The best thing in the world is to have a few friends who are honest in mind and heart. Many times, some words may not be fully shared by relatives out of some concern, so high-quality friendship is often the best escort in our life. However, people's hearts are very complex things. We all know the value of friendship, but we ignore the importance of maintaining friendship. Do you have such an experience? You were good friends who talked about everything, but I don't know why. You gradually got estranged, gradually alienated, and finally parted ways. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between friends is, we should also pay attention to some hidden rules. The relationship between people is often not a single choice, not with you or without him, but multiple choices, which can win-win. There are also hidden rules in the communication between people. Understanding these ten hidden rules will make you get along better with your friends.

1. It's important to cultivate yourself and know a little about the world No matter how strong your relationship is, don't forget etiquette. Human feelings are cold and warm. There are many cruelties in real life. If you can mix well and become famous, you must let yourself know a little about human feelings and the world. Friends also involve many etiquette things. If they are completely ignored, they will also destroy friendship. The etiquette of in-depth communication with the other party, especially when it comes to the other party's family, whether to respect the other party's family should be measured properly. Otherwise, it will cause damage to friendship without knowing it. Whether it is etiquette or worldly sophistication, it is very important. It is not only a matter of respect for others, but also a matter of one's self-cultivation and personal morality. People who do not pay attention to human sophistication are prone to arrogance and arrogance. When you hurt others, you will hurt yourself in the end. Liu Bei, Emperor zhaolie of the Han Dynasty of the Three Kingdoms, avenged his brother and despised Lu Xun, a young scholar who was in command. As a result, he was attacked by the other party with fire in Yi Pavilion, resulting in a tragic ending.

2. Good faith, attention should be paid to borrowing money and goods Some people think that friends are inseparable from each other, while others make friends widely, but make friends functional, so things like asking for services, borrowing cars and borrowing money happen from time to time. In fact, this purely functional idea is very damaging to friendship. In other words, it is not friendship at all. Friendship often becomes more difficult when it comes to money. If you borrow money from friends, the agreed deadline should be paid back as soon as possible. Reputation is the most basic criterion of life. The relationship between people is maintained by the word "sincerity". If you break the contract again and again, you will destroy not only your friendship, but also your reputation. "Yu ion" records a story of death due to dishonesty. A businessman in Jiyang sank while crossing the river. He grabbed a marijuana pole and shouted for help. A fisherman came at the sound. The merchant shouted quickly, "I'm the richest man in Jiyang. If you can save me, I'll give you 100 liang of gold.". After being rescued ashore, the merchant turned his face and refused to admit his account. He gave the fisherman only 10 liang of gold. The fisherman blamed him for not keeping his word and going back on his word. The rich man said, "as a fisherman, you can't earn much money in your life. Aren't you satisfied with getting twelve liang of gold suddenly?" The fisherman had to leave unhappily. Unexpectedly, the rich man capsized in place again. When someone wanted to save him, the fisherman who had been cheated by him said, "he is the one who doesn't keep his word!" So the merchant drowned. It was accidental that the merchant capsized twice and met the same Gan Fu, but the bad news of the merchant was expected. Because if a person doesn't keep his word, he will lose the trust of others. Therefore, once he is in trouble, no one is willing to help. Those who break their faith have to wait and die in case of disaster. If two people are involved in business, they should make it clear in advance, so as not to have differences in the future and make friends unable to do it. Business is not benevolence and righteousness. A thick friendship is often more important than business.

3. Be humble and don't show off in front of your friends A big tree catches the wind. If you have anything, don't put it out every day. Just know happiness. If you put it out, it's vanity and show off. You buy a new car, you buy a new house, you make a new couple. Try to avoid wandering in front of your friends. Everyone knows that it is not appropriate to show off their wealth in the circle of friends, and it is the same in front of friends. You can share joy in front of your friends, but it's too much. It's just showing off. You make friends with a superior state of mind. What you get will not be the envy of each other, but the distance, the distance between you and your friends. Distance does not produce beauty, but estrangement.

4. Understanding, dealing with things should be right, not people, and mistakes should be counted It is inevitable to have contradictions when getting along with friends. In addition to dealing with the scale, we should also try our best to be right about things and not people. When things pass, they will pass. Don't bear grudges and don't pursue them. We should leave room for people to turn around and give ourselves a broader sky. When Guan Zhong and Bao Shuya were doing business together, Guan Zhong's family was poor and didn't pay as much capital as Bao Shuya, but he would take more dividends. Bao Shuya's men were very unhappy and scolded Guan Zhong for being greedy. But Bao Shuya explained, "where is he greedy for these money? His family is in difficulty, and I gave it to him on purpose." Guan Zhong has been an official for three times, but he was dismissed. Bao Shuya didn't think Guan Zhong had no talent, but didn't meet anyone who appreciated him. Guan Zhong once led soldiers to fight. When attacking, he hid behind, but when retreating, he ran in the front. His soldiers despised him, but Bao Shuya said: "Guan Zhong has an old mother in his family. He protects himself to serve his mother, not really afraid." After hearing this, Guan Zhong sighed, "he who knows me also has abalone!" Finally, Guan Zhong became a famous prime minister who assisted Qi to dominate the country.

5. Respect and avoid commenting on friends No matter how stupid what your friend's friend does seems to you, don't judge it easily. Everyone has his own circle of friends and his own way of doing things. Appropriate silence is also a kind of respect for friendship. A really mature person will not easily evaluate the quality of others, let alone the friends of friends. There are no children or old in the contract of life. Why do we need to be in harmony first. You have your choice, your friends also have your friend's choice, you need to know how to respect others' choice. Whether out of respect or kindness, you should remember that it's better to say less.

6. Distance, don't come and go with friends This is a very sensitive thing. Even if you can ensure that you don't have any problems, you can ensure that others don't have any thoughts on you. Get along with friends and friends. Maybe dog blood drama is just the plot of TV programs, but don't deal with it alone. Some people say that "fire prevention, anti-theft and anti girlfriends" have the meaning of acne, but it is not unreasonable. Do yourself a good job and get in your own circle. Friends belong to friends, and the distance should be maintained. Such a distance will not alienate you, but maintain the friendship. Friendship should be as pure as the fog in the morning. Friendship can only be consolidated with loyalty.

7. Peace of mind, if it's not a treat, don't let your friends pay A casual dinner party between friends is best made of AA. Maybe a meal or two is really nothing and doesn't cost a lot of money, but it will inevitably make friends uncomfortable. In dealing with the world, you only want to be at ease. If you often ask your friends to pay the bill, it will inevitably make people feel that you love taking advantage of others, and you won't feel secure in your heart.

8. Be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts. Don't be afraid to tell the truth Even if the truth sometimes hurts a friend, honesty is the foundation of a strong friendship. Don't be ashamed to admit your mistakes, face up to your mistakes, ask for the understanding of your friends, and be honest with each other. "If you see good things, you will move, and if you have mistakes, you will change." This is the teachings of our ancestors, which we should keep in mind all the time. People will inevitably make mistakes. Some people choose to face it, while others choose to hide it. If you don't tell your friends frankly, what can you do to maintain your friendship on the day when all the truth comes out? Since your friend has chosen you as a friend, he will certainly accept your shortcomings and mistakes and accept the reality calmly, which is more magnanimous than trying his best to whitewash.

9. Kindly, even if you are a good friend, don't comment on your friend in too harsh language Not everyone will accept bad advice. Many people always misunderstand that what you say to your friends is to care about your friends and think of each other. Why doesn't the other party understand. Many people always misunderstand that they are careless. Shouldn't friends be outspoken and enjoy mutual damage? Friend, if you think so, you are really wrong. Don't use "loyal advice against the ear" as an excuse. It sounds mean to others. There is no need to hide between friends. What remains is how to express. A mean person inevitably leaves people with thorny misunderstandings, and a kind person is easier to get along with. The problem lies in your friends, and how to remind your friends is your choice. A kind person won't end too bad anywhere.

10. Gratitude, empathy and gratitude People who know how to be grateful always have a wonderful world. People who know how to be grateful always see the beauty of others and are more able to understand and tolerate others. Therefore, we should remember the kindness and help of our friends, and repay the dripping kindness with the spring, so that kindness and love will flow between each other. When a friend refuses his request, he should think in another position, be considerate of the difficulties of others, and be considerate of others. Only by doing and cherishing can we manage a beautiful friendship.

The best thing in the world is to have a few friends who are honest in mind and heart. Many times, some words may not be fully shared by relatives out of some concern, so high-quality friendship is often the best escort in our life. However, people's hearts are very complex things. We all know the value of friendship, but we ignore the importance of maintaining friendship. Do you have such an experience? You were good friends who talked about everything, but I don't know why. You gradually got estranged, gradually alienated, and finally parted ways. Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between friends is, we should also pay attention to some hidden rules. The relationship between people is often not a single choice, not with you or without him, but multiple choices, which can win-win. There are also hidden rules in the communication between people. Understanding these ten hidden rules will make you get along better with your friends.

1. It's important to cultivate yourself and know a little about the world No matter how strong your relationship is, don't forget etiquette. Human feelings are cold and warm. There are many cruelties in real life. If you can mix well and become famous, you must let yourself know a little about human feelings and the world. Friends also involve many etiquette things. If they are completely ignored, they will also destroy friendship. The etiquette of in-depth communication with the other party, especially when it comes to the other party's family, whether to respect the other party's family should be measured properly. Otherwise, it will cause damage to friendship without knowing it. Whether it is etiquette or worldly sophistication, it is very important. It is not only a matter of respect for others, but also a matter of one's self-cultivation and personal morality. People who do not pay attention to human sophistication are prone to arrogance and arrogance. When you hurt others, you will hurt yourself in the end. Liu Bei, Emperor zhaolie of the Han Dynasty of the Three Kingdoms, avenged his brother and despised Lu Xun, a young scholar who was in command. As a result, he was attacked by the other party with fire in Yi Pavilion, resulting in a tragic ending.

2. Good faith, attention should be paid to borrowing money and goods Some people think that friends are inseparable from each other, while others make friends widely, but make friends functional, so things like asking for services, borrowing cars and borrowing money happen from time to time. In fact, this purely functional idea is very damaging to friendship. In other words, it is not friendship at all. Friendship often becomes more difficult when it comes to money. If you borrow money from friends, the agreed deadline should be paid back as soon as possible. Reputation is the most basic criterion of life. The relationship between people is maintained by the word "sincerity". If you break the contract again and again, you will destroy not only your friendship, but also your reputation. "Yu ion" records a story of death due to dishonesty. A businessman in Jiyang sank while crossing the river. He grabbed a marijuana pole and shouted for help. A fisherman came at the sound. The merchant shouted quickly, "I'm the richest man in Jiyang. If you can save me, I'll give you 100 liang of gold.". After being rescued ashore, the merchant turned his face and refused to admit his account. He gave the fisherman only 10 liang of gold. The fisherman blamed him for not keeping his word and going back on his word. The rich man said, "as a fisherman, you can't earn much money in your life. Aren't you satisfied with getting twelve liang of gold suddenly?" The fisherman had to leave unhappily. Unexpectedly, the rich man capsized in place again. When someone wanted to save him, the fisherman who had been cheated by him said, "he is the one who doesn't keep his word!" So the merchant drowned. It was accidental that the merchant capsized twice and met the same Gan Fu, but the bad news of the merchant was expected. Because if a person doesn't keep his word, he will lose the trust of others. Therefore, once he is in trouble, no one is willing to help. Those who break their faith have to wait and die in case of disaster. If two people are involved in business, they should make it clear in advance, so as not to have differences in the future and make friends unable to do it. Business is not benevolence and righteousness. A thick friendship is often more important than business.

3. Be humble and don't show off in front of your friends A big tree catches the wind. If you have anything, don't put it out every day. Just know happiness. If you put it out, it's vanity and show off. You buy a new car, you buy a new house, you make a new couple. Try to avoid wandering in front of your friends. Everyone knows that it is not appropriate to show off their wealth in the circle of friends, and it is the same in front of friends. You can share joy in front of your friends, but it's too much. It's just showing off. You make friends with a superior state of mind. What you get will not be the envy of each other, but the distance, the distance between you and your friends. Distance does not produce beauty, but estrangement.

4. Understanding, dealing with things should be right, not people, and mistakes should be counted It is inevitable to have contradictions when getting along with friends. In addition to dealing with the scale, we should also try our best to be right about things and not people. When things pass, they will pass. Don't bear grudges and don't pursue them. We should leave room for people to turn around and give ourselves a broader sky. When Guan Zhong and Bao Shuya were doing business together, Guan Zhong's family was poor and didn't pay as much capital as Bao Shuya, but he would take more dividends. Bao Shuya's men were very unhappy and scolded Guan Zhong for being greedy. But Bao Shuya explained, "where is he greedy for these money? His family is in difficulty, and I gave it to him on purpose." Guan Zhong has been an official for three times, but he was dismissed. Bao Shuya didn't think Guan Zhong had no talent, but didn't meet anyone who appreciated him. Guan Zhong once led soldiers to fight. When attacking, he hid behind, but when retreating, he ran in the front. His soldiers despised him, but Bao Shuya said: "Guan Zhong has an old mother in his family. He protects himself to serve his mother, not really afraid." After hearing this, Guan Zhong sighed, "he who knows me also has abalone!" Finally, Guan Zhong became a famous prime minister who assisted Qi to dominate the country.

5. Respect and avoid commenting on friends No matter how stupid what your friend's friend does seems to you, don't judge it easily. Everyone has his own circle of friends and his own way of doing things. Appropriate silence is also a kind of respect for friendship. A really mature person will not easily evaluate the quality of others, let alone the friends of friends. There are no children or old in the contract of life. Why do we need to be in harmony first. You have your choice, your friends also have your friend's choice, you need to know how to respect others' choice. Whether out of respect or kindness, you should remember that it's better to say less.

6. Distance, don't come and go with friends This is a very sensitive thing. Even if you can ensure that you don't have any problems, you can ensure that others don't have any thoughts on you. Get along with friends and friends. Maybe dog blood drama is just the plot of TV programs, but don't deal with it alone. Some people say that "fire prevention, anti-theft and anti girlfriends" have the meaning of acne, but it is not unreasonable. Do yourself a good job and get in your own circle. Friends belong to friends, and the distance should be maintained. Such a distance will not alienate you, but maintain the friendship. Friendship should be as pure as the fog in the morning. Friendship can only be consolidated with loyalty.

7. Peace of mind, if it's not a treat, don't let your friends pay A casual dinner party between friends is best made of AA. Maybe a meal or two is really nothing and doesn't cost a lot of money, but it will inevitably make friends uncomfortable. In dealing with the world, you only want to be at ease. If you often ask your friends to pay the bill, it will inevitably make people feel that you love taking advantage of others, and you won't feel secure in your heart.

8. Be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts. Don't be afraid to tell the truth Even if the truth sometimes hurts a friend, honesty is the foundation of a strong friendship. Don't be ashamed to admit your mistakes, face up to your mistakes, ask for the understanding of your friends, and be honest with each other. "If you see good things, you will move, and if you have mistakes, you will change." This is the teachings of our ancestors, which we should keep in mind all the time. People will inevitably make mistakes. Some people choose to face it, while others choose to hide it. If you don't tell your friends frankly, what can you do to maintain your friendship on the day when all the truth comes out? Since your friend has chosen you as a friend, he will certainly accept your shortcomings and mistakes and accept the reality calmly, which is more magnanimous than trying his best to whitewash.

9. Kindly, even if you are a good friend, don't comment on your friend in too harsh language Not everyone will accept bad advice. Many people always misunderstand that what you say to your friends is to care about your friends and think of each other. Why doesn't the other party understand. Many people always misunderstand that they are careless. Shouldn't friends be outspoken and enjoy mutual damage? Friend, if you think so, you are really wrong. Don't use "loyal advice against the ear" as an excuse. It sounds mean to others. There is no need to hide between friends. What remains is how to express. A mean person inevitably leaves people with thorny misunderstandings, and a kind person is easier to get along with. The problem lies in your friends, and how to remind your friends is your choice. A kind person won't end too bad anywhere.

10. Gratitude, empathy and gratitude People who know how to be grateful always have a wonderful world. People who know how to be grateful always see the beauty of others and are more able to understand and tolerate others. Therefore, we should remember the kindness and help of our friends, and repay the dripping kindness with the spring, so that kindness and love will flow between each other. When a friend refuses his request, he should think in another position, be considerate of the difficulties of others, and be considerate of others. Only by doing and cherishing can we manage a beautiful friendship.