Ancient Chinese philosophers said that what you see shows what's inside you. Su Dongpo meditated with Buddha seal when he was young. Su Dongpo said, "master, what do you think I look like sitting here?" Buddha seal said, "it looks like a Buddha." Su Dongpo sneered and said, "but I think you look like a pile of shit!" Buddha seal smiled. After returning home, Su Dongpo told Su Xiaomei about it. After hearing this, Su Xiaomei said, "because you are a Buddha, you will look like a Buddha to others; if you are a stool, you will look like a stool to others." Others are their own mirror. You are what you see others like. If you look at others, you have to pick people everywhere because your realm is not enough. Don't always want to change others. First adjust your state of mind and repair your heart. 1、 Mature people understand transposition thinking Nan Huaijin said in the Analects of Confucius: Man is known as the spirit of all things. It is man who is blowing. Perhaps in pigs, cattle, dogs and horses, man is the worst of all things, "only eating our pigs, cattle, dogs and horses". Everything in the world has its own position. Things that seem natural from its own position may not look so pleasant if they change places. Mother likes to take her five-year-old to the mall, but the child is always reluctant to go. Mother wondered why her children didn't like so many goods in the mall. The mother once thought that the child was deliberately making trouble with herself. Until one time, the child's Shoelace opened, the mother squatted down to tie the shoelace for the child, and suddenly found a terrible sight that she had never seen before: all the shaking in front of her eyes were legs and arms. So she picked up the child and hurried out of the store. Since then, even when she had to take her children to the store, she carried them on her shoulders. Different positions see completely different things. Truly mature people often know how to think in a transposition and think from the perspective of others. 2、 Mature people don't judge easily Confucius traveled around the world. Once Confucius and his disciples were hungry. They didn't eat rice for seven days. Yan Hui found some rice outside and took it back to cook. When the rice was almost cooked, Confucius accidentally saw Yan Hui lift the lid of the pot and put a handful of rice into his mouth. Confucius left silently, pretending not to see or ask Yan Hui. When Yan Hui cooked the rice and offered it to Confucius, Confucius said, "I just dreamed of my ancestors. I think we should offer the untouched white rice to our ancestors first." Yan Hui immediately refused: "no! I've just had a bite of this pot of rice and can't be used as a sacrifice!" Confucius looked at Yan Hui and said, "why do you do this?" Yan Hui said, "because when I was cooking just now, some dust fell from the roof beam into the pot. I felt it a pity to throw away the white rice stained with ash, so I grabbed it and ate it." Confucius heard that he taught his disciples: "at ordinary times, the one I trust most is Yan Hui, but when I see him grabbing rice today, I still doubt him. You should keep this in mind. Don't measure others with your own views. It's really not easy to understand a person." Sometimes, even what you see with your own eyes may not be right. Everything should be analyzed and understood from various angles, and don't be too subjective to "I think" and "I think", which is the most likely to cause misunderstanding. 3、 Mature people know how to respect the differences of others There was a couple. The husband liked to eat durian very much, but the wife felt very smelly. She thought it was unthinkable to eat durian. But after decades of marriage, the wife would buy durian every time she went to the fruit shop. Then the husband ate it on the lawn of the community and chewed two pieces of gum to prevent the taste from taking it home. After decades of marriage, the two have been at peace. The ancients said, "a son is not a fish, so I know the joy of fish?" Everyone has his own way of life and has different lifestyles, interests and hobbies. In the face of people or things he can't understand, he should be tolerant. It's not necessarily someone else's fault to see people wrong. It's possible that you just can't understand it. Immaturity is to be self-centered and treat everything in your values as the only one. If you disagree with him, you are wrong and inferior. Maturity is to allow and respect others who are different from you and will not comment on others casually. When you don't like others, don't be in a hurry to make a judgment. You might as well think in a different position, know more about each other and respect the differences of others. The so-called maturity is to constantly get rid of "self attachment". In the face of things we don't like, we don't point out, but try to be tolerant and accept. It is not only a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of practice.

Ancient Chinese philosophers said that what you see shows what's inside you. Su Dongpo meditated with Buddha seal when he was young. Su Dongpo said, "master, what do you think I look like sitting here?" Buddha seal said, "it looks like a Buddha." Su Dongpo sneered and said, "but I think you look like a pile of shit!" Buddha seal smiled. After returning home, Su Dongpo told Su Xiaomei about it. After hearing this, Su Xiaomei said, "because you are a Buddha, you will look like a Buddha to others; if you are a stool, you will look like a stool to others." Others are their own mirror. You are what you see others like. If you look at others, you have to pick people everywhere because your realm is not enough. Don't always want to change others. First adjust your state of mind and repair your heart. 1、 Mature people understand transposition thinking Nan Huaijin said in the Analects of Confucius: Man is known as the spirit of all things. It is man who is blowing. Perhaps in pigs, cattle, dogs and horses, man is the worst of all things, "only eating our pigs, cattle, dogs and horses". Everything in the world has its own position. Things that seem natural from its own position may not look so pleasant if they change places. Mother likes to take her five-year-old to the mall, but the child is always reluctant to go. Mother wondered why her children didn't like so many goods in the mall. The mother once thought that the child was deliberately making trouble with herself. Until one time, the child's Shoelace opened, the mother squatted down to tie the shoelace for the child, and suddenly found a terrible sight that she had never seen before: all the shaking in front of her eyes were legs and arms. So she picked up the child and hurried out of the store. Since then, even when she had to take her children to the store, she carried them on her shoulders. Different positions see completely different things. Truly mature people often know how to think in a transposition and think from the perspective of others. 2、 Mature people don't judge easily Confucius traveled around the world. Once Confucius and his disciples were hungry. They didn't eat rice for seven days. Yan Hui found some rice outside and took it back to cook. When the rice was almost cooked, Confucius accidentally saw Yan Hui lift the lid of the pot and put a handful of rice into his mouth. Confucius left silently, pretending not to see or ask Yan Hui. When Yan Hui cooked the rice and offered it to Confucius, Confucius said, "I just dreamed of my ancestors. I think we should offer the untouched white rice to our ancestors first." Yan Hui immediately refused: "no! I've just had a bite of this pot of rice and can't be used as a sacrifice!" Confucius looked at Yan Hui and said, "why do you do this?" Yan Hui said, "because when I was cooking just now, some dust fell from the roof beam into the pot. I felt it a pity to throw away the white rice stained with ash, so I grabbed it and ate it." Confucius heard that he taught his disciples: "at ordinary times, the one I trust most is Yan Hui, but when I see him grabbing rice today, I still doubt him. You should keep this in mind. Don't measure others with your own views. It's really not easy to understand a person." Sometimes, even what you see with your own eyes may not be right. Everything should be analyzed and understood from various angles, and don't be too subjective to "I think" and "I think", which is the most likely to cause misunderstanding. 3、 Mature people know how to respect the differences of others There was a couple. The husband liked to eat durian very much, but the wife felt very smelly. She thought it was unthinkable to eat durian. But after decades of marriage, the wife would buy durian every time she went to the fruit shop. Then the husband ate it on the lawn of the community and chewed two pieces of gum to prevent the taste from taking it home. After decades of marriage, the two have been at peace. The ancients said, "a son is not a fish, so I know the joy of fish?" Everyone has his own way of life and has different lifestyles, interests and hobbies. In the face of people or things he can't understand, he should be tolerant. It's not necessarily someone else's fault to see people wrong. It's possible that you just can't understand it. Immaturity is to be self-centered and treat everything in your values as the only one. If you disagree with him, you are wrong and inferior. Maturity is to allow and respect others who are different from you and will not comment on others casually. When you don't like others, don't be in a hurry to make a judgment. You might as well think in a different position, know more about each other and respect the differences of others. The so-called maturity is to constantly get rid of "self attachment". In the face of things we don't like, we don't point out, but try to be tolerant and accept. It is not only a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of practice.