For a while, I had a low fever repeatedly. I went to the hospital for physical examination. The physical examination sheet said that the myocardial enzyme was high. The doctor inferred that it might be caused by excessive exercise. The heart rate reaches more than 100 times at night. The more it is, the more it can't sleep. Every time Zhao told me affectionately that he closed his eyes and fell asleep, I imagined him as a potato in my heart, and then scratched him like peeling a potato. A heartless person will never realize the habit that some people have insomnia as soon as they have a fever. After a night of physical struggle, I was naturally weak in the morning. I had to be shameless to wait for the elevator on the third floor. At this time, it happens that your colleague asked you to help pick up the express. You really want to refuse. Alas, you'd better stand it! When I went downstairs, I wanted to scold a dirty word. It's such a big box without a mobile phone. Do you want to go back empty handed? Alas, bear it! Drag the big box and continue to have the cheek to wait for the elevator. Take express delivery or copy things, you will find that when you first start working, you have to be ordered and arranged by your predecessors. Zeng Zhiwei said in the interview that one thing he appreciates about Andy Lau is that he works very hard and can suffer losses. It's good for young people to suffer losses. Others have hearts and eyes and will remember you. But suppose it makes you very unhappy and distressed, such as physical discomfort and even sitting down for a while, what should you do? You will think that if you are at home, you will not hesitate to refuse, do not go, and feel uncomfortable. No one will misunderstand you, complain about you, or even hate you. Of course, your parents knew you were not feeling well and would not send you to express delivery. It's not up to you to refuse. However, the society is different. People lack enough understanding and trust, and mutual suspicion makes their hearts more and more sensitive. In order to resist the malice of the world, some people choose to use countless sentences of "yes", "all right", "no problem", "thank you" and "I'm sorry". Rather than saying that this is a good tutor, we are afraid of losing big with small, so we have to bear it. It's necessary to force ourselves and do some reluctance, But have to do. We call it all others and disgust ourselves. Upstairs moved in a new neighbor, a mother and daughter, who rented a house for about three years for high school. One day, the woman knocked on my door and asked my mother for the WiFi password. My mother said that there was an Internet cable upstairs. Just pay the Internet fee. She said that the Internet fee is too expensive, and she doesn't usually go online. Only the children have nothing to do to check the information on the Internet. My mother, a typical kind-hearted and gentle, was embarrassed to refuse, so she gave her the password. In this way, she was not satisfied. She handed her mobile phone to my mother and asked, do you know whose WiFi these user names are? I'll take care of them and ask for the password. To be honest, the password signal in your house is not very strong. Of course my mother replied, who knows! That night, my internet speed was blocked. My mother told me to continue the card, so I went upstairs and told them that it was really impossible for the two families to use one Internet cable, and then changed the password. I asked her, but since then, don't you offend anyone? My mother asked me, what should I do? I think that only young people are ashamed to refuse, and at her age, she doesn't care about face, and living comfortably is serious. For example, the women upstairs are willing to go out for their own convenience and don't care what others think of themselves. But my mother is still embarrassed to refuse others. I said, if you don't want to refuse, isn't her child checking the information? You bring her mobile phone and connect her with the password. You don't have to tell her the password. How much network speed can the mobile phone occupy? In order to prevent her from taking all the computers and mobile phones at home, you can politely cut off her back. My family hardly watches TV and watches video on the Internet. I shared an Internet cable with the landlord upstairs before. I did it alone because the network speed is too slow. Didn't your family check the data, Temporary internet access via mobile phone is OK. In fact, it's true! Many things are not a and B. It is not necessary to completely follow the other party's wishes or refuse in a head-on blow. In short, we should use the other party's own words to block all her front and back roads. The most cowardly and oppressive way is to tell her the password and whisper back secretly. This person is not particular about how big his face is! I can't figure it out. How did she say that she would ask for a password from a strange neighbor? How does she mean when she's on the Internet? Then every time I watch the video card, I rely on her head. I can't control my anger. I repeat it in my heart: this person is too careless! Then rack your brains to think about how to solve this problem without offending others. In fact, she's very kind. Why are you embarrassed to refuse? Can you say that I am the same person as her? I want face! What is face? Are people who behave well in life, have a clear moral bottom line, and don't cross the line, or think they are smart and self righteous? If others don't play cards according to your moves, they will be rejected because they are different from the so-called brain cramps of most people? Maybe the person who is careless and careless in your eyes doesn't like to take advantage of small things, just because she thinks these are small things. It's no big deal. Just open her mouth. Incidentally, if it's her and you want the password, she will also give it to you. She won't whisper and tangle in private and think you're not cultured. Just like the fans asked me, I have a friend who is not very familiar. He lodges at his house and then refuses to leave. He comes out and goes in every day in a big way. When he leaves, he looks like a gray wolf. Say, I'll come back today. He is very distressed because he is used to living by himself and doesn't know him well. It's uncomfortable to live together like this. He's not used to it, but he's embarrassed to drive him away. What should I do? If it's not convenient for him to reply directly because of the gender, it's very easy for him to do it. If you are of the same sex, you really can't stand his untidy appearance, or you're not used to living with others. Refusing is not straightforward. You can ask him by insinuation why don't you go home? Haven't you found a place to live? It's not a way to get nowhere for a long time. Do you want me to help you find it? The most helpless thing is that on the one hand, you still want to perform. It doesn't matter. You don't care. Welcome. You don't want the other party to see that you dislike, you're unhappy, and you're not used to it. On the one hand, you also blame others for not guessing your mind, not seeing the heat and not understanding the real thoughts in your heart. Many positions, attitudes and preferences. If you don't show them, who has time to guess and play with you? If you have to say, some people just exploit loopholes and like to take advantage of others. For example, one year Guo Donglin's Spring Festival Gala sketch was called "talk to you when you have something". The friend who begged him to buy a train ticket thought he had a relationship and was able to buy it without effort, but he didn't know that he actually went to the railway station all night to queue up one by one. Her daughter-in-law got angry and quarreled with him, and warned him not to agree if he was asked to buy a ticket again. But he still couldn't help but do the good gentleman who was easy to talk and wouldn't refuse. At the end of one year, Mr. Zhao asked me to help him grab tickets online. I asked him, your family doesn't need to grab tickets from Beijing to Cangzhou! He said, help your friends. I said it's good to help, but don't be too busy for yourself. We only need to use a little relationship, open our mouth and do it easily. For some busy, we need to pay a lot behind our back. It's not easier than the party concerned, and the other party doesn't know that you have to spend so much time, energy and money, so it's not cost-effective. If you give the right signal and cognition to the other party early in the morning, you may not have to worry about many "should you agree or refuse". For example, no matter how good my relationship with my friends is, they won't ask me about borrowing money. I've never been distressed about how to refuse. When the money is lent out, it's time to urge them to repay the money or not to mention it in black and white. The most terrible thing is that you don't care so much. You have to show another appearance, hide your inner careful thinking, and lift yourself high. You can't go up or down. Finally, it's someone else's business, but it's yourself. Do you think that if you don't refuse, you will be able to avoid the evil wind and rain by humbly bowing your head to the Jianghu early in the morning? Maybe there are some people around you who often do bad things with good intentions. You help others, but no one appreciates them. You even offend each other. You lose your wife and lose your soldiers. You leave all your complaints and are no one inside or outside. When I was in college, I knew a girl with good character. When I first went to college, I was the class liaison. When some naughty students skipped class, I called her for help. She agreed happily and asked some friends to help. But no one was grateful to her. She had done many thankless things, and people often spoke ill of her behind her back. She once asked me, how can you help others? Even if it's a small thing, others will appreciate you. Remember your good? And I'm just the opposite? I said that a reasonable refusal does not necessarily offend people, and unconditional acceptance does not necessarily make the other party happy. What matters is how you express it. In the last episode of "flowers and youth", Jing Boran commented on Zheng Shuang, saying that Zheng Shuang did something uncomfortable. It was not her that had a problem. In fact, she just couldn't express it. I believe that in fact, many so-called malice is just a matter of communication and expression between the two sides. Always in the face, afraid of offending others, care about yourself in the eyes of others, and make others disgust themselves for that praise. This is probably the choice of most of us. Whether you agree or refuse, ask yourself, what is more important to you, face? Or your own inner feelings, first of all, you should have a clear purpose, so that you will be biased to take care of your face or emotions, and then realize your purpose. Agreeing to others may not be able to really please others, and refusing does not necessarily offend others.
For a while, I had a low fever repeatedly. I went to the hospital for physical examination. The physical examination sheet said that the myocardial enzyme was high. The doctor inferred that it might be caused by excessive exercise. The heart rate reaches more than 100 times at night. The more it is, the more it can't sleep. Every time Zhao told me affectionately that he closed his eyes and fell asleep, I imagined him as a potato in my heart, and then scratched him like peeling a potato. A heartless person will never realize the habit that some people have insomnia as soon as they have a fever. After a night of physical struggle, I was naturally weak in the morning. I had to be shameless to wait for the elevator on the third floor. At this time, it happens that your colleague asked you to help pick up the express. You really want to refuse. Alas, you'd better stand it! When I went downstairs, I wanted to scold a dirty word. It's such a big box without a mobile phone. Do you want to go back empty handed? Alas, bear it! Drag the big box and continue to have the cheek to wait for the elevator. Take express delivery or copy things, you will find that when you first start working, you have to be ordered and arranged by your predecessors. Zeng Zhiwei said in the interview that one thing he appreciates about Andy Lau is that he works very hard and can suffer losses. It's good for young people to suffer losses. Others have hearts and eyes and will remember you. But suppose it makes you very unhappy and distressed, such as physical discomfort and even sitting down for a while, what should you do? You will think that if you are at home, you will not hesitate to refuse, do not go, and feel uncomfortable. No one will misunderstand you, complain about you, or even hate you. Of course, your parents knew you were not feeling well and would not send you to express delivery. It's not up to you to refuse. However, the society is different. People lack enough understanding and trust, and mutual suspicion makes their hearts more and more sensitive. In order to resist the malice of the world, some people choose to use countless sentences of "yes", "all right", "no problem", "thank you" and "I'm sorry". Rather than saying that this is a good tutor, we are afraid of losing big with small, so we have to bear it. It's necessary to force ourselves and do some reluctance, But have to do. We call it all others and disgust ourselves. Upstairs moved in a new neighbor, a mother and daughter, who rented a house for about three years for high school. One day, the woman knocked on my door and asked my mother for the WiFi password. My mother said that there was an Internet cable upstairs. Just pay the Internet fee. She said that the Internet fee is too expensive, and she doesn't usually go online. Only the children have nothing to do to check the information on the Internet. My mother, a typical kind-hearted and gentle, was embarrassed to refuse, so she gave her the password. In this way, she was not satisfied. She handed her mobile phone to my mother and asked, do you know whose WiFi these user names are? I'll take care of them and ask for the password. To be honest, the password signal in your house is not very strong. Of course my mother replied, who knows! That night, my internet speed was blocked. My mother told me to continue the card, so I went upstairs and told them that it was really impossible for the two families to use one Internet cable, and then changed the password. I asked her, but since then, don't you offend anyone? My mother asked me, what should I do? I think that only young people are ashamed to refuse, and at her age, she doesn't care about face, and living comfortably is serious. For example, the women upstairs are willing to go out for their own convenience and don't care what others think of themselves. But my mother is still embarrassed to refuse others. I said, if you don't want to refuse, isn't her child checking the information? You bring her mobile phone and connect her with the password. You don't have to tell her the password. How much network speed can the mobile phone occupy? In order to prevent her from taking all the computers and mobile phones at home, you can politely cut off her back. My family hardly watches TV and watches video on the Internet. I shared an Internet cable with the landlord upstairs before. I did it alone because the network speed is too slow. Didn't your family check the data, Temporary internet access via mobile phone is OK. In fact, it's true! Many things are not a and B. It is not necessary to completely follow the other party's wishes or refuse in a head-on blow. In short, we should use the other party's own words to block all her front and back roads. The most cowardly and oppressive way is to tell her the password and whisper back secretly. This person is not particular about how big his face is! I can't figure it out. How did she say that she would ask for a password from a strange neighbor? How does she mean when she's on the Internet? Then every time I watch the video card, I rely on her head. I can't control my anger. I repeat it in my heart: this person is too careless! Then rack your brains to think about how to solve this problem without offending others. In fact, she's very kind. Why are you embarrassed to refuse? Can you say that I am the same person as her? I want face! What is face? Are people who behave well in life, have a clear moral bottom line, and don't cross the line, or think they are smart and self righteous? If others don't play cards according to your moves, they will be rejected because they are different from the so-called brain cramps of most people? Maybe the person who is careless and careless in your eyes doesn't like to take advantage of small things, just because she thinks these are small things. It's no big deal. Just open her mouth. Incidentally, if it's her and you want the password, she will also give it to you. She won't whisper and tangle in private and think you're not cultured. Just like the fans asked me, I have a friend who is not very familiar. He lodges at his house and then refuses to leave. He comes out and goes in every day in a big way. When he leaves, he looks like a gray wolf. Say, I'll come back today. He is very distressed because he is used to living by himself and doesn't know him well. It's uncomfortable to live together like this. He's not used to it, but he's embarrassed to drive him away. What should I do? If it's not convenient for him to reply directly because of the gender, it's very easy for him to do it. If you are of the same sex, you really can't stand his untidy appearance, or you're not used to living with others. Refusing is not straightforward. You can ask him by insinuation why don't you go home? Haven't you found a place to live? It's not a way to get nowhere for a long time. Do you want me to help you find it? The most helpless thing is that on the one hand, you still want to perform. It doesn't matter. You don't care. Welcome. You don't want the other party to see that you dislike, you're unhappy, and you're not used to it. On the one hand, you also blame others for not guessing your mind, not seeing the heat and not understanding the real thoughts in your heart. Many positions, attitudes and preferences. If you don't show them, who has time to guess and play with you? If you have to say, some people just exploit loopholes and like to take advantage of others. For example, one year Guo Donglin's Spring Festival Gala sketch was called "talk to you when you have something". The friend who begged him to buy a train ticket thought he had a relationship and was able to buy it without effort, but he didn't know that he actually went to the railway station all night to queue up one by one. Her daughter-in-law got angry and quarreled with him, and warned him not to agree if he was asked to buy a ticket again. But he still couldn't help but do the good gentleman who was easy to talk and wouldn't refuse. At the end of one year, Mr. Zhao asked me to help him grab tickets online. I asked him, your family doesn't need to grab tickets from Beijing to Cangzhou! He said, help your friends. I said it's good to help, but don't be too busy for yourself. We only need to use a little relationship, open our mouth and do it easily. For some busy, we need to pay a lot behind our back. It's not easier than the party concerned, and the other party doesn't know that you have to spend so much time, energy and money, so it's not cost-effective. If you give the right signal and cognition to the other party early in the morning, you may not have to worry about many "should you agree or refuse". For example, no matter how good my relationship with my friends is, they won't ask me about borrowing money. I've never been distressed about how to refuse. When the money is lent out, it's time to urge them to repay the money or not to mention it in black and white. The most terrible thing is that you don't care so much. You have to show another appearance, hide your inner careful thinking, and lift yourself high. You can't go up or down. Finally, it's someone else's business, but it's yourself. Do you think that if you don't refuse, you will be able to avoid the evil wind and rain by humbly bowing your head to the Jianghu early in the morning? Maybe there are some people around you who often do bad things with good intentions. You help others, but no one appreciates them. You even offend each other. You lose your wife and lose your soldiers. You leave all your complaints and are no one inside or outside. When I was in college, I knew a girl with good character. When I first went to college, I was the class liaison. When some naughty students skipped class, I called her for help. She agreed happily and asked some friends to help. But no one was grateful to her. She had done many thankless things, and people often spoke ill of her behind her back. She once asked me, how can you help others? Even if it's a small thing, others will appreciate you. Remember your good? And I'm just the opposite? I said that a reasonable refusal does not necessarily offend people, and unconditional acceptance does not necessarily make the other party happy. What matters is how you express it. In the last episode of "flowers and youth", Jing Boran commented on Zheng Shuang, saying that Zheng Shuang did something uncomfortable. It was not her that had a problem. In fact, she just couldn't express it. I believe that in fact, many so-called malice is just a matter of communication and expression between the two sides. Always in the face, afraid of offending others, care about yourself in the eyes of others, and make others disgust themselves for that praise. This is probably the choice of most of us. Whether you agree or refuse, ask yourself, what is more important to you, face? Or your own inner feelings, first of all, you should have a clear purpose, so that you will be biased to take care of your face or emotions, and then realize your purpose. Agreeing to others may not be able to really please others, and refusing does not necessarily offend others.
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