According to the book of rites, "a gentleman makes an appointment, and a villain makes an appointment first." It means that a gentleman speaks carefully, and a villain speaks falsely. There will always be people in life who are open and mean under all kinds of pretexts. When you buy a dress, Ta says you're short and fat. It's a waste of time and looks earthy; When you have a meal, Ta says you are "three high", weak, lack of exercise and brain infarction sooner or later; When you talk to a person, he can give you a thousand reasons why you are not suitable. When you date, he says you show up, and you make a good match, he curses you to die quickly. This kind of person is uneducated and has a bad heart.

1. To speak well is to shut up when others are unbearable Some time ago, I went to school to attend the children's parents' meeting. Next to two parents, I temporarily call them little a and little C. Throughout the parents' meeting, Xiao a couldn't sit still, looked left and right and interrupted everywhere. The child in front of her didn't do well. She proudly told other parents, "that's a little bad. My child is much better than yours." The children behind her did average in the math test, and she was sour to others. "The children have a slow reaction, and there is no way to make up classes. They are born." All the parents around wanted to stay away from her, but she didn't stop and took the initiative to shut up. Instead, he leaned over to me and little C, and I quickly turned around. "How did your child do in the exam this time?" Little c replied that the child had stepped back a little from the last time. It has been revealed that he doesn't want to talk in detail, but Xiao a still refuses to stop questioning Xiao C. he only heard Xiao C calmly reply, "the child didn't do well in the Chinese test this time, and he finished second." As soon as Xiao a heard it, she didn't speak anymore because her child was only the ninth in the class. Mr. Lu Xun mentioned "the weak, draw a knife to the weaker". Many times, people like Xiao a who don't understand the art of conversation don't know other people's feelings at all, but they don't want to care about other people's feelings. What they pursue is to let people who are worse than themselves bow their heads, that kind of aggressive pleasure. Civilized chat should be kind, know how to be measured, know to leave room for others, and stop in time when you understand others' embarrassment, rather than make use of others' embarrassment to make it worse.

2. If you speak well, you don't know. Don't talk nonsense Once on the train, a male passenger sat next to me on the way. He was well dressed and held a string of Buddha beads in his hand. He should be a successful person with a successful career. Soon after he sat down, he took the initiative to say hello to me. However, after a few words, I lost interest in continuing the conversation with him. He asked me about my career. I said I was working in new media and often wrote articles on the Internet. Unexpectedly, he suddenly angrily denounced me with righteous indignation that "those who write articles on the Internet are scum, irrelevant and rumor everywhere." After listening to what he said, I have a direct impulse to stand up and pat the table. Why should I kill everyone with a stick? Do you know my career? You're talking about unscrupulous paparazzi. My career doesn't embarrass me! But when I think that others may not know enough and the ignorant are innocent, I still hold my tongue. As a result, his words became more and more irritating. When you talk to him about which snacks are good, he says, "it's unsafe and unsanitary. Where the poor go, the food is terrible"; Once again, the scenery is good. If you have time to go and have a look, he replied with a disdain that "it's better to be a foreign beach"... I was surprised to ask him, have you experienced everything I said? He said no. I can't remember how I spent a few hours on the train with him. I only remember the feeling of this man is very low. When a person has a successful career, you can live noble, but don't live so arrogant; You can refuse what you don't like, but don't slander it. Learn to shut up when you should be silent and say less when you don't know. Especially don't comment on things you haven't experienced personally. This is a kind of education.

3. A cultivated speech is to be able to get around other people's privacy I was also impressed by a former colleague, Xiao AI. At a party, colleagues joked around the newly married Xiaoli, saying that her beautiful husband still had the ability. The good doer coaxed Xiaoli to call her husband directly. At this time, Xiao AI, who talked with Xiao Li on weekdays, suddenly said, "Xiao Li's husband is from the countryside and has to earn money to support her parents. How can she have time to come to us." As soon as Xiao Li listened, she threw down her glass and left angrily. The whole room was as cold as falling into the Antarctic ice cellar. Her colleagues looked at each other and were at a loss. Seeing the embarrassment of the scene, AI quickly explained, "I'm straight and talking nonsense. Don't mind." Since then, everyone has deliberately alienated her. People who casually say other people's privacy can't talk about self-cultivation. No one wants her to suddenly say her privacy one day. Moreover, this is not the first time she has "played with her temper". There was a regular department meeting before. Everyone was reflecting the shortage of funds and hoped that the leaders would increase funds. But she blurted out at the meeting, "Xiao Zhang, didn't you tell me that you made 600 extra money on business last time?" In the end, not only the proposal was rejected, but also Xiao Zhang's bonus of the current month was cancelled and a fine of 2000 yuan was paid. It's better to be cultured in speaking or know how to distinguish the occasions of speaking, know which occasions should be silent, and don't say what you shouldn't say. There are always people who will boast to be the most real themselves, and then think that their shortcomings are also part of the truth. Such people are usually self righteous, open-minded, ignore the rules and refuse to give in. In the final analysis, they live selfishly and lack self-cultivation. People should live truly and spiritually. They should be true to themselves. It's troublesome to go home and do it. The occasion of adults has its own rules.

According to the book of rites, "a gentleman makes an appointment, and a villain makes an appointment first." It means that a gentleman speaks carefully, and a villain speaks falsely. There will always be people in life who are open and mean under all kinds of pretexts. When you buy a dress, Ta says you're short and fat. It's a waste of time and looks earthy; When you have a meal, Ta says you are "three high", weak, lack of exercise and brain infarction sooner or later; When you talk to a person, he can give you a thousand reasons why you are not suitable. When you date, he says you show up, and you make a good match, he curses you to die quickly. This kind of person is uneducated and has a bad heart.

1. To speak well is to shut up when others are unbearable Some time ago, I went to school to attend the children's parents' meeting. Next to two parents, I temporarily call them little a and little C. Throughout the parents' meeting, Xiao a couldn't sit still, looked left and right and interrupted everywhere. The child in front of her didn't do well. She proudly told other parents, "that's a little bad. My child is much better than yours." The children behind her did average in the math test, and she was sour to others. "The children have a slow reaction, and there is no way to make up classes. They are born." All the parents around wanted to stay away from her, but she didn't stop and took the initiative to shut up. Instead, he leaned over to me and little C, and I quickly turned around. "How did your child do in the exam this time?" Little c replied that the child had stepped back a little from the last time. It has been revealed that he doesn't want to talk in detail, but Xiao a still refuses to stop questioning Xiao C. he only heard Xiao C calmly reply, "the child didn't do well in the Chinese test this time, and he finished second." As soon as Xiao a heard it, she didn't speak anymore because her child was only the ninth in the class. Mr. Lu Xun mentioned "the weak, draw a knife to the weaker". Many times, people like Xiao a who don't understand the art of conversation don't know other people's feelings at all, but they don't want to care about other people's feelings. What they pursue is to let people who are worse than themselves bow their heads, that kind of aggressive pleasure. Civilized chat should be kind, know how to be measured, know to leave room for others, and stop in time when you understand others' embarrassment, rather than make use of others' embarrassment to make it worse.

2. If you speak well, you don't know. Don't talk nonsense Once on the train, a male passenger sat next to me on the way. He was well dressed and held a string of Buddha beads in his hand. He should be a successful person with a successful career. Soon after he sat down, he took the initiative to say hello to me. However, after a few words, I lost interest in continuing the conversation with him. He asked me about my career. I said I was working in new media and often wrote articles on the Internet. Unexpectedly, he suddenly angrily denounced me with righteous indignation that "those who write articles on the Internet are scum, irrelevant and rumor everywhere." After listening to what he said, I have a direct impulse to stand up and pat the table. Why should I kill everyone with a stick? Do you know my career? You're talking about unscrupulous paparazzi. My career doesn't embarrass me! But when I think that others may not know enough and the ignorant are innocent, I still hold my tongue. As a result, his words became more and more irritating. When you talk to him about which snacks are good, he says, "it's unsafe and unsanitary. Where the poor go, the food is terrible"; Once again, the scenery is good. If you have time to go and have a look, he replied with a disdain that "it's better to be a foreign beach"... I was surprised to ask him, have you experienced everything I said? He said no. I can't remember how I spent a few hours on the train with him. I only remember the feeling of this man is very low. When a person has a successful career, you can live noble, but don't live so arrogant; You can refuse what you don't like, but don't slander it. Learn to shut up when you should be silent and say less when you don't know. Especially don't comment on things you haven't experienced personally. This is a kind of education.

3. A cultivated speech is to be able to get around other people's privacy I was also impressed by a former colleague, Xiao AI. At a party, colleagues joked around the newly married Xiaoli, saying that her beautiful husband still had the ability. The good doer coaxed Xiaoli to call her husband directly. At this time, Xiao AI, who talked with Xiao Li on weekdays, suddenly said, "Xiao Li's husband is from the countryside and has to earn money to support her parents. How can she have time to come to us." As soon as Xiao Li listened, she threw down her glass and left angrily. The whole room was as cold as falling into the Antarctic ice cellar. Her colleagues looked at each other and were at a loss. Seeing the embarrassment of the scene, AI quickly explained, "I'm straight and talking nonsense. Don't mind." Since then, everyone has deliberately alienated her. People who casually say other people's privacy can't talk about self-cultivation. No one wants her to suddenly say her privacy one day. Moreover, this is not the first time she has "played with her temper". There was a regular department meeting before. Everyone was reflecting the shortage of funds and hoped that the leaders would increase funds. But she blurted out at the meeting, "Xiao Zhang, didn't you tell me that you made 600 extra money on business last time?" In the end, not only the proposal was rejected, but also Xiao Zhang's bonus of the current month was cancelled and a fine of 2000 yuan was paid. It's better to be cultured in speaking or know how to distinguish the occasions of speaking, know which occasions should be silent, and don't say what you shouldn't say. There are always people who will boast to be the most real themselves, and then think that their shortcomings are also part of the truth. Such people are usually self righteous, open-minded, ignore the rules and refuse to give in. In the final analysis, they live selfishly and lack self-cultivation. People should live truly and spiritually. They should be true to themselves. It's troublesome to go home and do it. The occasion of adults has its own rules.