A few days ago, I saw a post at Tianya called don't fall in love with the poor to the effect that poor couples are sad about everything. Girls who fall in love with the poor will greatly reduce their quality of life and quality of life. Needless to say, women who have been constantly tangled in material poverty are prone to depression, and the aging and fatigue written on their faces are often deeper than other women. I have always believed that "poor" and "not poor" are only temporary. Relatively speaking, if both emotional sides really want to be together, in modern society, they should be diligent and flexible, so as not to be worth 10 billion, but there is still no problem in living a well-off life. Having money without feelings is just a sad dream of wealth. A marriage without feelings can't make do with it. It has repeatedly stressed the importance of material conditions in emotional relations and emotional direction. Although it is one-sided and paranoid, it can not be completely denied. After all, the economic foundation determines that superstructure is the truth. It is not the material itself that really makes women constantly tangle with qi depression. The aging and fatigue written on their faces are often deeper than those of other women, but the loss of a healthy emotional relationship caused by those angry self-esteem caused by low self-esteem. My friend Li still laments about her first love: a girl who grew up in a greenhouse should not easily fall in love with the poor who force self-esteem. When she was young, she met her first love whose family conditions were not very good. She didn't think about too many material and practical factors. She just loved because of simple love emotion. But in order to protect his sensitive self-esteem, Li's love affair was like walking on thin ice. When shopping with him, you can't go to expensive places. When shopping, you can only lower the price when you spend your own money. When you go out to play, Li always takes the initiative to put forward the big head. Even when you eat and pay with friends, you have to consider how to sneak your wallet into his hand, consider his economic situation and worry about his face. The first lover is smart, progressive, down-to-earth and willing to work. Her spirit is deeply favored by Li. Li doesn't mind his poverty, but his own strength and ambition make his own inferiority complex breed highly sensitive self-esteem in repeated unwillingness and resentment, showing a weak external strength and internal weakness. This kind of strong and easy to break self-esteem makes him always take the psychology of the victim in his interpersonal relationship, and he is easily offended and depressed by some irrelevant little things. For example, when Li's family sincerely and warmly entertained him, he always responded coldly in a dignified and silent manner and deliberately maintained a sense of distance. Li knows that his indifference stems from his self-esteem. He uses a way similar to resistance to show his disdain for "material excellence", brush the sense of existence, and maintain his poor self-esteem. He himself was trapped in the mire of confrontation and suffocation, and he was deeply convinced that he had never been aware of his overly strong emotional response. Once, like all girls in love, Li couldn't help shopping for her beloved boy. After receiving a set of high-end down jacket full of love and high value, her first love face was not surprised, but angry: who asked you to buy me such an expensive thing? Li explained that because she liked the dress very much, she thought he would like it too. She bought it for him without much thought. First love is furious: who wants you to buy such expensive things? Money is great? Don't put so much pressure on me. The morbid self-esteem deeply trapped in inferiority complex will unconsciously and unconsciously misinterpret the goodwill and warmth in intimate relations. For a young man whose desire can't keep up with his strength, stubbornness and unwillingness have become a sharp double-edged sword. But what he can hurt is only those who like him. He can make up for his lonely imbalance by attacking and belittling his partner. At this time, dignity has become an extreme paranoia: men want face! Therefore, the truth is difficult to pay. LiDang burst into tears and explained that I just instinctively pay more attention to the people I like. I don't want you to exchange for equal value. You don't need pressure. After several twists and turns, this contradiction was finally reconciled after Li's repeated apologies and tears. After Li gained a lot of self-esteem, her first love took down her down jacket with satisfaction. If anything goes too far, people's patience is limited. After too many trivial frictions and internal friction, Li gradually lost the battle in the self-esteem protection guard. She was tired and didn't like to choose to break up. When the first love stood on the moral highland, not afraid of the cold, and buttoned down with a big hat of "you're still too material", Li just replied faintly: "I'm really not afraid of your poverty, but I can't afford your fierce self-esteem." Fall in love with a young, poor and lustful man. He is poor and reasonable. He is poor and willful. You can't satisfy his vanity and his self-esteem by compromise. This kind of smart and progressive man from a poor family always has some strong and fragile stubbornness and sensitivity. This kind of stubbornness and sensitivity comes from his proud and charming sense of tangled origin but persistent pursuit, as well as his inner uneasiness about material scarcity and lack of self-confidence. When this weak pride and strong uneasiness meet, it will breed false impetuosity and repeated reluctance. Such men are more hungry for "successful counter attack" than others, but it is not surprising that they are full of resentment due to the reality and their limited breakthrough. But the pressure of external survival forced him to carefully put away his violent side. This kind of strong and easy to break self-esteem even surpasses his existing excellence, and compensates for his own lack with vicious arrogance and. But in the relatively close relationship between men and women, his arrogant male dignity will expose his violent nature without concealment. Therefore, love can easily become the main battlefield for the confrontation between three different concepts of men and women created by different economic bases. The more frustrated and frustrated men are, the more they hope to seek self-esteem and status from the intimate relationship that is relatively easy to control, and hope to get some comfort and attention from their partner's unconditional obedience. Money, which is defined by the secular world as a quantifiable standard of success, is the easiest to stimulate his most sensitive nerves. At this time, his partner will easily become an outlet for his frustration and loneliness. Being harsh and unkind to their partners is precisely the projection of their own internal struggle and injustice. Don't be so stingy about the situation of your first love and the lack of emotional control, which will reduce your ability to avoid the situation of my first love. Why not "be nice to him"? Why "be nice to him, he will be under a lot of pressure"? Without a single spouse, I thought of the question that scolded countless times: "is it appropriate to cook only two dishes and one soup (no chicken, duck and fish) to entertain my girlfriend who came to my house for the first time?" The subject himself repeatedly stressed his poverty and excused his wonderful behavior, but was evaluated by netizens as "emotional intelligence is moving". Among them, Zhihu Dongpo night running has a deep analysis of this. This logic is just a disguised refusal behavior long ago due to the lack of material, experience, human and worldly knowledge and strong self-esteem: I am lack, so I am unwilling to pay and can't pay. If you let me pay, I will have a strong sense of insecurity. At the same time, I have strong self-esteem, so don't pay to me. Have you paid? I have to pay back. It's also a sense of insecurity. But what can they ask for? Only when Cang is honest can he know etiquette. The environment and lack of materials from childhood make it impossible for native families to have too much warm education for them. Lack of necessary emotional education is doomed to be bad at communication and communication in relationships. This kind of lack of warmth education collides with intense sensitivity and self-esteem, which is a rigid and inelastic personality attribute. Even if they know that they are unjustifiable, they will still have fierce self-esteem, which can only make them choose collision and tough, even unconscious silence, and protect their inner weak self with a cold and evasive attitude. In many broken marriages, the man's family easily put a big moral hat of "looking at money" on the girl's family, blamed all the problems on the other party's character, but never reflected on their fragile glass heart self-esteem and violent and rude communication methods, and lacked at least sincerity. Who dares to marry the girl to him? Now Li is calm but cautious about her relationship. She said that any relationship that consumes her can not be called a good relationship, and any relationship that can not rise to material can not be called a true relationship. She is not a Philistine, but she is really afraid of poor and rude men. Poor horizontal, poor horizontal, the poorer the more horizontal. "In fact, the feelings of the same family are more matched. Without the excessive sensitivity brought by hostility and self-esteem, and without the consumption friction of material ideas, there is no need to carefully observe their words and colors. The two sides are similar in three views and have equal strength. They can't compare who and let who. The rest of their energy is just talking about love, and everyone is happy. Such love is pure!" Li's perception is very realistic. After listening to it, I was struck to pieces by the love view of tenderness and dream, and I didn't know what to say.

A few days ago, I saw a post at Tianya called don't fall in love with the poor to the effect that poor couples are sad about everything. Girls who fall in love with the poor will greatly reduce their quality of life and quality of life. Needless to say, women who have been constantly tangled in material poverty are prone to depression, and the aging and fatigue written on their faces are often deeper than other women. I have always believed that "poor" and "not poor" are only temporary. Relatively speaking, if both emotional sides really want to be together, in modern society, they should be diligent and flexible, so as not to be worth 10 billion, but there is still no problem in living a well-off life. Having money without feelings is just a sad dream of wealth. A marriage without feelings can't make do with it. It has repeatedly stressed the importance of material conditions in emotional relations and emotional direction. Although it is one-sided and paranoid, it can not be completely denied. After all, the economic foundation determines that superstructure is the truth. It is not the material itself that really makes women constantly tangle with qi depression. The aging and fatigue written on their faces are often deeper than those of other women, but the loss of a healthy emotional relationship caused by those angry self-esteem caused by low self-esteem. My friend Li still laments about her first love: a girl who grew up in a greenhouse should not easily fall in love with the poor who force self-esteem. When she was young, she met her first love whose family conditions were not very good. She didn't think about too many material and practical factors. She just loved because of simple love emotion. But in order to protect his sensitive self-esteem, Li's love affair was like walking on thin ice. When shopping with him, you can't go to expensive places. When shopping, you can only lower the price when you spend your own money. When you go out to play, Li always takes the initiative to put forward the big head. Even when you eat and pay with friends, you have to consider how to sneak your wallet into his hand, consider his economic situation and worry about his face. The first lover is smart, progressive, down-to-earth and willing to work. Her spirit is deeply favored by Li. Li doesn't mind his poverty, but his own strength and ambition make his own inferiority complex breed highly sensitive self-esteem in repeated unwillingness and resentment, showing a weak external strength and internal weakness. This kind of strong and easy to break self-esteem makes him always take the psychology of the victim in his interpersonal relationship, and he is easily offended and depressed by some irrelevant little things. For example, when Li's family sincerely and warmly entertained him, he always responded coldly in a dignified and silent manner and deliberately maintained a sense of distance. Li knows that his indifference stems from his self-esteem. He uses a way similar to resistance to show his disdain for "material excellence", brush the sense of existence, and maintain his poor self-esteem. He himself was trapped in the mire of confrontation and suffocation, and he was deeply convinced that he had never been aware of his overly strong emotional response. Once, like all girls in love, Li couldn't help shopping for her beloved boy. After receiving a set of high-end down jacket full of love and high value, her first love face was not surprised, but angry: who asked you to buy me such an expensive thing? Li explained that because she liked the dress very much, she thought he would like it too. She bought it for him without much thought. First love is furious: who wants you to buy such expensive things? Money is great? Don't put so much pressure on me. The morbid self-esteem deeply trapped in inferiority complex will unconsciously and unconsciously misinterpret the goodwill and warmth in intimate relations. For a young man whose desire can't keep up with his strength, stubbornness and unwillingness have become a sharp double-edged sword. But what he can hurt is only those who like him. He can make up for his lonely imbalance by attacking and belittling his partner. At this time, dignity has become an extreme paranoia: men want face! Therefore, the truth is difficult to pay. LiDang burst into tears and explained that I just instinctively pay more attention to the people I like. I don't want you to exchange for equal value. You don't need pressure. After several twists and turns, this contradiction was finally reconciled after Li's repeated apologies and tears. After Li gained a lot of self-esteem, her first love took down her down jacket with satisfaction. If anything goes too far, people's patience is limited. After too many trivial frictions and internal friction, Li gradually lost the battle in the self-esteem protection guard. She was tired and didn't like to choose to break up. When the first love stood on the moral highland, not afraid of the cold, and buttoned down with a big hat of "you're still too material", Li just replied faintly: "I'm really not afraid of your poverty, but I can't afford your fierce self-esteem." Fall in love with a young, poor and lustful man. He is poor and reasonable. He is poor and willful. You can't satisfy his vanity and his self-esteem by compromise. This kind of smart and progressive man from a poor family always has some strong and fragile stubbornness and sensitivity. This kind of stubbornness and sensitivity comes from his proud and charming sense of tangled origin but persistent pursuit, as well as his inner uneasiness about material scarcity and lack of self-confidence. When this weak pride and strong uneasiness meet, it will breed false impetuosity and repeated reluctance. Such men are more hungry for "successful counter attack" than others, but it is not surprising that they are full of resentment due to the reality and their limited breakthrough. But the pressure of external survival forced him to carefully put away his violent side. This kind of strong and easy to break self-esteem even surpasses his existing excellence, and compensates for his own lack with vicious arrogance and. But in the relatively close relationship between men and women, his arrogant male dignity will expose his violent nature without concealment. Therefore, love can easily become the main battlefield for the confrontation between three different concepts of men and women created by different economic bases. The more frustrated and frustrated men are, the more they hope to seek self-esteem and status from the intimate relationship that is relatively easy to control, and hope to get some comfort and attention from their partner's unconditional obedience. Money, which is defined by the secular world as a quantifiable standard of success, is the easiest to stimulate his most sensitive nerves. At this time, his partner will easily become an outlet for his frustration and loneliness. Being harsh and unkind to their partners is precisely the projection of their own internal struggle and injustice. Don't be so stingy about the situation of your first love and the lack of emotional control, which will reduce your ability to avoid the situation of my first love. Why not "be nice to him"? Why "be nice to him, he will be under a lot of pressure"? Without a single spouse, I thought of the question that scolded countless times: "is it appropriate to cook only two dishes and one soup (no chicken, duck and fish) to entertain my girlfriend who came to my house for the first time?" The subject himself repeatedly stressed his poverty and excused his wonderful behavior, but was evaluated by netizens as "emotional intelligence is moving". Among them, Zhihu Dongpo night running has a deep analysis of this. This logic is just a disguised refusal behavior long ago due to the lack of material, experience, human and worldly knowledge and strong self-esteem: I am lack, so I am unwilling to pay and can't pay. If you let me pay, I will have a strong sense of insecurity. At the same time, I have strong self-esteem, so don't pay to me. Have you paid? I have to pay back. It's also a sense of insecurity. But what can they ask for? Only when Cang is honest can he know etiquette. The environment and lack of materials from childhood make it impossible for native families to have too much warm education for them. Lack of necessary emotional education is doomed to be bad at communication and communication in relationships. This kind of lack of warmth education collides with intense sensitivity and self-esteem, which is a rigid and inelastic personality attribute. Even if they know that they are unjustifiable, they will still have fierce self-esteem, which can only make them choose collision and tough, even unconscious silence, and protect their inner weak self with a cold and evasive attitude. In many broken marriages, the man's family easily put a big moral hat of "looking at money" on the girl's family, blamed all the problems on the other party's character, but never reflected on their fragile glass heart self-esteem and violent and rude communication methods, and lacked at least sincerity. Who dares to marry the girl to him? Now Li is calm but cautious about her relationship. She said that any relationship that consumes her can not be called a good relationship, and any relationship that can not rise to material can not be called a true relationship. She is not a Philistine, but she is really afraid of poor and rude men. Poor horizontal, poor horizontal, the poorer the more horizontal. "In fact, the feelings of the same family are more matched. Without the excessive sensitivity brought by hostility and self-esteem, and without the consumption friction of material ideas, there is no need to carefully observe their words and colors. The two sides are similar in three views and have equal strength. They can't compare who and let who. The rest of their energy is just talking about love, and everyone is happy. Such love is pure!" Li's perception is very realistic. After listening to it, I was struck to pieces by the love view of tenderness and dream, and I didn't know what to say.