one Two days ago, I met an old colleague who had not been contacted for a long time. After a few greetings, she started the roast mode: complaining about how cold-blooded the leaders of the unit; How children don't worry; How does the husband make trouble She was not a complainer. She must be in a bad mood if she chattered so much. Finally, she managed to squeeze out a smile: "thank you. It feels much better to say it." In middle age, whose life is not sour, sweet, bitter and mixed? If you don't get proper resolution, the accumulated bad mood will make people suffocate. However, temporary venting is difficult to fundamentally solve the problem. As long as you return to your original life, bad emotions will make a comeback. If you want to completely reverse the current situation, you have to rely on yourself. As a working mother, one of my neighbors is particularly enviable. She walks her baby in the community with a heavy camera on her back on weekends. In her circle of friends, her casual photography always has a large visual sense. She said that when the child began to eat complementary food, she bought a book and did it. If she thought it was good, she wanted to take a picture. In order to take a decent picture, she went to learn photography. Going to work, taking a baby and constantly unlocking new skills are her daily routine. Her quiet years are not that she is more relaxed than others, but that she did not forget to find another hope for herself when facing the chicken feathers of life. Do more things to make yourself happy, and you won't continue to consume yourself in troubles and complaints. Life is not easy, but it is not difficult to get rid of bad emotions. As long as you inject vivid themes into your life, ordinary days will shine. two Three years ago, er Bao was born. After weighing with my family, I became a stay at home mother. I thought it only took courage to change, but only after taking that step did I know that the real difficulty was the panic and anxiety in the face of a completely different way of life. Every night, when the world is quiet, my heart begins to make noise. At present, there is no clue in my life. I can't see the direction in the future. The unprecedented sense of powerlessness devours me and makes me out of breath. During that time, I would quarrel with my husband over a small matter; Will yell at children because of homework; Because Xiaobao's height and weight do not meet the standard, he will deeply blame himself; I can't sleep because of a look in others' eyes and a joke. What changed all this is a sentence I accidentally saw: reading can solve more than 80% of the confusion. So I tried to go on a date with words. When you are free, read one or two chapters; When you are not free, listen to one or two paragraphs; When you can't see or listen, recite one or two words silently in your heart. The spirit was gathered and the vision was opened. Reading makes me see the vastness of heaven and earth in one room. In order to buy more time, I have to make my life more compact. I don't have time to be emotional. I don't have time to tangle with my inner drama. When I read dozens of books and wrote tens of thousands of words to record my feelings and life, I finally found that the seemingly chaotic life had rules to follow, and the ordinary heart could see so many beauties. Only the life with theme and busy head has more confidence. We are all ordinary people. It is inevitable that there are some trivial troubles in our life. The more you fight, the less likely life will surrender to you. When you can't control the environment, the only thing you can change is your mood. The best way is to determine a new direction, clean up your mood and start again. Starting again is to shake hands with yourself, give a glimmer of vitality to chaotic life, and give yourself the strength to continue. three In an article written by a friend of Lin Qingxuan: Right next to my father's hospital bed, I let the pain gnaw and gnaw, while shaking my pen and writing quickly. I resolutely rose up and took steps to catch up with the new situation of life, which is... Writing. Life is full of impermanence. We can't choose what fate to accept, but we can choose the attitude when facing pain. If life is hard, find yourself a sugar. Doing something that makes you happy is the most powerful response to pain. I have seen such a passage: in order to get rid of worry and fear, the most basic method is called "return to mindfulness". In short, no matter what is bothering you, don't think about it. Focus on what is not bothering you. What often makes you feel pain is not life itself, but emotion. "Don't think about it" is not to escape, but let us not sit in pain and wait for harm, and take the initiative to accept the test of fate with a better attitude. Those who wait to die believe in fate, and those who have light in their hearts believe in themselves. The way we find for ourselves will become a small blessing in our trivial life and give our tired soul a place to live. It is light, warmth, hope and the new energy we give life.

one Two days ago, I met an old colleague who had not been contacted for a long time. After a few greetings, she started the roast mode: complaining about how cold-blooded the leaders of the unit; How children don't worry; How does the husband make trouble She was not a complainer. She must be in a bad mood if she chattered so much. Finally, she managed to squeeze out a smile: "thank you. It feels much better to say it." In middle age, whose life is not sour, sweet, bitter and mixed? If you don't get proper resolution, the accumulated bad mood will make people suffocate. However, temporary venting is difficult to fundamentally solve the problem. As long as you return to your original life, bad emotions will make a comeback. If you want to completely reverse the current situation, you have to rely on yourself. As a working mother, one of my neighbors is particularly enviable. She walks her baby in the community with a heavy camera on her back on weekends. In her circle of friends, her casual photography always has a large visual sense. She said that when the child began to eat complementary food, she bought a book and did it. If she thought it was good, she wanted to take a picture. In order to take a decent picture, she went to learn photography. Going to work, taking a baby and constantly unlocking new skills are her daily routine. Her quiet years are not that she is more relaxed than others, but that she did not forget to find another hope for herself when facing the chicken feathers of life. Do more things to make yourself happy, and you won't continue to consume yourself in troubles and complaints. Life is not easy, but it is not difficult to get rid of bad emotions. As long as you inject vivid themes into your life, ordinary days will shine. two Three years ago, er Bao was born. After weighing with my family, I became a stay at home mother. I thought it only took courage to change, but only after taking that step did I know that the real difficulty was the panic and anxiety in the face of a completely different way of life. Every night, when the world is quiet, my heart begins to make noise. At present, there is no clue in my life. I can't see the direction in the future. The unprecedented sense of powerlessness devours me and makes me out of breath. During that time, I would quarrel with my husband over a small matter; Will yell at children because of homework; Because Xiaobao's height and weight do not meet the standard, he will deeply blame himself; I can't sleep because of a look in others' eyes and a joke. What changed all this is a sentence I accidentally saw: reading can solve more than 80% of the confusion. So I tried to go on a date with words. When you are free, read one or two chapters; When you are not free, listen to one or two paragraphs; When you can't see or listen, recite one or two words silently in your heart. The spirit was gathered and the vision was opened. Reading makes me see the vastness of heaven and earth in one room. In order to buy more time, I have to make my life more compact. I don't have time to be emotional. I don't have time to tangle with my inner drama. When I read dozens of books and wrote tens of thousands of words to record my feelings and life, I finally found that the seemingly chaotic life had rules to follow, and the ordinary heart could see so many beauties. Only the life with theme and busy head has more confidence. We are all ordinary people. It is inevitable that there are some trivial troubles in our life. The more you fight, the less likely life will surrender to you. When you can't control the environment, the only thing you can change is your mood. The best way is to determine a new direction, clean up your mood and start again. Starting again is to shake hands with yourself, give a glimmer of vitality to chaotic life, and give yourself the strength to continue. three In an article written by a friend of Lin Qingxuan: Right next to my father's hospital bed, I let the pain gnaw and gnaw, while shaking my pen and writing quickly. I resolutely rose up and took steps to catch up with the new situation of life, which is... Writing. Life is full of impermanence. We can't choose what fate to accept, but we can choose the attitude when facing pain. If life is hard, find yourself a sugar. Doing something that makes you happy is the most powerful response to pain. I have seen such a passage: in order to get rid of worry and fear, the most basic method is called "return to mindfulness". In short, no matter what is bothering you, don't think about it. Focus on what is not bothering you. What often makes you feel pain is not life itself, but emotion. "Don't think about it" is not to escape, but let us not sit in pain and wait for harm, and take the initiative to accept the test of fate with a better attitude. Those who wait to die believe in fate, and those who have light in their hearts believe in themselves. The way we find for ourselves will become a small blessing in our trivial life and give our tired soul a place to live. It is light, warmth, hope and the new energy we give life.