one Often take the train to and from the two places. You can meet the most naughty child in the whole carriage every time. Chinese parents often misunderstand the meaning of the words naughty and cute. The child shouted loudly, ran all over the carriage, cried hoarsely, jumped up and down, and the parents smiled and let go. They thought this was the child's nature. It was so cute! To make matters worse, children fight while their parents fight, like the director of SACO or the prison guard of an American prison. I've seen a mother who directly palmed her child's face. The child was also very naughty and had no sense of self-esteem frustration except pain. After playing for a while, the mother was also tired. The child ran over and held his mother, "Mom, mom, I love you most." The mother and son embraced each other and smiled happily. Sure enough, like mother, like son. Laissez faire and violence may be out of love, and recklessness and belonging are the nature of children, but how should such naughty children be branded in their growth? What kind of middle-aged people will they grow into? two I come from a small city. Since I got on the train leaving home, I have always been vigilant for fear that my words and deeds, parents and native families will win the evaluation of "uneducated". The third grade of primary school was obsessed with swearing. I think there is room for combining words, describing details and giving play to creativity. At that time, 10-year-old children didn't know about men and women, but they just learned from adults, said that sex was dirty, and named each other's distant female relatives one by one. Finally, one time, I was scolded upstairs and downstairs with a classmate and was met by the teacher during the war. I thought I would be scolded by the teacher and invited my parents. I was worried all morning. But after the morning meeting, the teacher called me over and said lightly, look how bad such dirty words would be if they were heard by passers-by or residents outside the yard, what would people think of you? After that conversation, it seemed that I suddenly lost the function of swearing. The most I could do was to express anger when writing an article. I didn't mean to use two specific "his mother" sentences. This gentle and gentle criticism had a deep impact on me. It was the first time I had "awareness" - I realized that being ill bred was definitely a shame. Just imagine if she scolded me because of my curse, I would not be so submissive and it would not be easy to reflect on myself. In the future, I know that Huang Zhan has a Cantonese collection of Buwen. "City of glass" said that in the history of HKU, Mr. Huang was one of the few people who could stand on the table and say dirty words for one minute without stopping. I also wrote articles about Taiwan's dirty words collection at NTU. In fact, swearing is not a scourge, but depends on whether you have the awareness to say something to yourself. three I went to Qian Fu's and Bai Xianyong's lectures. They are about the same age and are both influential figures in Taiwan. Mr. Qian has a suit and tie. Every word he says is clear and accurate. Probably because he was a "foreign minister", his language is very appropriate. Whether it is "communication" or "communication", whether it is "acquaintance" or "familiarity", the meaning of the word is meticulous. Mr. Bai is a novelist in the United States. When Mr. Xu Zidong commented on him, he used a sentence that moved me very much. It was called "from a hundred years of domestic and foreign troubles in China to a hundred years of domestic and foreign troubles in China." Mr. Bai has a worry about modern Chinese. In my opinion, this worry is not about Chinese literature, but about the cultivation of Chinese language, which is going downhill. During my half year in Taiwan, I often met people from Taiwan and told me "code words": "I'll go", "your sister", "wipe", "roll rough", "sister", "powerful". Every time I see this way as an insult, although their intention may be just to get closer to me in some of the languages they think mainlanders commonly use. I usually tell them frankly that not everyone speaks like this even on the mainland, and the language is really not beautiful. Chinese is a beautiful language, whether it is Taiwanese Mandarin or Beijing Mandarin. The way it sounds, the way it pronounces words, the way it returns to sound, and the continuity of its breath can be called the most beautiful language in the world. If you have to talk to me in a strange tone of yin and Yang, despised in your heart and interesting in your mouth, I will see through his "hostility" and fight back resolutely. Modesty is a kind of education, and self-esteem is more important. four I was wrongly loved and received some praise. When I was in college, I went to my classmate's house as a guest. My classmate's mother liked me very much and said, you really don't look like Fuyang people at all; In class, the teacher pointed to me and said, you Korean; In Taipei, my friend said you really don't look like a mainlander; In Nepal, someone asked, are you "neon gold"? When you first started working, the leader said, have you really never studied abroad? I appreciate these obvious compliments, but I'm often more willing to take a turn to understand. I come from Fuyang, a city with stolen goods and corrupt official system; I come from China, a country where people smoke in public places, people make noise in restaurants and subways, and men and the elderly, women and children rob resources; I didn't stay in school. In my school, everyone occupied seats in the library. No one cared about social issues, and no one questioned the evil behavior of depriving students of their dignity. Yes, I come from here and have thought about leaving here and becoming different from here. But in the last two months in Taiwan, I gradually realized that people must have a sense of belonging to the land, which brings identity. Only when people connect their land can they have energy. The more disappointed and alienated each time, the more we need to bind this relationship with more love. Obviously, this choice is destined to face an extremely difficult road. five Even if it doesn't change, at least try to be a cultured person. The most respectable thing in the West and Japan is not technology and national strength, but the atmosphere of social dignity brought together by education. When I passed the subway and railway station security check office, I watched the luggage roll out of the scanner, and the passengers had to bend down like a dog to pick it up. An educated designer should raise the table by 40 cm so that everyone can pick up things with dignity; I was waiting for the subway on Jintai Road when I heard two Frenchmen talking. They looked contemptuously at the two people who suddenly inserted in front of them, and then commented on the matter in a language that few people in the carriage understood. Their ridicule stung me, just as someone asked me if you Chinese still have pigtails. I never believe that a foreigner will love this country and its people like his own people. What they love is opportunity and GDP growth. Education is not the bewitchment of Western values. China emphasized "etiquette" in the spring and Autumn period more than 2000 years ago. At that time, many western countries were still drinking blood. "Don't eat the food that comes", "be cautious about independence" and "Huang Zhong Da Lu" all show that Chinese culture was the first to emphasize education in the world. Education is a universal value: take care of women, be considerate and considerate, speak politely, behave appropriately, smile when calm, keep calm when in danger, have the ability to love and pay attention to family. When the Titanic sank, not everyone was trying to survive. Those men who seemed to be more able to change the world gave up their hope of life to women and children; Those women who can escape alone choose to leave the last moment of their life to their lovers; Those educated old couples choose to sleep at the bottom of the sea; Those workers chose to stick to the last minute on the sunken ship six Upbringing has nothing to do with being rich or poor. There are also uneducated behaviors in the first-class flight to France, and people in the remote countryside also know etiquette, righteousness and shame. The so-called upbringing, in short, is to strive to be a better person regardless of your origin and background. Someone just a little better than just now.