Why do you always envy others Today, the company organized a dinner party. Everyone was happy. Xiaoye sitting next to her looked in a bad mood. I saw that she had been sighing, so I asked her, "what's the matter, aren't you happy?" Xiaoye looked embarrassed and hurriedly said, "sister Lin, sorry, I'm not going to spoil the fun. Originally, this dinner was very happy, right..." she stopped talking. I smiled and said, "it's all right. Tell sister Lin if you're unhappy and see if I can help you." Listen to me, she took out her mobile phone and showed me her circle of friends. There were several photos of a new couple, including wedding photos and travel photos... The boys were handsome and the girls were beautiful. They laughed happily and could see that they were a happy couple. Xiaoye turned over these photos and said to me: "This girl is my classmate. She just got married. They recently went to the Maldives for their honeymoon. Her husband is very kind to her. She also works very well, with high salary and good welfare. But look at me. I've had all kinds of troubles recently. At home, the children are noisy, and my husband only knows to work overtime and doesn't know how to be considerate. I really envy my classmate. I'm so happy..." "But you were very happy when you first got married." I interrupted her, "when I saw the picture you sent, I laughed very happy. We envied you at that time." Listen to me, Xiaoye was stunned, "yes... But now..." "Don't always see others happy, you are also very happy. Think about it, your friends must be the best. How can you compare the worst things in your life with the best of others? Don't ignore the happiness in your life." Looking at Xiaoye's thoughtful expression, I think of myself before. 02 You envy others, and others envy you A few years ago, my child was still in primary school. At that time, Xiaobao learned everything more slowly than others. It took people half an hour to recite ancient poems. It took Xiaobao more than an hour, or even longer. I'm worried about it, but I can't blame the child, because the child really works hard. After all, Jackie Chan didn't want her children to become a dragon. After all, my parents didn't want her to be a dragon. Until later, I went to a friend's house to play. His children were typical children of others. They were smart and turned their heads very fast. That day, I said to my friend, "I envy you. I have such a good child. I'm not only good at learning, but also good at singing and calligraphy. Unlike my little treasure, I'm slow to learn anything." "Hey, don't let Xiao Bao hear you." My friend severely criticized me, "it makes the child sad to hear that. You all say you envy my child's good study, but you don't know how naughty he is. I think Xiaobao is very good, sensible and polite. Every child has his own good, spend more time on the child, find their highlights, and don't always envy others." My friend's words simply woke up the dreamer and made me feel ashamed. Since then, I have taken time to recite ancient poems with my child. If the child can't remember, I will explain the meaning to him word by word. Slow down, slow down. I'm slow, but I remember clearly and deeply. Sure enough, with my encouragement, the child's grades are getting better and better. In addition, he is sensible and polite, so he is especially liked by teachers and students. In fact, many people, like me and Xiaoye, have a deep understanding of the ups and downs and all forms of life in our lives, and we can't help feeling depressed. So when others show happiness, we will subconsciously compare our bad side with the good side of others. Isn't this kind of comparison annoying? 03 Comparison is the biggest enemy of destroying happiness When others are happy, when compared, we seem to be less happy, but is that really the case? Of course not! The happiness of others It won't affect your happiness at all We often see the beautiful side of others, but we don't see the hard work behind this beauty. Everyone is an independent individual. We have our own lives, both ups and downs and our own little happiness. Others are happy because they have made efforts; As long as we are willing to work hard, we can still be happy. There is no inverse relationship between the happiness of others and their own happiness. In other words, the happiness of others will not affect our own happiness. In fact, when you envy others, others also envy you. Therefore, everyone is the same. They are all living seriously. No one needs to envy anyone, and no one needs to be envied by others. Envy and be envied They live too much in other people's evaluation Don't decide the value of a thing you do because of the evaluation of others. We always use the affirmation of others to prove the value of doing something and determine our happiness. But the fact is that when we do one thing, happiness is happiness, which will not change due to the evaluation of others. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "happiness is like perfume, not spilled on others, but sprinkled on yourself." Happiness in life is gained through hard work, not through comparison. It is said that there is no scenery in familiar places, so what we see is always the brilliance of others. In the final analysis, we still live in a small pattern. We always envy others and leave our thoughts in other people's world too much, but ignore the happiness in our own life. Sometimes, we really need to tell ourselves to take back our eyes and see the stars in our world. I think it's very good to see a paragraph "How can we not envy others?" "Strong enough to only see the beauty of your life bit by bit" I hope you and I are such people