I saw an interesting question and answer yesterday. Someone asked: is there any ability that can bring great help to people's life after a short period of study? The reply is: praise others. This is actually the ability of speaking and communication, which can also be classified as "emotional intelligence". In this life, people need to have a lot of abilities to live well. So after seeing this question and answer, I was thinking of a question: For life, what ability is very important, but many people do not have it? Later, I went to Zhihu for a stroll. Some people really asked such questions, and some answered with high praise. To sum up, I think it is very important in life, but many people don't have the ability. There are mainly three. one Ability to think and judge independently There is a theory in economics called herding. When the sheep walk together, there will always be a sheep in front, which plays a leading role. Therefore, when herders graze, as long as they control the leading sheep, the sheep will not get lost. Someone once did an experiment: A fence was set up in front of a group of sheep. The leading sheep jumped over the fence, and the sheep behind jumped over. The next scene was interesting. The staff removed the fence, and the sheep in the back jumped here, as if the fence was still there. Generally speaking, herd behavior can be understood as following the trend and following the crowd. I do what others do and I believe what others say. It's not a bad thing to follow the trend. What's really terrible is to blindly follow the trend and have no ability to think and judge, which is very deadly. What's more embarrassing is that many people are the sheep jumping behind the fence. When he heard about making money in any industry, he swarmed into it. When he saw others taking the postgraduate entrance examination and civil servant examination, he followed suit. When making a decision, you don't consider whether it's suitable for you or whether it's necessary to do it. If a person doesn't know what he really wants, what he is good at and where he wants to go, he will habitually shrink back or even give up when encountering difficulties, he will be lazy, not self disciplined, have poor execution and take many detours. This is why many people are mediocre all their lives. The ability to think and judge independently, which I think is one of the most important abilities to determine the quality of life. Therefore, I have mentioned many times that we should improve our cognitive level, read more, see more about the world, think more and have several in-depth dialogues with ourselves. This is very important, but many people can't. two The ability to be alone with yourself Writer Wang Kailing said: people are often people's graves. The reason why people become graves is that there is a sentence in the book "mob", which explains it in a better way "As soon as people arrive in the group, their IQ will be seriously reduced. In order to obtain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong and use their IQ in exchange for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe." Many people will force themselves to make changes and integrate into the group in order to make themselves appear less lonely and sociable. Even if this change is going down, they will not hesitate. The final result is often that although they integrate into the group, they also ruin themselves and lose themselves. Is social important? Of course, it is very important. The reason why some people can run ahead is not how strong their ability is or how fast their legs and feet are, but because they have boosters. This booster often comes from social networking, so many people are obsessed with social networking and rush everywhere. It's common to have more friends, but what's more important than socializing is to be alone. The ability to be alone with many people is also a very important ability. Almost all excellent people have the ability of high-quality solitude. They are not afraid of solitude. They can stand loneliness and loneliness. The stronger a person's ability to get along with himself, the higher the quality, and often the more texture of life. Believe me, if you spend all your time and energy on going around, drinking and singing, reading, studying and improving yourself, you will often come uninvited. When you are alone, you can be very happy, so you won't live so hard to pursue the so-called happiness. Some people live alone and become a team, while others live in a team but are still a person. Nowadays, too many people lack the courage to be alone, and I sincerely hope you can have the ability to be alone, which will determine the quality of your life. three The ability to obtain happiness Here's a question: We want to have such and such abilities. What are we doing to get through the cold window and stay up late? In other words, what are people chasing in this life? The answer is actually two words: happiness. Work hard to get a promotion and a raise; Traveling around, leaving their homes to pursue their dreams; In order to make do with love, I have been waiting All our efforts in this life, the last appeal is: I want a happy life, and I want to live a happier life in this life. Based on this ultimate goal, there is an ability that can not be ignored, that is, the ability to obtain happiness. Getting happiness is really a skill. It can even be said to be the most important ability in life. It is much more important than the ability to earn money, and it is also something many people don't have. Everyone's ability to obtain happiness is different, and their life texture is also different. Some people are rich, but they are not happy. On the contrary, they have insomnia every night and have trouble sleeping and eating; Some people look bright, friends everywhere, but their hearts are very lonely; And some people are ordinary, but the corners of their mouths always rise. Money can indeed bring happiness, but a person's happiness is often not determined by money, nor fame, power or status, but from the heart. Whether your mood is stable, how big is your pattern, and whether your thinking is biased towards rationality or sensibility These factors are actually one's practice. The ability to think and judge independently, the ability to be alone with yourself and the ability to obtain happiness will determine the quality of your life. If you don't have it yet, I hope to polish it from now on!

I saw an interesting question and answer yesterday. Someone asked: is there any ability that can bring great help to people's life after a short period of study? The reply is: praise others. This is actually the ability of speaking and communication, which can also be classified as "emotional intelligence". In this life, people need to have a lot of abilities to live well. So after seeing this question and answer, I was thinking of a question: For life, what ability is very important, but many people do not have it? Later, I went to Zhihu for a stroll. Some people really asked such questions, and some answered with high praise. To sum up, I think it is very important in life, but many people don't have the ability. There are mainly three. one Ability to think and judge independently There is a theory in economics called herding. When the sheep walk together, there will always be a sheep in front, which plays a leading role. Therefore, when herders graze, as long as they control the leading sheep, the sheep will not get lost. Someone once did an experiment: A fence was set up in front of a group of sheep. The leading sheep jumped over the fence, and the sheep behind jumped over. The next scene was interesting. The staff removed the fence, and the sheep in the back jumped here, as if the fence was still there. Generally speaking, herd behavior can be understood as following the trend and following the crowd. I do what others do and I believe what others say. It's not a bad thing to follow the trend. What's really terrible is to blindly follow the trend and have no ability to think and judge, which is very deadly. What's more embarrassing is that many people are the sheep jumping behind the fence. When he heard about making money in any industry, he swarmed into it. When he saw others taking the postgraduate entrance examination and civil servant examination, he followed suit. When making a decision, you don't consider whether it's suitable for you or whether it's necessary to do it. If a person doesn't know what he really wants, what he is good at and where he wants to go, he will habitually shrink back or even give up when encountering difficulties, he will be lazy, not self disciplined, have poor execution and take many detours. This is why many people are mediocre all their lives. The ability to think and judge independently, which I think is one of the most important abilities to determine the quality of life. Therefore, I have mentioned many times that we should improve our cognitive level, read more, see more about the world, think more and have several in-depth dialogues with ourselves. This is very important, but many people can't. two The ability to be alone with yourself Writer Wang Kailing said: people are often people's graves. The reason why people become graves is that there is a sentence in the book "mob", which explains it in a better way "As soon as people arrive in the group, their IQ will be seriously reduced. In order to obtain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong and use their IQ in exchange for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe." Many people will force themselves to make changes and integrate into the group in order to make themselves appear less lonely and sociable. Even if this change is going down, they will not hesitate. The final result is often that although they integrate into the group, they also ruin themselves and lose themselves. Is social important? Of course, it is very important. The reason why some people can run ahead is not how strong their ability is or how fast their legs and feet are, but because they have boosters. This booster often comes from social networking, so many people are obsessed with social networking and rush everywhere. It's common to have more friends, but what's more important than socializing is to be alone. The ability to be alone with many people is also a very important ability. Almost all excellent people have the ability of high-quality solitude. They are not afraid of solitude. They can stand loneliness and loneliness. The stronger a person's ability to get along with himself, the higher the quality, and often the more texture of life. Believe me, if you spend all your time and energy on going around, drinking and singing, reading, studying and improving yourself, you will often come uninvited. When you are alone, you can be very happy, so you won't live so hard to pursue the so-called happiness. Some people live alone and become a team, while others live in a team but are still a person. Nowadays, too many people lack the courage to be alone, and I sincerely hope you can have the ability to be alone, which will determine the quality of your life. three The ability to obtain happiness Here's a question: We want to have such and such abilities. What are we doing to get through the cold window and stay up late? In other words, what are people chasing in this life? The answer is actually two words: happiness. Work hard to get a promotion and a raise; Traveling around, leaving their homes to pursue their dreams; In order to make do with love, I have been waiting All our efforts in this life, the last appeal is: I want a happy life, and I want to live a happier life in this life. Based on this ultimate goal, there is an ability that can not be ignored, that is, the ability to obtain happiness. Getting happiness is really a skill. It can even be said to be the most important ability in life. It is much more important than the ability to earn money, and it is also something many people don't have. Everyone's ability to obtain happiness is different, and their life texture is also different. Some people are rich, but they are not happy. On the contrary, they have insomnia every night and have trouble sleeping and eating; Some people look bright, friends everywhere, but their hearts are very lonely; And some people are ordinary, but the corners of their mouths always rise. Money can indeed bring happiness, but a person's happiness is often not determined by money, nor fame, power or status, but from the heart. Whether your mood is stable, how big is your pattern, and whether your thinking is biased towards rationality or sensibility These factors are actually one's practice. The ability to think and judge independently, the ability to be alone with yourself and the ability to obtain happiness will determine the quality of your life. If you don't have it yet, I hope to polish it from now on!