A man gave a beggar ten yuan a day. Later, he married a wife and spent a lot of money. He only gave the beggar five yuan a day. Later, he gave birth to a child and the family burden became even greater. He only gave the beggar one yuan a day. The beggar was very angry: how can you use my money to support your wife and children? Clearly no one owes anyone. Helping is love, not helping is duty. When you begin to be generous, people thank you a lot; If you continue to be generous, people's gratitude will fade until you take your pay for granted. When one day you are a little slack or incompetent and no longer maintain your usual generosity, he will begin to resent. This has nothing to do with class, beggars and some dignitaries. A friend works as a car salesman in a 4S store. He is also very capable. The boss often asks him to help with extra things. He tries to help as much as he can. The boss was never polite. He asked him to transfer a car to other places, help customers pick up the car and even repair the car. In short, he was asked to do all kinds of chores. He never refused. Anyway, he could do it himself. But his job is selling. Once, the boss asked him to help deal with a small problem with a customer's car. It happened that his friend was in a bad mood and refused. Now the boss was unhappy and began to make trouble for him everywhere. Finally, his friend couldn't stand to resign directly. Those who can be the boss of 4S store are not small, but they still fall into the pattern of "promoting mien and fighting Mi Qiu". It has nothing to do with age. In high school, the school ordered student milk. A classmate in the class didn't like to drink milk. Every morning, she gave her box of milk to her classmate B at the same table. One day, without warning, she gave it to classmate C at the back table. B actually hated it for a long time. She forgot that the box of milk was originally a's, and a gave it to whoever he liked. Once after work, I dragged myself to No. 14 bus. There was a seat on the bus and I sat down. Then many people got on at each station, and the carriage was gradually congested. At Zhuying station, a large group of people got on the bus. One of them, a seven or eight year old child, came up with a cry and shouted, "there is no seat, no one gives up my seat, give up my seat!", His mother replied beautifully in the same loud voice, "there's no seat, just stand and hold it!" This is the first time I didn't give up my seat to "passengers in need". The child is probably just used to being offered his seat every time he takes the bus. The mother's answer told the child that other passengers don't owe you. Even if others help, they should be grateful and grateful. Think of a story in Xianyuan chapter of Shi Shuo Xin Yu: during the Three Kingdoms period, there was a woman named Zhao Ji in the state of Wu. Before her daughter got married, she said, "when you arrive at your mother-in-law's house, you must not do good things." The girl asked her mother, "if you don't let me do good things, can I do bad things?" The mother immediately said, "you can't do good things, let alone bad things!" In fact, it's not impossible to do good things. I'm afraid that others are used to doing it and even think they should do it naturally. "It's not difficult for a person to do a good deed, but to do good deeds all his life". Sometimes, there is no need to do all the good things in life. Although we all know that "the kindness of a drop of water should be rewarded by a gushing spring", the generosity of one party has become the habit of the other party and forms psychological dependence. Once its generosity changes, the psychology of the helped party is still difficult to change. In habitual thinking, gratitude will complain. Generosity and helping others also need to pay attention to degree. Only in this way can the relationship between each other last for a long time. PS: finally, about helping others, you should do it when you need it. What's more important is to give people fish. The recipients should be more grateful and tolerant, don't you think.

A man gave a beggar ten yuan a day. Later, he married a wife and spent a lot of money. He only gave the beggar five yuan a day. Later, he gave birth to a child and the family burden became even greater. He only gave the beggar one yuan a day. The beggar was very angry: how can you use my money to support your wife and children? Clearly no one owes anyone. Helping is love, not helping is duty. When you begin to be generous, people thank you a lot; If you continue to be generous, people's gratitude will fade until you take your pay for granted. When one day you are a little slack or incompetent and no longer maintain your usual generosity, he will begin to resent. This has nothing to do with class, beggars and some dignitaries. A friend works as a car salesman in a 4S store. He is also very capable. The boss often asks him to help with extra things. He tries to help as much as he can. The boss was never polite. He asked him to transfer a car to other places, help customers pick up the car and even repair the car. In short, he was asked to do all kinds of chores. He never refused. Anyway, he could do it himself. But his job is selling. Once, the boss asked him to help deal with a small problem with a customer's car. It happened that his friend was in a bad mood and refused. Now the boss was unhappy and began to make trouble for him everywhere. Finally, his friend couldn't stand to resign directly. Those who can be the boss of 4S store are not small, but they still fall into the pattern of "promoting mien and fighting Mi Qiu". It has nothing to do with age. In high school, the school ordered student milk. A classmate in the class didn't like to drink milk. Every morning, she gave her box of milk to her classmate B at the same table. One day, without warning, she gave it to classmate C at the back table. B actually hated it for a long time. She forgot that the box of milk was originally a's, and a gave it to whoever he liked. Once after work, I dragged myself to No. 14 bus. There was a seat on the bus and I sat down. Then many people got on at each station, and the carriage was gradually congested. At Zhuying station, a large group of people got on the bus. One of them, a seven or eight year old child, came up with a cry and shouted, "there is no seat, no one gives up my seat, give up my seat!", His mother replied beautifully in the same loud voice, "there's no seat, just stand and hold it!" This is the first time I didn't give up my seat to "passengers in need". The child is probably just used to being offered his seat every time he takes the bus. The mother's answer told the child that other passengers don't owe you. Even if others help, they should be grateful and grateful. Think of a story in Xianyuan chapter of Shi Shuo Xin Yu: during the Three Kingdoms period, there was a woman named Zhao Ji in the state of Wu. Before her daughter got married, she said, "when you arrive at your mother-in-law's house, you must not do good things." The girl asked her mother, "if you don't let me do good things, can I do bad things?" The mother immediately said, "you can't do good things, let alone bad things!" In fact, it's not impossible to do good things. I'm afraid that others are used to doing it and even think they should do it naturally. "It's not difficult for a person to do a good deed, but to do good deeds all his life". Sometimes, there is no need to do all the good things in life. Although we all know that "the kindness of a drop of water should be rewarded by a gushing spring", the generosity of one party has become the habit of the other party and forms psychological dependence. Once its generosity changes, the psychology of the helped party is still difficult to change. In habitual thinking, gratitude will complain. Generosity and helping others also need to pay attention to degree. Only in this way can the relationship between each other last for a long time. PS: finally, about helping others, you should do it when you need it. What's more important is to give people fish. The recipients should be more grateful and tolerant, don't you think.