Some friends, as long as you pay attention to her, similar feelings of inferiority and self reproach will surround you. Some leaders have strong abilities, but you soon want to escape him. Some lovers feel good about themselves all the time, but ignore your feelings. It's not that we can't see their good, just because the message he sends you makes you feel inferior. Over time, negative emotions accumulate. Instead of liking yourself, you might as well stay away from him.

1. Why can't you keep people? Once upon a time, I had a boss with strong ability. He doesn't take the initiative to take his apprentices, but he always learns a lot from his people by teaching them by example and listening to them. His resume is glittering, and some people in the industry often say that they have known him for a long time. His temper is in direct proportion to his achievements. No one in the company knows it. When he gets anxious, he slaps the table, stares and pokes his heart every word. His favorite arm can't straighten up when he sees him, let alone those small minions and new graduates, "too bad" and "losers". Similar words always make a concluding remark after his penetrating business comments. A new generation replaces the old, and his company updates very frequently. A girl with long hair told me that one day, she got off work and couldn't start the car in the parking lot. When she looked up, her long hair was wrapped in a crying face in the mirror, "every word he said made me feel like I was a failure." What made her more unbearable was that once she ran into him in the street with her mother who came to visit her relatives from other places. She said: "this is president Wang, this is my mother", and as the boss, he didn't know whether he had an opinion on the work of the girl with long hair, so he went away without even pointing his head at the mother and daughter. The girl with long hair changed her job as soon as she had abundant wings. The experience of that day embarrassed her, "I'm like a garbage", and from childhood to childhood, she was the pride of her mother. "I grew up very fast with President Wang, but that growth was accompanied by... Inferiority and despair. Now I have a physiological reaction after walking through the original company: I don't like myself." When she chose adjectives, she thought about them for a long time. I nodded. Who isn't?

2. Your efforts should not be oppressive Once upon a time, I had a girlfriend, almost perfect. One hundred percent of the family background, achievements, marriage, graduation years, meet again, and one hundred percent of the children. She works hard. Photos released in the early morning are often empty streets, "just after work"; At six o'clock, she appeared on the way of morning running again. The expression corresponding to her was an arm, refueling. At several parties, everyone drank coffee, and her calls were endless. Everyone threw the child to the amusement park and chatted aside. She turned on the computer and began to work. She looked at her cyberspace in the evening. It was against our background that she took a selfie in front of the computer. Below, she praised her and said, "don't waste any time." It's really not a waste. Finally, she put down her computer and talked to us at the table. Soon, one day later, I saw what customers she contacted, what friends she made, and what new topics she did. A large part of these ideas, contacts and fresh inspiration were from that party. We didn't intend to discuss it, and she learned it. When we meet again, we feel a little uncomfortable. When she was away, it finally broke out. "She makes me feel like I'm not motivated." "Yes, why didn't I seize the same opportunity." "In a flash of light, she made a plan." "I said I knew someone. The next day, I received a call from her for introduction... Then they contacted alone." "Are we jealous?" Good people draw a cross for themselves in their hearts. But gradually, there was no her at the party. Sometimes she was busy and sometimes everyone forgot - she didn't notice deliberately, but she didn't notice deliberately. Until a girlfriend told me that she had been blocked, "I'm always said, look at Zhang Hui..." Zhang Hui is her. "Aren't you best friends? Why can Zhang Hui... And you..." Actually, I blocked her, too. "And you're too lazy" "and you're not active" "and who you know at the same time, you're not sure" She is like the person who stands up in the first row of the cinema. Everyone behind her has to stand up; As long as I pay attention to her, feelings like inferiority and self reproach will surround me. But as an adult, why should I be controlled by her and dislike myself?

3. Verbal violence is no small matter Once upon a time, I met a couple. It's a perfect match. After ten years of love, I'm about to enter marriage. I participated in the Salon Hosted by them, with big names gathered. The girl is the host and the boy is the keynote speaker. Towards the end of the salon, the girl made a speech, mentioned the boy, full of love, "without him, this thing could not be done". But what about the boy? Later, we had a meeting. They were both there. As soon as the girl spoke, she was stopped by the boy, "she can't speak clearly", "let me speak", "listen to me", "that's right" The girl finally said nothing. The boy's QQ signature is "I love my wife", and I haven't seen him have two hearts for girls on various occasions. He suddenly found me today. It turned out that the girl broke up with him when trying on the wedding dress. He described the scene—— The well-dressed girl asked, "does it look good?" He looked at it and commented in a consistent tone: "it's OK. Anyway, your appearance is not your strength." A stone stirs thousands of waves. In other words, Rome wasn't built in a day. The girl's face changed greatly on the spot. When decorating, he doubted his taste. When picking a ring, he despised his requirements. When passing by a beautiful woman with long thighs on the roadside, he would joke that "you look like a short white gourd", and the bitter ripples in her heart were all revealed. "When I think of the next few decades, I will have to endure your verbal violence. When I think that you can explain it by saying 'just a joke, don't mind' and 'be angry at a little thing', I have no confidence to continue." This is the last message the girl sent him. "A little thing, but also angry?" He asked. "You don't like a person, maybe it's just because the information he sends you makes you feel inferior. Over time, negative emotions accumulate. You might as well not like him as you don't like yourself." I suddenly remembered my former boss and girlfriend and told them to the boy. They are excellent without exception. To some extent, people and animals are harmless and even beneficial. Where do you get any excellence? It's all about comparison

Some friends, as long as you pay attention to her, similar feelings of inferiority and self reproach will surround you. Some leaders have strong abilities, but you soon want to escape him. Some lovers feel good about themselves all the time, but ignore your feelings. It's not that we can't see their good, just because the message he sends you makes you feel inferior. Over time, negative emotions accumulate. Instead of liking yourself, you might as well stay away from him.

1. Why can't you keep people? Once upon a time, I had a boss with strong ability. He doesn't take the initiative to take his apprentices, but he always learns a lot from his people by teaching them by example and listening to them. His resume is glittering, and some people in the industry often say that they have known him for a long time. His temper is in direct proportion to his achievements. No one in the company knows it. When he gets anxious, he slaps the table, stares and pokes his heart every word. His favorite arm can't straighten up when he sees him, let alone those small minions and new graduates, "too bad" and "losers". Similar words always make a concluding remark after his penetrating business comments. A new generation replaces the old, and his company updates very frequently. A girl with long hair told me that one day, she got off work and couldn't start the car in the parking lot. When she looked up, her long hair was wrapped in a crying face in the mirror, "every word he said made me feel like I was a failure." What made her more unbearable was that once she ran into him in the street with her mother who came to visit her relatives from other places. She said: "this is president Wang, this is my mother", and as the boss, he didn't know whether he had an opinion on the work of the girl with long hair, so he went away without even pointing his head at the mother and daughter. The girl with long hair changed her job as soon as she had abundant wings. The experience of that day embarrassed her, "I'm like a garbage", and from childhood to childhood, she was the pride of her mother. "I grew up very fast with President Wang, but that growth was accompanied by... Inferiority and despair. Now I have a physiological reaction after walking through the original company: I don't like myself." When she chose adjectives, she thought about them for a long time. I nodded. Who isn't?

2. Your efforts should not be oppressive Once upon a time, I had a girlfriend, almost perfect. One hundred percent of the family background, achievements, marriage, graduation years, meet again, and one hundred percent of the children. She works hard. Photos released in the early morning are often empty streets, "just after work"; At six o'clock, she appeared on the way of morning running again. The expression corresponding to her was an arm, refueling. At several parties, everyone drank coffee, and her calls were endless. Everyone threw the child to the amusement park and chatted aside. She turned on the computer and began to work. She looked at her cyberspace in the evening. It was against our background that she took a selfie in front of the computer. Below, she praised her and said, "don't waste any time." It's really not a waste. Finally, she put down her computer and talked to us at the table. Soon, one day later, I saw what customers she contacted, what friends she made, and what new topics she did. A large part of these ideas, contacts and fresh inspiration were from that party. We didn't intend to discuss it, and she learned it. When we meet again, we feel a little uncomfortable. When she was away, it finally broke out. "She makes me feel like I'm not motivated." "Yes, why didn't I seize the same opportunity." "In a flash of light, she made a plan." "I said I knew someone. The next day, I received a call from her for introduction... Then they contacted alone." "Are we jealous?" Good people draw a cross for themselves in their hearts. But gradually, there was no her at the party. Sometimes she was busy and sometimes everyone forgot - she didn't notice deliberately, but she didn't notice deliberately. Until a girlfriend told me that she had been blocked, "I'm always said, look at Zhang Hui..." Zhang Hui is her. "Aren't you best friends? Why can Zhang Hui... And you..." Actually, I blocked her, too. "And you're too lazy" "and you're not active" "and who you know at the same time, you're not sure" She is like the person who stands up in the first row of the cinema. Everyone behind her has to stand up; As long as I pay attention to her, feelings like inferiority and self reproach will surround me. But as an adult, why should I be controlled by her and dislike myself?

3. Verbal violence is no small matter Once upon a time, I met a couple. It's a perfect match. After ten years of love, I'm about to enter marriage. I participated in the Salon Hosted by them, with big names gathered. The girl is the host and the boy is the keynote speaker. Towards the end of the salon, the girl made a speech, mentioned the boy, full of love, "without him, this thing could not be done". But what about the boy? Later, we had a meeting. They were both there. As soon as the girl spoke, she was stopped by the boy, "she can't speak clearly", "let me speak", "listen to me", "that's right" The girl finally said nothing. The boy's QQ signature is "I love my wife", and I haven't seen him have two hearts for girls on various occasions. He suddenly found me today. It turned out that the girl broke up with him when trying on the wedding dress. He described the scene—— The well-dressed girl asked, "does it look good?" He looked at it and commented in a consistent tone: "it's OK. Anyway, your appearance is not your strength." A stone stirs thousands of waves. In other words, Rome wasn't built in a day. The girl's face changed greatly on the spot. When decorating, he doubted his taste. When picking a ring, he despised his requirements. When passing by a beautiful woman with long thighs on the roadside, he would joke that "you look like a short white gourd", and the bitter ripples in her heart were all revealed. "When I think of the next few decades, I will have to endure your verbal violence. When I think that you can explain it by saying 'just a joke, don't mind' and 'be angry at a little thing', I have no confidence to continue." This is the last message the girl sent him. "A little thing, but also angry?" He asked. "You don't like a person, maybe it's just because the information he sends you makes you feel inferior. Over time, negative emotions accumulate. You might as well not like him as you don't like yourself." I suddenly remembered my former boss and girlfriend and told them to the boy. They are excellent without exception. To some extent, people and animals are harmless and even beneficial. Where do you get any excellence? It's all about comparison