People who choose foreign wine attach great importance to atmosphere and mood, like nostalgia, easy to be sad, and have a sensitive personality. People who like wine or champagne know how to enjoy life, have unique views on things, and have high requirements for others. People who like to drink Baijiu are naturally energetic and straightforward. They usually communicate widely, but lack patience and perseverance.
Character from reading: in New York, there is a research institution called "hilsey psychological counseling center". Dr. Hoffman, its director, is a famous psychologist. After years of research, he found that there is an inseparable internal relationship between reading and people's character. Because of this, we can understand some of their personality characteristics and some changes in emotion through the different types of books, newspapers and periodicals that readers like to read in their spare time. Dr Hoffman summed up the general personality characteristics of people who like to read the following 15 types of books and newspapers. If you love reading romantic novels - you must have rich feelings, deeply believe in intuition and feel that life is full of colorful sunshine. It is valuable that you can fight tenaciously and will not be depressed when you are in trouble or facing failure. If you like reading biographical books - you must be a thoughtful person, ambitious and down-to-earth. Being considerate and inquisitive is your biggest characteristic. You will think twice before making a decision and never take risks rashly. If you can't let go of small newspapers - your character appears optimistic and cheerful, and your feelings are more exposed. I especially love chatting and take it as a great pleasure. Among the several people who talk together, you must be a "central spokesman" who is "in line with his duties" If you appreciate comic books - sorrow, pain and trouble, you must not be lucky because you are an optimist. Laugh often, stay young forever, have natural and unrestrained demeanor and funny personality, and no difficulty or resistance can embarrass you.! If you often read newspapers and news publications - it is enough to show that you care about major events at home and abroad, observe the changes in the world, keep your words and deeds up to the pace of the times, and don't want to be a laggard. You have a quick mind and can respond quickly to new things. If you are interested in pictorials or large picture albums - you must be hospitable and make friends. Colleagues, relatives and friends are willing to visit your home. At the banquet held at home, you are a very competent host and can make every guest present come and go with satisfaction. If you like reading the Bible - you can assert that you are honest, diligent, never lazy, respect the wise and respect knowledge. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, being lenient to others, being strict with yourself and being kind to others are your important principles. If you like reading detective or case solving books - using your brain and solving difficult problems must be a major feature of you. In the eyes of many people, it seems that there is no way to solve the problem, but it can be solved easily in your hand. Moreover, you are more interested in some daunting problems and take pleasure in solving them. If you are a treasure of science fiction books - you must have developed thinking, rich imagination and strong creativity. You always want to do your work better and make your life better. If you often read women's newspapers - on the surface, you want to be a leader among women and be enterprising in your career; Be strict and meticulous in work; Be cautious and do not want to make a big mistake because of one's own fault or temporary negligence, resulting in lifelong regret. If you like reading books, newspapers and magazines such as finance and Economics - you can see that you are a person with self-respect, worship those who have made great achievements in your career and follow their example. You hope to give full play to your competitiveness and ascend the throne of "champion" Especially favor and love some popular fashion magazines - you are likely to pay more attention to your identity and status, and sometimes even elevate yourself out of reality, often unable to stand down. If you especially like reading poetry - you must love life and love everything in the world. Nature's blue sky, sea, mountains, flowing water, birds and animals are so beautiful and lovely, full of warmth and vitality, which makes people relaxed and happy. At the same time, poetry "purifies" the truth, and makes you pursue the beauty consciously If you are interested in reading history books - respecting facts, paying attention to reality and paying attention to results are your principles in dealing with people and things. Your time is full and spent on hard work or serious learning. You never show up in such meaningless chatting situations, and you don't associate with people who have nothing to do. If you are addicted to horror stories - you may be tired of life and depressed, perhaps at a loss in the face of the great pressure brought by fierce competition, or overwhelmed by repeated failures. In order to get rid of the emptiness and anxiety in your heart, you have to use stimulation to free yourself, so you are quite fond of such books. However, the effect is not as ideal as expected, although it can temporarily make you forget your troubles and depression.
Being warm to others is a virtue, but if a person is too warm to you, you should pay attention that he may refuse your request or suggestion. In psychology, there is a defense mechanism, which we call "reverse formation", which means that ideas and actions have the opposite performance. For example, a person is interested in a different sex, but may be particularly indifferent to him or her; He hates a person in particular, but shows special friendliness.
When we make a request to others, they say they "know" before they finish listening. In fact, they didn't help you in the end. Psychology tells us that when a person who doesn't know much about your character and purpose shows an attitude of knowing everything about your request, he usually doesn't want you to go on. Let's imagine that when we want to help someone, we always listen to him patiently, and then decide what to do according to the difficulty of the problem. The explanation for this situation is that either he is unwilling to help, but he is only polite and does not refuse you directly; Or he didn't understand what you meant, but he can only use this method to show that he understood. Therefore, when you hear the other party's easy promise, don't be confused by this phenomenon and think he is a very enthusiastic person. In fact, at this time, you should know that your goal has not been achieved and know what to change.
Speaking speed can often reflect a person's temperament. If he speaks fast at ordinary times, it may be a eloquent performance. However, if he doesn't speak fast at ordinary times and the speed suddenly increases at this time, it reflects that he has a sense of uneasiness or tension in his current state of mind. Social psychologists have found an interesting phenomenon: after a man flirts with his wife, if he thinks he may be sorry for his wife, he often suddenly gushes a lot to his wife. Why does this happen? Because when there is a deep sense of psychological uneasiness, the speed of speaking will be unusually fast. Its purpose is to deceive ourselves and others and ease the inner uneasiness and fear.
When contacting people, if the other person keeps asking you questions and doesn't give you the opportunity to ask questions, you should know that he may be ashamed to let others know or afraid of being mentioned. There is such a case: a person goes to the psychological counseling center for help because he is very worried about being asked about his work. His original position was enviable, but now he has changed to a recognized "thin poor", and he has a strong sense of loss in his heart. Worry about what others ask about him all day. If you get in touch with others, you have to become very enthusiastic and keep asking each other how they are now. There is only one purpose. Don't give others the opportunity to ask about themselves.
Disgusting stimulation can make the pupil contract; Pleasant stimulation will enlarge the pupils; Panic or excitement will make the pupil expand to four times the normal. Therefore, the change of pupil is a sign of the activity of the central nervous system. Eye rotation can also show ongoing thinking activities. If you find that the other person's eyes are relatively stable and rotate less in conversation, it shows that he has a sincere attitude and is an object worthy of further conversation; If you find that the other person's eyes move and flicker, and the number of eye turns is more, it means that he has different opinions or doesn't want to continue talking with you. Eyelids have two states: opening and closing. In general, this can also reflect people's mental state. When you see a person with drooping eyelids, he may be depressed or upset; When you see a person who half closes his eyes while talking, it may be a sign of arrogance and arrogance. The line of sight is an invisible line. When talking with people, we should pay attention to whether the other party is looking at ourselves, that is, whether there is line of sight contact, which indicates whether the other party is interested or interested in himself. If the other party doesn't look at himself at all, he is not interested in himself or has no sense of closeness. On the contrary, when we walk on the road and find that strangers have been staring at us, we will feel uneasy and even afraid. In addition, strangers will immediately leave each other when their eyes intersect. This is because people usually think that when a person is seen by others for a long time, he will feel that he has been seen through his heart or violated his privacy. When we are waiting for the bus or standing in line at the ticket booth of the cinema to buy tickets, we usually face others with our back, which is a common behavior. This is not only to see if it's your turn, but also to avoid embarrassment by crossing the eyes of strangers. But there are also people standing face to face. Most of these people are friends, couples, relatives, lovers, etc. They will acquiesce in each other's hearts that their privacy will be violated to some extent. Therefore, they will occasionally cross their eyes to facilitate conversation or psychological communication. When the eyes of each other intersect, it means intentional psychological communication. But if this line of sight intersects, it has different meanings for women. Many studies have shown that when women are unwilling to convey their inner thoughts to each other, they mostly choose to stare. Psychologist Ike slein and others have done the experiment of people looking at each other. The experimental results show that after giving subjects an instruction of "deliberately concealing the truth", men will reduce the probability of looking at each other during the test, while women's probability will increase. Men who did not receive instructions spent 668% of their conversation looking at each other; But after receiving instructions, only 608% of the time was watching each other. After receiving instructions, the women in the test were able to spend 69% of their time staring at each other. Therefore, if you meet a woman who has been watching her for a long time in public, you might as well think that she may have some hidden secrets in her heart, and pay attention to digging out the truth of her insincerity. The way of people's sight activity can also reflect people's mentality. Generally speaking, people will think that those who keep their eyes on the speaker are more sincere. In this way, we can see through the other party's psychological trend from the gaze. When you meet a person for the first time, simply introduce yourself and look at each other. If the other person looks away first, it shows that the person's character is more active. This method is also applicable to the eye strategy in the negotiation. At the beginning of the negotiation, as long as an experienced negotiator is given one minute, he will judge whether the other party can gain the upper hand according to the other party's eyes, so as to adjust his state. Many negotiators believe that when two people make eye contact, the one who looks away first is often the winner. On the contrary, a person who is angry because the other party looks away may think that the other party dislikes himself or cannot talk to himself. Therefore, he virtually cares about the other party's line of sight and is completely restrained by the other party. Because of this, if a person is not focused when talking to you for the first time, he may be a challenging conversationalist, and he should be especially careful when meeting such people. However, it is also an act of looking away. If you look away when you are noticed, it is another matter. Generally speaking, this phenomenon occurs when we feel guilty or hide something. People with soft and natural sight are calm and confident; People who keep moving their eyes are absent-minded, or like calculation and are good at observing words and expressions; People whose eyes are frightened and constantly influenced by the other party's expression have a sense of inferiority, have no independent opinion, or are eager to please the other party; People who slightly lower their heads and look up at each other may be in awe, while looking up and down at each other shows arrogance; People who open their eyes and look directly at each other, if not hostile, are mostly energetic or controlling. If a person does not have any problems with his eyes, but always "squints" at people, he is easy to be regarded as a person who despises people and has a bad heart. In communication, people who only look at the opposite sex and deliberately look away are mostly due to their strong interest in each other. For example, when a beautiful young woman comes on a train or bus, almost everyone's eyes will focus on her, but young men tend to turn their faces aside quickly. Although they are also very interested, they produce self-control behavior based on strong depression. If interest and desire increase, they will peek with squint. This is because you want to see each other clearly, but you don't want to let each other know your mind. Therefore, when talking with people, we should try to avoid squinting, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble. In the workplace, when the boss and his subordinates discuss work, the gaze of the superior will certainly be emitted from the height, and will naturally be directly projected down. On the other hand, if you look at your subordinates, although he hasn't done anything wrong, you can often see your superiors from bottom to top, and they often seem weak. This is because people with high positions always want to maintain their dignity to their subordinates. If you are a boss, when looking at your subordinates, you should pay attention to appropriately lowering the position of your eyes, and don't give the other party a feeling of being superior and aggressive; If you are a subordinate, when looking at your boss, the position of your sight should be appropriately raised to give the boss a sense of confidence that is neither humble nor arrogant, so that he may look at you with new eyes. But there are exceptions to this kind of look, which has nothing to do with the position, but the reason of personality. Generally speaking, in communication, introverts are easy to look away and dare not look at others. Richard Coase, a comparative psychologist in the United States, once conducted an experiment in which children with intense "autism" met unfamiliar adults to observe the length of time he spent facing adults. Comparing the two cases of adults blindfolded and not blindfolded, it is found that children stare at the former for three times as long as the latter. That is to say, as soon as the eyes of both sides touch, the child will immediately look away. It can be seen that most introverts can't look at each other all the time. If you are an introvert who wants to be lively, you might as well start by changing your eyes! Don't be shy. Slowly try to prolong the time of looking into others' eyes. Of course, this time can't be too long, otherwise it will have the opposite effect. In addition, when you are talking with others, let them feel your sincere, friendly, trust and respect from your sight, so that you will be more likely to enter other people's inner world.
Greeting is the most commonly used way for people to meet at the beginning. Although it is only a short moment, careful observation is still helpful to understand each other. Expression: people with soft eyes and relaxed smile are calm and confident; People with eyes wide open and exaggerated expressions have a desire for expression; People who dodge their eyes and say hello in a hurry have a tendency of inferiority; People with wandering eyes and stiff expression are arrogant. Strength of handshake: people with short and strong handshake are warm and confident, people with light handshake are absent-minded or lack of confidence, and people who constantly shake their arms have the psychology of complimenting each other. Palm humidity: if the other party's palm is wet, it means that the other party's spirit is in a state of excitement and psychological imbalance.
Expression is the mirror of mood. It is very difficult for people to act as if nothing had happened or to make an expression completely different from their real thoughts. Understanding the following corresponding performance is very helpful for us to observe and understand others. Eyebrows raised, forehead raised, eyes wide and mouth open, indicating surprise. Panic is similar to surprise, but the emotion doesn't show on the face. The corners of the mouth are turned down, the bridge of the nose is full of wrinkles, and the cheeks twitch, indicating disgust. The eyebrows are pressed down, there are wrinkles between the eyebrows, the eyes are gathered in one place, the nostrils are slightly open, the corners of the mouth are closed into a word or open like shouting to express anger. The expression of happiness is to pick up the corners of the mouth, there are expression lines from the nose to both ends of the lips, fine lines on the lower eyelids, and drooping corners of the eyes.
He always speaks slowly and suddenly becomes fast and hurried. It is often because he feels uneasy or afraid in his heart and wants to speak things out quickly to get relief. Similarly, people who have been eloquent, suddenly become hesitant, or have been talking to no point, suddenly gush and so on, should attract attention. When a person expresses an objection, in order to suppress the other party in momentum, he often raises his tone; When people are excited, whether they are happy or angry, they often raise their tone. On the contrary, people tend to lower their tone when they are calm, depressed and contemplative. A confident, open-minded and optimistic person must speak with a sense of rhythm. On the contrary, if a person is often tongue tied and incoherent, it is mostly a lack of self-confidence or a ghost in his heart. If a person speaks methodically, it means that he is clear about what he is talking about, stands firm and is not afraid of being refuted by the other party; On the contrary, people who are in a hurry to end the conversation, or who are hesitant and ambiguous are mostly unwilling to take responsibility and behave smoothly.
Being warm to others is a virtue, but if a person is too warm to you, you should pay attention that he may refuse your request or suggestion. In psychology, there is a defense mechanism, which we call "reverse formation", which means that ideas and actions have the opposite performance. For example, a person is interested in a different sex, but may be particularly indifferent to him or her; He hates a person in particular, but shows special friendliness.
When we make a request to others, they say they "know" before they finish listening. In fact, they didn't help you in the end. Psychology tells us that when a person who doesn't know much about your character and purpose shows an attitude of knowing everything about your request, he usually doesn't want you to go on. Let's imagine that when we want to help someone, we always listen to him patiently, and then decide what to do according to the difficulty of the problem. The explanation for this situation is that either he is unwilling to help, but he is only polite and does not refuse you directly; Or he didn't understand what you meant, but he can only use this method to show that he understood. Therefore, when you hear the other party's easy promise, don't be confused by this phenomenon and think he is a very enthusiastic person. In fact, at this time, you should know that your goal has not been achieved and know what to change.
Speaking speed can often reflect a person's temperament. If he speaks fast at ordinary times, it may be a eloquent performance. However, if he doesn't speak fast at ordinary times and the speed suddenly increases at this time, it reflects that he has a sense of uneasiness or tension in his current state of mind. Social psychologists have found an interesting phenomenon: after a man flirts with his wife, if he thinks he may be sorry for his wife, he often suddenly gushes a lot to his wife. Why does this happen? Because when there is a deep sense of psychological uneasiness, the speed of speaking will be unusually fast. Its purpose is to deceive ourselves and others and ease the inner uneasiness and fear.
When contacting people, if the other person keeps asking you questions and doesn't give you the opportunity to ask questions, you should know that he may be ashamed to let others know or afraid of being mentioned. There is such a case: a person goes to the psychological counseling center for help because he is very worried about being asked about his work. His original position was enviable, but now he has changed to a recognized "thin poor", and he has a strong sense of loss in his heart. Worry about what others ask about him all day. If you get in touch with others, you have to become very enthusiastic and keep asking each other how they are now. There is only one purpose. Don't give others the opportunity to ask about themselves.
Disgusting stimulation can make the pupil contract; Pleasant stimulation will enlarge the pupils; Panic or excitement will make the pupil expand to four times the normal. Therefore, the change of pupil is a sign of the activity of the central nervous system. Eye rotation can also show ongoing thinking activities. If you find that the other person's eyes are relatively stable and rotate less in conversation, it shows that he has a sincere attitude and is an object worthy of further conversation; If you find that the other person's eyes move and flicker, and the number of eye turns is more, it means that he has different opinions or doesn't want to continue talking with you. Eyelids have two states: opening and closing. In general, this can also reflect people's mental state. When you see a person with drooping eyelids, he may be depressed or upset; When you see a person who half closes his eyes while talking, it may be a sign of arrogance and arrogance. The line of sight is an invisible line. When talking with people, we should pay attention to whether the other party is looking at ourselves, that is, whether there is line of sight contact, which indicates whether the other party is interested or interested in himself. If the other party doesn't look at himself at all, he is not interested in himself or has no sense of closeness. On the contrary, when we walk on the road and find that strangers have been staring at us, we will feel uneasy and even afraid. In addition, strangers will immediately leave each other when their eyes intersect. This is because people usually think that when a person is seen by others for a long time, he will feel that he has been seen through his heart or violated his privacy. When we are waiting for the bus or standing in line at the ticket booth of the cinema to buy tickets, we usually face others with our back, which is a common behavior. This is not only to see if it's your turn, but also to avoid embarrassment by crossing the eyes of strangers. But there are also people standing face to face. Most of these people are friends, couples, relatives, lovers, etc. They will acquiesce in each other's hearts that their privacy will be violated to some extent. Therefore, they will occasionally cross their eyes to facilitate conversation or psychological communication. When the eyes of each other intersect, it means intentional psychological communication. But if this line of sight intersects, it has different meanings for women. Many studies have shown that when women are unwilling to convey their inner thoughts to each other, they mostly choose to stare. Psychologist Ike slein and others have done the experiment of people looking at each other. The experimental results show that after giving subjects an instruction of "deliberately concealing the truth", men will reduce the probability of looking at each other during the test, while women's probability will increase. Men who did not receive instructions spent 668% of their conversation looking at each other; But after receiving instructions, only 608% of the time was watching each other. After receiving instructions, the women in the test were able to spend 69% of their time staring at each other. Therefore, if you meet a woman who has been watching her for a long time in public, you might as well think that she may have some hidden secrets in her heart, and pay attention to digging out the truth of her insincerity. The way of people's sight activity can also reflect people's mentality. Generally speaking, people will think that those who keep their eyes on the speaker are more sincere. In this way, we can see through the other party's psychological trend from the gaze. When you meet a person for the first time, simply introduce yourself and look at each other. If the other person looks away first, it shows that the person's character is more active. This method is also applicable to the eye strategy in the negotiation. At the beginning of the negotiation, as long as an experienced negotiator is given one minute, he will judge whether the other party can gain the upper hand according to the other party's eyes, so as to adjust his state. Many negotiators believe that when two people make eye contact, the one who looks away first is often the winner. On the contrary, a person who is angry because the other party looks away may think that the other party dislikes himself or cannot talk to himself. Therefore, he virtually cares about the other party's line of sight and is completely restrained by the other party. Because of this, if a person is not focused when talking to you for the first time, he may be a challenging conversationalist, and he should be especially careful when meeting such people. However, it is also an act of looking away. If you look away when you are noticed, it is another matter. Generally speaking, this phenomenon occurs when we feel guilty or hide something. People with soft and natural sight are calm and confident; People who keep moving their eyes are absent-minded, or like calculation and are good at observing words and expressions; People whose eyes are frightened and constantly influenced by the other party's expression have a sense of inferiority, have no independent opinion, or are eager to please the other party; People who slightly lower their heads and look up at each other may be in awe, while looking up and down at each other shows arrogance; People who open their eyes and look directly at each other, if not hostile, are mostly energetic or controlling. If a person does not have any problems with his eyes, but always "squints" at people, he is easy to be regarded as a person who despises people and has a bad heart. In communication, people who only look at the opposite sex and deliberately look away are mostly due to their strong interest in each other. For example, when a beautiful young woman comes on a train or bus, almost everyone's eyes will focus on her, but young men tend to turn their faces aside quickly. Although they are also very interested, they produce self-control behavior based on strong depression. If interest and desire increase, they will peek with squint. This is because you want to see each other clearly, but you don't want to let each other know your mind. Therefore, when talking with people, we should try to avoid squinting, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble. In the workplace, when the boss and his subordinates discuss work, the gaze of the superior will certainly be emitted from the height, and will naturally be directly projected down. On the other hand, if you look at your subordinates, although he hasn't done anything wrong, you can often see your superiors from bottom to top, and they often seem weak. This is because people with high positions always want to maintain their dignity to their subordinates. If you are a boss, when looking at your subordinates, you should pay attention to appropriately lowering the position of your eyes, and don't give the other party a feeling of being superior and aggressive; If you are a subordinate, when looking at your boss, the position of your sight should be appropriately raised to give the boss a sense of confidence that is neither humble nor arrogant, so that he may look at you with new eyes. But there are exceptions to this kind of look, which has nothing to do with the position, but the reason of personality. Generally speaking, in communication, introverts are easy to look away and dare not look at others. Richard Coase, a comparative psychologist in the United States, once conducted an experiment in which children with intense "autism" met unfamiliar adults to observe the length of time he spent facing adults. Comparing the two cases of adults blindfolded and not blindfolded, it is found that children stare at the former for three times as long as the latter. That is to say, as soon as the eyes of both sides touch, the child will immediately look away. It can be seen that most introverts can't look at each other all the time. If you are an introvert who wants to be lively, you might as well start by changing your eyes! Don't be shy. Slowly try to prolong the time of looking into others' eyes. Of course, this time can't be too long, otherwise it will have the opposite effect. In addition, when you are talking with others, let them feel your sincere, friendly, trust and respect from your sight, so that you will be more likely to enter other people's inner world.
Greeting is the most commonly used way for people to meet at the beginning. Although it is only a short moment, careful observation is still helpful to understand each other. Expression: people with soft eyes and relaxed smile are calm and confident; People with eyes wide open and exaggerated expressions have a desire for expression; People who dodge their eyes and say hello in a hurry have a tendency of inferiority; People with wandering eyes and stiff expression are arrogant. Strength of handshake: people with short and strong handshake are warm and confident, people with light handshake are absent-minded or lack of confidence, and people who constantly shake their arms have the psychology of complimenting each other. Palm humidity: if the other party's palm is wet, it means that the other party's spirit is in a state of excitement and psychological imbalance.
Expression is the mirror of mood. It is very difficult for people to act as if nothing had happened or to make an expression completely different from their real thoughts. Understanding the following corresponding performance is very helpful for us to observe and understand others. Eyebrows raised, forehead raised, eyes wide and mouth open, indicating surprise. Panic is similar to surprise, but the emotion doesn't show on the face. The corners of the mouth are turned down, the bridge of the nose is full of wrinkles, and the cheeks twitch, indicating disgust. The eyebrows are pressed down, there are wrinkles between the eyebrows, the eyes are gathered in one place, the nostrils are slightly open, the corners of the mouth are closed into a word or open like shouting to express anger. The expression of happiness is to pick up the corners of the mouth, there are expression lines from the nose to both ends of the lips, fine lines on the lower eyelids, and drooping corners of the eyes.
He always speaks slowly and suddenly becomes fast and hurried. It is often because he feels uneasy or afraid in his heart and wants to speak things out quickly to get relief. Similarly, people who have been eloquent, suddenly become hesitant, or have been talking to no point, suddenly gush and so on, should attract attention. When a person expresses an objection, in order to suppress the other party in momentum, he often raises his tone; When people are excited, whether they are happy or angry, they often raise their tone. On the contrary, people tend to lower their tone when they are calm, depressed and contemplative. A confident, open-minded and optimistic person must speak with a sense of rhythm. On the contrary, if a person is often tongue tied and incoherent, it is mostly a lack of self-confidence or a ghost in his heart. If a person speaks methodically, it means that he is clear about what he is talking about, stands firm and is not afraid of being refuted by the other party; On the contrary, people who are in a hurry to end the conversation, or who are hesitant and ambiguous are mostly unwilling to take responsibility and behave smoothly.
The hand is the easiest part to show people's habits. For example, some people like to intentionally or unintentionally play with neckties, pens, nose digging, touching hair, breaking joints, etc. their hands are always busy. Such people are unstable and immature; People who cover their mouth with their hands when laughing are popular with women; People with too many and too big gestures have a strong desire to express, or their thinking is active and eager to express. People who sit with their knees close together are more restrained and restrained; People with straddled legs are informal; People who like to cross their legs have a strong desire for control and hope to get a sense of superiority; People who are used to shaking, stretching and tilting their feet nervously prefer to attract attention, saying they "don't care about it" Sit down and often put your left leg on your right leg, with your hands crossed on the left or right side of your thigh. People who like this sitting posture are more confident and firm in their opinions and opinions. Generally, they are not easy to be persuaded by others. This kind of people are intelligent, have good talent and leadership ability; However, when sitting in a high position, it is inevitable to have arrogance and complacency, lack a certain perseverance, love to change with different ideas, and only want to climb high. When sitting, the legs and feet are gathered together in a regular way, and the hands are crossed on both sides of the thighs. This kind of people are conservative in thinking, old-fashioned in doing things, and do not easily accept other people's opinions. Sometimes they know what others say is right, but they still stubbornly stick to their views. This kind of person is also a perfectionist and requires perfection. They are very picky about others, but they are not very self disciplined about themselves. They love fantasy and don't pay too much attention to reality. They always fail in life because they are too impetuous, can't do anything for a long time and lack patience. When looking for a spouse, such people are extremely picky and always like to measure each other with their own ideal model. They either dislike low education or poor appearance. Pick and choose, and the final result may not be satisfactory. Sit down and love to put your knees together, separate your legs into an "eight" shape, and put your hands together on your knees. This kind of sitting posture is more female. Because they are timid, shy, unnatural, not generous, and lack self-confidence. Especially in public places, you will blush when you speak, and you dare not face others. When you look at people, you will quickly turn your eyes away. Such people have rich and delicate feelings, but they are too narrow and lack tenderness; He has a strong sense of family spirit. He can't get into the big game and get on the big table. Such people have strong conservative ideas and are difficult to accept new ideas and ideas. Love is conservative, not very interested in fashion, and has a critical color. When they are in trouble, they lack reason and are prone to panic. They often act in an extreme way, but things are often not ideal. However, such people are loyal to their friends. As long as their friends have difficulties, they will try their best to help them solve them. This kind of people's view of love is also bound by traditional ideas, and the concept of equality between men and women is very weak. However, such men tend to be male chauvinist; This kind of women have the "Oriental virtue" of housewives. They never complain about housework and bear the housework without complaint. They will tidy up their home and take good care of their family. This is an important factor for this kind of women to attract men. When sitting, it is customary to put the right leg on the left leg, overlap and close the two legs, and cross your hands on the right leg. Such people often give people a sense of amiability and are easy to approach; But on the contrary, such people are the most snobbish and secular. They either like to put on airs, ignore answers and care nothing, or they talk too much on the surface and don't do anything behind it. Once such people ask for help from others, they will look like slaves. When sitting, keep your feet open and your hands are not fixed. This is an open sitting position. Such people are outgoing, careless in speaking and handling affairs, forthright and free, and informal. Such people also have leadership style, organization and management ability, and a certain desire for domination. They like to pursue novelty, which can break the Convention and become the "pioneer" to guide the urban trend; They love to work in new fields, do not want to do old things along the old ideas and methods of their predecessors, and dare to try new things that others have not tried; Such people are ambitious and innovative people who like to be innovative. A person who sits with his feet crossed. When a man shows this posture, he usually puts his fists on his knees, or holds the armrest of the chair tightly with both hands, and his back is very straight; When women pose in this position, they usually cross their feet and put their hands naturally on their knees, or press one hand on the other. Such people are generally cold and don't easily reveal their true emotions. When they sit in this posture, they are controlling the fluctuation of their inner emotions and preventing their true feelings from being exposed; Deliberately control their feelings and try to make their fake expressions appear. This kind of people's awareness of prevention is first-class. Such people are very introverted, do not like to expose their information in front of others, and are very closed to their feelings and thoughts. They don't want others to know more about themselves, don't care about others, and don't show too much intimacy to their partners. At work, such people are very serious and pay great attention to their work performance. They have the strength to work hard, work steadfastly and seriously, and generally can get high praise from others with excellent work performance. A person who likes to sit sideways. Such people are flexible, positive, optimistic and confident, don't care too much about their words and deeds, and have an informal side. This kind of people are smart and likable, but they lack a certain degree of patience. Other sitting positions. People who sit with their bodies curled together and their hands sandwiched between their thighs often have a strong sense of inferiority and lack self-confidence. Most of them belong to obedience. The person who sits suddenly in front of the crowd seems atmospheric, but in fact he is nervous. He disguised his uneasiness by sitting hard. A person who swings or moves his chair constantly must have something on his mind and be restless in his heart; Or don't care about your conversation and don't want to listen to you anymore. People who are close to you when you sit down have a sense of trust or favor for you and want to exchange your trust and favor. The person who sits deeply in the chair is more calm. He is showing the behavior of psychological advantage to the other party. Tell the other person not to be too nervous and the problem will be solved. People who always sit in the corner of the chair do not pay enough attention to the other person talking, and they are not honest with each other. People who like to sit in front of each other prefer to be understood by each other. People who walk fast and with large strides are generally acute; People who walk around and panic may like to calculate; Those who walk slowly and always like to walk against the corner are silent introverts or tend to have inferiority complex; People who like to put their hands in their trouser pockets want to be noticed. Stand with your feet naturally, your left foot in front, and your left hand is used to putting it in your trouser pocket. This kind of person's interpersonal relationship is more coordinated. They never give others any problems. They are honest and honest. This kind of people usually like a quiet environment. They find one or two confidants to catch up with the past or play with the chessboard. Their first impression is always gentle, but once they encounter something more angry, they will be furious. Stand with your feet naturally, put your hands in your trouser pockets, and take them out and put them in from time to time. This kind of person is more cautious and likes to think twice before doing anything. If you let them decide one thing, you might as well give them a plan first. In their work, they are the most inflexible, often solve many problems abruptly, and often regret later, which can not be said to be the sadness of this type of people. Cross your feet together, holding your chin in one hand and your elbow in the other. Most of these people are workaholics. They are quite confident in their career and are very attentive to their work. What is more striking about such people is that they are sentimental, even in their words and deeds. Such people are very strong. They usually don't give in to others, and they won't stop walking on the road full of mud and thorns because of a heavy fall. Feet close together or stand naturally with hands behind them. Most of these people are emotionally impatient, but they can't stand the test of love. Generally speaking, this type of people get along well with others, probably because they rarely say "no" to others They don't have any exploration and innovation in their work. They usually don't object to other people's opinions. Their happiness comes from their contentment with life. The personality of being unwilling to fight with others not only brings them happiness, but also brings them anger. Hold your hands across your chest and stand with your feet parallel. Such people are very rebellious, often ignore the existence of each other, and have a strong sense of challenge and attack. They are very good at protecting themselves. No matter what happens, they are good at fighting against injustice, because what they shed in their bones is aggressive blood. In their work, they will not be bound by traditional constraints. This kind of people's creative ability is much more incisive than other types of people, not because they are smarter than others, but because they dare to give full play to themselves more than others. Stand with your feet naturally, shake your legs occasionally, clasp your fingers in front of your abdomen, and rub your thumbs back and forth. This kind of person has a strong desire for performance and likes to show off in public. Most of them are competitive and can't accommodate others. Don't look at this kind of people like to go in and out of social occasions. In fact, their interpersonal relationship is very poor. Although their bold behavior has slightly improved their image, they still have to be out of group. To be a guest in someone else's house, you should first look at the host's polite attitude towards you. If some are too enthusiastic, it means that the relationship with you is not very good. The quickest way to understand a person's character is to observe his small actions and habits, which will help you master the initiative in society. There are thousands of characters in the world. None of them are the same, but they have a general direction. Therefore, we should be frank with anyone and be flexible.
The hand is the easiest part to show people's habits. For example, some people like to intentionally or unintentionally play with neckties, pens, nose digging, touching hair, breaking joints, etc. their hands are always busy. Such people are unstable and immature; People who cover their mouth with their hands when laughing are popular with women; People with too many and too big gestures have a strong desire to express, or their thinking is active and eager to express. People who sit with their knees close together are more restrained and restrained; People with straddled legs are informal; People who like to cross their legs have a strong desire for control and hope to get a sense of superiority; People who are used to shaking, stretching and tilting their feet nervously prefer to attract attention, saying they "don't care about it" Sit down and often put your left leg on your right leg, with your hands crossed on the left or right side of your thigh. People who like this sitting posture are more confident and firm in their opinions and opinions. Generally, they are not easy to be persuaded by others. This kind of people are intelligent, have good talent and leadership ability; However, when sitting in a high position, it is inevitable to have arrogance and complacency, lack a certain perseverance, love to change with different ideas, and only want to climb high. When sitting, the legs and feet are gathered together in a regular way, and the hands are crossed on both sides of the thighs. This kind of people are conservative in thinking, old-fashioned in doing things, and do not easily accept other people's opinions. Sometimes they know what others say is right, but they still stubbornly stick to their views. This kind of person is also a perfectionist and requires perfection. They are very picky about others, but they are not very self disciplined about themselves. They love fantasy and don't pay too much attention to reality. They always fail in life because they are too impetuous, can't do anything for a long time and lack patience. When looking for a spouse, such people are extremely picky and always like to measure each other with their own ideal model. They either dislike low education or poor appearance. Pick and choose, and the final result may not be satisfactory. Sit down and love to put your knees together, separate your legs into an "eight" shape, and put your hands together on your knees. This kind of sitting posture is more female. Because they are timid, shy, unnatural, not generous, and lack self-confidence. Especially in public places, you will blush when you speak, and you dare not face others. When you look at people, you will quickly turn your eyes away. Such people have rich and delicate feelings, but they are too narrow and lack tenderness; He has a strong sense of family spirit. He can't get into the big game and get on the big table. Such people have strong conservative ideas and are difficult to accept new ideas and ideas. Love is conservative, not very interested in fashion, and has a critical color. When they are in trouble, they lack reason and are prone to panic. They often act in an extreme way, but things are often not ideal. However, such people are loyal to their friends. As long as their friends have difficulties, they will try their best to help them solve them. This kind of people's view of love is also bound by traditional ideas, and the concept of equality between men and women is very weak. However, such men tend to be male chauvinist; This kind of women have the "Oriental virtue" of housewives. They never complain about housework and bear the housework without complaint. They will tidy up their home and take good care of their family. This is an important factor for this kind of women to attract men. When sitting, it is customary to put the right leg on the left leg, overlap and close the two legs, and cross your hands on the right leg. Such people often give people a sense of amiability and are easy to approach; But on the contrary, such people are the most snobbish and secular. They either like to put on airs, ignore answers and care nothing, or they talk too much on the surface and don't do anything behind it. Once such people ask for help from others, they will look like slaves. When sitting, keep your feet open and your hands are not fixed. This is an open sitting position. Such people are outgoing, careless in speaking and handling affairs, forthright and free, and informal. Such people also have leadership style, organization and management ability, and a certain desire for domination. They like to pursue novelty, which can break the Convention and become the "pioneer" to guide the urban trend; They love to work in new fields, do not want to do old things along the old ideas and methods of their predecessors, and dare to try new things that others have not tried; Such people are ambitious and innovative people who like to be innovative. A person who sits with his feet crossed. When a man shows this posture, he usually puts his fists on his knees, or holds the armrest of the chair tightly with both hands, and his back is very straight; When women pose in this position, they usually cross their feet and put their hands naturally on their knees, or press one hand on the other. Such people are generally cold and don't easily reveal their true emotions. When they sit in this posture, they are controlling the fluctuation of their inner emotions and preventing their true feelings from being exposed; Deliberately control their feelings and try to make their fake expressions appear. This kind of people's awareness of prevention is first-class. Such people are very introverted, do not like to expose their information in front of others, and are very closed to their feelings and thoughts. They don't want others to know more about themselves, don't care about others, and don't show too much intimacy to their partners. At work, such people are very serious and pay great attention to their work performance. They have the strength to work hard, work steadfastly and seriously, and generally can get high praise from others with excellent work performance. A person who likes to sit sideways. Such people are flexible, positive, optimistic and confident, don't care too much about their words and deeds, and have an informal side. This kind of people are smart and likable, but they lack a certain degree of patience. Other sitting positions. People who sit with their bodies curled together and their hands sandwiched between their thighs often have a strong sense of inferiority and lack self-confidence. Most of them belong to obedience. The person who sits suddenly in front of the crowd seems atmospheric, but in fact he is nervous. He disguised his uneasiness by sitting hard. A person who swings or moves his chair constantly must have something on his mind and be restless in his heart; Or don't care about your conversation and don't want to listen to you anymore. People who are close to you when you sit down have a sense of trust or favor for you and want to exchange your trust and favor. The person who sits deeply in the chair is more calm. He is showing the behavior of psychological advantage to the other party. Tell the other person not to be too nervous and the problem will be solved. People who always sit in the corner of the chair do not pay enough attention to the other person talking, and they are not honest with each other. People who like to sit in front of each other prefer to be understood by each other. People who walk fast and with large strides are generally acute; People who walk around and panic may like to calculate; Those who walk slowly and always like to walk against the corner are silent introverts or tend to have inferiority complex; People who like to put their hands in their trouser pockets want to be noticed. Stand with your feet naturally, your left foot in front, and your left hand is used to putting it in your trouser pocket. This kind of person's interpersonal relationship is more coordinated. They never give others any problems. They are honest and honest. This kind of people usually like a quiet environment. They find one or two confidants to catch up with the past or play with the chessboard. Their first impression is always gentle, but once they encounter something more angry, they will be furious. Stand with your feet naturally, put your hands in your trouser pockets, and take them out and put them in from time to time. This kind of person is more cautious and likes to think twice before doing anything. If you let them decide one thing, you might as well give them a plan first. In their work, they are the most inflexible, often solve many problems abruptly, and often regret later, which can not be said to be the sadness of this type of people. Cross your feet together, holding your chin in one hand and your elbow in the other. Most of these people are workaholics. They are quite confident in their career and are very attentive to their work. What is more striking about such people is that they are sentimental, even in their words and deeds. Such people are very strong. They usually don't give in to others, and they won't stop walking on the road full of mud and thorns because of a heavy fall. Feet close together or stand naturally with hands behind them. Most of these people are emotionally impatient, but they can't stand the test of love. Generally speaking, this type of people get along well with others, probably because they rarely say "no" to others They don't have any exploration and innovation in their work. They usually don't object to other people's opinions. Their happiness comes from their contentment with life. The personality of being unwilling to fight with others not only brings them happiness, but also brings them anger. Hold your hands across your chest and stand with your feet parallel. Such people are very rebellious, often ignore the existence of each other, and have a strong sense of challenge and attack. They are very good at protecting themselves. No matter what happens, they are good at fighting against injustice, because what they shed in their bones is aggressive blood. In their work, they will not be bound by traditional constraints. This kind of people's creative ability is much more incisive than other types of people, not because they are smarter than others, but because they dare to give full play to themselves more than others. Stand with your feet naturally, shake your legs occasionally, clasp your fingers in front of your abdomen, and rub your thumbs back and forth. This kind of person has a strong desire for performance and likes to show off in public. Most of them are competitive and can't accommodate others. Don't look at this kind of people like to go in and out of social occasions. In fact, their interpersonal relationship is very poor. Although their bold behavior has slightly improved their image, they still have to be out of group. To be a guest in someone else's house, you should first look at the host's polite attitude towards you. If some are too enthusiastic, it means that the relationship with you is not very good. The quickest way to understand a person's character is to observe his small actions and habits, which will help you master the initiative in society. There are thousands of characters in the world. None of them are the same, but they have a general direction. Therefore, we should be frank with anyone and be flexible.
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